Would You Be Offended? How Do I Tell Her?

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ambrown

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I have a family member who is very overweight, and now she is a bad influence for her kids as far as eating healthy is concerned.

While vacationing in Florida, she gave her kids chocolate bars as snacks and loaded them up on sugar. I wanted to tell her that the kids really shouldn't be eating candy all through the day and whenever they felt a tiny bit hungry, but I just felt like it would be offensive.

Then, a week ago we went to Tennessee. I was coloring a book with her 8 year old daughter when I noticed pimples emerging on her face. I could tell she was getting a little bigger, but I didn't know it had gotten to the point where she was already seeing more effects.

So, guys, I'm asking this: should I suggest that my close friend have a better diet for the sake of her kids or just leave it alone?
 
Wow, that's nasty. :angelsad2: I only recommend bringing it up with her if you can handle the fact that it could likely end your friendship. Tread VERY lightly on this topic! That said, it is disturbing that she is passing the bad-habit baton on to her offspring, and they are starting to suffer for it.

Good luck with your decision
ABBA
 
Honestly I don't think you can say anything to her w/out it becoming an issue. It's unfortunate but true that you simply CANNOT criticize someone else's child-raising choices w/out causing offense, no matter how on target you might be.

I think the best you can do is set a good example, and offer healthy snacks to the kids when you can. When you're around them, talk about what YOU eat, how you're working on your diet, etc. Try not to be blatant, but when you can, go for it. Turn down the unhealthy snacks for yourself so the kids can see what the better option is.

It sucks ... I know. I have a friend who feeds her kid nothing but fast food and junk and then complains that her little girl is having problems in school and is a huge handful to deal with. I want so badly to say "then quit giving her sugar and candy and junk" but it's just not my place and I know it would cause a rift in our friendship. So I just keep my mouth shut and mention the yummy snack foods I've found for me whenever I can. I also offer her daughter good *real* food when she's around me and explain that I don't keep candy in my house for snacks when she asks.
 
yeah.. I have to agree with Karacooks.. there is NO WAY she won't be offended.

No parent wants to be told how to do the job better, no matter how well intentioned.

Be a good example is about the best you can do.
 
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