Why do so many people say these things?

Wishes: I really, really like the picture of you in the black dress featured in the gallery. You look so great. I have a question about your arms though. I know you've got tummy skin and thigh skin issues. Do you have the same problem with your arms? They look great in the picture. I'm wondering out of curiousity and, well, because I'm worried about my own arms (and my tummy, but that's another issue because I can at least cover it up).
 
On that show - How to Look Good Naked - one of their first victims was a woman who was complaining about her bat wings under her arms and she made a point of raising her arm and showing off the flappiness.

Teh host of the show looked at her - and said - come on - how often do you walk around like that - the flappiness doesnt show nearly as much when you hold your arms in a normal position...
 
I'm unfamiliar with the show, but I'm googling it now. Oh man. It's that guy.

I see what you're saying about the arms, but still, I don't want the batwings, and I've got them really, really bad. Straight on my arms don't look to bad, but when I put my arms and then you're looking at my straight on, they look huge. They are huge. Oh well. Only more weight loss and time will tell.
 
Oh god, Mal, what have you done? Now I'm going to watch full episodes online. And waste the remainder of my already wasted day. See? This is what happens when I have two full, unexpected days off from work. I lounge. And I waste time. Ah, and I might get a two-hour delay tomorrow morning. *sigh*
 
lungsfortherace said:
Wishes: I really, really like the picture of you in the black dress featured in the gallery. You look so great. I have a question about your arms though. I know you've got tummy skin and thigh skin issues. Do you have the same problem with your arms? They look great in the picture. I'm wondering out of curiousity and, well, because I'm worried about my own arms (and my tummy, but that's another issue because I can at least cover it up).
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Kind of what Mal says, but no my arms are pretty darned good. I do have bat wings but they are pretty minor. Because im fairly broad in the shoulders and muscular they just look like another bunch of muscles :D
My tummy and thighs however are another story. Ill put pics up one day, luckily clothes hide it anyway. It just means i cant wear those ultra short shorts that are all the rage or hipsters:(
 
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there is just a whole bunch of different answers to these questions and it all depends on a person that is saying those things. Some people could be jealous of your look so they try to convince you to not loose any more, some people (relatives mostly) are really new to your looks and are not used to seeing you so fit so they try to be supportive and are concerned about your health. Either way, you shouldn't get too bitchy about peoples comments cause at the end of the day they are just comments and you are loosing weight for your self not them.
 
My sister constantly gives me crap about my weight loss, I think she's just jealous because i get a lot of attention from males now
 
wishes said:
ooo i love to make people super-uber-jealous ! (and thats a great word btw)
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Do you find your friends treat you differently now that you've lost a lot of weight? I lost about 40 lbs in 2006-2007 when I lived abroad and I found people did treat me differently, i.e. my existing friends and my ex-mother-in-law were particularly rude. I had to make new friends. :willy_nilly:
 
lungsfortherace said:
"Don't lose too much weight."

"Don't get to thin." And then refer to you as skinny or slim when you're clearly still overweight.

"Wow, you're looking skinny!" But, again, you're clearly nowhere near a truly healthy weight.

I don't understand people. This comes mostly from colleagues or parents of students or people I see at the gym or people I see at the grocery store or video store or library or bookstore regularly. It comes from people who are very thin and people who are heavy and people who are obese.

What's the point? Why? Why? Why?

I mean, I'd get it if I were like within 10 pounds of a healthy range, but I'm like anywhere from 30-45 pounds away from my goal and my goal isn't a skinny goal!
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Some people say it as a way of complimenting. But really it is just silly.

Some people get scared, worried, afraid of someone finally becoming healthy.

I find it annoying.

If someone is losing weight i think it's great. Better than congratulating someone for eating 12 donuts and looking "cuddly".

Clearly the people that make such ridulous comments are overweight or obese themselves. If they are of a healthy weight range then they are worried about the competition.
 
What I find annoying is people telling me I must eat. Right now I'm going through an extremely stressful situation and when I'm under that much stress, I go off food. Yesterday, I microwaved one of those low-cal pasta bowls, just sort of going through the motions. I ate the chicken pieces out of it then threw the rest away because my stomach was too upset to eat any more. The people at work were all "come on, you gotta eat." No, I DON'T gotta. Skipping breakfast and lunch isn't going to kill me, particularly if I'm not hungry. Eating when I'm not hungry is what got me to this point in the first freaking place.

Last night I was hanging out with my brother who insisted on getting a family box from Popeye's (evil) for dinner. I ate one piece of chicken and one biscuit and he got after me for not eating enough. As if I'm going to die if I miss a meal or five. I know it's not healthy to skip meals and not eat, but it's not the end of the world.

My weight loss strategy certainly does not involve starvation, but it makes me even more stressed when people are telling me what I must do when I'm so stressed out that I can't/won't eat. It will pass...it always does. Sometimes it takes a week or so, but I will eventually start eating normally again in my own time. Why can't people just lay off? :rant:

Sorry for the slight hijack.
 
Hehe, I was off sick for about 3 days last week... When I came back one guy noted: "you've lost weight" with a worried undertone...

Like I haven't been losing these 20 pounds for 3 months!!! :p
 
I was sick all week and my boyfriends been trying to force me to eat i keep telling him Im not hungry but he thinks im starving myself
 
Xxweightxxgonex said:
I was sick all week and my boyfriends been trying to force me to eat i keep telling him Im not hungry but he thinks im starving myself
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Hey, even here you sometimes get the "you're not eating enough" routine but then we're also told to listen to our bodies. If I don't feel hungry, why should I stuff myself to get to some arbitrary number of calories per day that I "must" eat?
 
Five months on from replying to this thread and I still get the same calls, although they are becoming much more sound and logical as they did in February.
 
I get that too, mostly just from people at the gym who have known me for the past year when I was extremely overweight. They don't say it in a bad way, more of a motivational thing I guess. I don't mind, although it is kind of odd when someone clearly much smaller says it.
 
I have found that once I hit the 30 pounds off mark, that was when if anyone was going to be rude, they really began being rude. Unfortunately it wasn't until I hit the 40 pounds off mark that I started responding to those rude people that my weight loss journey was none of their darn business.
 
growing up in an european family where my mom always places food in front of me, my weight loss has been hard for her to adjust to. she always tells me im too skinny now and that i need to stop loosing weight LOL not very supportive but its just the way she is i guess.
 
Most of my friends give me the same lines and I just smile and tell them thank you. But my mom is the coolest about my weight loss. I've been "pleasantly plump" since I started getting my monthly around 11. I was still wearing a 4T in 2nd grade! My mom has always been supportive of any diet I try and usually tries it with me(she's not overweight but she thinks she is). She usually gives me a compliment by saying "Wow, hunny how much have u lost so far?" or "Keep up the good work, its really showing." She does tend to make sure I am eating enough and not starving myself cause I went through a stage in high school where I didn't eat for days at a time. Just let the lines that make u feel uncomfortable go in 1 ear and out the other, smile and say thanks and go on with u're great progress, keep up the good work!
 
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