I have decided to lose weight because I feel disgusting. I have been a thin person all my life until about 8 years ago...I cant stand it. I have an extremely attractive boyfriend, and while he always tells me how he loves me and doesnt care about my weight, I still feel like garbage all the time when we go out. I think people are thinking, "why is he with her?" I guess it plays on me mentally and really brings me down. I have teeter tottered with weight and Im pretty sick of it. I need all the help in the world because I love food, Im a restaurant manager, I work over 10 hours a day so all my meals are in the restaurant and free. While I try to eat chicken and salads, sometimes the pasta dishes, or the fish and chips really tackle me to the ground and I devour them like a crack attic in an alley. Whatever...Im here now, so any inspiration would be appreciated
WHY? and WHAT INSPIRES YOU?
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GonnaGetAbs
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I needed to write something here, so I can come back and read it when i need motivation, which I have been needing a lot of lately. Reasons I want to lose weight:
1) I want to like the way I look and be happy with myself (a lot of days I hate myself, just because of how I look, and I can't live like that anymore).
2) I want to feel confident in the clothes I wear, and not hide in baggy things.
3) I want to be able to wear a bikini (I know this has been mentioned a lot, but I want it too).
4) I want to get compliments on my looks, which will in turn make me feel good.
5) I want to learn how to eat right, and develop a good exercise/diet plan that I can stick with in life.
6) I want to fit in my old clothes, that have gotten just slightly too small, so I won't have to buy new, bigger ones.
7) I really, really want to see some muscle definition, just a little, anywhere, to know I'm in good shape (yes, I know there are other ways to tell)
8) I want to say that I did it. I want to know that I can do it.
Ok, there, I'm sure there are more; I'll add them if I think of them.
1) I want to like the way I look and be happy with myself (a lot of days I hate myself, just because of how I look, and I can't live like that anymore).
2) I want to feel confident in the clothes I wear, and not hide in baggy things.
3) I want to be able to wear a bikini (I know this has been mentioned a lot, but I want it too).
4) I want to get compliments on my looks, which will in turn make me feel good.
5) I want to learn how to eat right, and develop a good exercise/diet plan that I can stick with in life.
6) I want to fit in my old clothes, that have gotten just slightly too small, so I won't have to buy new, bigger ones.
7) I really, really want to see some muscle definition, just a little, anywhere, to know I'm in good shape (yes, I know there are other ways to tell)
8) I want to say that I did it. I want to know that I can do it.
Ok, there, I'm sure there are more; I'll add them if I think of them.
douknowjello
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I could post so many reasons here why I want to lose weight.
I could say it's because I'd like to actually find some clothing besides T-shirts and stretchy pants that didn't look like it was made from drapes or a circus tent. But then seeing as how I've been this size this long I don't think thats my motivation, although I will be SO happy when I'm into jeans again. I have a full closet of size 18's and 20's brand new to get into.
But honestly my motivations are these:
I want to be able to get up in the morning and finish my day and have the energy to do it all. Heck, I'd like to just get out of bed not hurting from head to toe.
I'd like to be able to go to a restaurant and not have to worry if I'm going to fit in the booth or not, or going anywhere and not worrying about fitting into a seat for that matter.
I'd like to be able to climb the stairs at my apartment with my arms full and not feel like I'm dying at the top.
I used to go on hiking trips even though I was heavy. Now I worry whether I can make it to the back of the bigger grocery stores without collapsing in pain.
After having a car accident 8 years ago that put me in a wheelchair for a year and knowing I was never supposed to walk again, I'd like to lose enough wait so I can stop being afraid I'm going to end up back in that wheelchair.
And even if none of these reasons were enough, I'd like to get my weight down so my husband and I can have children and I can be a mom before time runs out.
It's no longer just about how I appearance anymore. I walk around every day carrying the weight of two other people on my 5'1 tall body.
I'd like to live my life without worrying, without fear, without pain, without limitations caused by the weight.
I've already missed out on so much, vacations, having a real wedding....I'm determined that I am not going to miss out on one more day of my life.
And honestly if I hit a wall and what I'm doing isn't working I'll change it. If I have a day I screw up and lapse, well it's over and I'll start fresh but I WILL NOT any longer allow one day to turn into a week and then months of "I'll start again tomorrow" that never comes. Looking back I see all the little things I let get in my way and this time it's not going to happen. I'm here for my final weightloss countdown!
I could say it's because I'd like to actually find some clothing besides T-shirts and stretchy pants that didn't look like it was made from drapes or a circus tent. But then seeing as how I've been this size this long I don't think thats my motivation, although I will be SO happy when I'm into jeans again. I have a full closet of size 18's and 20's brand new to get into.
But honestly my motivations are these:
I want to be able to get up in the morning and finish my day and have the energy to do it all. Heck, I'd like to just get out of bed not hurting from head to toe.
I'd like to be able to go to a restaurant and not have to worry if I'm going to fit in the booth or not, or going anywhere and not worrying about fitting into a seat for that matter.
I'd like to be able to climb the stairs at my apartment with my arms full and not feel like I'm dying at the top.
I used to go on hiking trips even though I was heavy. Now I worry whether I can make it to the back of the bigger grocery stores without collapsing in pain.
After having a car accident 8 years ago that put me in a wheelchair for a year and knowing I was never supposed to walk again, I'd like to lose enough wait so I can stop being afraid I'm going to end up back in that wheelchair.
And even if none of these reasons were enough, I'd like to get my weight down so my husband and I can have children and I can be a mom before time runs out.
It's no longer just about how I appearance anymore. I walk around every day carrying the weight of two other people on my 5'1 tall body.
I'd like to live my life without worrying, without fear, without pain, without limitations caused by the weight.
I've already missed out on so much, vacations, having a real wedding....I'm determined that I am not going to miss out on one more day of my life.
And honestly if I hit a wall and what I'm doing isn't working I'll change it. If I have a day I screw up and lapse, well it's over and I'll start fresh but I WILL NOT any longer allow one day to turn into a week and then months of "I'll start again tomorrow" that never comes. Looking back I see all the little things I let get in my way and this time it's not going to happen. I'm here for my final weightloss countdown!
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GonnaGetAbs
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Douknowjello, Thank you for that honesty. I admire your courage. You can do it! How is it going so far?
douknowjello
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It's going great 
My husband likes the new eating lifestyle and I'm down 20lbs from my highest weight...11 since we started. He's down 18lbs and I'm so excited for him. It's really a relief that he LIKES eating this way...he can be picky at times, lol. Today we talked about starting up with ab workouts 3x a week and cardio...I have a treadmill just sitting there hardly used. Once we get in swing I'm going to either find an at home gym(used probably) or see if he'll join a gym or the YMCA with me so we can do strength training.
My husband likes the new eating lifestyle and I'm down 20lbs from my highest weight...11 since we started. He's down 18lbs and I'm so excited for him. It's really a relief that he LIKES eating this way...he can be picky at times, lol. Today we talked about starting up with ab workouts 3x a week and cardio...I have a treadmill just sitting there hardly used. Once we get in swing I'm going to either find an at home gym(used probably) or see if he'll join a gym or the YMCA with me so we can do strength training.GonnaGetAbs
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Sounds great. Keep it up. You are motivating me to do my own work. I wish I had a weight-loss partner like you have your husband. I'm sure its a great help to have someone to go through the tough times with you, and to push you to keep going.
douknowjello
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Yea it's the first time I've ever had that. Took me months of asking him to try it without pushing. Then when he said he'd try it I knocked myself out to cook fancy, lol. I'm still cooking variety but now that I know he likes it I'm not so stressed. I still haven't got over it though so I guess that's why I didn't start asking him about the workouts...thinking he'd never do it. Then after talking that alane and alta I was like "I want somebody to work out with!" LOL. But we'll see how long it takes...I'm sure he'll get on board eventually...I'm just gonna have to start the cardio and keep asking.
Xxweightxxgonex
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1. At a party, I want guys to walk in and be jealous of my boyfriend.
2. I want to feel better, sleep better, and run better!
3. When my friends ask me if i wanna go swimming i dont wanna make up an excuse that i dont swim, instead of admitting i dont even own a swimming suit!
4. I want my boyfriend to stare at me
5. I want to stand next to my model sister, and have confidence!
6. I don't want to have cancer, or one of the many other deadly illnesses that runs in my family
7. I want to go back to high school while i still can
8. I don't want to wear jackets in the summer.
2. I want to feel better, sleep better, and run better!
3. When my friends ask me if i wanna go swimming i dont wanna make up an excuse that i dont swim, instead of admitting i dont even own a swimming suit!
4. I want my boyfriend to stare at me
5. I want to stand next to my model sister, and have confidence!
6. I don't want to have cancer, or one of the many other deadly illnesses that runs in my family
7. I want to go back to high school while i still can
8. I don't want to wear jackets in the summer.
Will not be her!!!
Not being the fat soccer mom!!! We've all seen her.. the ones sitting in the stand with an 84 oz soda screaming cheers at her son who is trying his best to ignore her because the other kids tease him about her. She is sweating like a pig looking so uncomfortable... Ugh the thought just makes me cry.. My son is 2... I have 3 years to get completely in shape to be a healthy example for him!
Not being the fat soccer mom!!! We've all seen her.. the ones sitting in the stand with an 84 oz soda screaming cheers at her son who is trying his best to ignore her because the other kids tease him about her. She is sweating like a pig looking so uncomfortable... Ugh the thought just makes me cry.. My son is 2... I have 3 years to get completely in shape to be a healthy example for him!
MissDFITT
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This is a great thread, I just couldn't resist!
The reasons why I want to loose weight and be healthy
1) To be confident when going out with my girlfriends and not the fat friend anymore
2) To live a long healthy and not have to deal with the risks that come from being overweight.
3) To actually like what I see in the mirror for once! And in stead of thinking ugh Im so fat, to wow I look amazing!
4) To be strong
5) And finally to be a good role model for my kids (when I have some... someday) Coming from a family of obese people it was difficult to have anyone to look up to when it came to being healthy and loosing weight.
The reasons why I want to loose weight and be healthy
1) To be confident when going out with my girlfriends and not the fat friend anymore
2) To live a long healthy and not have to deal with the risks that come from being overweight.
3) To actually like what I see in the mirror for once! And in stead of thinking ugh Im so fat, to wow I look amazing!
4) To be strong
5) And finally to be a good role model for my kids (when I have some... someday) Coming from a family of obese people it was difficult to have anyone to look up to when it came to being healthy and loosing weight.
And you want to be healthy when you GET PREGNANT!! I have lost 2 babies because my body was not healthy enough to carry them!!! Good reasons though! GOOD LUCK on your journey! And you can be the one to break the mode of bad health habits for generations to come! What power we hold! Finally a chance to prove we really do know more than our parents.. HAHA
Love the idea of this thread. Dont know why but getting your thoughts out and down really helps.
My reasons for finally being able to stick to a change of lifestyle are endless but the main reason is i was really unhappy been bullied at school since the age of 6 for being Fat. And the bullying has never stopped 13 years later istill get bullied for my size, just because im not stick thin like half the population.
I have attempted diets, drinking water all since the age of 13 to try and loose weight, they would last anything form a day to 3 weeks and that was the end of it. i always wanted to join a gym and could never do it because its just one of them things i couldnt bring myself to do no matter how much i wanted it.
Well on january 20something of this year 2008 my life changed for the better, the new me came out of my shell and decided i am going to change my ways. it took till April to kick in properly, but Jan - april i managed to train myself (sad i know) to drink water as i really dont like it. as of april 15th 2008 i got home from london enetered the ballot for the marathon nxt year, booked loads of races. and 30th april i managed to walk into that gym and have an induction and then go back everyday for two weeks. Then decided that i really anjoyed it and i am now a full member of the leisure center.
January i was 13 st 13. april 30th when i started i was 13,8. Today i am 12 stone.
Really looking forward to having more confidnece and being able to be out there more.
This forum really helps me seeing everybodys success stories, the weight threads to record my daily weight etc.
Pleasure to know all you guyz
p.s ESSAY
My reasons for finally being able to stick to a change of lifestyle are endless but the main reason is i was really unhappy been bullied at school since the age of 6 for being Fat. And the bullying has never stopped 13 years later istill get bullied for my size, just because im not stick thin like half the population.
I have attempted diets, drinking water all since the age of 13 to try and loose weight, they would last anything form a day to 3 weeks and that was the end of it. i always wanted to join a gym and could never do it because its just one of them things i couldnt bring myself to do no matter how much i wanted it.
Well on january 20something of this year 2008 my life changed for the better, the new me came out of my shell and decided i am going to change my ways. it took till April to kick in properly, but Jan - april i managed to train myself (sad i know) to drink water as i really dont like it. as of april 15th 2008 i got home from london enetered the ballot for the marathon nxt year, booked loads of races. and 30th april i managed to walk into that gym and have an induction and then go back everyday for two weeks. Then decided that i really anjoyed it and i am now a full member of the leisure center.
January i was 13 st 13. april 30th when i started i was 13,8. Today i am 12 stone.
Really looking forward to having more confidnece and being able to be out there more.
This forum really helps me seeing everybodys success stories, the weight threads to record my daily weight etc.
Pleasure to know all you guyz
p.s ESSAY
PitbullMommy
New member
What keeps you motivated?
For me, it's a few things..of course, it's the better body, better lifestyle and better health...But here are a few others:
My American Pitbull Terrier, Brogan. I do weightpull with him and swear one of these days I'm going to be able to wear HIM out instead of vise versa (and we're getting another puppy next month...so, I'd better get on it! lol).
And also being in a bikini when we go back here in January...
What keeps you on the straight and narrow?
For me, it's a few things..of course, it's the better body, better lifestyle and better health...But here are a few others:
My American Pitbull Terrier, Brogan. I do weightpull with him and swear one of these days I'm going to be able to wear HIM out instead of vise versa (and we're getting another puppy next month...so, I'd better get on it! lol).
And also being in a bikini when we go back here in January...
What keeps you on the straight and narrow?
I always knew I was big but I always felt pretty ok with how I looked… until I got stretch marks. At first I though I had gotten scratched by a cat (I work w/ animals) but It didn’t go away.
2 long, dark red lines on the right side of my stomach. I never had stretch marks like these before, I never really had stretch marks before. These scared me so bad and made me feel hideous. I had to something about it!
Other, somewhat less vain reasons why I want to be health and loose weight:
- I want to have great health in general! Everyone in my family eats horrible and feels horrible all the time. I don't want to feel like that! I want to inspire them into a healthy vegan diet, plus make them a little jealous.
- I want to be natural and healthy looking for my wedding.
- My fiancé` tells me I'm beautiful all the time but I want to give him more incentive to tell me more!
- I want to look sexy for him!
- I want to be strong so I can enjoy the great outdoors!
- I want to be able to kick ass at my new job.
- I want to go jogging with my dog.
- I love shopping at thrift stores and I want to be able to fit into the more common sizes.
- I want my feet to fit into heels without looking fat.
- I want people to stop giving me a second glance in disbelief when I tell them I’m vegan!!!
2 long, dark red lines on the right side of my stomach. I never had stretch marks like these before, I never really had stretch marks before. These scared me so bad and made me feel hideous. I had to something about it!
Other, somewhat less vain reasons why I want to be health and loose weight:
- I want to have great health in general! Everyone in my family eats horrible and feels horrible all the time. I don't want to feel like that! I want to inspire them into a healthy vegan diet, plus make them a little jealous.
- I want to be natural and healthy looking for my wedding.
- My fiancé` tells me I'm beautiful all the time but I want to give him more incentive to tell me more!
- I want to look sexy for him!
- I want to be strong so I can enjoy the great outdoors!
- I want to be able to kick ass at my new job.
- I want to go jogging with my dog.
- I love shopping at thrift stores and I want to be able to fit into the more common sizes.
- I want my feet to fit into heels without looking fat.
- I want people to stop giving me a second glance in disbelief when I tell them I’m vegan!!!
MissDFITT
New member
Yes! I want to have healthy pregnancies and healthy babies. My boyfriend comes from a healthy fit family and me not so much and I have struggled because I didn't have anyone to lead a healthy path and that's exactly what I dont want for MY kids... and I will do everything I can to promote a healthy lifestyle for them!
What a great thread. I'm not on a weightloss journey, but I try to live as healthy as I can.
I grow some of my own veges, have my own chickens, feed my family the most beautiful salads and other healthy meals and exercise everyday if I can.
I am doing this for my children. I want to inspire them and teach them about healthy foods and show them how exercise is fun and a very important part of our lives. I want them to be proud of me for being a fit, healthy and glowing mother.
I also want to give myself the best chance at life, so I will always be around to guide and care for my children. I also want my husband to admire me and the healthy example I set.
Moving on
I have been overweight on and off for years. Skinny kid that ate what she wanted, when she wanted ... suddenly that caught up with me. Then, 5 years ago I lost four incredibly close family and friends within 12 months. I now realize I put myself on hold whilst I propped up my family members/friends. But I also realize that I was actually quite depressed, so food became my outlet. I truly believe that if you veer towards any extreme in your life, it's because, ultimately, there's something wrong. I hit 190 lbs. I've always loved clothes and shopping for them. Gradually I stopped loving the whole shopping experience.
There are always contributory factors that make one change. It sounds so insular so I am not going to preach, you will have to work out why you want to lose weight for yourself. But what I learnt is that sometimes, it's actually ok to put yourself first.
I didn't have any rules really, but thinking back I guess I just set my head to finally do this:
1. If you want to lose weight (and if you need to desperately, like I did - just over 50lbs) you are most certainly not on a 'diet'. What I did was change my mindset and became determined to change the way I ate, without giving up the good stuff altogether.
2. It may be possible that there are certain food items that you love/adore above all else, and super-indulge in them. (In my case bread, bread, bread ... to a lesser extent, pasta). So. I cut both of these out completely.
What my compromise was? Kept (keep!) potatoes and rice in my diet. Yes, there are times when I crave bread. But I also know that, in my particular case, cutting it out has revolutionzed my life and I will never go back to it. My digestive system has improved 100%. I don't EVER want to get back to the weight I was. What was so awful was seeing good friends and family upset about how big I was, yet feeling unable to tell me to my face how bad I'd got. I knew anyway.
3. Try not to tell anyone (apart from the forum people!) that you're going to try to lose weight. For me, what worked, and still does is never ever referring to that awful 'D' (for 'diet') word. Dieting is not the answer. Finding the right balance for your metabolism/digestive system is. (I was incredibly lucky discovering that by cutting out bread/pasta was a winning combination for me). It may well be that there is something in your diet that you eat too much of (and love) but don't acknowledge.
4. I started eating a proper breakfast. I work long hours, but I turned around the light lunch/heavy evening meal syndrome I used to fall into (snacking at late night was a regular thing, but then turned into a case of habit - I bet all of us, who've been there, understand where I'm coming from here).
Now, I try to eat more in the middle of the day (knowing what to eat lots of without zonking mid-afternoon has been a journey!) and just a light meal in the evening. I don't stress if I eat at 8pm (which I know is late by non-European standards) but equally, I don't make a habit of eating this late.
5. For me, I've found that grazing works (by that I mean anything I like, but in moderation - ahem, without the bread and the pasta for the foreseeable). Also, when I find myself really hungry yet there's no reason, I find that I'm actually thirsty as much as anything.
I've tried not to sound like I'm preaching, then, reading the above back. All I can say is that there is not one person who I'm close to who hasn't been knocked out by how I now look. That's a lovely thing.
What really rocks is that I'm so, so happy - losing weight (and proving to myself I can stick to something!) has changed ... no, revolutionzed my world, so much for the better. I've regained belief in myself. I think I'm probably a bit nicer to be around, too.
If I could help just one person to rediscover what they are capable of doing, then it would make me extremely happy.
Sooze
I have been overweight on and off for years. Skinny kid that ate what she wanted, when she wanted ... suddenly that caught up with me. Then, 5 years ago I lost four incredibly close family and friends within 12 months. I now realize I put myself on hold whilst I propped up my family members/friends. But I also realize that I was actually quite depressed, so food became my outlet. I truly believe that if you veer towards any extreme in your life, it's because, ultimately, there's something wrong. I hit 190 lbs. I've always loved clothes and shopping for them. Gradually I stopped loving the whole shopping experience.
There are always contributory factors that make one change. It sounds so insular so I am not going to preach, you will have to work out why you want to lose weight for yourself. But what I learnt is that sometimes, it's actually ok to put yourself first.
I didn't have any rules really, but thinking back I guess I just set my head to finally do this:
1. If you want to lose weight (and if you need to desperately, like I did - just over 50lbs) you are most certainly not on a 'diet'. What I did was change my mindset and became determined to change the way I ate, without giving up the good stuff altogether.
2. It may be possible that there are certain food items that you love/adore above all else, and super-indulge in them. (In my case bread, bread, bread ... to a lesser extent, pasta). So. I cut both of these out completely.
What my compromise was? Kept (keep!) potatoes and rice in my diet. Yes, there are times when I crave bread. But I also know that, in my particular case, cutting it out has revolutionzed my life and I will never go back to it. My digestive system has improved 100%. I don't EVER want to get back to the weight I was. What was so awful was seeing good friends and family upset about how big I was, yet feeling unable to tell me to my face how bad I'd got. I knew anyway.
3. Try not to tell anyone (apart from the forum people!) that you're going to try to lose weight. For me, what worked, and still does is never ever referring to that awful 'D' (for 'diet') word. Dieting is not the answer. Finding the right balance for your metabolism/digestive system is. (I was incredibly lucky discovering that by cutting out bread/pasta was a winning combination for me). It may well be that there is something in your diet that you eat too much of (and love) but don't acknowledge.
4. I started eating a proper breakfast. I work long hours, but I turned around the light lunch/heavy evening meal syndrome I used to fall into (snacking at late night was a regular thing, but then turned into a case of habit - I bet all of us, who've been there, understand where I'm coming from here).
Now, I try to eat more in the middle of the day (knowing what to eat lots of without zonking mid-afternoon has been a journey!) and just a light meal in the evening. I don't stress if I eat at 8pm (which I know is late by non-European standards) but equally, I don't make a habit of eating this late.
5. For me, I've found that grazing works (by that I mean anything I like, but in moderation - ahem, without the bread and the pasta for the foreseeable). Also, when I find myself really hungry yet there's no reason, I find that I'm actually thirsty as much as anything.
I've tried not to sound like I'm preaching, then, reading the above back. All I can say is that there is not one person who I'm close to who hasn't been knocked out by how I now look. That's a lovely thing.
What really rocks is that I'm so, so happy - losing weight (and proving to myself I can stick to something!) has changed ... no, revolutionzed my world, so much for the better. I've regained belief in myself. I think I'm probably a bit nicer to be around, too.
If I could help just one person to rediscover what they are capable of doing, then it would make me extremely happy.
Sooze
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Because the girl I've been in love with for the last 4 years sees me as nothing more than her "Funny Fat Friend" even though she would never say it that bluntly. I had begun to see myself as that person, and that is when I realized I needed a change and decided to start working out.