Who drives you crazy?

mikitta

mikitta

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Another board that I have been a member of for years has a weight loss thread. Most of the ladies (and it is mostly ladies) don't like to discuss anything at all ... just encourage each other in weight loss - regardless of the method.

There is one lady there who brags about how great her plan is, and she keeps encouraging others to do this 900 calories a day thing. She was boasting about how she got dizzy yesterday while shopping and all I could think of was "NO WONDER! She's starving herself sick!".

I've tried to spark discussion on healthy weight loss, but they just don't want to hear it. It makes me crazy! Granted, it's just a message board and I can simply tune it out. But I've noticed that these crazy ideas are out there in the real world, too. What is with people? "Hey, let's do this stupid $150 bottle of protein every night before bed because the DJ said she lost 40 inches and two pant sizes doing it." Or "hey, let's get our bodies wrapped in cellophane because it will make us shrink by 20 inches.

Why do people avoid sound weight loss advice that has been around for years and stood the test of time? Eat wholesome, unprocessed food a little below your maintenance level, exercise at least three days a week, get plenty of water and get enough sleep?

I know, this is just a rant.

So, what drives all of you crazy about folks going for these schemes and scams and buying into myths? What are your pet peeves? (I know someone is going to say I've epitomized theirs ... walking into it, I am sure :p )

God Bless,
mik
 
Why do people avoid sound weight loss advice that has been around for years and stood the test of time?
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Because people don't always want to believe that simpler is better and if an ad is promoting super fast weight loss with minimal effort, that sounds a helluva lot more appealing than slower method and actually having to be accountable for what you're eating... Quick seems to trump slow every time...

I willingly tried all sorts of pills and other stuff in an attempt to lose weight ad keep it off becasue I thought I had no alternative...

As a person who tried every stupid method in the book, to loose a few pounds only to gain back twice as mch as I lost to begin with. It took me to age 41 to get it... and I've said this 1000 times on this site alone - I was never a fast food eater, I rarely ate junk food or anythig processed, i got to 383lbs eating what most people would consider a healthy diet - and I was convinced that there was somethig wrong with me that I couldn't lose weight because I was eating what I was supposed to be and avoidig what I was supposed to.. It wasn't until I started weighing and measurig and keeping track of calories that I realized the error of my ways...
 
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Personal pet peeve of mine... hearing people say "when I'm off my diet I can have ....." or even worse -those who have lost a few pounds and now are the worlds authority on weight loss... :D
 
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People who say " Wow how much weight have you lost." and when I tell them they say " I wish I could do that!"... "I tried this thing where you eat a special k bar in the morning.. one for lunch and for dinner!." ( not really, but what they say is pretty close)...

If I can loose weight, and change MY life- anyone I know can. I was and probably still am one of the laziest people I know ( not so much as I was before! =p) I am the one who has never stuck to anything until now. So anyone who sits there and tells me " I can't do it, I don't have the time. " or "I guess I will buy me some more of X pills, I lost so much weight before and gained it right back." Bothers me the most...
 
haha i understand what you mean about idiotic diets. Ive just had to hold my tongue when people start talking like that to my face. Because ive lost weight people come up to talk about it often, and even though IM the one whos lost weight and they haven they come up with all these stupid ideas on why they havnt or how they can loose weight.
I just have to control the urge to strangle them
 
Ok...I don't want this to sound bad...but I don't like guys who are overweight who won't date women who are overweight because they want the "hot chicks" on their arms. They are missing out on some great women...and there are some very hot overweight chicks.

And I agree with Mal. People who lose weight and think they know it all about weight loss. Oh and people who were once overweight and then turn around and cut down people who are still overweight. There is a bunch more, but I will leave it at that.
 
Who drives me crazy?? MY MOTHER!! She's ALWAYS making these insensitive comments about my weight. Heres the part that drives me nuts, SHE used to weigh over 300 pds and had the weight loss surgery TWO TIMES! So why does she say the things she does???

Heres an example, just today while watching a video w/ me in it, 9 yrs ago, mom just giggled and said "boy, take a look at that skinny thing!" WTF? ya know? She's also known for asking me, "oh Korrie, I can't tell what size jeans these are...can you look at the tag as tell me? Oh a 10? WOW and they are so loose on me too!" AND a few times shes said "hey, you like this shirt?? Didn't this used to be yours?? oh you can't wear it anymore??" I just wanna kill her sometimes!
 
Aleeluh said:
If I can loose weight, and change MY life- anyone I know can.
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it's comments like that that set me off... amd because you are still incredibly young -- I'll give you a partial pass... but...

Theoretically most anyone can lose weight but you do not know other people's stories.. or how they got to whre they are - a huge percentage of weight loss, when there is a lot to lose, is mental - and saying that to someone or thinking that about someone is incredibly insensitive and wrong...

Just because one person can do it with ease - doesn't mean everyone can at this point in their life -they need to find that point where they say oK im ready...
 
I drive myself crazy because at one time I believed weight loss was going to open all kind of new doors for me.

It turns out I fell into the mindset 'entitlement: life owes me for my job well done'. Nothing could be further from the truth.
 
Yea, thats a surprising factor in weight loss Randy. I kept thinking for a long time that my life would be soo much better if I lost weight. Truth be told, its soo not true! Is my relationships w/ my husband/ kids/ parents be any better? NO. Will it change your job or your feelings about it? NO! It really won't change too much other than me having a better self esteem....but thats worth its weight in gold!
 
newbride02 said:
Yea, thats a surprising factor in weight loss Randy. I kept thinking for a long time that my life would be soo much better if I lost weight. Truth be told, its soo not true! Is my relationships w/ my husband/ kids/ parents be any better? NO. Will it change your job or your feelings about it? NO! It really won't change too much other than me having a better self esteem....but thats worth its weight in gold!
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I think this whole post is bull shit(except self esteem). Sorry but it is.
 
Bigguy2007 said:
I think this whole post is bull shit(except self esteem). Sorry but it is.
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how is it bullshit? you might not agree, or it might not be true for you, but how can you say she is wrong about her life. they are her relationships. it is her job. it is her life. you don't think she knows if it has changed or not?

the potential length of the relationships might have changed (due to the medical benefits of weight loss).

idk. to call someone's opinion bullshit, when it indeed is a matter of personal experience and somewhat opinion is kind of rude.
 
fat2fit said:
Ok...I don't want this to sound bad...but I don't like guys who are overweight who won't date women who are overweight because they want the "hot chicks" on their arms. They are missing out on some great women...and there are some very hot overweight chicks.
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Sorry, I have to disagree with that. I realize some people get into the fetish of fat woman, but though many are very nice, i can most definatly say they are not attractive in anyway. Bigger guys tend to get past that because its more acceptable for guys to be big, however there is still a limit to a guys size as well.
However for amusements value, its always fun to go to youtube and search for BBW and see people massaging fat rolls, and all the comments of 'ohhh that so hot!' etc for motivation.

newbride02 said:
Who drives me crazy?? MY MOTHER!! She's ALWAYS making these insensitive comments about my weight.
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Ohhh! we must be related! my mother desperately tries to make my life miserable too :O
 
I think the point of the whole heavy guys who disparage heavy women thing was a comment on the inherent hypocrisy of that situation.

My mother was bulemic for most of my growing up years because my father (fat slob that he was) told her that if she didn't stay really skinny, he would leave her. THAT is a sick and sorry shame.

Fat prejudice ... alive and alarmingly well within the minds of many fat men for sure.

I'm not saying that overweight isn't unattractive. It is. For the most part, we are wired to be attracted to the healthy and fit. It's a species survival thing - we want to choose mates that are likely to withstand any challenges that come down the pike and thrive along side us.

But I think a lot of guys cut off their noses to spite their faces when they turn up their noses at heavier women. It's easier for a fat girl to loose the weight than a dumb girl to grow a brain. Likewise, it's harder for a cruel woman with no personality to speak of to suddenly become kind and compassionate and interesting for her own merits than it is for a chunky woman to drop the excess body fat.

Not saying all skinny women are dumb, dull or demonic - but it is an observation that too many men, when given the choice between a hot babe that sorely lacks a good personality and intelligence or a chunky woman who has an exemplary personality- will choose the hot babe every time - then go to the fat girl and cry about how horrid she is because she is stupid or mean - but he'll stay with her because she fills some idiotic fantasy about having sex with Twiggy.

Those guys deserve a swift kick in the rear.

God Bless,
mik
 
This is a completely different tangent, but you know who drives me crazy?

People who say ridiculously mean things, then epilogue them with: "I was just teasing/kidding/joking." Especially if you have the gall to take offense to the things they say. Then they get all defensive and act like you're a sensitive spoilsport.

I know someone who does this constantly (not about weight or anything, just general stuff) and it drives me absolutely outside of my mind. I don't generally "tease" people. Ever. And I never really have.

Compared to some people who are always joking, I could probably be considered a pretty solemn and quietspoken person, though I have a really good sense of humor and I enjoy a laugh as well as anyone.

But this "teasing" just boggles me: why would you use a joke as an excuse to say something hurtful to someone? And even if you are just joking, why would you try to bait a serious person into a fight by prodding them, even a "play" fight? It makes no sense to me. I'm a live and let live sorta gal. Mellow, even.

The other day this person said something petty and mean to me, framing it as one of her usual jokes, so at my wit's end I said something which was both scathingly truthful and cruel back to her (something I normally don't do )...

She was so surprised she looked like she might burst into tears. She got all wide-eyed and quivery.

Then I followed it up with, "Just kidding." There was not a smile on my face.

I've tried to tell her that her "teasing" isn't funny before, but it's never sunk in. It pains me to get to the point with a person that I have to hurt them, but I think she got the message this time.

And if she didn't, she'll know what to expect next time. Just because I don't "tease" doesn't mean I'm not capable.

*rant over*
 
mikitta said:
Those guys deserve a swift kick in the rear.
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There's a term I coined a few years back called Rock Star Syndrome... where you have guys who look like - oh Ric Ocasek, Mick Jagger, Rod Stewart, Steven Tyler and countless others who feel the need to end up with supermodel types on their arms... it's a delusional sense that they are far more attractive than they really are.. and maybe they've got the confidence/arrogance to back it up... but generally it's the bank account :)

I've said often -- size doesn't matter - for some women - the size of the bank account matters far more than anything else...

I've seen plenty of both genders who's self esteem is directly proportional to that how hot the person is that they are dating...
 
There seems to be a link hotwired into us to judge books by their covers, and, more importantly, that other people are judging us by our covers. I was shocked to find out that people dated people completely based on how they look together. But it happens.

The weirdest part to me is how people who don't fit the image of perfection imbedded in us by our culture still have that image in their heads and apply it to themselves and others (hence the large guy little lady thing). It annoys me when a fat guy makes fun of me being fat.

But what drives me crazy is the same as y'all. Skinny (or relatively skinny) people complaining to me about their fatness. Grrr....
 
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