When Your Fat Jeans Become Your Skinny Jeans

It sounds like you gave yourself a mini-makeover the other day. Are you going to post pictures of your new haircut? We'd love to see!

I understand what you mean by needing feel lonely, and to find out for yourself that you can be self sufficient. I ran off and got married when I was still in high school, but I did go off to college in a nearby city after I graduated. So Monday thru Friday it was as if I were single and on my own, then on the weekends I went back home and was the good little wifey. I know it was a VERY hard 4 years for my husband because he had to have faith in me to be true to him and not leave for someone else (he had been engaged to someone before me, and she went off to college and found someone else) but I think it was the best thing for me. And he learned to trust me and we both realized that we were deeply committed to being in this thing for good.

I'd hate to have to go apartment hunting - I've always hated that type of thing. So good luck with that! Just make sure the new place has a gym!
 
Hi Laura, making the right decision is so hard sometimes , I'm proud of you for doing the right thing! Rock on..........

I've been away too. Hopefully I'll be seeing more of you, as I *still* like reading over your posts, you are a creative writer, funny too.
 
You really sound like you have your head on straight! You have so much to offer and are going to find someone great - when the time is right.
I love that you gave yourself a little makeover too! I've been wanting to chop my hair off every since my wedding and just can't find a style I know I will like. I'm just afraid I'll regret it and my hair will never grow back. Hubby really likes it long too so I'm finding it hard to committ to cutting it.
Have a great weekend Laura!
 
Must be very hard living with him :/ Feel bad for both of you. Do you want to try and stay friends with him? I never know whether it's good to try or best to just break contact entirely. Either way, get apartment hunting! I adore hunting for houses and flats! :D
Ultimately I would like to stay friends with him, but I suppose we won’t know for a while if that will actually work out or not. He is a caring, funny, smart person, who just wasn’t meant to be my “partner in life.” I would love to be able to have him in my life in some capacity, but that’s really dependent on how long it takes him to accept our new situation. I did offer to help him take care of the cat every now and then. With her strict schedule of getting shots, it’s tough to get out there and live a normal 25-year old single life, and I am hopeful that I can help out a little to make sure he’s not being so restricted, at least for a short period.

It sounds like you gave yourself a mini-makeover the other day. Are you going to post pictures of your new haircut? We'd love to see!
I understand what you mean by needing feel lonely, and to find out for yourself that you can be self sufficient. I ran off and got married when I was still in high school, but I did go off to college in a nearby city after I graduated. So Monday thru Friday it was as if I were single and on my own, then on the weekends I went back home and was the good little wifey.
The haircut is nothing really fun or exciting, but I’ll post a picture I took on Saturday night! Actually I’ll post two… one doesn’t do my face justice, but it shows the outfit I was excited to wear. It was out of my sweater-at-work and t-shirt-on-the-weekend comfort zone, and I was proud! The other is a close-up and there’s a ridiculous glare on my glasses, but oh, well.

I’m glad you understand about my need to be lonely + self-sufficient. I don’t know if you remember from earlier posts, but I suffer from a bit of an anxiety issue, which keeps me from doing a lot of things on my own that I should be able to do. Nothing major, but just stupid little stuff. Like I really, really struggle calling in take-out orders, and picking-up packages from the leasing office. Mostly I just avoid those, and the ex has helped me take care of those things for a long time. But I need to get over that eventually, and being on my own and being unable to avoid these situations is the only way to do that.

Hi Laura, making the right decision is so hard sometimes , I'm proud of you for doing the right thing! Rock on..........
I've been away too. Hopefully I'll be seeing more of you, as I *still* like reading over your posts, you are a creative writer, funny too.
Glad you’re back now! I’ve been terrible about keeping up with everyone lately, but am really trying to get back into the swing of things. Plus there were like a zillion new people who showed up recently, so it’s a little overwhelming when I look at the main page of diaries! I need to bypass that completely and just focus on the non-newbies for a little while.

You really sound like you have your head on straight! You have so much to offer and are going to find someone great - when the time is right.
I love that you gave yourself a little makeover too! I've been wanting to chop my hair off every since my wedding and just can't find a style I know I will like. I'm just afraid I'll regret it and my hair will never grow back. Hubby really likes it long too so I'm finding it hard to committ to cutting it.
I didn’t cut too much off, I want to grow it out a little longer so she just trimmed it. I had a side bang when I got it cut the last time that was WAY short at the time, and it grew out so much between now and then, it was ridiculous! It’s not as short this time, thank goodness. I never really grasped the concept of bobby pins very well, and I had major trouble when I was eating with keeping my hair out of my eyes or (when it got longer) out of my food! It’s much more manageable this time around, haha.
 
Well I’ve gotten a couple of good workouts in since I last wrote! My office generally closes down at 2 before long weekends, and tomorrow is Martin Luther King Day here, so we have the day off. But there was no mention of an early release on Friday, until we received an e-mail from the CFO at around 2:30 telling us to “check with our managers” regarding leaving early. Thankfully I was able to leave around 3, which meant I had plenty of time to go to the gym and shower before going out for the night! Surprise run was VERY good news, and the fact that I took advantage of that time was big for me. I did 35 minutes of intervals, min speed 5.6, max speed 7.6. I walked one minute in the middle, but that was it. Then today I went to the gym with the goal of running for an hour, but only lasted 52 minutes. I did 5 miles in that time, and did have the incline at 1.0 instead of my usual 0.5, so I was pleased with myself. Then I did just a little bit of exercises here in the apartment. Crunches, lunges, wall-sits, curls, etc. Haven’t made much use of the dumbbells I got for Christmas, but I need to start. I loved watching my biceps while I did the curls, haha.

Eating has been good, not great. Between Thursday, Friday, and Saturday I had way too much alcohol, though. Strictly beer on Thursday, strictly vodka sodas on Friday, and wine plus one beer on Saturday. I am not used to going out so much, but thankfully I have learned my limits and am able to stop when I need to. That is something I struggled with for a few years (my public accounting years). I’d go out once every 4 months and was sick the next day EVERY time. Not anymore! Unfortunately, I don’t usually eat as much as I should when I go out, maybe a few nibbles of bar food and not much else. So I may not be sick the next day, but I AM dehydrated and malnourished.
 
Great work with your runs! Lol that could sound really bad if someone didn't read your above post.
The pictures are great too! Your such a hotty and so lean and toned! Looking good Laura! I bet you got a few eyes your way at the bar this weekend!!
 
Oooohhhhhh..... I LOVE that top! You look awesome in it girl!

:iagree: You did great with your runs! LOL - Chubbygirl's comment made me giggle!

Enjoy your day off!
 
Hi Laura,
Wow!! You look great!! :D. I love that outfit..you look so fit and gorgeous. Glad you have a long weekend. Hope you enjoy it. Don't worry too much about the food, not with the kind of exercise you are putting in. Great job with the running.
 
Well. It has been a week. A long, emotional week. I did no exercise, and I binged worse than I have in 6 months. After a minor incident with the ex on Monday, I left the apartment to get some space. An hour later, I get a text saying he's going to his parents' house and doesn't know when he'll be back. Yes, that's what I wanted, and yes, that's what made the most sense, but sometimes that isn't enough to make you like a situation. He'd spent weekends away already, but this made everything sink in a little more. So it's been rough. He came back last night to pick up some stuff. About 15 seconds after the door closed I was ripping into an ice cream bar.

But I did find a new apartment. A cute little one bedroom not too far away. Big complex, with a gym. My balcony overlooks the pool and the dog area. And it's within walking distance of public transportation. Despite being upset about the break-up, seeing the apartment was actually just really, really exciting. I'm sure I'll have a different story later, but for now I am going to embrace this feeling. Move-in date is February 10. Now I need to start thinking about the big stuff, like a couch and a bed.

Thank you all for your compliments on my pictures! Can't say I've felt that good about any of my outfits since, and that was right after my haircut so of course it hasn't looked the same since, either. But now that I know it's possible to feel pretty without too much effort, I just have to remember to do what I gotta do!

Hopefully the next time I write I will have better news to report. My apartment is in desperate need of a deep clean, and I am in desperate need of a deep sleep. No excuses for not accomplishing both this weekend.
 
My apartment is in desperate need of a deep clean, and I am in desperate need of a deep sleep. No excuses for not accomplishing both this weekend.

Sorry to hear it's been a bad week. I really feel for your situation. Sounds like things are going to get better soon though so keep your head up.
You should also try to get a run in this weekend. It will make you feel better and you don't want to take too much time off inbetween your runs if your training. It just makes it that much harder getting back to it. I try to work in at least one run a week.
Also stay away from the freezer this weekend!! Take care of yourself Laura.
 
Awww Sweetie - so sorry you're having a lousy time of it this week. I agree with CG (sorry, every time I write that I'm thinking Cover Girl, not Chubby Girl!) in that a run would probably make you feel better. I don't know about you, but for me it just has a way of clearing my head and making things seem less out of control.

Good luck!
 
The new place sounds lovely--I'm moving out of my flat in June and I'm already looking, I adore hunting for houses :) Should have gone into property really!! Hope you're feeling more positive today my darling--keep your chin up x
 
Hey Laura! I'm still struggling a little to get back in the groove, but I just wanted to say hey. Your pictures are really nice and that is a really cute outfit. I'm sorry the ex issues are still going on, but now that you're moving it seems like it will be a lot easier to deal with. The new apartment sounds exciting! Good luck staying away from the ice cream this weekend!
 
It would be nice if we women could just fast when we get upset. But that is the first thing I want to do when I get upset or mad "EAT". Why is that with us women? We just go out to see a move and eat "popcorn", without the butter of course! Maybe we should try some stretches instead.

Hope things gets better for you.:toetap05:
 
I have a nice little response to all of you wonderful people started, and it is now saved as a draft e-mail. I fell asleep last night before finishing, but I wanted to share something fun. I had a doctor's appointment today, and I have NEVER been happy with a weigh-in there. But today, fully clothed (including boots) I was 142. Therefore, throughout this whole ordeal, I have put on nothing, and maybe lost a pound or two. Thank goodness. I mean, I knew that from my weigh-ins at home, but it's different seeing it on someone else's scale!
 
142 is so awesome!! I'm so jealous btw! If what happened to you happened to me I can guarantee you I would be 10 pounds heavier by now so you should be really proud with how well you are dealing with everything going on. Keep your head up Laura - it will only get better from here.:waving:
 
I'm so jealous too!! You are so close to your goal despite everything going on! You have not dieted and lost weight, you have changed your life. :)
 
Hey Laura,
I'm so sorry to hear about what's been happening for you, what an awful situation to be stuck in :(
I'm glad to hear you've found a new flat though, how great will it be for you when you're all settled? I'm excited for you to be able to have some freedom and everything if you know what I mean?
I think if you can weather this bad bit now, there is a huge rainbow waiting for you on the other side :)

Also congratulations on the 142 WITH clothes and boots on! That's fantastic!
Your photos are so nice, you are really beautiful Laura. I LOVE your outfit too :)
 
As promised, here is my lovely reply, written half last night and half today! I had to fix some time references, haha, but I believe I got them all. And I kept getting more fun responses from you all, so it just kept growing and growing! I have GOT to respond quicker from now on!

You will all be happy to know (or maybe angry to discover) I had no more ice cream in the freezer after Thursday. Also, I sat down on the couch with mint M&Ms on Sunday night when I discovered the Sex and the City movie was on, and guess what? I didn't eat any! Not one. Whew. Another food positive for last week was that I discovered that the healthy popcorn covered in garlic salt and cayenne pepper is AMAZING! I need to remember that. I'm used to using crushed red pepper to make things taste better (such as the healthy request soup by Campbell's) but I hadn't dived into the world of cayenne pepper yet.

Lisa - Can you please come onto my page every now and then and just scream "You're in training!!" at me as loud as humanly possible? I still haven't fully grasped this. A few of us girls were talking about that yesterday... we want desperately for it to get warm so we can go for runs after work together, because we’re all struggling with motivation. Although I can't imagine "warm" right now, considering yesterday the wind chill was twenty-five below. Boston gets cold, but not THAT cold! I think the last time it was that bad was 2005. Right before we got 3 feet of snow. Maybe it's a sign! I love the snow!!! But I digress... We decided that the people who put the teams together were going to punish us by putting all of us on the same team and seeing how long it takes us to finish the race!

Tig - I went for a run yesterday and it was horrendous!! I think I may be catching a cold because I was sweating before I even started running. Hopefully I can redeem myself with the next one and it will help clear my head instead of just making me feel like a disaster!! There were a couple of times a few weeks ago that I had amazing runs that were completely unexpected and totally helped me feel better… I want that feeling again. Tonight? YES! TONIGHT!!

Hana - You're going to make some friends really happy when you help them out with property hunting! I will need someone like you around when I finally stop renting and actually buy a house.

Anna - Maybe if I did yoga I could just go relax instead of eat! Thankfully I haven't done any damage, aside from the lack of training. I have a race that is still four months away, but if I wait ANY longer to get back into it, I am going to be in major trouble!

Jess – Thanks for such a sweet comment on my pictures! And the situation is no fun, but I am dealing with it better than I expected. Seven years is a stinkin’ long time… but I’ve seen all four members of my immediate family go through similar things in the past few years, and I’ve definitely gotten stronger as a result. Every one of us is better off now than we were before, I just have to keep remembering that.

BikiniBound - [Why don't I know your real name? Is it a secret?] I think things will be easier for the next few weeks at least. I have so much to do, between furniture shopping, packing (and separating our stuff) and cleaning. Hopefully that will leave enough time for running but NOT over-thinking/binging. And just having that date on my calendar will be good. Although after this weekend, I have no idea if he’ll be in the apartment or not, because his drive to work is awful from his parents’ house, and with the snow we’ve been having constantly that just makes it worse. I do have places I can stay if I need to avoid some tension, at least. And your last comment really made me feel amazing…. Thank you for that. It made me think of my ice cream analysis from many months back (see below).

On September 23rd, I wrote the following entry:

I recently tried out Skinny Cow Ice Cream sandwiches. Cookies & Cream, to be exact. I was disappointed, didn't think they had enough flavor for me. My next thought was to try these Breyer's Triple Chocolate Chip bars. Looked up the nutritional values. 130 calories and 6 grams of fat. Compared it to Skinny Cow. 150 calories and 2 grams of fat. Was thinking oh, I don't want those extra grams of fat, I'll stick with the Skinny Cow products. And just for kicks I checked out Ben & Jerry's website to see what I USED to eat. My favorite, New York Super Fudge Chunk, is 300 calories and 20 grams of fat... per serving. I don't think I EVER ate less than 2 servings at a time, and have definitely eaten 4 on many, no, most occasions. That translates to 1,200 calories and 80 grams of fat. Eighty. E I G H T Y. And I was about to be disappointed I was going to have 6? I would have to eat 13 Breyer's bars to have as much fat as a pint of Ben & Jerry's. Or FORTY Skinny Cow's. Wow. What an eye opener. I am NOT going to feel bad about eating my 6 grams!

I can’t remember the brand of my most recent ice cream bars, but I’m fairly certain they were 110 calories each, and I think there were 12 bars in the box. 110 X 12 = 1,320 calories total. I think I ate all twelve bars in six days (between Saturday and Thursday). And I felt incredibly guilty about how fast I went through them. Evenly spread out, that’s 220 calories per day. Throw a serving of M&Ms on a couple of those days and we’re up to 220 for dessert on four days, and let’s just say 450 on the other two days. Compare that to the fact that before August 2010 I would have easily eaten 1,200 calories in one sitting. And probably done that multiple times. And I would have gone to the store specifically to get that ice cream and eat it all in one sitting. Versus this ice cream binge, where I bought some innocent low-calorie bars during a stressful time, yes, but two days before the ultra-stress-induced-urge to binge occurred, and therefore my intent at purchase was to have 110 calories at a time. So maybe I didn’t need to eat so many, but at least I have come this far!

(Side note: my boss just came by and probably wonders who the heck I am writing this ridiculously long e-mail to!)
 
Yes, that is a definite ice cream improvement! All that ice cream talk is making me want some right now. :willy_nilly: But it's pretty easy to resist, because I just had a very yummy turkey sandwich and grapes, and I am stuffed.

No, my name isn't a secret. I guess I never realized I didn't mention it...I'm a weirdo. :blush5: Anyway.......drumroll.......my name is Priscilla. lol :)
 
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