When people say YOU'RE TOO SKINNY!!!

2Skinny

2Skinny

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Hello Everyone;

When I was overweight no one bothered me, no one made comments about my weight. When I lost 40 pounds on ediets.com, suddenly people were saying YOU'RE TOO SKINNY!!!! Are they jealous? Is it because I'm tall?

Well, why-ever they say it is their business. But it's what made me think of a username on this site ... 2Skinny. lol I'm really not too skinny. In fact, at five feet nine inches, 150 pounds is okay range for BMI (body mass index), but so is 135 pounds, and that's my goal. And I may look halfway decent in clothes, but 135 pounds will make me look good in a bikini.

I guess the thing of it is, no matter WHERE a person is at in their weight loss, everyone knows what is right for them. I could never be an anoerexic because I love food too much. I think about food all the time. I have to stay very conscious of my weight loss desire, in order to keep away from the goodies. One thing you will never see me do on these boards is mention the food I miss or the food I want, because I don't want to affect anyone else's strength in a negative way.

The way I lose weight is 4 tablespoons of hemp hearts every morning, a fish oil pill, and oatmeal or bran cereal. Lunch is either soup, or a salad, or a tuna sandwich on brown. Herbal tea in the afternoon and a small supper with portion control. If I eat out, I eat HALF of what's on my plate and take home the rest for tomorrow's supper. Portion control is everything. No junk food, although I may slip once/week at the movies. No alcohol, except a glass of red wine on special occasions. Going to the sports bar with a friend tomorrow night and I'll drink diet coke. Absolutely, positively NO eating after supper. I walk to work and back which is four miles.

Thank you for reading my post, and keep on eating healthy and exercising everyone!! Good luck to you all.
 
Yeah - I've never had that problem either. *sigh* Funny how people don't have the courage to tell you to back away from that ho-ho, but they can tell others to eat one. Shouldn't they both be as offensive?
 
Looks like you're on your way

Wow, your rulers are amazing, I love them. It looks like you're both well on your way to finding out what it's like being told you're too skinny. And you're right Pequin, both telling someone not to eat or to go ahead and eat, are equally offensive.
I'm inspired to be on the boards with you ladies. My saying for the day for myself is "Weight loss is in the now".
 
LOL! Since the least I have weighed in my adult life was somewhere around 160 or so, I never had that said to me and seriously doubt I ever will! I am aiming for "you look really fit" comments.
 
the boys were husky the girls were pretty plus... at least at sears...I think i'd take husky - though every time i see a home depot ad, the husky product line does bring out the immature person in me :D

Back to the topic :D
Commenting on someone's weight is rude... to a degree... Whether a person is too skinny or too fat it's not for someone else to say.. you'll only make the person feel bad, and if that person does have an eating disorder, it could make it worse... A person knows what they look like.

However... if a person has been dieting and continue to lose weight... and gets to an unhealthy looking point then somethig has to be said (I know a girl on another forum, who at age 19, she went froma very healthy looking 135, and because a lot of emotional problems she had going on... she didn't eat her way down to 95 lbs and thought she had control of it... guess what... she doesnt... she posted pics of her at 95 lbs and she looked gaunt and skeletal... and not healthy... A friend doesn't sit by and not say anything while a person kills themself slowly...

2skinny, i'm not saying that's your situation AT ALL... a person might have made the comment because they care and they may see something that you arent... or not... :D
 
Too skinny...?

I think that many people who set out to lose weight don't realize that weight is a social status issue as well as a health issue. When you set out to lose weight you challenge the social status quo, your place in the pecking order. People don't like that. I firmly believe that only one's very closest friends and most supportive family members will truly support weight loss. Everyone else finds a way to either sabotage or criticize. There are lots of ways this happens: The husband who brings home a pizza or some donuts on the day his wife starts her diet, the friend who insists on taking the dieter to a restaurant full of temptations and no low calorie foods, the people who push food of the dieter saying things like, "You can diet tomorrow!" or (my own favorite), "Come on, we're all having a piece," the aunt who gets huffy if you don't have some of her special recipe desert, and all the many people who do not act as if they respect the dieter's choices. I am now 100 lbs overweight--and yet people will still offer me rich food and when I turn it down ask me why! As if the answer weren't obvious since I am often the fattest lady in the room. When I tell them I have a weight problem, people say things like, "Oh, no you don't! You're not fat!" This is completely ridiculous--kids throw stuff at me out of cars and scream, "Go on a diet!" I am very FAT!!! I stand out in a room. And yet people will tell me I am not fat as a prelude to getting me to eat the ice cream or cake or whatever. Now I just mention my pancreatic condition and they have to give it up and leave me alone because they can't say I don't have it.

So someone wants you to feel bad for having changed your place in the pecking order, thus shaking up THEIR place. So they call you "too skinny." The truth is, only a doctor and one whom you have hired and asked for an opinion from, has the right to say whether or not you are too skinny. Your weight sounds OK to me, but, ultimately, it is not up to me to decide what your weight should be, it is up to you. Just hear their comments for what they are--the frustration of people who fear that you might be feeling more powerful and confident, people who are afraid of what their place in your world will be now that you have gained some social status points. Tell them you are going on Oprah next week to discuss your severe anorexia and they can tune in then but until then you don't want to discuss it anymore. In other words, don't take them seriously and let them know you don't. They will just have to adjust.

You've sure got all my admiration! Enjoy your skinny life and good luck at obtaining any further weight loss goals you wish to obtain.
 
:)

I know how you feel, I am 5' 4" and 150 lbs (although I did just have a baby 3 months ago so I really look skinny compared to being pregnant,lol. I look OK at 150, but I would love to weigh around 125 lbs. Whenever I mention that I am trying to lose some weight, people tell me "Why?! you're so skinny!!" well, I am by no means skinny, but I AM the thinnest one in my family, so they don't want me to look stunning and leave them all behind, lol. So they all tell me that I would look bad that thin and stuff. But I know that it would be more healthy for me, so I will lose weight until I look at the scale and the number looks appropriate... then I'll start tryning to tone this postpartum pouch, lol!
 
A lady told me the other day that I need to eat some bread...I guess that was her way of saying I'm getting too skinny. :rolleyes: ...and needless to say she paid for her comments. :D Hi five to Aeris!:p

Mal has a very valid point and I totally agree. For those of us being healthy about it I think we are aware of a healthy range for our bone size. Others will always have an opinion, but as long as I'm within my healthy range, taking my bone size into consideration I could care less what people think. That social status quo observation seems valid too...if you feel better about yourself, it makes some (shallow) people feel worse about themselves, but that's not my problem.
 
I have had that same thing happen to me...right out of high school I started eating vegetarian and I lost 50 pounds and weighed around 150 and everyone started telling me I was too skinny ( I wasn't too skinny...I was about a size 8/10)...that was the only time in my life I have ever been considered too thin...then I started eating meat again because I married a "meat and potato" type guy and now I am trying to get back down to 150...someday maybe someone will call me skinny again...lol
 
hmmm, yeah i dn't really have this porblem either!!! (iwish) but like others said, you know where you are and where you need to be to be healthy so don't sweat it, keep up with your goals and be happy!!!!:)
 
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