when I sin, I REALLY sin

tiay

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anyone else have that problem? So today, I had 600 calories left for dinner. pretty good. My landlord (long story) invited me to dinner one floor up, really nice indian food.
don't really know how much it was, just some rice, soy chicken kinda thing, some kind of indian wrap/pancake thing that I don't know what it is.. probably came in at around 700 total.

but somehow there's a voice of un-logic in my mind that says "oh well, you've already probably had too much.. now you might as well go ahead and eat that entire tub chocolate ice cream in the fridge!" It's like the floodgates open.

a voice of logic and reason then says "no, that doesn't make sense- 200 or so calories over on just one day is not that bad, but if I eat that tub of ice cream it'll--- oh, too late"

It's like I don't know how to have a reasonable 'cheat' day!

on the flip-side, when i'm good, i'm really good ^.^ guess I don't like the middle ground?
 
In my humble opinion, the matter here is controlling wants and perspective. You simply wanted the ice cream more than you wanted the weight loss. Sounds simple, but it can be incredibly difficult to control. The problem in controlling the wants is in perspective. There is far too much pleasure in that tub of ice cream, and too much pain in denying it for weight loss. The Pain/Pleasure barrier is not something most people can take head on. In fact, we have a word to describe people who enjoy pain: sadistic. What you need to do is find a way to change your perspective and reverse your current thinking about what is pleasureful and what is painful. Then you will find yourself rarely struggling to make the right choice, because the right choice will be the one you want anyways.
 
that makes a lot of sense actually!

that's just a very odd reasoning that I use to justify it to myself. It's kinda the same when i'm being good- on many days I wouldn't really need to count my calories, I already know roughly how much it was. But I count them anyway because the little number on the screen is my reward.

I should start a diary on here.. i've just been putting off making that commitment, to be honest.
 
I'm exactly the same! You just think "oh I've gone over my calories for the day already, might as well eat some more yummy food now". Especially if I eat a chocolate bar or something, it will make me want to eat more because I've been depriving myself of them for so long!
 
exactly! I totally let loose for my friends birthday a few months back- I should've just had a nice satisfying piece of cake, maybe a nice big dinner, I can eat like 1800 calories after all- I wont lose weight on that but I wont really gain either, i'll just maintain.

But nooooo, I totally went overboard, probably ate, no kidding, around 5000 cals, and unhealthy ones at that. silly :)

crystal: yeah, you're right.. though my diary at this point would just read "when I get back home i'll.." because i'm on a super long vacation at the moment. still, it's no excuse not to start a good workout schedule even if I can't keep it all the time.
 
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I have the same problem! Im sure I could have lost a lot more weight by now if it wasn't for this problem. I get caught in the moment sometimes and just can't stop myself. It's like an addiction. Like I feel like I just have to have one more fix! I hate it!! I have gotten better at controlling it but the last few days have been really bad and i need to kick my butt back into gear again. I've over eaten for almost my entire life and my body and mind is just used to it. It's hard to control something that has been out of control for so many years.
 
yeah, it's like the mind is fooling itself. seeing things overly simplistically; ie, i'm either over or under my calories.

over = bad
under = good

so, the reasoning is, if i'm already bad, it doesn't matter how bad I am, so I can go ahead and binge with no further negative effects than what I already had from being over my calories.

of course, that isn't true :p I know it isn't true. But I buy my own lie.
 
i am exactly the same. when i binge i binge and i know im going to feel awful and bilious the next day, but i still do it.a few weeks ago i was congratulating myself on managing to rid myself of my binging urges then what do i do. ive been pigging out on biscuits, crisps, think nothing of eating 1000+ cals over a couple of hours. thats on top of what ive already eaten that day.
i think with me its all or nothing, once i let go of that contol of calorie counting its an all out binge.i have no middle road and been that way for years.
but today i am starting afresh, lots of resolution. just been window shopping in town, can now in most shops fit into a uk size 12 comfortably. i am not going to let that go for anything. slim
 
heh, yup..

you would not believe the mind games I play with myself..

stuff like "i'll bring this protein bar in case my boyfriend wants it" I KNOW he wont want it. "oh well, guess i'll have it eat it myself then.."

or, even better "hm, I really want that [bad food]. No, i'll be good-- I'll have this [good food], but to reward myself for making the right choice, I'll have an extra large portion of it!"

and my favourite "well.. I better get rid of all this [bad food] so that it doesn't mess up tomorrows plan.."

there is no END to the amount of mind games I play with *myself* on this, it is insane!
 
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