What was your "turning point?"

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stacymarie513

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After, turning 21 I began to gain weight rapidly. Then I realized I was no longer getting carded for anything. (With my freckles I have always looked much younger than I am) But all of a sudden I was no longer being carded for R-rated movies, cigarettes, alcohol, nothing! Did I really look that old. My face hadn't changed that much, but my body sure had. After that there was the "incident."
I was climbing into my boy-friend's jeep which is lifted higher than an average one (a common occurence here in the south). Well, after slinging one leg in and attempting to pull the other one in I ripped my blue jeans. Leaving a nice restaurant with 2 friends, I ripped them. I was mortified to say the least.

After that I started noticing other things that had changed....
-Everytime I sat on a sofa I would put a pillow or blanket in my lap to hide my belly.
-I would wear jeans out to dinner, but I would immediately change into sweat pants when I got home.
-I was uncomfortable around large groups of people.
-I didn't even want to have sex with my boy-friend, ESPECIALLY if I was on top.

So then I vowed to change....
-I joined a 24 hour gym so I would have no excuse not to go.
-I put a scale in my bathroom and vowed to weigh daily.
-I started a weight and food diary.
-I bought a Brita pitcher so I could go green and lose weight!
-I gave away all of my clothes that are too small, so I could buy new outfits as a lost weight.

So I can't be the only one with some horribly embarassing story? Any other ideas that I can add to my list of changes to make? Thanks guys, I am really excited to be a part of this!
 
My friends and I had to do a presentation as part of our graduation and we decided to order matching shirts. I ordered a XXL thinking that would be big enough. Wrong. We got the shirts and I had to stretch it to fasten the buttons and could not get the last button done. So, there I was with all of my skinny friends with a very unflattering tight button-up shirt and I felt awful. A week later we did the presentation in front of around 200 people. By the end of it I was sweating, my legs were chafing, and I felt awful. I just wanted to go home and be alone.

I realized that day that I had to do something and a couple of weeks later, I started my new lifestyle. I feel a lot better now and I can't wait to break the 200lb mark, 32 more lbs :D.
 
My friend got a new apartment in center city... so I drove down and had to walk a couple blocks to her apartment. I had been working out, but wasn't really serious about it. On the walk back to my car... a group guys yelled out... "Hey! Look at the chick with the spare tire!!" I was so embarrassed because there were about a hundred people walking in and out of the bars. I usually wear a hoodie or a jacket to cover up.. but I didn't and apparently I should of.

I too always sit on the sofa with something in front of my belly. If I have a guy over...its an adventure trying to cover up and be cozy without looking like an idiot.
 
Aren't we silly?

Doesn't it seem so silly that we do that, but obviously the guy likes us, other wise he wouldn't be over. I just feel so insecure without something there. I think its because I've seen pictures of myself sitting down that show rolls for days (see attached). Anyways, thanks for the support, it gives me some motivation to get my ass out of be early tomorrow and get in the gym!
 
That picture is not bad!!

See I would have had to stand up or at least had my purse in front of me... thats another thing! I always have to have my purse.. some reason I think i can hide behind it!! haha
 
i had many reasons for wanting to change. health reasons, blood pressure was way out of control and i hate taking medicines. that was #1 but physical reasons, my husband plays music and he would ask me all the time to go out with him and i would say maybe next time but my reasons were always i'm to busy or i am writing tonight when truth was I didn't want to have to find something to wear or i felt incredible fat around the other women at the bar. i felt terribly self conscious. didn't feel pretty at all. I had a friend i hadn't seen in a long time ask me how it felt to be that "big" Summer vacation i hated pictures. felt like a whale on the beach, wore baggy clothes and took only head shots. my shorts would rub up my legs. at home, at night i would roll over at night and if my husband would roll over and hug me i would move his arm so he would feel how fat i was. even if i was asleep i was always aware if his hand touched my stomach. the fatter i got the more i rationalized how it was okay. So i would just buy bigger clothes. it's okay. i wouldn't weigh myself, it's okay. Aunt bee was a big lady, everyone loved her! i had many reasons Why i couldn't lose but none to lose, then my doctor told me I COULD do this, rome wasn't built in a day and it was achievable. He believed in me when i didn't believe in myself. and the seed was planted. I made a commitment to myself to change health wise and to prove to everyone that doubted it could be done that it could. Last night i had my first "date" with my husband again. I wore jeans for the first time again and i liked how i looked. I still have pounds to lose but it doesn't feel impossible anymore. i can see the light at the end of the tunnel. and the best part is i did this all on my own. it's been a great feeling and i'll never go back.
 
i can't remember the last time I wore shorts... LoL.. and a bathing suit!! AHH!! my dreaded nightmare.


I am glad to hear you enjoyed date night with your husband!! That is awesome!! :hurray:
 
Wow... come to think of it there are soooo many things that made my turning point happen. lol. Specifically, not being happy with myself anymore or feeling like myself. Also, I went to the amusement park and felt like a lard ass when I was sitting in the rides. The seats were so small! lol. More like my butt was too big. Everyone knows that they shouldn't let other people's hurtful comments get to them, but that's a very tough thing to do.
 
My turning point? I quit smoking...thought I was doing okay on my weight and then discovered I had put on 11 pounds in one month. Those 11 pounds put me over 200 (I'm 6' tall) .

But...that 200 pound number on the scale just turned me right around.
 
I went out for my friends 22nd birthday and was sweating my fat ass off in some bar on 6th street in Austin. In every picture I was severely red in the face and dripping with sweat. Then a week later, on Christmas, I couldn't fit into some clothes that my parents got me. That was enough for me. I can know fit into those jeans, and I'm excited. :)
 
I think I'm always sweating in every picture taken at a bar.. LoL.. and then my hair frizzes... i'm the only one sweating!!
 
Getting married and looking at my wedding album. I turned into a little porker and it took me damn near 5 months after the fact to get enough motivation to hit the gym and be serious about this. I started at 256.5 and am currently weighing in at 240.5. Most important part, though, is that I have gone a couple of jean sizes down. I look better in the mirror. Hell yeah I'm, keeping this up!
 
on hitting rock bottom

Wow my hitting rock bottom story happen this past Christmas Eve. My cousin was there and I haven't seen her in forever, when I was smaller. She has a baby now but of course is back down to her size 4. But anyway I was asking her questions about how it is to be a new mom and such when she looks at me with huge eyes and grabs my fat belly and asked "OH my gosh! You are freaking pregnant!" in front of my entire family. :ack2: I tried to laugh it off and say no I just got fat! hahahehe.....uhg. Gotta love family. Now I am on the road to getting fit and I'm gonna be wearing those size 4 pants this Christmas! whoo hoo!
 
My turning point was two nights ago

Hi there. I'm new to this site, so I hope I can get some good advice and some support. I just had one of those experiences I don't think I'll ever forget. I was at a pot luck dinner at the beach Monday night. We were all lining up for the food and this woman said to me "you can go before me. Those who are with child should go first." I just turned and walked away and didn't eat a thing.

I just got engaged, so I know that there were rumors that I was pregnant. I ignored all of them. I work a 70 week running my own business. I'm a good person. I was not put on this planet to be aesthetically pleasing to everyone, so I have the right to be any size and shape I want. That said, I can't believe I have gotten to the point that people think I'm pregnant.

So, now I need to regroup and change my eating, drinking and exercise habits...but I don't want to do it so others will think I look good. I want to do it for me. I'm just trying to rewire my thoughts about my weight. Any advice?
 
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