Were you treated differently after losing a lot of weight?

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Uncle Fester

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For those of you that have lost a lot of weight, are people acting differently towards you?

Do you get more stares? Especially from the opposite sex?

Do you get negative or jealous reactions from family/friends/co-workers etc…
 
What a good question
Last year when I was jogging and eating right, I lost a lot of weight and I did get plenty of looks and men would stop me just to ask me if I was "free anytime"
My family members also seen a big change in me and it must have been different from me. A lot of our older friends would tell me how great I looked..oh how I miss that.
 
I'm still ugly - so losing 197 lbs hasn't helped that any...

So yeah - I don't get treated different - people jsut find different things to bitch at me about...
 
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i have only lost 10 lbs so far...last summer i lost some weight and my ex was getting excited...gained the weight back n we broke up hahaha...but with that being said im going to lose the weight again and more for myself and i know i can get the ladies then...im not cocky just confident hahaha
 
I definately get treated differently by everyone.

In my school, people I dont even talk to, will stop me and say . " Omg! you're looking SO good " ..

My good friends are all happy for me, even though sometimes i do get a hint of jealousy.

My family, thats sort of a whole different... area.

They aren't happy for me. They aren't supportive, and given a chance to put me down, they do.

But, hell, they aren't gonna stop me. ;) I'm on fire!

As for the opposite sex.

I do... I mean, I dont know if guys stop and look, I'm not that thin yet, But for example, an old friend I would hang out with before i moved, and while I was weighin' in at my heaviest, after about a year or more of only occasionally seeing him, he asked me out.

I never said yes. I mean, was it because I lost weight that he finally found me acceptable to be his gf? If so, I'm not lookin' for that type of guy!

and of course, the older men, friends of my dad will say. " BOY! if i was your age and single!" =)
 
I was in a black hole when I lost the majority of my weight so this question is hard to answer. I get compliments from friends now adays. They say I'm "wasting away." Not hardly! I get mixed reviews from family, some are happy that I am healthy and others are... jealous I think is the word to use. Otherwise I am pretty oblivious to the opposite sex since I am only worried about what one guy thinks... and he would love me if I were 5000 lbs.... However I feel like when I go to the grocery store I get stared at... and always wonder if there is something stuck to my butt or something!
 
I'm not down enough for anything of that sort yet, but I went from heavy to slim once back in my late teens/early 20's and it made a huge difference from both sexes (I'm male by the way) in just ordinary everyday things. Like, for example, if I was in a shop buying something the girl behind the counter would make eye contact and smile, maybe make small talk. Or if I was wearing a t-shirt of a band they liked they would talk to me about the band. Then with guys they wouldn't stare as much wondering how I got to be so fat.

I know it doesn't sound like much, but it was VERY noticeable how people's attitude towards me changed between being fat and being 'normal'. Just in small ways, but noticeable all the same. And of course the opposite is true. As I started to put the weight back on it was noticeable their attitude changing again in the opposite way.
 
Yeah its amazing how people treat you different.
I can no longer get away with 14 items in the 12 item or less cue at the supermarket 'stupid hot blonde chick! who does she think she is!'
On the other side i can get away with lots of other things that only hot blonde chicks can get away with.
One friend claimed i had totally changed and now was a complete heartless bitch etc yada yada. Others seem to believe im happier and more out going etc.
I think what has changed is their perception of me. I dont think my personality has changed that much :)
 
I haven't lost enough weight and I wasn't huge before I started, but what changed is that with every pound less I feel more selfconfident. So instead of hiding inside huge jumpers and avoiding eye contact, I now wear things that suit my figure and I look up and smile in people's faces, and THAT is what gets me more men asking casually if they have met me before, or asking me a lot of questions about my sneakers.
Camy
 
I lost weight while in school.
So you can probably see where this is going...But more people talked to me, more of both girls and boys , AND TEACHERS!
It's sad to say everyone puts overweight people in a seperate category. I had a teacher in 9th grade when I was larger and he NEVER paid any amount of attention to me. When 12th grade came I had him again and suddenly he talked to me more, called on me more in class, and brought me into conversations (it wasnt perverted or anything, just actually paid attention to me as a student) Same goes for some of the female teachers.
Also there were some teachers that USED to talk to me when I was bigger that would look at me like I was a mutant, and didn't address me anymore.. hahah!
Many people that picked on me also decided I was okay..and that really made me furious. I would talk to them but in the back of my mind I wanted to scream at them! It's like okay, now I'm good enough because I lost weight...

I think I do have a little bit of issues from it, because I lost the weight so quickly (for me, becuase diets used to never work..i learned its not about dieting its about a whole lifestyle) but I feel like people are still looking at me as that really chubby girl (which everyone tells me I'm crazy)
I see myself in pictures now and it's almost like I dont recognize myself!

Also, other bigger girls used to gravitate towards me and it's like we understood eachother, and now they give me dirty looks because I'm skinny now.. I really hate it becuase i know they dont understand I've been in the same position (not always as bad but still..I've had to deal with ridicule too)

Sorry for the novel.. but A LOT of things have changed with weight loss..not jsut my weight.. and it's going to take a longggg time to be completely used to what I undid from 7 years of being overweight and dealing with people who are looking just at me from the surface.
 
A friend of mine just lost about 50 pounds and she says she notices guys looking at her a lot more now with the weight gone. She even has guys say hi to her when she walks down the street. Now I myself am quite thin, and I don't even get that!!!!!! haha
 
after my first 40 lbs weight loss a guy I had had a huge crush on asked me out. I decided not to go out with him since the only reason he was attracted to me was because I was no longer obese. I told him if he had showed even the smallest amount of interest in me when I was fat maybe I would have considered it, but he used to treat me like crap and only talked to me to get in with my skinny friends. I used to hang out with a lot of chicks, not anymore. I'm not the fat girl that makes the thin girls look better anymore so I lost my honorary spot in the clique. I'm not crying about it though. I noticed they found a new fat girl to treat like crap.
I'm sure if I were still 234 lbs my current SO would never have even looked twice at me, but that was the point of losing the weight to begin with.
 
I think the most telling incident happened a couple weeks ago when I was chased down and asked for my phone number at a gas station. By a guy who was about 10 years younger than me. Great for the ol' ego, but not something to pursue, especially since I'm happily married.

Friends, coworkers and family are pretty supportive for the most part. I've gotten the "OMG have you lost weight?" from a few people... after I had dropped about 50 pounds. Though there was one instance of a female coworker that had gone to the same doc giving me a narrow eyed catty look when she thought I wasn't looking. I think its because I've been a little more successful at it than she has. Hey, if she would actually work out... it would have worked better for her too!

My sis in-law (married to my husband's brother) is working on her final few pounds too, but she's shedding baby weight. Another friend desparately wants to drop the baby weight and the weight she put on since meeting her husband. She's happy for me but I can detect a hint of jealousy. Been there (the desperation) so I can understand. I'll just be supportive of her as I can as she goes through getting the weight off.

Lot of people I know from school, car shows, etc. haven't seen me since I started this... it will be interesting to see their reactions.
 
Uncle Fester said:
Anyone else???
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The seat of my pants is looser now; noticeably so.

A friend of a friend of mine once dieted down to a size 8 but is now probably around a size 24. She knows I've recently lost a little weight and has actually been a little cool to me recently. She and our mutual friend and I are all overweight by quite a bit. I can see myself getting kicked out of that clique if I lose too much weight. :toetap05:
 
wishes said:
Yeah its amazing how people treat you different.
I can no longer get away with 14 items in the 12 item or less cue at the supermarket 'stupid hot blonde chick! who does she think she is!'
On the other side i can get away with lots of other things that only hot blonde chicks can get away with.
One friend claimed i had totally changed and now was a complete heartless bitch etc yada yada. Others seem to believe im happier and more out going etc.
I think what has changed is their perception of me. I dont think my personality has changed that much :)
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You might be a little more outgoing and confident now that you've lost weight and maybe your friends see you as competition? :blush5:
 
nono, the female friends are the ones that didnt change so much!

To be fair, i dont really care what anyone thinks, husband is over the moon! Kids are too! as am i!
 
txsqlchick said:
The seat of my pants is looser now; noticeably so.

A friend of a friend of mine once dieted down to a size 8 but is now probably around a size 24. She knows I've recently lost a little weight and has actually been a little cool to me recently. She and our mutual friend and I are all overweight by quite a bit. I can see myself getting kicked out of that clique if I lose too much weight. :toetap05:
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Well... how dare you decide to improve yourself? :rolleyes:

Unfortunately that is the mentality of some people. They are miserable but haven't found the desire to do anything about it yet, and will resent you for wanting to do something about your situation. You know... 'misery loves company.' Old saying, but a grain of truth to it. I've had 'friends' like that... I don't associate with them anymore. Hard to be supportive of a person determined to drag you down to their level instead of aspiring to come up to yours.

Hopefully some of your friends will look at you as inspiration and decide to do the same. Good to have a real life support network as well as the one online.

Ack, sorry... touchy subject with me... :smash:
 
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