Weight Loss and Body Image

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wendy

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Hi all.

I have a question for you. Will I ever be happy with my body? What if I get down to 110 (ha ha yeah right) and I'm still not happy? I want to lose this weight and tone up, but what if I:

1) fail and remain fat forever
2) succeed in loseing weight and toning up, but it;s not good enough?

I am really obssessed with my looks (ask my hubby! poor guy...) and I will take a good 30-45 mins to pick out what I am going to wear before heading out the door. I try on several things and ugh. I don;t know. I'm just wanting this so badly and I know I have cheated on my diet, but there are things I am having a hard time giving up. Like cookies. I can't get enough of those. Hubby and kids like them, so I get them.

I don't know. I 'm just rambling I guess. Just wanted to let it out. Thanks for listening. :)
 
dont get obbsessed with your weight, i am, i am trying to change it takes over your whole life.
 
Weight's not really a good metric to use, especially if you're adding muscle and losing fat (since muscle weighs more). I'd suggest if you wanted to really concentrate on something, make it ability - to be able to do things you weren't before. Between that and eating healthily, the fat should take care of itself.
 
i think you need to change your mindset or else you will always be failing as you will be trying to achieve an impossible goal.

there is no reason to 'fail' unless you dont stick to eating well and exercising. it takes time to make big differences in your body - this is not a 2month thing. take a photo now and then again in 4 months and see the difference.

you need to sort out the vanity thing and start again. do all this to make yourself feel better and to be healthier; only then will it all fall into place.

if you know the cookies are your vice then just make them part of your eating plan. use as a treat, dont binge and certainly dont avoid them if it is only going to make you pig out on a regular basis.

without wanting to sound harsh you have to be committed to this and you want a quick fix. most your posts are negative and complain about certain problems you have. Some are completely irrational but most just show that you know what to do so just do it.

if your going to keep this up you have to get the right balance in exercise, food, goals and in your own head.

the more this becomes all consuming the more barriers you set yourself and the more chances you have to fail. start thinking a bit more positive and realise the good you are doing.

we all over-treat ourselves sometimes, we overeat when we feel like it and eat crap when it is inconvenient not to. the key is enjoy it but then get on with your routine. i know that without the odd meal out or night out id go mad, be a hermit and have no reason to try to get the body i want.

chin up!! its not that hard to achieve what you want once you can get past the mental block of changing your attitudes to eating and approach to training.
 
benelson101 said:
i think you need to change your mindset or else you will always be failing as you will be trying to achieve an impossible goal.

there is no reason to 'fail' unless you dont stick to eating well and exercising. it takes time to make big differences in your body - this is not a 2month thing. take a photo now and then again in 4 months and see the difference.

you need to sort out the vanity thing and start again. do all this to make yourself feel better and to be healthier; only then will it all fall into place.

if you know the cookies are your vice then just make them part of your eating plan. use as a treat, dont binge and certainly dont avoid them if it is only going to make you pig out on a regular basis.

without wanting to sound harsh you have to be committed to this and you want a quick fix. most your posts are negative and complain about certain problems you have. Some are completely irrational but most just show that you know what to do so just do it.

if your going to keep this up you have to get the right balance in exercise, food, goals and in your own head.

the more this becomes all consuming the more barriers you set yourself and the more chances you have to fail. start thinking a bit more positive and realise the good you are doing.

we all over-treat ourselves sometimes, we overeat when we feel like it and eat crap when it is inconvenient not to. the key is enjoy it but then get on with your routine. i know that without the odd meal out or night out id go mad, be a hermit and have no reason to try to get the body i want.

chin up!! its not that hard to achieve what you want once you can get past the mental block of changing your attitudes to eating and approach to training.
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THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!
 
I agree that setting fitness goals helps a lot. I set out to lose 20 lbs because I didn't like the way I looked. 10lbs down, I looked worse because I wasn't exercising. So, I set myself a goal that sounded impossible at the time...to run a 5k by then end of the year. Now, only two months later, I run a 5K 3 times a week shoot for a 10K on the weekends and I'm planning to run a half-marathon by the end of the year. And I still don't like my body. I have a friend who swears I have body dismorphic disorder. I don't think I'm that bad, I really think I'm honest with myself about my weak points (my genetically cellulite ridden thighs) and my strong points (my genetically flat, firm stomach, arms and upper body), but I doubt I'll ever be completely happy with my body because I'm a perfectionist and without an airbrush artist to follow me around 24/7, perfection does not exist. But, I am proud of what I have accomplished, proud of how far I have come and I get to be proud everytime I meet a new fitness goal. I'm still a little overly interested on what the numbers on the scale say, but I've started taking measurements to track progress when I'm not seeing it on the scale. And when all else fails, and I hate the way I look in a bikini, and I hate the way my legs look in shorts, I look at my kids and remember that I look damn good for someone my age with three kids.

I've seen your pics and if I recall your first post, you have kiddos too. Be proud. Set new fitness goals that you can be proud of. Try to find that one part of your body that you do like and focus on showing that off. It's hard sometimes, especially after years of focusing on what you don't like, but it does wonders for the body image.
 
Thank you Seniorita. Today I ran 3 miles and I noticed that my @$$ didn't jiggle as much and I remember thinking - yup. I'm FINALLY getting somewhere! And then I look at my arms and notice they are looking more defined. These small goals have definitely helped me stay on target and not to stray too far from my diet and workouts.
 
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