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GoodFriendEva21

GoodFriendEva21

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Im so tried of hearing people telling me "why are you loosing weight?" "you look fine." or "your not obese your just a little overweight."

um i understand i can carry my weight well. im a tall girl (5'8" 203lbs) but if you use my height and weight im considered OBESE. i guess its a blessing but im a little pissed off. that nobody sympathizes with me because i dont look round (no offense) its like i dont fit in anywhere! im not big enough or skinny enough.. same thing when i buy clothes.. the plus size clothes dont fit me right. there bigger at the belly (not waist) and on the arms.. but if i buy in the reg dept its too tight.. err.. :boxing:
 
I know exactly what you mean I want to laugh in people's faces when they tell me I'm not fat and that I carry my weight well. I mean hello I'm 5' 6" and 200 lbs, that's fat and I know it is that's why I'm doing something about it. I think people that tell us that just don't want to hurt our feelings, think about it no one is giong to sit there and tell you you're not fat or that you look bad. But it's true some people do carry their weight better than others and I"m fortunately like you one that does. I think the best thing to do when talking to those people are to just to listen what they say and not let it bother you, that's what I do or I just change the subject. My weight is not a topic I generally like to talk about.
 
yea.. but its not just my friends saying this.. its my gyn and my doctor!. my doctor told me if i needed to loose weight to get to 160 at the most. its just frustrating cause pretty much my whole family is obese and theyre constantly comparing themselves to me.. but im def not a poster child of health.. even though im healthy as can be now i fear i wont be later on.. that why im trying to loose weight ya kno
 
I would just ignore what everyone is telling you and get to a weight that is going to make you feel good and healthy. 160 for someone who is 5' 8" seems a little high to me but if your doctor says it's healthy then get to 160 and reevaluate your goals after that. Good luck.
 
Yeah I agree as well. They just don't want to hurt you in some way or maybe they just don't know what they are talking about. Just ignore them and continue with your hard efforts.
 
yea i agree about the 160 seeming high. i havent set a goal for me yet.. its basically what i think looks good on my body and not the number you know what i mean. maybe they are being nice who knows but when the nursing asst weighs me theyre always shocked that i weigh that much and tell me i dont look it:eek:
 
There are different weight standards depending upon where you live and also based on the person giving the "advice". My ob/gyn is overweight and you could just see her feeling annoyed when I asked her advice on getting my baby weight off, like I'm just into vanity and my looks. She was like "its hard to take off weight..look at me". Like I shouldn't even try and its OK, and I'm shalllow to not find the extra weight acceptable.

As far as carrying the weight, people do have different body shapes and muscle tone. Apparently you're not that large in the stomach and that alone makes a person look a lot slimmer. Carrying weight in the legs or ass usually looks a lot better than carrying it in the tummy. But 200 lbs definitely sounds high to me. I would look outside of your circle of overweight people (who are not in the process of trying to lose weight) for your answers.
 
Believe me, mama... I'm going through the same damn thing. My family lives in Hawaii and I'm now in NY with my husband. I've lost 35 lbs since the last time they saw me (end of March) and I sent them a few pictures via cam phone... my dad thought I was starving myself! I had to hear, "You're perfect the way you are... you don't have to be skinny!" At first it pissed me off, because no one was listening to the fact that I hate being unhealthy. They think that by losing weight, I'm going to be a different person. Sure... maybe physically, but I'll still be the sick witty bitch everyone's grown to love/ hate deep down inside. hahaa This is what I've chosen to do... they say things like, "You're fine the way you are." I nod... agree... then let it go in one ear and out the other. It's your life, not theirs. :D Good luck, girly.

-Sheryl
 
yep...don't listen to them. When I lost weight about 2 1/2 years ago I lost 89pounds and still weighed 200 pounds. I am 5'8" also. People would say to me things like...you look great, blah blah blah. But the thing that destroyed me was my sister telling me that if I were to stop losing weight now, it would be good. Stupid me takes it in and thinks to myself..yeah I am good, I can eat bad again. Now I went back up 77 pounds and I have to start all over. This time it is about me. I will not listen to anyone, I am the only one who knows what works and looks best for me.

Also, I think people who see us often are not use to us being thinner. So to them we look skinny. I bet, if we gave them some time, they would get used to us thinner and then realize that we are still fat.:rolleyes:
 
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