Tons of motivation but no will power!

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ausdogsx6

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Hi everyone,
I am new to this thread but it seems like a good idea to try this diary so here goes. I am about 54 y.o. 165 cm tall and weigh a cool 90kg. At the end of 2005 I weighed 65kg. Why have I put on so much weight since then? stress, busy, lazy, who knows. I have had all the medical tests and apart from high colesterol, everything is ok, that is except for my weight.
I have 6 dogs, ZAc, Canda, Sally, Molley, Chillie, & Chelsea.Zac & Canda are entered in obedience trials next month. They need training and exercise. I also have 2 horses, Hope & Bandit. Bandit is only a minature pony, just a pet, but Hope is a part quarter horse. She is leaving home on Monday,15/1/07 to be broken in. When she returns home in about 6-8weeks she will need plenty of exercise. How am I going to be able to ride her when I am so heavy?
There it is, all the motivation in the world. All I have to do is get to work. Sounds easy doesnt it. Yet everyday I say to myself, I have to much to do today, I'll start tomorrow. Well tomorrow I really will start by getting out of bed earlier and taking my dogs for a walk. Any support is very welcome. Wish me luck. I really need it!
 
You can start right now, not tomorrow. And start small. Come up with one small goal for tomorrow, like drinking more water. Get that done, and then do it the next day. You'd be surprised how much of a difference it can make drinking water instead of something else.

After you've managed to complete that for a few days, make your next small goal. To drink your water and to cut out/down on something that's not good for you. Or to do some sort of activity everyday. Remember, start small, and make it a habit.

This is how I started, and it worked. It was a lot easier than shocking your body by going cold turkey on everything and throwing myself at the gym, then wanting to quit after a few days.

Write down your goals and post them here. Leave notes for yourself around the house. Do whatever it takes to get through this one day...don't worry about where you'll be in a year. Just do one day. You can do this!
 
Thanks you guys, Im afraid your right, tomorrow has been and gone and I am still sitting here wishing I was stronger than this. So tonight, when I read your message I have decided not to say tomorrow I will this or that. I am sitting here drinking my second glass of water right now. Thats my plan for the next few days. One step at a time.
regards, Titch
 
well done titch. keep drinking that water - it is surprising how many of us eat when we are thirsty or dehydrated. i eat a lot less in a day when i drink lots of water. hope the weight loss is going good and that youve stuck to yourplans.
Sophie x
 
It might be a good idea to have an audit of your diet as well. Look at what kind of foods you are eating, and think about which ones need replacing with healthier ones, and do a shopping list. Maybe you could find out if there are any walking groups near you, or whether a friend would like to join you and your dogs - if you have made an arrangement with others it is much harder to break it than if you are doing it alone.

I am not saying plan it if you are not ready for that - just think about it.

Think about motivation as well. Maybe a picture of Hope somewhere would be motivating, or if you are interested in clothes, find an outfit you used to wear when you were smaller - and remind yourself of it.

Once you get going with this, it will get easier, now you probably think the task is a bit daunting.

I have about the same end goal as you, but am 30 odd pounds heavier. I find that giving myself a very small target of weight to lose is motivating for me, I would be too daunted looking at the whole lot. My first target was to lose 4 pounds, and it was thrilling when I achieved it. The next target was 1 1/2 pounds, which I achieved today, and again, I was delighted. Now I have 6 pounds to go to get to my next target. The targets mean something to me, so it is great when I achieve them.

It sounds to me as if you are a bit shocked and daunted. Your brain is your best weight loss tool, and you need to get it working for you, so let it recover from the shock!
 
Great advice for everyone 2/3 me, thank you :)
Ausdogsx6, please remember that there are so many people here that are always willing to listen to you on those good and bad days and give you lots of the support you will need on this journey.
I know for me, I neve felt i had the will power to change my habits, but Im finding it here through all of the wonderful people. Not just from the ones i talk to, or respond to my posts, but also from reading other peoples stories. Its good to feel not alone.
take care
Michelle :)
 
I started with the water too, just a little more each day. I buy the Crystal Light Lemondae to go packets and I put that in my water to make it more tasteful to me. The I signed up for and I do an online accounting of what I eat everyday, boy was that an eye opener. I used to think that I didn't need to keep track of my calories and that I could do it on my own but I was wrong and counting my calories really makes me keep track of what I am eating and when I've had enough.

That horse is going to need ridden, as a horse owner myself, there is nothing more discouraging then going out to ride my horses and not being able to get my fat ass in the saddle. That is so humiliating and I hate it. But one thing it does is makes me want to lose the weight and get motivated and limber so I can hop right on and ride. So don't stay away from that horse and meanwhile try to walk, just get out and walk at least a half mile a day and hopefully you will find some motivation in that.

I know as I have started exercising and eating right that as the inches come off and my clothes fit better and I have my energy and my back hurts less, things like that motivate me to continue doing them the next day.

Good luck and just change your way of thinking and get it into your head that you can succeed.
 
Be encouraged! You can do this, and when you get in the swing of things you'll realize it takes less brute willpower than you thought.

I have been using a grace-based approach to my own weight loss - not being negative when I miss a few days (or weeks) but just getting back on track when I've screwed up. I spend so much less time worrying about how I screwed up in the past that I am free to focus on doing well today and in the future.

I'm so jealous of your dogs and horses. I am currently taking riding lessons and am looking forward to being able to ride smaller horses. I usually ride draft horses right now. My teacher mentioned the other day that I've effectively lost the weight of a saddle. That's fun.

You can do it! Good luck!
 
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