Tired of Failing Diet

[HungryForLife]

Well...yea, I am tired of failing...the defeat is overwhelming. I have enough in my life I cannot control...but I can control what I put in my mouth and how I move...Can't I? Why is this so hard for me...why do I fail? I am dedicated to everyone in my life...but not to me. I think this sometimes happens when you become a mother/ a wife...a father/ husband...you lose old pieces of yourself...you start falling apart..in a way...like defragmenting a computer...I need this for myself...I don't believe I can do it anymore...and that is so sad...for I don't give up easily...but after a decade of daily failure...I have become hopeless in my struggle. I don't know how to even approach it...but I will try.

I don't want many rules...and too much of an obcession with losing..by way of counting minutes exercised...I am not a good micromanager...haha

I simply commit myself to:
1. eating no more than 1200 calories a day during the week and 2000 a day on the weekend.

2. I will exercise at least 30 mins 4 times a week. I will go up and down the office stairs 6 times a day when at work.

3. I will drink at least 2 quarts of water a day.

I will start now..right now, this moment. I think I weigh close to 270 (I can't believe I can gain so much again!)

so here goes...wish me luck. I will weigh in weekly.

Date/ Weight/ Lost

July 12, 2008: 271
July 20, 2008: 264 (-7) -really struggled this week but was mindful to bad behaviors and learned much. maybe easier this week.

 

[allyphoe]

Well...yea, I am tired of failing...
I simply commit myself to:
1. eating no more than 1200 calories a day during the week and 2000 a day on the weekend.

I think I weigh close to 270

IMHO, you're setting yourself up to fail with that weight loss plan. There's absolutely no reason to limit yourself to 1200 calories, and lots of reasons not to, including that you're very likely to be miserable with hunger.

 

[HungryForLife]

need advice

I'm not usually hungry...and am not one that eats much during the day...what happens is that I am not hungry until about 1-2PM...at that time...I usually eat a sandwich at a fast food restraunt...its a bad one too...like a double cheesburger at McDonalds...then I dont eat again until about 10-12 at night..and eat a meal anywhere from 1,000-2,000 cals...honestly..i dont know what to do. when I eat every 3 hours...i do stat to much all day and I feel so gross...ecen if its an apple...or light snack...I cant stand eating so many times...any advice?

 

[maleficent]

Spend some time reading the stickied threads in nutrition... you'll get an idea of how many calories you should be consuming in a day...

You don't need to eat 6 times a day... eat whenever is comfortable for you but lack of eating hasn't been an effective plan...

The lac of eating has been a habit for you - you can change your habits by replacing them with newer healthier habits...

Why are you eating at fast food restaurants? Can you pack your own lunch or go elsewehre?

 

[dawnkyung]

Restricting yourself to so few calories will suck and drive you nuts!

You can eat more than 1200 calories and you should or else it will be very hard to stick with. I recommend adopting a plan that you can see yourself living with! I don't know many people who could live on 1200 calories without going mental.

Good luck and i am sure you will find a plan that suits you!

 

[rebeccag]

Well...yea, I am tired of failing...the defeat is overwhelming. I have enough in my life I cannot control...but I can control what I put in my mouth and how I move...Can't I? Why is this so hard for me...why do I fail? I am dedicated to everyone in my life...but not to me. I think this sometimes happens when you become a mother/ a wife...a father/ husband...you lose old pieces of yourself...you start falling apart..in a way...like defragmenting a computer...I need this for myself...I don't believe I can do it anymore...and that is so sad...for I don't give up easily...but after a decade of daily failure...I have become hopeless in my struggle. I don't know how to even approach it...but I will try.

I agree that you might want to adjust your caloric goals, but I just wanted to say that this made a lot of sense to me. It's awesome that you are planning to take control of what you put in your mouth, as you said. It sounds like you've had some changes that you feel have led to weight loss, but it's not too late to make a positive change. Good luck! Definitely read the stickied threads - there's a lot of info, so maybe focus on one a day so that you're really internalizing the information.

 

[HungryForLife]

Thank you

Thank you all very much! As for fast food...usually McDonalds double cheeseburger and fry...I did go to McD's on Monday but I ordered the grilled ranch wrap with no ranch...so just lettuce and cheese..and suppose to be a 290 calorie snack...but I am going to do my best to stay away from those places.

I have done very well...and have listened to your suggestions...about caloric intake...so I am not keeping track of the calories...just doing what I think makes sense for example...I have been eating KASHI cinn. harvest cereal..( a cup measured!) for breakfast...then snacking on fresh strawberries as I want to throughout the day...as I watch my coworker eating chocolate and frenchfries! (grrrr)
...I'm still working on implementing lunch...but has been a KASHI trail mix bar...then a few more strawberries...
dinner- a lean meat and fresh tomatoes and peppers...(I made enough for three days)
I am REALLY not a cook and have been looking for a cooking class to attend...so far..no dice!

I wish everyone the best! and thanks for your support!
Monday and Tuesday...

 

[edco76]

A fellow southerner! Good luck looks like you are off to a good start.

 

[Kristi]

Thank you all very much! As for fast food...usually McDonalds double cheeseburger and fry...I did go to McD's on Monday but I ordered the grilled ranch wrap with no ranch...so just lettuce and cheese..and suppose to be a 290 calorie snack...but I am going to do my best to stay away from those places.

I have done very well...and have listened to your suggestions...about caloric intake...so I am not keeping track of the calories...just doing what I think makes sense for example...I have been eating KASHI cinn. harvest cereal..( a cup measured!) for breakfast...then snacking on fresh strawberries as I want to throughout the day...as I watch my coworker eating chocolate and frenchfries! (grrrr)
...I'm still working on implementing lunch...but has been a KASHI trail mix bar...then a few more strawberries...
dinner- a lean meat and fresh tomatoes and peppers...(I made enough for three days)
I am REALLY not a cook and have been looking for a cooking class to attend...so far..no dice!

I wish everyone the best! and thanks for your support!
Monday and Tuesday...

Welcome to the forum! This is such a good place to be to learn and re-learn healthy habits. Looks like you did great on your last meal plan. Isn't Kashi awesome?! I love all of their food and always end up feeling full, but not stuffed. About the cooking classes...if you don't have time to do that you can always 'youtube it'. There are SOOO many videos that have step by step instructions on how to make something. If you can get a hold of a healthy recipe book, they are pretty easy to follow. Fast food isn't really food at all! It's chemicals and fat and is only taking years off of your life. You are worth more than that! I know it's hard when the person next to you at work is eating food that smells SOO good...but it's not doing her any favors. Just try to re-train your mind into thinking that you HATE fast food...or that you are highly allergic to it... anything to stop that bad habit. Well, keep it up what you've started and stick with it and you will see results and feel so good.