Hi everyone. I am Cathy. I am desperate to lose weight. It is consuming my life. I have 5 very active teenagers and we are always at some activity. I am so sick of being the fat mom! Someone recently told me that I obviously wasn't too sick of it if I wasn't willing to do something about it. Maybe they were right. So, now I am taking that first step. I've done every fad diet imaginable and some that weren't good enough to even be a fad. I can't do this alone. I am hoping that this site will help keep me motivated and accountable. I am 5'3" and weigh 180 pounds. I am not healthy, not happy, and am sick and tired of being sick and tired. Thanks ahead of time for all the help and support that any of you can give to me. I hope to do the same for y'all. I had bulimia for 14 years and stopped purging 10 years ago. I can't seem to stop the bingeing and have put on 70 pounds. It's time to learn how to control food instead of food controlling me. It's time to eat to live instead of living to eat. I know I can do it because I truly am fed up. I am excited to begin.
Tired of being the fat mom
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Was doing good until today. I was down 4 pounds. Now, back up a pound and a half. I know it fluctuates, but I am obsessed with the scale! I weigh myself at least 5 times a day. Any pointers on how NOT to do that? It's driving me crazy. I tried to throw it out, but I went out the next day and bought a new one. I'm not ready to go without one completely.
twolilangels
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Hi and welcome...WOW...5 teenagers...geeesh...I have one preteen and a toddler and those two drive me bonkers, I couldnt imagine 5 teenagers...
This is a great place...Im sure you will find all you need here, it has been great for me, I havent lost much weight but the support is remarkable and if I hadnt come I wouldnt have lost what I already have...
Im always the fat mom but ya know, I am also always the only single mom and the youngest mom...so who cares, they are just all labels...My daughters dont look at me as being fat, I am me...
ANyway, good luck to you...this is one of the best things you could do to work towards your goal...
Oh and the scale thing...I am on my like everytime I am in the washroom...I dont read much into it though, I actually find it amazing how much my weight flexuates through out the day it is amazing...step on it all you want but dont become obsessed by it...set a weigh in day for yourself...and only care about the weight it says on that day...
This is a great place...Im sure you will find all you need here, it has been great for me, I havent lost much weight but the support is remarkable and if I hadnt come I wouldnt have lost what I already have...
Im always the fat mom but ya know, I am also always the only single mom and the youngest mom...so who cares, they are just all labels...My daughters dont look at me as being fat, I am me...
ANyway, good luck to you...this is one of the best things you could do to work towards your goal...
Oh and the scale thing...I am on my like everytime I am in the washroom...I dont read much into it though, I actually find it amazing how much my weight flexuates through out the day it is amazing...step on it all you want but dont become obsessed by it...set a weigh in day for yourself...and only care about the weight it says on that day...
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hi Mom
I saw your thread and we're the same height and weight!
I started 11-6 and lost 3.6 kilo's in 6 days.
Try standing on the scale only mornings and evenings. Not during the day. Not at all is too much in the beginning, as is 5 times a day!
I thinks its just brains on zero and do it! For yourself! as a gift!
bye, Moyo
I saw your thread and we're the same height and weight!
I started 11-6 and lost 3.6 kilo's in 6 days. Try standing on the scale only mornings and evenings. Not during the day. Not at all is too much in the beginning, as is 5 times a day!
I thinks its just brains on zero and do it! For yourself! as a gift!
bye, Moyo
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redneckwoman66
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Welcome to the forum! Feel free to start a diary so all of us can visit!
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yoyo mama
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Hi Cathy,
I can totally relate to you. I remember when my kids were growing up, I used to feel that all the other moms looked down their noses at me. I live in a fairly affluent school district where three fourths of the moms were married to dr's and lawyers and went to the gym four hours a day. I was a working mom, and between raising the kids, taking care of the house, working, and caring for my mom who was dying of cancer, I didn't have time to do the gym thing and take care of me. Before I knew it, my kids were grown up and it really didn't matter anymore what the other moms thought. I'm especially close to my daughter and I asked her one day when we were planning her wedding if she was ever embarassed by me. She looked me right in the eyes and said "Mom, I wouldn't have had you any other way, cause I always knew you loved me." We hugged and I cried. Your kids love you. The inner you. If you need to lose the weight to be healthy, do it. If you just want to do it for yourself, do it. But you have to love yourself first. The rest of those moms just don't count. And anyhow, once your kids grow up, you'll find that a lot of those moms have kids that are a bigger embarassment than you ever were to your kids. Love them, enjoy them, and most of all spend time with them. We'll all be here for you.
I can totally relate to you. I remember when my kids were growing up, I used to feel that all the other moms looked down their noses at me. I live in a fairly affluent school district where three fourths of the moms were married to dr's and lawyers and went to the gym four hours a day. I was a working mom, and between raising the kids, taking care of the house, working, and caring for my mom who was dying of cancer, I didn't have time to do the gym thing and take care of me. Before I knew it, my kids were grown up and it really didn't matter anymore what the other moms thought. I'm especially close to my daughter and I asked her one day when we were planning her wedding if she was ever embarassed by me. She looked me right in the eyes and said "Mom, I wouldn't have had you any other way, cause I always knew you loved me." We hugged and I cried. Your kids love you. The inner you. If you need to lose the weight to be healthy, do it. If you just want to do it for yourself, do it. But you have to love yourself first. The rest of those moms just don't count. And anyhow, once your kids grow up, you'll find that a lot of those moms have kids that are a bigger embarassment than you ever were to your kids. Love them, enjoy them, and most of all spend time with them. We'll all be here for you.
ChristmasQueen
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I can relate..........
I read your posts and just wanted to let you know that 1) you are not alone and 2) you can do it! I'm 5'4" and when I hit 176 lbs I decided that was it. I was tired of it and I wanted my body back. I, too, am a Mom and I also decided that I needed to lose the weight in order to be healthy and be around for my kids as they grew up. I am also closing in on that 4-0 landmark and would like to see my kids graduate from college!! They are 4 & 6 years old
Mine is a "partial" success story. I lost 20 lbs. with the help of a good diet, regular exercise and the support of some wonderful people I met online. But that was over a year and 1/2 ago and now I'm seeing the scale inch back up and I'm terrified. I never did reach my goal of 130 lbs. and now I'm seeing all my hard work slowly slip away and the holidays aren't going to help!
I wish you the best of luck in your weight loss journey and just remember, if you ever need to share, vent, cry, etc.... there's always somewhere here in the same boat and ready to help you row to success!!
Take care - Jenn
I read your posts and just wanted to let you know that 1) you are not alone and 2) you can do it! I'm 5'4" and when I hit 176 lbs I decided that was it. I was tired of it and I wanted my body back. I, too, am a Mom and I also decided that I needed to lose the weight in order to be healthy and be around for my kids as they grew up. I am also closing in on that 4-0 landmark and would like to see my kids graduate from college!! They are 4 & 6 years old
Mine is a "partial" success story. I lost 20 lbs. with the help of a good diet, regular exercise and the support of some wonderful people I met online. But that was over a year and 1/2 ago and now I'm seeing the scale inch back up and I'm terrified. I never did reach my goal of 130 lbs. and now I'm seeing all my hard work slowly slip away and the holidays aren't going to help!
I wish you the best of luck in your weight loss journey and just remember, if you ever need to share, vent, cry, etc.... there's always somewhere here in the same boat and ready to help you row to success!!
Take care - Jenn
RubyRed
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Cool - you got 9 tattoos?!?!
I just got my 11th a couple of weeks ago - they are soo addicting. I got a butterfly bracelet around my wrist as my 10th one to officially welcome myself in the world of freaks - lol. It was my first one that can not be easily hidden with a t shirt or a pair of pants.
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I just got my 11th a couple of weeks ago - they are soo addicting. I got a butterfly bracelet around my wrist as my 10th one to officially welcome myself in the world of freaks - lol. It was my first one that can not be easily hidden with a t shirt or a pair of pants.
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captain danny
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whats up cathy, Danny here.
i kno how it feels to be around kids while being fat as a duck in a truck if you catch my drift. I cannot stand being so huge and i want to have a life changing expernce to accomplish my work and better and feel good doing it, and around the little kids. i mainly want to set a good example for my future lil cuzes down here.
I wish you luck in your endevoar Cathy may god bless u.
-danny
i kno how it feels to be around kids while being fat as a duck in a truck if you catch my drift. I cannot stand being so huge and i want to have a life changing expernce to accomplish my work and better and feel good doing it, and around the little kids. i mainly want to set a good example for my future lil cuzes down here.
I wish you luck in your endevoar Cathy may god bless u.
-danny
What to eat?
Cool Tattoo RubyRed!!! My husband gave me all but 2 of mine. They are amazing. He is awesome! I want to fill my back, which is extra incentive to lose weight. I want them to look as cool as they can.
Captain Danny - thanks for the wise words! Best of luck to you on your endeavor to not look like the duck in the truck. That's cute.
So, I need to eat better...but I am soooo picky. I don't like most veges, I was told that fruit has too much sugar to eat a lot of it, but if I don't eat fruit, then I'll grab something worse for me. I am a huge lover of bread, crackers, potatoes, all the good comfort foods. I don't know how to change what I put in my mouth. I have begun to only eat when I am hungry instead of when I am bored or because it's "time" to eat. That is helping. I am giving the serotonin time to kick in and the dopamine time to subside by eating more slowly, which allows me to recognize when I have had enough, before I overdo it!! So, I feel as if I am making some progress, but I feel as if there are still so many things I have to change and sometimes it's just overwhelming. I haven't weighed myself in days, which is incredible for me. I am just going by how I feel. This is all so hard for me!! But I really appreciate all of the encouraging words from everyone. This site is awesome.
Cool Tattoo RubyRed!!! My husband gave me all but 2 of mine. They are amazing. He is awesome! I want to fill my back, which is extra incentive to lose weight. I want them to look as cool as they can.
Captain Danny - thanks for the wise words! Best of luck to you on your endeavor to not look like the duck in the truck. That's cute.
So, I need to eat better...but I am soooo picky. I don't like most veges, I was told that fruit has too much sugar to eat a lot of it, but if I don't eat fruit, then I'll grab something worse for me. I am a huge lover of bread, crackers, potatoes, all the good comfort foods. I don't know how to change what I put in my mouth. I have begun to only eat when I am hungry instead of when I am bored or because it's "time" to eat. That is helping. I am giving the serotonin time to kick in and the dopamine time to subside by eating more slowly, which allows me to recognize when I have had enough, before I overdo it!! So, I feel as if I am making some progress, but I feel as if there are still so many things I have to change and sometimes it's just overwhelming. I haven't weighed myself in days, which is incredible for me. I am just going by how I feel. This is all so hard for me!! But I really appreciate all of the encouraging words from everyone. This site is awesome.