This is NOT happening again...

Aimziepoo

Aimziepoo

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So,


Tonight, after my boyfriend finding my stash of cupcakes and a bag of Munchos (Somewhat like crack in salty pretzel form to me apparently) did I realize that while I was previously doing great with being on a diet, I have majorly relapsed and am very scared about gaining the weight back that I lost.


I was by no means near my goal weight, and although I was feeling happier with my appearance and progress, I didn't feel like I was finished. So why did I fall back into the junk? Weak willpower I guess. Will I let this set me back? Nope! I've come to far to fall back into the same patterns that got me to where I was... and where I am now. Its just such a slippery slippery slope, "Well, Ive been doing so good and I could really just have a Milky Way just this once, its fine" Well I can work these Crunchy Cheetos in here because I don't eat that much anyway. Until one day I realize Ive been rationalizing away eating like I was before for the past month,


Anyways, they say that the 1st step of recovery is admitting you have a problem so here I am. Summer is 6 months away, and I refuse to spend it wearing full length jeans because I hate the way my legs look, or feeling too self conscious to wear those spaghetti straps even though its like 90 degrees out and instead wear 2 layers pretending I'm making some sort of fashion statement.


Anyone else going through this or have? Any words of motivation? I could use all of that I can find right about now :blush5:
 
oh no u are the same as me i have just done exacty the same, well done on noticing before its too late, your very determined im sure your gunna put it behind you ad move forward feeling positive. its ok to have treat tho it porbably helps not to cut out all junk like a few jaffa cakes a week or a milky bar are lowest in calories. good luck

xx becky
 
i find alot of people go on binge eating when they completely cut this stuff out of their lives. simply dont. im not saying have dessert every day, you shouldnt, but maybe a low cal treat once a week wouldnt be such a bad idea. the idea is you need to live with the idea of these temptations existing, because sadly they do. you cant pretend you live in a world where these temptations wont find you -- the importance is being able to accept that they're there, but not want them as much. integrate it into your life without having it all the time.
 
Originally Posted by luckystreak


i find alot of people go on binge eating when they completely cut this stuff out of their lives. simply dont. im not saying have dessert every day, you shouldnt, but maybe a low cal treat once a week wouldnt be such a bad idea. the idea is you need to live with the idea of these temptations existing, because sadly they do. you cant pretend you live in a world where these temptations wont find you -- the importance is being able to accept that they're there, but not want them as much. integrate it into your life without having it all the time.
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Excellently put. I do this for one meal on Sundays in order to satisfy a craving I've been having (last night was Chinese food). It really is effective. I'm not a fan of a "cheat day" though as I find it usually takes a couple days just to recover from it and get back on track. I'm sure it's different for everyone, but if you just have your one snack, once a week, you should be able to get by without it otherwise.
 
Those are really good points.

I actually agree with you two, although, its really hard to let myself "cheat" while I feel like Ive been doing great, cause it feels like I've somehow failed myself. But then. of course, that sets myself up for massive failure, since it leads to my other school of thinking when i do end up fudging up, which is... screw it -_-.

This time I really want it to be different. Its all about balance, cause who really wants to live in a world where you can never have General Tso's Chicken again? =P
 
I go through that like every week. I was always a "bigger" guy growing up, loss some weight in college by going on a ridiculous diet, gained it all back, then finally 2 years ago I lost a good chunk, around 100lbs to get me to around 195-200lbs. I'm 6'1" pretty fit, I try to work out at least 3-5 times a week, cardio and weights, working out is not the problem for me, granted I didn't stretch or let my body recover very well during the 100lb weight loss which as a result has left my body extremely stiff and with bad knees. My problem is with food. If i'm too strict I end up splurging at some point in devestating fashion, I find it very hard to find that balance. So I can relate. I have found that eating mindfully, (lots of chewing, trying to identify the flavors, etc..) did help for almost a week, but at some point I start to get the cravings.


So far I haven't gone up 200, and some days I've probably taken down around 5k calories. I do workout pretty aggressively, and I'm pretty young too, (26). I don't know if i have much sound advice, other than some things that worked for me in the past, granted I am a big foody and usually I fall out eventually from any plan.


I like to feel satisfied when eating, which means, I like big portions. So I used to, and still do, make a lot of veggies, bc you get more bang for you buck. Also drinking 2-3 big glasses of water before every meal, b/c sometimes people confuse hunger with thirst. Sadly thats all I got.
 
i am always struggling to stay away from "bad" foods. as you, i rationalize my eating: a few potato chips are OK because i ate a salad and fruit for lunch. i can eat a candy bar and do more cardio.


as a result i am never satisfied with my weight loss, so my rationalizing is BS, and i've come here.
 
Originally Posted by DragonHand


i am always struggling to stay away from "bad" foods. as you, i rationalize my eating: a few potato chips are OK because i ate a salad and fruit for lunch. i can eat a candy bar and do more cardio.



as a result i am never satisfied with my weight loss, so my rationalizing is BS, and i've come here.
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Because this is the wrong kind of compromise. You can't do it that often, and it can't be in large quantities. For example, I have a low fat/sugar pudding (60 cals) around once a week ONLY. Thats really the only time I crave them now, back before my weight loss I used to want to eat heaps and heaps of junk food daily.
 
Hi there!


I am also experiencing the same thing. Last year at this time I decided to lose weight and become happier. I did great, and then this summer, since I was so happy, I let it fall to the wayside and didn't exercise as much and just ate whatever I wanted. I am glad I was happy, but I wish I hadn't, as I wasn't at my goal. I am back on the wagon and ready to do this! We can do this together!


I also agree that you need to treat yourself. You can't cut out everything...but you need to be conscious of what you eat and drink. I have begun asking myself "do I really want this?" everytime I make a food choice...I normally stop, think, and then put it down. But I do set goals. Fridays are my weigh in days, if I lost weight, I treat myself to a nice meal that night!! That way I don't feel like I am missing out on anything and I reward my good work!


You can do this! You make the biggest (and hardest) step already- admitting you want to change!! You're already on a great road to achieving your goals!
 
Originally Posted by luckystreak



Because this is the wrong kind of compromise. You can't do it that often, and it can't be in large quantities. For example, I have a low fat/sugar pudding (60 cals) around once a week ONLY. Thats really the only time I crave them now, back before my weight loss I used to want to eat heaps and heaps of junk food daily.
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your telling me what i already know.
 
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