So i am in this program at my school where i go to the elementary schools and help out children who need it. While talking to one of the girls who is in the program with me, she told me that one of the girls she works with is practically anorexic. She counts calories, exersizes like crazy and constantly needs to be told that she is skinny. And on top of all that, she is only 7! Its just so sad to see someone so young concerned about gaining weight, especially when she is at the age where she needs to gain it.
This is just so sad...
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she probably watches her mother... and hermother is probably doing exactly the same thing
LowFatMilk
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I did the same program for school with special Ed kids.
But anyways, I find that very strange. My 7 year old sister doesn't even know about weight other than "fat and skinny", and she certainly could never tell you what a calorie is.
But anyways, I find that very strange. My 7 year old sister doesn't even know about weight other than "fat and skinny", and she certainly could never tell you what a calorie is.
cookiequeen
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I'm with maleficent, this poor girl has probably learned from her mother, or some other role model in her life that you need to be skinny. I can't believe how young she is though. Sad.
gohomejes
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Most definitely.
Man...SEVEN years old?!?!?!?!? That makes me sad.
At 7 all I cared about was going outside to play, if I could have ice cream before dinner, etc.
Society these days.
Lraebennett
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I dont agree with this totally, it may possibly be the case, but I know a family in which the mother has no problems with weight, and the little girl who is 6 is already worried about her weight. I think some things that our nation tries to do backfires, yes our health is an issue, but there is a lot of pressure on kids. I know when I was 4 i was wearing spandex and big sweatshirts and that was appropriate kids wear, but now they advertise all these clothes some of which I cant believe are sold to children... some kids now are forced to grow up way to fast, and its not just about living what you learn, no matter what you do, blocking channels on t.v, and protecting your children from this ideal of what is "acceptable" they're going to see it, and sadly, it's a huge chunk of what people care about anymore..
the mother might not have problems with her weight but that doesn't mean that she doesn't obsess over every little calorie that goes in her mouth... Children learn by watching those around them... mother, aunt, sister, friends...
Lraebennett
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Okay let me put this a little more clearly, she is a bigger woman and loves the way she looks. Not a small girl..I mean not a problem with weight, as in shes happy with her body which itd be nice if more of us could do, but thats why we are all here. I dont know if you're aware, but I had the same problems and my mother is not like that, no one at ALL in my family is like that. You say that there so young so it has to be the parents, thats whats wrong with us women. We are so quick to jump and blame and point fingers, but until you're in that situation, its different stories. Its like the people that leave their kids out in the car in the heat and they die, its like OH HOW COULD SHE FORGET HER CHILD. well you know the mother has to live with that for the rest of her life, and I guarantee it wasnt intentional for 99% of the cases. We are so quick to pass judgement that one day it could come back and have bad karma onto us. You are treating parents like that like oh what dirt, but arent we all here obsessing about weight? Pretty much everyone on here is, so how can we judge them? I said I can see that SOME have that no doubt, but dont point the finger when you cant see the whole spectrum of everyones lives. Its like kids that do drugs, 10 year olds are doin it now..Is that their parents? My brother did drugs wehn he was 13 and guess what I can GUARANTEE you that there was no drugs in this household.
And plus you dont think kids are smart enough at 7 to see t.v...to see other kids eating habits..maybe her friends are like that....theres always more to see, and im not going to be one to say OH WHAT A WRETCHED MOTHER! No one wants their child to be like that, I dont care what anyone says.
San2
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Uhm....I can't speak for everybody else, but I certainly don't obsess about weight. Wanting to get healthier and lose weight is hardly an obsession, and honestly I can't see the connection between that and how parents are treated.
Parents are responsible for their kids. If a 6 year old is obsessed about her weight, she must have seen it somewhere. If not the mother, then friends or maybe on TV. Still, if she had been brought up with a healthy attitude towards food, and with parents who make sure that the kid understands what's important and what's not, then there shouldn't be a problem.
If the parents aren't responsible for how their kids turn out, who is? You can't blame TV, because it's parents responsibility to monitor what kids are watching, and talk about it with them. As for drugs - only because there are no drugs in the household, it doesn't mean that the parents couldn't have done more to prevent it. If a kid takes drugs at 10 years of age, something has gone seriously wrong.
As for the kid being left in the car - are you being serious?? If that happens, it is either neglect, in which case the mother won't give a damn if the kid dies or not, or she is completely and utterly stupid, in which case she shouldn't have kids anyway. How can you leave a kid in a baking hot car and not think that it might get a little too warm in there?? In either case they should damn well live with it for the rest of their lives. Plus they should be in court for killing the kid, but that's a completely different story.
I'm just wondering...if we can't blame the parents when kids turn out wrong, who do we blame? TV? Society? Sorry, but to me that's all excuses. If people don't want the responsibility, they shouldn't have children in the first place, as simple as that.
I wouldn't trade growing up when I did for anything. I was a bigger kid, but I didn't feel all the pressure to be thin and perfect that my nieces (ages 15 and 13) feel today. The 15 year old is about my height (5 feet, 9 inches tall), and probably is a size two, TOPS. And she's constantly watching what she eats and obsessing because she's "fatter" than her size 0 friend. And the 13-year-old isn't as tall, but probably weighs as much as her older sister, and is just convinced she's the "fat" sister and boys will never like her because she looks like an elephant. They worship these little tiny girls on TV and in magazines...it's just not healthy.
The thing is that we can easily blame it on society...I'm not one to follow up on the latest fads, i don't watch much TV, and when i'm on the internet, i don't really go to any of those fashion foreward sites...but at school, everywhere i go, the thin girls get the guy, the thin girls get the job, the thin girls get whatever...our society sees thin as beautiful, and those girls with an older sister, try to copy them, and spread it on to their friends...its hard to not come by, and though i don't know if its because of an older sister or mom or whatever, the girl still thinks that she needs to be thinner
Lraebennett
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Lraebennett
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Yup and thats her parents faults right? Because thats what everyone on here is saying. and btw I dont think the parents intentionally leave the kids in your car are you rediculous?
Lraebennett
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see a child seeing a sister i can see, but not a mother. so some people are saying things on here that are contradictive... PARENTS ARENT 100 PERCENT IN CONTROL OF THEIR CHILDREN. THERE IS NO POSSIBLE WAY. WHAT FANTASY WORLD ARE YOU LIVING IN!?
Lraebennett
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Okay honestly, I wasnt trying to start a fight, but I was viewing both sides of the story... sorry for trying to see both sides.
So im ending conversation about this here.
So im ending conversation about this here.
PaperAirPlanes
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It might not be the parents fault. But it's the parents responsability to sit their child down and teach them what is good/bad for them. To keep their childrens best interest at heart. And parents who don't do that or turn the other cheek, are the ones who are doing damage to their children. It's a parents job to be in their kids business to some degree till the child is old enough to make their own choices after seeing all options and outcomes, and generally thats not till high school.
So yeh, I DO agree that parents shouldn't be blamed. But at the same time, a parent who ignores it, is doing just as much damage as a parent that inadvertently teaches a child these things.
So yeh, I DO agree that parents shouldn't be blamed. But at the same time, a parent who ignores it, is doing just as much damage as a parent that inadvertently teaches a child these things.
San2
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Never said that, but if a person is brought up properly and with the rind mindset, mistakes are less likely to happen. Simple. You make it sound as if parents have no responsibility whatsoever, regardless of what happens. Just blame the bad society. Yeah, right.
San2
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Missed that. Please, just for my sanity, explain to me, how can you leave a child in a car UNINTENIONALLY? You lose your car keys unintenionally, you have an accident unintenionally, but you make the DECISION to leave a kid in a car. You do, or you don't. And if you do, you're either stupid, or you don't give a damn. Both not really valid excuses if you ask me.
It's like saying 'Oh yeah, I poured the gasoline out in the house, and I threw a lit match into it, but I certainly didn't start the fire intentionally!' Give me a break!!