This is a club that I want nobody in Its 400lb Club

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bigfatguy

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It's my own personal club. I'm the only member because I would not wish this on anybody. I am starting my exodus out of this club if at all possible.

Being a fat man leaves one with few if any friends as a fat person many of you your self know the feelings the looks and stares from others. Nobody really wants to wait on you even when your next in line at a counter. You become invisible without really being invisible because they look an taunt when they think you don't notice. I still feel I still have a heart that beats as they do I'm not evil I'm just fat.

At night like many of you do and have done. I cry because of what might have been if not for this curse of over eating. Why i do it I wish I knew. I only know I do. I wonder what it would be like to have had somebody love me., but I understand only the beast in the movies or TV can find love the real life beast are only left to their dreams. My dream someday is to be normal to not be stared at. The last time I was at the doctor two elder ladies were staring at me then one said to the other and this really hurt me because I guess I though with age came wisdom. She said I really glad I'm not as fat as that fellow over there as if I was not even in the room. The only thing I could do was look at her and say. Mame I wish I was not as fat as I am also.

If you can say a pray for me of have a kind thought for me. I thank you so much.
 
just popped in to say hi. you will find this forum a great support im sure. people can be very cruel and superficial. i have had many a comment thrown my way which has been so hurtful, trouble was it would sent me off in a binge big time. this is something i am having to learn to deal with - emotional binge eating.when i feel like that i repeat to myself "i will not let them get to me" i also found when i was bigger in general i would be ignored, as if i wasnt there:cry: .
be strong and do it for yourself. just think of the satisfaction also you will get when you have lost weight and you see the look on these same peoples faces. slim
 
Dude, My prayers are with you. This weight thing is crazy...who knows why we do this to ourselves, but I think there is a lot of strength of character and self respect which can be gained by gaining control over our bodies.

So, what's the first thing you are going to do to make changes?
 
You CAN and WILL do this. The only actions we can change are our own. We cannot change what others do or say, but we can change what WE do and say. I wish you the BEST of luck and I will pray for you. If you need any support, this is the place to get it!
 
bigfatguy said:
It's my own personal club. I'm the only member because I would not wish this on anybody. I am starting my exodus out of this club if at all possible.

Being a fat man leaves one with few if any friends as a fat person many of you your self know the feelings the looks and stares from others. Nobody really wants to wait on you even when your next in line at a counter. You become invisible without really being invisible because they look an taunt when they think you don't notice. I still feel I still have a heart that beats as they do I'm not evil I'm just fat.

At night like many of you do and have done. I cry because of what might have been if not for this curse of over eating. Why i do it I wish I knew. I only know I do. I wonder what it would be like to have had somebody love me., but I understand only the beast in the movies or TV can find love the real life beast are only left to their dreams. My dream someday is to be normal to not be stared at. The last time I was at the doctor two elder ladies were staring at me then one said to the other and this really hurt me because I guess I though with age came wisdom. She said I really glad I'm not as fat as that fellow over there as if I was not even in the room. The only thing I could do was look at her and say. Mame I wish I was not as fat as I am also.

If you can say a pray for me of have a kind thought for me. I thank you so much.
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Anything is possible. :] Just take this day by day. I don't think you will every be normal- because when you loose all your weight you will be an extraordinary person( I can tell you are already a great person at heart.) Way better than normal. Just from reading your post I can tell you are a person I would love to be friends with. My prayers are with you, and if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to Email or MSN me Nikki_L_Yoke@hotmail.com .
 
Good Cop
Geez, and they though time travel was impossible, this is like staring into an old nightmare, I've been there dude, yes..400 pounds..and yes its EXTREMELY irritating, I've had every insult in the book thrown at me, eck, and sadly we get used to the abuse, or in your case and mine to, hold it back. Its a harsh reality that I REFUSE to go back to if I can control it.

Bad Cop

Now this is the cocky part of me talking that seemed to sprout up along with my weight loss. GET UP AND GO! START SOMEWHERE..! MOPING ONLY WORKS FOR SO LONG. And last time I checked unless you have a medical problem, you control what goes in your mouth =)

Neutral
Once you start and see some progress you'll be addicted. Guaranteed
 
Thanks Guy's for so much support. I'm down to 395. I know its not much but its my first step. I will keep you posted.

I will have a hard time the next two weeks some people are coming over. This triggers me wanting to eat.

Wow Newtwarrior thats great 200lbs. Thank you Aleeluh. Thank you all you have been very kind and encouraging to me.
 
Dude, 400lbs is scary. I'm there right now. For the last couple of months, I thought I was around 350, bought a new pair of scales... turns out I'm 474 (470 since last weigh in). I'm in New Zealand though, so we use kgs. But man, finding that out, that was just crazy to me. I became depressed, and I suppose to some extent I'm still depressed. And I'm partially in denial. I've accepted it, but man it's still hard to make those right choices.

Seeing your new post though, you've already left the club just when you get a new member :D But I'm glad for you man. Keep it up. Be an inspiration to me and many like us.

Peace.
 
Hey man, at one point I was almost 300 lbs. I know exactly what you mean, and I guess having the right friends around me I didn't experience as much as you did, but I still experienced it. I'd like to say things to you about how it doesn't matter how much you weigh and its the inside that counts, but I can't. That idea, in our society anyway, is bullshit. Alot of people base a person on their looks, because when they see you for the first time your looks are all they have to judge you on, and fat people get bad stereotypes. Nothing can really change that I guess, its the way our culture has evolved.. so the only thing we can do is work around it, lose weight. I'm not a shallow guy, but I can honestly say after losing all that weight I've been noticing the extra GOOD attention im getting, and in general im a much happier person.

Do it man, do it for yourself. Do it for the look on their faces when they see you after a long time. Do it for those people who won't even recognize you after you lose the weight, for those people that have to double back and look at you again amazed :p

Trust me, feels great. BEST OF LUCK BUDDY! Don't give up and don't you ever let anyone tell you what you can't do.
 
Well, I'm not at 400, but I started at 331 and at 5'3", that's pretty damn high. I'm at 309 now and I'm still going....it's hard, I know. Can I be in your club? :hug2:
 
I would definitely join your club. Last July I weighed 448lbs. I kept praying for a solution, well I got cellulitis (sp) which is a deep tissue infection in my leg. I had to be in the hospital for a week with intravenous antibiotics. I had huge puss filled things all over the back of my calf. I now have a huge scar that covers my calf. I had gotten so heavy that their was a lack of circulation through my calf, and thats what caused the cellulitis to set in. Its scary being that heavy. Its scary knowing that you could possibly lose limbs if you don't lose the weight, I understand where you are coming from. People make fun of me all the time, I just try to blow them off, In fact I went into a clothing store for big people mind you, and someone was laughing at me in there. I couldn't believe it, and kids especially make rude comments about me.. I know they don't know any better, but their parents do! I could get into a HUGE rant about this, but I will spare you.. anyway Almost a year later and I'm 66 pounds lighter. I'm glad you're doing better, and I will keep you in my prayers, I thought sharing my story might help :)
 
Deliriouslysane said:
I would definitely join your club. Last July I weighed 448lbs. I kept praying for a solution, well I got cellulitis (sp) which is a deep tissue infection in my leg. I had to be in the hospital for a week with intravenous antibiotics. I had huge puss filled things all over the back of my calf. I now have a huge scar that covers my calf. I had gotten so heavy that their was a lack of circulation through my calf, and thats what caused the cellulitis to set in. Its scary being that heavy. Its scary knowing that you could possibly lose limbs if you don't lose the weight, I understand where you are coming from. People make fun of me all the time, I just try to blow them off, In fact I went into a clothing store for big people mind you, and someone was laughing at me in there. I couldn't believe it, and kids especially make rude comments about me.. I know they don't know any better, but their parents do! I could get into a HUGE rant about this, but I will spare you.. anyway Almost a year later and I'm 66 pounds lighter. I'm glad you're doing better, and I will keep you in my prayers, I thought sharing my story might help :)
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Congrats on making it out of the 400 club :) 66 lbs is huge! Well done! Keep it up :)
 
Guy, at my highest I was 220 pounds, so I won't be condescending to you and say that I have even the remotest idea of what you have, and are going through. I will, however, tell you that I will pray for you often. Starting with this one:

Almighty Lord,

I humbly come to you to ask that you have mercy on Guy. That You would give him the strength to endure the long road ahead, discernment to direct his path, and wisdom to make the decisions that he will have to make. I humbly ask You that You draw Guy closer to you and remind him that even if others are not kind and trustworthy, that You are and will ALWAYS love him. Please remind him that you created him just the way he is (flaws and all) at the time You wanted him to be created, and for the purpose you intended him to be used for. Thank You for Your love, Your mercy, and Your Grace. I humbly ask all this in the name of your son Jesus, Amen.

Guy, never forget that you are here for a reason, and that sometimes we are put through what appears to be insurmountable trials in order to make us as strong as we can be. You can do this. Others have, so you can too!
 
Not sure if my post will add anything but here it goes..

For my entire teenage years and present I have been overweight. I can tell you I was fat when I was a teen, but not obese. It got worse and worse with each year and school was painfull.

I got called so many names, tormented and teased. It was awfull. Long story short, I dropped out of school because I could not take it anymore. I had a few friends during that time that didn't care about physical looks but only cared about who you were. Really nice - but in the end there was just too much negativity.

For the longest time I continued to be harrassed by people. Staring, looking and judging. I never looked into a mirror for a period of almost 8 years. Never. I was disgusted by what I would see and there were so many times where I thought those people were right. I felt useless in this world and felt like I should never have been born. I kept asking, why did this happen to me. Why did I get stuck with this? Then I would ask, what would my life be like if I was "normal" (skinny). Would school have been different? Would I have gone to college? Who knows.

It got so bad at one point - I gave up. I attempted suicide. I tried to smash my car into a jersey wall on the freeway. What did I get? Lots of hospital bills, few bruises and a black out. After that, I decided all this was not worth it. I was an idiot for doing something like that. Trying to kill myself for something I could change and listening to others stupid crap. From then on I stopped caring what others thought. I lived and worked and things changed. I went out more and had a small life. I don't do things today because of how big I am. There are some things I don't think large people should be doing or wearing. But hey, thats just me.

Anyways - I always asked how people got so big on the TV - 600+lbs. I always wondered why they didnt know that was happening? Then I realized, that was me. I am 420 (as far as I know) and it has been that way for a while. It didnt happen overnight. It was over the years. Yet, I did nothing.

Thats why I am here now. To change that. To get my life back and stop asking what ifs. I will be smaller next year. I will be smaller this year. I will get to do things I have never been able to do before. I will be able to wear nice clothes, t-shirts and shorts.

There are alot of things people don't realize and take advantage of. Then again, this weight thing just didnt happen overnight. I - we did this. We are the only ones that can undo it.


Question is - Will you? :cool:

No offense - but hopefully with work - I can be out of this club in a month :)
 
SirK said:
Not sure if my post will add anything but here it goes..

For my entire teenage years and present I have been overweight. I can tell you I was fat when I was a teen, but not obese. It got worse and worse with each year and school was painfull.

I got called so many names, tormented and teased. It was awfull. Long story short, I dropped out of school because I could not take it anymore. I had a few friends during that time that didn't care about physical looks but only cared about who you were. Really nice - but in the end there was just too much negativity.

For the longest time I continued to be harrassed by people. Staring, looking and judging. I never looked into a mirror for a period of almost 8 years. Never. I was disgusted by what I would see and there were so many times where I thought those people were right. I felt useless in this world and felt like I should never have been born. I kept asking, why did this happen to me. Why did I get stuck with this? Then I would ask, what would my life be like if I was "normal" (skinny). Would school have been different? Would I have gone to college? Who knows.

It got so bad at one point - I gave up. I attempted suicide. I tried to smash my car into a jersey wall on the freeway. What did I get? Lots of hospital bills, few bruises and a black out. After that, I decided all this was not worth it. I was an idiot for doing something like that. Trying to kill myself for something I could change and listening to others stupid crap. From then on I stopped caring what others thought. I lived and worked and things changed. I went out more and had a small life. I don't do things today because of how big I am. There are some things I don't think large people should be doing or wearing. But hey, thats just me.

Anyways - I always asked how people got so big on the TV - 600+lbs. I always wondered why they didnt know that was happening? Then I realized, that was me. I am 420 (as far as I know) and it has been that way for a while. It didnt happen overnight. It was over the years. Yet, I did nothing.

Thats why I am here now. To change that. To get my life back and stop asking what ifs. I will be smaller next year. I will be smaller this year. I will get to do things I have never been able to do before. I will be able to wear nice clothes, t-shirts and shorts.

There are alot of things people don't realize and take advantage of. Then again, this weight thing just didnt happen overnight. I - we did this. We are the only ones that can undo it.


Question is - Will you? :cool:

No offense - but hopefully with work - I can be out of this club in a month :)
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Mate, I wish you luck. I'm sure if you put in the work, you'll get there :)
 
Hi SirK I'm with you. It is hard as you can tell by my short story also I feel and have felt the pain of others viewing us as an object of scorn not as a person with feelings.

I have been both fat and thin as you have. Its like living in two different worlds.:cry: Yes we can get out of the 400lb club.:) Lets just show them we can make it that we also can be thinner feel better and with what we have been though others will have a base of support because of us. As I see in here.

Update for me. I'm now at 375lb only 175lb to go.
 
Just wanted to chime in and say you are not alone! I am waiting for a new scale to come, but i am pretty sure I am over or near to 400lbs. Just started my diet and exercise, so hopefully im out of it by the time my scale arrives! :rotflmao: Good luck to you all! We can do it.
 
BFG, congratulations on the loss! 20 lbs since your last update! Well done!

And Jay Jay, I too hope you're out of the club before the scale arrives :)
 
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