This doesnt make sense to me and im MAD

kate<3

kate<3

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:mad:So my mom is going on LA weightloss $1000!!!!!!!! Shes crazy! ANYwhoo

My mom looks way heavier than me, yes she has smaller legs, but she is pretty flabby up top! So today i asked her how much her starting weight was and she sad 169!! OMG I cant believe that! I am WAY smaller than she is, my tummy isisnt flabby, I have a bit of a roll my legs arent huge my arms are not chubby!! I DONT GET IT! And it makes me SOOO mad!!!!!!!! Why do I weigh more than her 190!!! It makes NO SENSE TO ME!!

Does anyone have a good explination for this?? BEcause im furious lol
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maybe she's lying about her weight
maybe you have more muscle than she does
maybe you have bigger bones than she does

What does it matter - it's just a number...

there are a lot of people who don't look their weight, some look heavier, some look lighter -everybody is different... all you can do is be concerned with yourself and changing yourself...
 
Yea your right, I know its just a number but still when I think about how much I weight number wise I feel disgusting and gross! Its embarassing to me! How do I lose the muscle? I dont want to be muscular!
 
you do want to be muscular -muscle is what helps you burn calories.. you don't want to be a waifish twig - least i hope not - do you think nicole richie or one of the olsen twins looks lhealthy?

NO ONE but you and your doctor ever has to know what you weigh - you don't wear a sign on your chest with that number on it - so who cares - just go with what you are seeing in the mirror and go with what looks healthy to you.
 
You are who you choose to be

Morning,

Having gone thru the "I cannot stand to look at myself in the mirror because my various/sundry chins are in reality The Blob in lousy disguise", I can really relate to the weight number bothering you - before I started my get-healthy routine, it bothered me to the point I lacked the courage to see how heavy I really was!!

What helped me 'way back then was to actually physically start my get-healthy lifestyle while giving myself permission to ignore the mirror (because the reflection caused me major angst/anger) UNTIL I noticed a difference (be it a mental difference, physical difference, emotional difference, etc.). See, back then, even though I started my journey, obviously I didn't *see* a huge change 1/2 an hour (or even a week+) later (I started my journal about 1 or 2 weeks after that point).....so the only thing I *could* change (and hence, help my reactions) was how I personally choose to feel emotionally.

Fact 1 - I was fat. Well, duh, that was obvious. That by itself caused sadness/anger/self-pity.

Fact 2 - Quick fixes don't exist. Another obvious thingee, so I couldn't go by seeing 10 pounds fall off me during a night's sleep; discard that as quick "feel better idea" too.

Fact 3 - Rome wasn't built in a day! Ah hah! (And dare I say, doi!). It took me years to gain the weight...chances are, it will take me more than minutes to lose it! But so long as I'm on the right path, I can consciously choose to lose my anger (because after all, I'm proactively taking steps to fix myself).

Life happens, plain and simple. Angsting over it for an hour or so can be helpful - honor your anger and sadness and let it out....and then let it go and get strong again. It takes big huge amounts of effort, mind you...but the results are well worth it, indeed.

My morning before-coffee thoughts,

Barbara
 
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