Just need to vent.
Let me preface this entry by saying that it has almost nothing to do with weight loss, diet, or exercise. I just need to vent, and this is one of the only places that I feel I can do that. Sorry.
I feel really unsure about what to do. Just totally powerless, and I don't know what to do. In January 2008 my husband was arrested. We're "good, normal" people, and it was a HUGE shock to me. He was charged with a felony for "scheming to defraud." He had taken over our household finances, and he wasn't doing well. He had been afraid to tell me that we didn't have any money, and still trying to pay the bills, so over the span of a 6-8 weeks he had stolen what ended up being $900 from his job where he was a manager. I was working as a probation officer at the time, and I was mortified.
Since that occured, I've never told anyone the real reason he was arrested. I told my parents it was because he had taken items from the lost and found at work because the company policy was to throw them out after 30 days, and he hadn't thought it would matter. I've stuck to that story so long that I almost believe it myself, but it's not true. I was trying to make what he did less bad. He knows what he did was wrong, and he told his side of the family the truth.
Needless to say, due to the arrest he lost his job. It's was a struggle, but he was able to find work again after several months... Then this new job went out of business. More months go by and he found another job, but after six months they then went out of business too. Can you tell we're not the luckiest people?
He collected unemployment while looking for a job, during which time I lost my job due to state cutbacks. I have a degree and found a part-time job quickly, and last December he found seasonal work at a citrus plant along with a part-time retail job. The seasonal job ended in May, but he is still at the part-time job, and has been getting better hours.
What's my point? Why am I rehashing this? Well, during all the employment and financial problems he was also serving felony probation. Part of that was restitution and fees, and we've struggled with that. We have no money, we even had our electricity shut off for two weeks in December because of being unable to pay bills. They violated his probation once about a year ago for failure to pay court fees on time, and it's just been hanging over our head. He's paid the restitution in full, and some of the Court fees, but you cannot squeeze blood out of a rock.
This morning at 6:00AM police officers showed up at my house and took my husband away in handcuffs for another VOP. I just could not believe this was happening. When he got into the system he called me collect to let me know there is no bond and he doesn't have his first appearance until tomorrow. If there was bond, I wouldn't be able to pay it anyways. He also told me it's not just for failure to pay the fees, but that earlier this week he was pulled over and when he gave the officer his license, they told him it was suspended. He had had no idea, and they somehow let him go with a scheduled court date for the new charge... He never told me he was pulled over, he never told me about this. He told me this morning during his collect call from jail that the VOP is for this new charge. I don't understand why he didn't tell me. He said he thought he was handling it, and he hadn't wanted to upset me.
I'm hurt, sad, and upset right now.
I no longer know what to expect to be the outcome of this offense. I'm scared he's going to be in there for a while, and I'm scared this means he's going to lose his job. I have to call his job in a few hours to let them know he won't be in today, but I don't know what to tell them.
I'm just scared.
