The Road to Fabulousness - Chika's diary.

Hello Fat to Fabulous, just read your diary. I am sorry to hear of your encounters of ignorant people.

I would have thought that ppl leading or working at a place to "HELP" & "SUPPORT" other's with weight troubles (such as this slimming club) that they'd been Trained properly with how to RESPECT people's emotions. I would call in with a complaint. It's not about the anger factor, it's the principle of the matter. They should be well prepared for an ERR on their scales and if not, they will probably lose quite a bit of business I would think. How odd to send someone away to the supermarket to try out their scales. Unless I am ignorant to that technique. Sorry to hear that.

I am not too shabby, Thanks. ;)
 
and finally got on the scale to see the dreaded "ERR" when I was expecting some numbers.
girl! i'm so sorry and you know what? don't let this get you down...the first day i weighed in at the gym it first said 'err' then quickly flashed 146kgs i was of course not happy with the weight but in my head was kinda relieved because i was almost 100% sure i weighed heavier than 146kgs since i'd been eating so badly. so i continued going to the gym everyday about 4 weeks later i weighed in at the gym again (after having busted my a$$ working out everyday) and tried the scale and it said 'ERR' tried a second third and FOURTH scale and they all said ERR plus the fourth scale was those calibrated ones but it's max was 150kgs....the trainer then told me it meant that i weighed more than 150kgs but he couldn't understand because he knew how hard i'd been working at the gym. i was so humiliated i wanted to die! so after sulking for a few days bought myself a good quality digital weighing scale and found out my TRUE weight was actually 157kgs which was 11kgs higher than i thought! i was so depressed i ate myself upto 159kgs then said enough was enough got back up dusted myself off and went back to the gym. i've never bothered using they're scales again and it was obvious that i was the heaviest person who had ever stepped into that gym because they'd never seen the need to buy a decent weighing scale. i think just buy yourself a good quality scale you can be using.

The woman was like Marjorie Dawes for anyone familiar with Little Britain and in the loudest possible voice was like "ohh we've never had that problem before."
OMG! that marjorie from little britain is HORRIBLE! oh hun i'm so sorry you had to go through such a rough ordeal, the beginning is never easy but once you get into things the first few days then you'll start to get used to it. to be honest i think you can do it on your own with all the info and support from the forum...but everyones different so if you really want to join the slimming club then dont let the weight thing get you down, just buy your scale, and go to the next meeting with your head held up high because i'm sure your gonna do great once you start loosing! i know where your coming from, sometimes i wish i had actual people who are physically here to go through this with since it would be easier to be accountable to each other, i remember looking for a slimming group in my area but there weren't any that were reachable unless i had a car and since i didn't just had to start on my own. but at the end of the day whats most important is you choose what you think will workout for you.

I could cry honestly - The second I start doing something about my weight two rubbish things like that happen within a week. Thanks for the ranting opportunity and please don't read and run - say hi! I'm off to work out a plan with actual set meals etc now because there is no way on earth I'm going back to that place! Grrr!
aw, this is what the diary is for, just vent all you want! we're here to listen.
all the best, xoxo
 
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Awww chika... /hugs

Don't let it get you down. ^ they're right. You'd think that a place such as a slimming club would be more respectful and descreet. I agree that you should call and complain. If you were in america, since we're such a sue-happy country, they'd be getting sued lol.

Just remember. Chin up. You're worth this. Don't you EVER let anyone tell you otherwise.

xoxox

Casey
 
Thanks Running Girl,

I know thats what I thought too, surely she should have had a decent pair of scales, the ones she was using were the cheapest of the cheap - I was not happy! And no I've never heard of sending someone to the supermarket to use a scale either - just ridiculous. Anyway thanks for the support - I was beginning to think if I was being unreasonable but its good to be backed up!

Hello Fat to Fabulous, just read your diary. I am sorry to hear of your encounters of ignorant people.

I would have thought that ppl leading or working at a place to "HELP" & "SUPPORT" other's with weight troubles (such as this slimming club) that they'd been Trained properly with how to RESPECT people's emotions. I would call in with a complaint. It's not about the anger factor, it's the principle of the matter. They should be well prepared for an ERR on their scales and if not, they will probably lose quite a bit of business I would think. How odd to send someone away to the supermarket to try out their scales. Unless I am ignorant to that technique. Sorry to hear that.

I am not too shabby, Thanks. ;)
 
Hi Cherry!

I actually have a great pair of scales, I'm slightly obssessed with them. I really want a pair of body fat ones though now. Anyhoo - just think you will never ever see that ERR on the scale again! And neither will I for that matter!

I don't think I'll be going back to any slimming club - its five pounds a week that I could be spending on me and I'm not going to pay to be humiliated! I thought the accountability of having to weigh in would be good but I can do that on here.


girl! i'm so sorry and you know what? don't let this get you down...the first day i weighed in at the gym it first said 'err' then quickly flashed 146kgs i was of course not happy with the weight but in my head was kinda relieved because i was almost 100% sure i weighed heavier than 146kgs since i'd been eating so badly. so i continued going to the gym everyday about 4 weeks later i weighed in at the gym again (after having busted my a$$ working out everyday) and tried the scale and it said 'ERR' tried a second third and FOURTH scale and they all said ERR plus the fourth scale was those calibrated ones but it's max was 150kgs....the trainer then told me it meant that i weighed more than 150kgs but he couldn't understand because he knew how hard i'd been working at the gym. i was so humiliated i wanted to die! so after sulking for a few days bought myself a good quality digital weighing scale and found out my TRUE weight was actually 157kgs which was 11kgs higher than i thought! i was so depressed i ate myself upto 159kgs then said enough was enough got back up dusted myself off and went back to the gym. i've never bothered using they're scales again and it was obvious that i was the heaviest person who had ever stepped into that gym because they'd never seen the need to buy a decent weighing scale. i think just buy yourself a good quality scale you can be using.


OMG! that marjorie from little britain is HORRIBLE! oh hun i'm so sorry you had to go through such a rough ordeal, the beginning is never easy but once you get into things the first few days then you'll start to get used to it. to be honest i think you can do it on your own with all the info and support from the forum...but everyones different so if you really want to join the slimming club then dont let the weight thing get you down, just buy your scale, and go to the next meeting with your head held up high because i'm sure your gonna do great once you start loosing! i know where your coming from, sometimes i wish i had actual people who are physically here to go through this with since it would be easier to be accountable to each other, i remember looking for a slimming group in my area but there weren't any that were reachable unless i had a car and since i didn't just had to start on my own. but at the end of the day whats most important is you choose what you think will workout for you.


aw, this is what the diary is for, just vent all you want! we're here to listen.
all the best, xoxo
 
Ok so this morning, I sorted out my life. I went and found a list of clean foods, did a big shop that has them all in it including chicken, lots of fruits and veg and cottage cheese, yum, yum. All birthday chocolates, crisps and other rubbish has been donated to the staffroom at the school I teach in and meals are planned and prepped.

I think the big issue in my life is that I'm quite lazy - I must be otherwise I wouldn't have got to this weight. I normally buy veg and let them sit there in the fridge for weeks preferring to get takeaways and eventually I just throw them all out. This morning I bought the veg, peeled washed and chopped it and I've put it into little bags in portions for when I need. Same with chicken, washed seasoned and put into portions in the freezer. I'm going to write my planned meals in here each day so I know whats what!

Ok so today -

Fruit Salad for breakfast
Lunch - roasted butternut squash, courgette and cherry tomatoes with chicken
Dinner - cottage cheese salad and ryvitas
Late supper - maybe all bran if I feel like it.

Snacks - fruit, cottage cheese, prepared veg from freezer.

How does that sound?
 
heya, i think your definitely on the right track with things. now i need to mention that i dont track calories (i think 99.9% of everyone here does lol!), so i think i'd advice you to also track cals to be on the safe side. to be honest for me its just because i think i'm at a place where i'm eating okay but i really think i need to start counting especially if i hit a plateau.

okay, so i'm no professional on the calorie counting but from your menu i think it looks a little low on calories. i'd suggest peeking into other peoples diaries to see their meal plans and also maybe post your meal plan in the nutrition section and ask what people think and for ideas. you can also check some other posters who've posted their meal plans in the nutrition section and try and get info from what they were advised.

okay so again i'm no professional on the calorie counting but will try to help you out with the starting info that i've gathered so far just in case i'll start counting calories myself in the future. so far in terms of knowing how many calories you should eat per day this is a site i've seen recommended on a few of the responses Calorie Need - Nutrition Guide for Women

and then for tracking your daily calories to know what each food is in calories there's fitday.com where you can input each food item and it lets you know the no. of cals per meal, per day, per week and so on. there's another website i heard mentioned for tracking cals but can't remember it now.

i think also on the nutrition stickies there's lots of info to let you know things like makings sure your getting good fats (from fish, nuts (almonds are good i have 12 a day), seeds (there's those pre-packs at the stores, i usally buy crushed flaxseed and add to my breakfast), olive oil etc) as opposed to bad fats like butter, fried foods etc. i see you've got lots of fruit and veg which is great. for breakfast i think i'd suggest adding something like a cereal you like preferably with high fiber, i either do all-bran or oatmeal (the instant packs you just need to add milk and pop in the microwave), i also bought powdered wheat bran to add to my oats as well. the more fiber you get in your diet the better because it helps move things along, and of course if your having more fiber then you'll need to make sure your having lots of water too.

all the above are just suggestions and i'm not by any means saying its the only way, i usually see in different diaries people have lots of great ideas for their meal plans. the thing with me is i pretty much cook my own meals so i'm never motivated to make any fancy stuff...lol!

i think thats all i can think of for now....if you can read the stickies stuff it would be a big plus...it's funny because i always tell newbies on the forum to read the stickies and i'd never read them untill just sometime last week, and when i did they were looong and eh not as interesting but the info there is very very useful. this one is a nice short summary http://weight-loss.fitness.com/nutrition/13065-easiest-nutrition-guidelines-ever.html#post272122 and then the super long one but very important is this one http://weight-loss.fitness.com/nutrition/5534-nutrition-101-a.html

umm for protein it should be lean as possible and for carbs wholemeal options are the way to go.

the good thing with a meal plan is you can make it up the way you want it to be so if you want to add a treat once in a while it's okay. and from what i see with others is that they still eat some of the stuff they want to but in moderation but include them in the calories. so it's all upto you.

okay, i think i've bombarded you with enough info for now..lol! wishing you all the best hun...WE CAN DO THIS!
 
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Oh my, thats Cherry thats amazing info. I think my cal intake is a wee bit low some I'm going to up it to 2200 a day. I don't really count them at the moment but lets see what happens when I sort the eating out.

I do eat nuts a lot, I should have included that in. Toasted almonds are amazing - I probably eat wayyy too many of them, ditto hazlenuts. I'll try weighing them into little portions and put them in bags, seems to be the way to go now.

I'm also taking on board what you said about the carbs - I think I'm scared of bread but I'll get some wholemeal in and eat that along with all bran in the morning. I have lots of flax so I'll add that to things too.

Rightio off to read the stickies! On the plus side I weighed myself earlier and I'm 9lbs down :D:D:D:D:D:D:D Its due to the end of the time of the month but its a great feeling :D
 
Thanks Casey honey!

Maybe I should sue, but I don't think wounded pride is a good enough reason! Your post made me smile, when I was last on holiday in New York this woman threatened to sue me because I took the last sale handbag off the shelf in Macys! I mean wtf, then I started laughing cos I thought she was joking which wound her up even more. Next time I go I'm gonna watch my back!

Awww chika... /hugs

Don't let it get you down. ^ they're right. You'd think that a place such as a slimming club would be more respectful and descreet. I agree that you should call and complain. If you were in america, since we're such a sue-happy country, they'd be getting sued lol.

Just remember. Chin up. You're worth this. Don't you EVER let anyone tell you otherwise.

xoxox

Casey
 
/snicker

Yeah... She was probably serious. If something like that happened here, (The thing with the slimming club) They'd sue for "Emotional Distress". Okay, get this. Some lady, sued walmart for tripping over her own kids and breaking her leg... and she won. At least that's the rumor going around. There's a song by Weird Al called "I'll sue ya" (I'm a huge fan. :blush5:) and he like, sues colorado because we look too much like wyoming, etc. That's america for you. (He's a pretty funny guy.)

Sounds like you're off to a fabulous start to your diet!! All those prepped meals sound wonderful. Cherry beat me to it, i was going to post that calorie needs for women. Just remember, stay in your calorie needs, and you'll do great!


Thanks Casey honey!

Maybe I should sue, but I don't think wounded pride is a good enough reason! Your post made me smile, when I was last on holiday in New York this woman threatened to sue me because I took the last sale handbag off the shelf in Macys! I mean wtf, then I started laughing cos I thought she was joking which wound her up even more. Next time I go I'm gonna watch my back!
 
Thanks duck! I'm quite pleased :) I've got some kind of bizzare insomnia tonight so just been to asda and bought new undies to celebrate! Now just need to find some hot man to show them off to...

OMG! I just popped downstairs to get a snack, turned the kitchen light on and we've been invaded by slugs - there are about ten of them sliming all over the place. urggghhhh! Now the desire to eat has totally left me! I hate those creatures sooo much although I'll be waif life if they stay!


woohoo! congrats on the 9lbs weightloss! :hurray:
 
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So I'm 10lbs down :) tfrom the start of my diet!!! I changed my ticker to reflect my all time high of 25st 7lbs that I was late last year. I need to see the whole picture!!!

I went to weigh in on the fancy new scale in Tesco this morning which gives you a breakdown of everything - This morning I weighed in at 23st 4lbs or 147.9 Kilos. the scary part is I measured my body fat and its 62.6%:ack2: I need to get this down - the scale told me that the fat in my body currently weighs 14st 9lbs or 92 kilos - so I'm hitting my exercise routine running today.
 
More Motivation!!!

I initially started this new weight loss kick because I split up with my boyfriend and I needed to feel attractive again. The past few weeks I've been seeing a guy who I have been secretly in love with forever. Ten whole years ago when I was 16 I used to sit next to a girl in college who used to go on about her amazing boyfriend - I used to be like "yawn" whatever but one day i saw him and I was like wow! Really really good looking, intelligent and the rest.

We met a few years back, went on a few dates and but then I found out he was a bit of a womaniser so we lost touch. Just after I split up with my boyfriend in March, he contacted me out of the blue. We met up, he explained and apologised for his behaviour a couple previously and it was going quite well or so I though. Obviously because of what happened in the past I was really cautious about falling for him but he wore me down and last week we were talking about what we thought of each other and I finally came out and admitted that I thought he was great - he said the same.

Now you have to understand that I really thought this guy was way out of my league so I've been walking about on cloud nine for the past week until Monday night... Bleep Bleep - I get a text from him basically saying "sorry to dissapoint you, I've met someone and I know its a cliche but its love at first sight. You tick a lot of boxes and will always have a place in my heart" Blah blah blah.

Shock of my life - I was in the middle of the Trafford Centre - a big mall near where I live and practically burst into tears and then had to pretend it was hayfever!!!

Theres nothing like rejection to make you feel worthless, and although he told me that I was beautiful I can't help to think that its something to do with my weight. I'll bet the girl hes in love with is slim and pretty, all the things that I'm not. If he is genuinely in love with her then I wish him luck but why isn't he in love with me??? :(

Arrrggghhh. Thanks for the rant space and thanks for reading, I'm not in a good place right now. I thought I'd be over getting hung up on boys at my age, especially ones that I should be wary of but I've been well and truly played.
 
Well, first let me start out by saying congrats on the 10 pound weight loss.

As for your post up above, that sucks shit. I'm sure the last thing you want to read is how everything will eventually be okay, but in time it will. I personally admire you for having the courage to put yourself out there, to be vulnerable and risk rejection. I think ultimately if we don't do that or if we fail to recover from previous rejections, we could potentially lose out in the future on some very remarkable relationships.

I have a fear of being rejected and it keeps me from having the balls to go after what I want in relationships. I would give anything to have your strength in this area.
 
hey hun,
i'm so sorry! you know what? it's his loss! he doesn't know what he's missing out on! your FABULOUS now just the way you are and you know what? once you start loosing weight he'll sooo totally regret what he lost!

men are just idiots, complete idiots (no offense to any guys who read this, lol! but i'm sure you know what i mean).

in my case i've been alone for so long, it's like i'm sooo scared of rejection so i just keep away so that i don't have to get rejected....which is really no way to live. so i'm taking this journey for me, myself and i...and as i said the other day i'm learning to love myself again which is most important for me...so that when a good man comes along i won't let him slip by.

sometimes i try and gather up all my anger and just let it all off during my workouts...it works like a charm!

for now concentrate on you and i'm sure there's a good man out there for you that you'll meet at the right time! take heart hun xoxo
 
I have a fear of being rejected and it keeps me from having the balls to go after what I want in relationships. I would give anything to have your strength in this area.


hey ymcachick! i must have been typing out my response because when i posted it i found your post above mine....the reason i'm writing is because i find it amazing how so many of us have so much stuff in common!

the line you wrote above is pretty much exactly what i wrote! i'm so f*cking scared of rejection so i just hide away so that i don't have to go through it!

and i totally agree with you 100%, that missFAB is AMAZING for being able to put herself out there in the dating scene...honey just like ymca says, that's an amazing strength, it shows your so much more stronger than you think.

this guy just lost out on something great.
 
Thank you for the support! And Yes I'm sure it will be ok... one day....

What you said about the worry of rejection is so true. Sometimes I catch men looking at me and can't quite decide if its interest or disgust at my size. I'm always scared that men are talking to me for a bet or something. I guess its a self esteem thing. Probably the worst thing about being large, it governs everything I do.

What we need to remember is we are all great people, I've read your diary YMCA chick and you are great, if i was a man i would want to date you! We need to start thinking that it really is their loss.

Although am I eveil for hoping that this love at first sight girl does him over?!!

Well, first let me start out by saying congrats on the 10 pound weight loss.

As for your post up above, that sucks shit. I'm sure the last thing you want to read is how everything will eventually be okay, but in time it will. I personally admire you for having the courage to put yourself out there, to be vulnerable and risk rejection. I think ultimately if we don't do that or if we fail to recover from previous rejections, we could potentially lose out in the future on some very remarkable relationships.

I have a fear of being rejected and it keeps me from having the balls to go after what I want in relationships. I would give anything to have your strength in this area.
 
Cherry, I could KISS you for that! It is amazing how we all have a similar way of thinking even though we can obviously see the great people in each other that we can't see in ourselves.

hey hun,
i'm so sorry! you know what? it's his loss! he doesn't know what he's missing out on! your FABULOUS now just the way you are and you know what? once you start loosing weight he'll sooo totally regret what he lost!

men are just idiots, complete idiots (no offense to any guys who read this, lol! but i'm sure you know what i mean).

in my case i've been alone for so long, it's like i'm sooo scared of rejection so i just keep away so that i don't have to get rejected....which is really no way to live. so i'm taking this journey for me, myself and i...and as i said the other day i'm learning to love myself again which is most important for me...so that when a good man comes along i won't let him slip by.

sometimes i try and gather up all my anger and just let it all off during my workouts...it works like a charm!

for now concentrate on you and i'm sure there's a good man out there for you that you'll meet at the right time! take heart hun xoxo
 
Hey hun. Yeah, like I said before. I'm not a big violent person, but I'll kill him for ya. lol.

You are a beautiful amazing person, and you don't need him!!! Just think. When you get all healthy, he'll take one look at you and want you back. But you know what? You're going to say no. And then you're going to laugh at him. And then, you'll make HIM cry! MWAHAHAHA. Er... sorry. I'm done.

Lots of love.

Casey
 
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