The Road to Change...

So I watch on youtube like crazy. I think he's a genius. :) Anyway, I went on his website and asked him a question about my measurement gain and this was his response:


Joining Curves is good but watching your calories and doing extra cardio, as you have been doing, are just as important. Those measurement increases seem a bit unrealistic and improbable. I doubt you have gained 1 inch on your arms or 3 inches on your calves. Increases like this would be extremely difficult, if not impossible, regardless of your sex or training schedule. I would bet my life that inconsistent measuring techniques were used between the two measurements or incorrect numbers were simply written down. When your measurements are taken again make sure the procedure is consistent. Meaning, your arm is either extended or flexed, the tape is placed in the same position on the arm, and the arm is not compressed when the tape is wrapped around it. You may want to have a girlfriend measure you so you have your own records. But please don't worry. I can guarantee you're not growing. ~Steve


Just as you guys said. Plus I got some reassurance from a few friends, and my parents. lol. Now I feel tons better... :)
 
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I don't understand how I could GAIN 3 inches in my calves and gain 1 inch in my arms. The good thing though is that my body fat is down a bit, and that's the only thing that really matters, isn't it? The gain could be from muscle, but I really have no way of proving that.
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I had a personal trainer for quite a while at 24hr fitness. He was such an amazing guy!

Anywhoo, I too experienced the same gain in inches where I thought I should be shriking. It was from the exercise. I could see muscles popping up where there were none visable before. Eventually the fat started to go away leaving a leaner looking arm and leg, but it definitely threw me through a loop too at first.
 
Hii CFL!!!! Ack on the inch gain - I agree with everyone, probably miss measurement or just muscle.

You're doing fantastic girl!!!! :D:D:D
 
Yep, like everyone else said, it sounds like a mismeasurement.

Just keep doing what you're doing girl, one day at a time :)
 
cHANGE
I am very tired but wanted to pay everyone a visit and
keep the support rolling as you do for me,it plays a major part
in weightloss.I am so glad to have met you and thanks for all your
diary visits they are very appreciated!:)
So what if I copied and pasted this in everyones diary I am a zombie
tonight and turning into the sack early! Tammy
 
So, it looks like I may be going to Arizona for Christmas to visit my brother and my sister-in-law's family. She has a very large family that revolves basically around food. Picture my Big Fat Greek Wedding. I kind of don't want to because I know there's going to be a ton of food and I'm not going to be able to exercise.

But then again, it will teach me to learn about how to eat in these situations, I can't avoid it for the rest of my life, right?

I told my parents that I didn't want to go because I wouldn't be able to exercise and my mom got really pissed.

In a way I'm kind of making up the excuse of not being able to exercise or eat right, but the real truth is that I cannot stand my brother. He's a jerk and I really don't want to be around people that bring me down. Is that wrong? I do however would love to see my nieces, and I do like my sister-in-law's family.

I feel like along with this new lifestyle I'm taking on I also have to extinguish bad things in my life that feel like parasites. Is it wrong to compare my brother to a parasite? I shouldn't feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him!

And I don't want to spend my Christmas with him, but then again if I choose not to go then I will be choosing to spend Christmas ALONE, which is worse. Ugh, dunno what I'm going to do. The thought of him always brings me down.
 
changeforlife said:
So, it looks like I may be going to Arizona for Christmas to visit my brother and my sister-in-law's family. She has a very large family that revolves basically around food. Picture my Big Fat Greek Wedding. I kind of don't want to because I know there's going to be a ton of food and I'm not going to be able to exercise.

But then again, it will teach me to learn about how to eat in these situations, I can't avoid it for the rest of my life, right?

I told my parents that I didn't want to go because I wouldn't be able to exercise and my mom got really pissed.

In a way I'm kind of making up the excuse of not being able to exercise or eat right, but the real truth is that I cannot stand my brother. He's a jerk and I really don't want to be around people that bring me down. Is that wrong? I do however would love to see my nieces, and I do like my sister-in-law's family.

I feel like along with this new lifestyle I'm taking on I also have to extinguish bad things in my life that feel like parasites. Is it wrong to compare my brother to a parasite? I shouldn't feel like I have to walk on eggshells around him!

And I don't want to spend my Christmas with him, but then again if I choose not to go then I will be choosing to spend Christmas ALONE, which is worse. Ugh, dunno what I'm going to do. The thought of him always brings me down.
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OH let me tell you a story! My family is so jacked up it's not funny. My parents are divorced and my father lives in South Carolina with his mother and his sisters. Now THEY are cool, I have not complaints. My grandmother is older and they all help and chip in. They are nothing but supportive of everything we do! It's awesome!

My mother, brother and sister!?!? Yeah.. not so supportive. I too have to live with the fact that I have a ridiculous brother. Parasite is a good word for him. Manipulative snake as well. And I was under their "spell" for YEARS until I got married and my eyes were opened. I'm so glad that I'm not apart of that nonsense anymore. He's mean spirited, and suffers from delusions of granduer! It's retarded. I'm sorry you have to go through it as well... And my brother is my mothers favorite (Long, stupid story) and he can do no wrong. She sides with him even when he's terrible to us all! I mean...if your mother gets mad at you for wanting to better yourself... that's ridiculous. You'd think she'd try to help you find a way to do some exercising while out there instead of just getting pissed. If I were you, I'd channell your disdane and anger at your brother into some form of physical activity while you're out there... it'll help you get motivated to be more active while doing your activity. That's why I want to take up a contact sport like boxing or kickboxing (non competition...just the bag work and technique). Getting the aggression out in a healthy way instead of bottling it up can work WONDERS for your body! I'm learning that now! Sorry for the long post... if no one else understands what you're going through...trust me when I say...I DO! Hope you have a good day!:D
 
*OHD emerges from her dysfunctional family...mother and brother mostly, seems to be a pattern...hmmm?* At any rate, don't sweat it. I understand exactly how you feel though. I'd say take walks in the evenings or morning, whenever it's convenient for you. Not only does it work off some of the cals you'll take in but serve as a stress reliever from having to deal with him.

Best of luck to you chica. I'm going home for half a day to avoid the nonsense and then my daughter and I are coming STRAIGHT back to our home.
 
SaturdaySaint,

Thanks for that post. I'm glad someone understands how it is.

I had a talk with my mom today, she had taken some time to think this through and it turns out she doesn't want to go either. Now, I didn't tell her the real reason why I didn't want to go, but it seemed we were both thinking on the same levels:

This was the plan... My brother, his wife and kids are coming to here California (they live in Arizona like I said) like a few days before Christmas to go to a wedding of their friends. It's like a 4-5 hour drive. When they come they are staying here and my brother's plan is that we can follow him back to Arizona.

Rewind to a year ago...
My mom was in the hospital for a loooong time. Guess how many times he came to visit her? ZERO!!! He never once came to visit my mother. And he always does insensitive things like this and yet he acts so innocent and righteous (he's a strong Christian man, btw *rolls eyes*).

Fast forward back to today...
My mom basically said screw him. That he can come to a friends wedding but not come visit her in the hospital and now he wants us to drive through very heavy traffic for 4-5 hours, a few days before Christmas? On what grounds? He has completely lost his mind.

So, we're not going, and I'm glad that my mom seen things in a different light. I think she just got pissed at me because... actually, I don't know why she got so pissed at me. lol.

And I definitely know what you mean about exercising to get the anger out of you. I have seriously thought about kickboxing, or hiphop dancing, or even going to the shooting range- I always thought that would be very badass and hollywood, like Charlie's Angels or something. lol. Just any aggressive activity that would blast the anger I feel out. There's a lot of it build up, a lot of family crap.

Phew, had to vent that out. Anyway, thanks a lot for your post.
 
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*OHD emerges from her dysfunctional family...mother and brother mostly, seems to be a pattern...hmmm?* At any rate, don't sweat it. I understand exactly how you feel though. I'd say take walks in the evenings or morning, whenever it's convenient for you. Not only does it work off some of the cals you'll take in but serve as a stress reliever from having to deal with him.

Best of luck to you chica. I'm going home for half a day to avoid the nonsense and then my daughter and I are coming STRAIGHT back to our home.
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OHD, yes, I think I'm going to do the walking thing, it can be so therapeutic. Thanks so much for your post, I like when people can understand things that go on in my life. Although it sucks that people have to understand it at all, ya know?
 
My head is killing me and I still have to exercise. I missed two days of Curves because I have been busy so I've been doing aerobics.

Food...

Breakfast- Cornflakes
Lunch - Ramen Noodles, Beef Flavor
Dinner - Jr. Whopper, Banana
Snack - Peanut Butter Sandwich, Oreo Thin Crisps.

Total: 1492 cals.
 
changeforlife said:
SaturdaySaint,

Thanks for that post. I'm glad someone understands how it is.

I had a talk with my mom today, she had taken some time to think this through and it turns out she doesn't want to go either. Now, I didn't tell her the real reason why I didn't want to go, but it seemed we were both thinking on the same levels:

This was the plan... My brother, his wife and kids are coming to here California (they live in Arizona like I said) like a few days before Christmas to go to a wedding of their friends. It's like a 4-5 hour drive. When they come they are staying here and my brother's plan is that we can follow him back to Arizona.

Rewind to a year ago...
My mom was in the hospital for a loooong time. Guess how many times he came to visit her? ZERO!!! He never once came to visit my mother. And he always does insensitive things like this and yet he acts so innocent and righteous (he's a strong Christian man, btw *rolls eyes*).

Fast forward back to today...
My mom basically said screw him. That he can come to a friends wedding but not come visit her in the hospital and now he wants us to drive through very heavy traffic for 4-5 hours, a few days before Christmas? On what grounds? He has completely lost his mind.

So, we're not going, and I'm glad that my mom seen things in a different light. I think she just got pissed at me because... actually, I don't know why she got so pissed at me. lol.

And I definitely know what you mean about exercising to get the anger out of you. I have seriously thought about kickboxing, or hiphop dancing, or even going to the shooting range- I always thought that would be very badass and hollywood, like Charlie's Angels or something. lol. Just any aggressive activity that would blast the anger I feel out. There's a lot of it build up, a lot of family crap.

Phew, had to vent that out. Anyway, thanks a lot for your post.
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Glad I could help... anyone that knows what you're going through, or is there to help along the way is always good! MTM&K has helped me these past 6 years...working through all of it...and I finally (3-4 years into our relationship) got my head screwed on straight! My brother, mother and sister are all "good christian people" (read: Haughty Taughty Holier than thou) And I'm constantly being lectured about "not being in ministry". Oi Sometimes you just have to smile and nod! Family isn't always the smartest peas in the pod! I'm glad you're being able to sort things out! I just got done working out and I have to go get ready...just saw your post and wanted to pat you on the back and say good job! Have a good one!
 
oh yes, I exercise out anger and stress, it works wonders, you should try Tae Bo....It is awesome and as everyhitng else you doit at your own pace and he is a great instructor...Yoga helps me alot aslo....Im goad to hear you came to a decision...as far as him, I would say screw him as well...your mom made a good point...
 
Ooh, you sound really stressed out :( I'm sorry about that. You should get a punching bag and kick the crap out of it. I hope your mom isn't mad at you anymore.
 
twolilangels: oh yes, I exercise out anger and stress, it works wonders
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You build up all of that adrenaline (sp?) so you might as well put it to a great cause! ;) I'm the same way!
 
Thanks so much for the support guys. *hugs to all*


"Sometimes you just have to smile and nod! Family isn't always the smartest peas in the pod!"

I agree!!!! I do that most of the time anyway, its how I contain myself. Heh.

2LA, I've definitely thought about Tae Bo, I know a girl that lost a looot of weight from just doing Tae Bo and nothing else, not even dieting. I'm sure its a great stress reliever, will definitely consider it.
 
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My Dad's birthday was today, I baked him a cake. :eek: I had NO desire to lick the bowl afterwards, or eat the remaining frosting, I definitely would have before this lifestyle change. So, I'm proud of myself. I had a TINY piece of cake, sliced really thin, lol.:D And ya know, it was good, but I didn't want to have more, I kept thinking about how badly I want this weight off. Great thing, I swear that any other time, I would have had two BIG pieces of cake. But there is not a cake on this earth that would be good enough to make me want to overeat like that again.

Saturday I'm gonna have lunch with some friends, ugh, :eek: I hope they have a calorie chart or something, or I'll just get something that looks good, yet healthy, and eat half of it, since restaurants always serve too much food anyway. One of my other friends is dieting too, so she'll be in the same situation, thank god I'll have her there.

All this temptation sucks. lol. :p

Sigh, speaking of tempations I went to Curves today and I scale was staring at me and calling me to weigh myself. I did. I still weigh the same. This is a good thing, I think, seeing as how I drank a ton of water and had something to eat before going, so I'm sure a lot of it is water/food weight. I hope it is. I'll see Saturday morning.:eek:

Food today...

Breakfast - Scrambled Eggs w/ ketchup and a Banana
Lunch - Turkey Burger w/ lettuce, ketchup, onions
Snack - Banana
Dinner - Grilled Chicken Bowl & a thin slice of cake.
Snack - Fat Free Cookie Cakes

Total: 1,406 - My calories are low, I might eat something else later to make it go up.

Exercise...

Aerobics (45 minutes) and Curves (30 minutes):D
 
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Wow, I wish I had that kind of discipline! Congrats on the cake thing!!! You're doing awesome! Keep it up! :)
 
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