when I try to add more protein, I go over what I want for sodium and I'm distressed over the amount of fat I should or shouldn't have.
Ah, sorry - wasn't meaning to stress you out. It is hard to balance too many things at once.
Sodium doesn't bother me (doesn't affect my blood pressure and I don't care about water retention from the odd late-night salty snack), so I ignore it. (FitDay says I averaged 3338mg of sodium over the last two weeks, and I don't even record salt I add to things.) I worry that I get my calories and macronutrients in the range I want them every day, and that I get 100% of my RDA of vitamins and minerals averaged over a week. And that's pretty much it. Otherwise, I'd go insane.
If you have some specific reason to restrict sodium (or anything else), then yeah, you have to make that a priority. But don't try to set too many priorities - better to be successful at good enough than to fail at perfection due to overload, you know?
the fat is up to 38.86, sodium is at 1696, and protein is 83.31.
FWIW, I have no issue with your level of fat intake. Your target of 1800 calories is about where I've been for the last 2 weeks (which surprises me - usually it's higher, but who am I to quibble with the computer?), and it looks like I run about 59g fat, 200g carbs (40g fiber), 131g protein, averaged over those two weeks.
I'm not saying that you should use those numbers as a target. Your protein needs are pretty much a fixed number (1g per pound of lean mass [if you know it] or 0.5g per pound of total mass [if you're very heavy] is a decent place to start) - I eat more than the ~90g I need because when I get less protein, I tend to eat a lot more junk and do a lot more mindless snarfing. Then you can split the rest of your calories however makes you happy between fats and carbs - there's some minimum of fat you do need, but I suspect you aren't going to aim for a fat-free diet, so you don't need to worry about that. I personally do better with more fat and less carb; your mileage is going to vary.
I can't because it has like 459mg of sodium!
And it doesn't have much calcium, either. I still eat a lot of it, alas. For me, I'd worry more about processed food sodium than about cottage cheese sodium, but like I said, sodium doesn't bother me.
To get one thing higher, everything I want to stay lower goes up with it!
Yep. Sucks, doesn't it? It does get easier over time. When I first started figuring out where I wanted my macronutrients to be, I always ended the day needing protein and carbs, and over on fat. It is *hard* to find something to eat that has 30g of protein and 20g of carbs and no fat.

Now I try to get a big chunk of my protein in early in the day, so I don't have to worry about it later.
May:
Bust: 45
Waist: 55.50
July:
Bust: 50
Waist: 48 1/2
But...why is my bust bigger???
Wow, that's some redistribution! Different bra between measurements, maybe? I know I sag more in some than in others, so maybe you were feeling perkier in July? WTG on the waist - that's a huge change!