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SkittleWarrior

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I'm loving the support I'm getting from everyone around me.

My Mom...buying more whole grain foods; cooking less steak, more chicken; lots more veggies (yes!), she's really trying to help...though sometimes it hurts more...she used to have an eating disorder and sometimes I feel like she would love me more if I were thin and prettier. But it's an insecurity of mine I think, and I'm working on it. I mean, I eat one cookie sometimes and she won't let it go.

Steve, our all around handyman who has developed a certain fondness for my Mother as a friend, this we know, and possibly more? I mean, the man is married and he came to visit us Valentine's day morning in a snow storm to give me a rose and my Mom a chocolote one. He got me a real one, telling me he remembered I was on a diet. I wanted to kiss him. Lol.

My Dad, he promises me lots of new clothes as I'm getting increasingly too small for my jeans. Plus he brought me tons of apples and sugar-free chocolates for V-day. Tonight, a few bags of non-fat yogurt and smoothies, canned fruit, diet Coke (though I didn't mention that I don't do soda anymore), a biiig jug of green tea, 100 calorie pudding...he gets uncomfortable with closeness, but I made sure to look him in the eye and sincerely thank him for all the stuff he brought.

My ex...she cooks stuff for me in healthier ways. She treats me so well...I mean, it really shows she loves me.

My current girlfriend...my main support system...she's in Brazil, but the things she tells me daily...I'm reminded why I've put up with the struggles of such a long distance relationship for four years. :)

I love the support...I guess they've realized now that I'm more than a few weeks into it, they can take me seriously.

Anyone else want to share their experiences? :D It's a great feeling knowing that you're not the only one helping to love your body and yourself, other people in your life are doing it too.
 
Hey Skittle! I'm so close to you- In South Berwick, near Ogunquit Beach! I looked at your location after you mentioned the V-Day snowstorm...I figured you must be close by!

It's great to have the support. We need it. I was trying to figure out why I have been slacking so much in being 100% committed to a diet and exercise regimen; last time I did this I lost 50 pounds in five months, ate very well and exercised at the gym 3-5 days a week without exception.

That was 2 years ago. This time, I'm "cheating" all the time, making excuses as to why I can't go to the gym, etc. etc. etc.

Here's a long winded answer (sorry!)

I realized why just the other day: when I had my first success, I was married and never saw my husband (chef), which subsequently led to him leaving and divorcing me about 4 months into my program. I never had anyone around to think about, as far as what to buy at the store, cook for dinner, someone to get home to, which sounds depressing, and it was... but it also enabled me to spend more time at the gym (to forget) and to make good food choices- sheer determination to have control over something in my life when I felt other areas were so out of control.

Now, I have a boyfriend who I love spending time with, and he needs to GAIN weight, so not only have I skipped the gym in favor of hanging out, but I've eaten whatever he's cooked, or bought things to eat for when he comes over- and I end up eating them! Love can be as fattening as lonliness! I also have a housemate who's a chef and cooks in the most fattening, calorie-laden manner and he cannot conceive of watching calories, fat, carbs, etc.

So I've been in this start-stop-start-stop mode of committing to the program I was on last time, and realized I had external forces that I was allowing to influence my drive to lose weight and get fit. I put my foot down the other day and kind of flipped out on all of them: I was going to make a low cal, low fat version of chicken alfredo primavera from a recipe I'd found. I was going to make up the "diet" version for myself, and add heavy cream, butter, etc. to my boyfriend's because he needs calories....the housemate took over, and said he'd make dinner for all of us, but ditch that low cal recipe because "that's not how you make alfredo sauce!!".

So I lost it and said "WHAT is the point of working so hard to watch what I eat and go to the gym and work hard at that, only to come home and eat a dinner that's like 2000 calories?? I WON'T DO IT! You must respect this!"

So the housemate shut up and made my version for me and the bad bad version for them. Ironically, they thought my version tasted much better after all! Haha!

My boyfriend said he was proud of me for standing up for myself, and has been very encouraging. Never critical, though. It's great your mom is cooking up better food, but it would help if she didn't make critical remarks when she sees you eat a cookie or something. You are old enough to make good decisions about your health and your body, and you deserve that acknowledgement. Hopefully your mom will be able to hold back from harping on you...

You are very fortunate to have people in your life who love you and want to see you succeed. It sounds like they are playing an active role in your committment to weight loss!

PS- You are where I hope to be by July. Hope you let us know when you enter into the 100s!
 
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That is fantastic.

I am pretty much on my own when it comes to my weight lose.

Mother is semi-helpful and g/f is nothing but stress :(

Makes me want to eat MORE sometimes
 
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