Success

Ive read the 7 habits of highly effective people entirely too often- that mission statement is really important :)

The seven habits - which really make sense in any thing you do in life
  • First Habit - Be Pro-active Here, Covey emphasizes the original sense of the term "proactive" as coined by Victor Frankl. You can either be proactive or reactive when it comes to how you act about certain things. Being "proactive" means taking responsibility for everything in life. When you're reactive, you blame other people and circumstances for obstacles or problems. Initiative, and taking action will then follow. Covey shows how man is different from animals in that he has self consciousness. He has the ability to detach himself and observe his own self, think about his thoughts. He goes on to say how this attribute enables him. It gives him the power not to be affected by his circumstances. Covey talks about 'Stimulus and Response'. Between Stimulus and Response, we have the power to choose the response.
  • Begin with the End In Mind. This chapter is about setting long-term goals based on "true-north principles". Covey recommends to formulate a "personal mission statement" to document one's perception of one's own purpose in life. He sees visualization as an important tool to develop this. He also deals with organizational mission statements, which he claims to be more effective if developed and supported by all members of an organization, rather than being prescribed.
  • Put First Things First. Here, Covey describes a framework for prioritizing work that is aimed at long-term goals, at the expense of tasks that appear to be urgent, but are in fact less important. Delegation is presented as an important part of time management. Successful delegation, according to Covey, focuses on results and benchmarks that are to be agreed in advance, rather than on prescribing detailed work plans.
  • Think Win/Win describes an attitude whereby mutually beneficial solutions are sought, that satisfy the needs of oneself as well as others, or, in the case of a conflict, both parties involved.
  • Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood. Covey warns that giving out advice before having empathetically understood a person and their situation will likely result in that advice being rejected. Thoroughly listening to another person's concerns instead of reading out your own autobiography is purported to increase the chance of establishing a working communication.
  • Synergize describes a way of working in teams. Apply effective problem solving. Apply collaborative decision making. Value differences. Build on divergent strengths. Leverage creative collaboration. Embrace and leverage innovation. It is put forth that, when this is pursued as a habit, the result of the teamwork will exceed the sum of what each of the members could have achieved on their own. “The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.”
  • Sharpen the saw focuses on balanced self-renewal. Regaining what Covey calls "productive capacity" by engaging in carefully selected recreational activities.
Some of them I still have trouble with but am working on it..
 
I believe in belief....I did not set out on this journey to try and lose weight. I believed, the day I started, that I would get to my goal, whenever that was.

This is my only concrete goal right now. Of course, I have general goals...to raise great kids, to be happy, to get the bills paid, etc. But aside from weight loss, I haven't had a specific goal for quite some time. I think having something to strive for is what makes us happy....I'd love to find another to work towards...
 
I believe in belief....I did not set out on this journey to try and lose weight. I believed, the day I started, that I would get to my goal, whenever that was.

This is my only concrete goal right now. Of course, I have general goals...to raise great kids, to be happy, to get the bills paid, etc. But aside from weight loss, I haven't had a specific goal for quite some time. I think having something to strive for is what makes us happy....I'd love to find another to work towards...

So is your answer, belief?
 
I think so...belief or faith, whichever word works for you. I knew the basic facts, I knew I was fat. I knew how to lose weight, and I knew that I should. But that did nothing for me for 17 years, until the day when I believed that I could. I had faith in myself and my determination.

I think any major goal takes a leap of faith, and that's what makes you and your success great.
 
But that did nothing for me for 17 years, until the day when I believed that I could. I had faith in myself and my determination.
that goes along with the whole readiness factor too - which is belief partly but it's also something else and im not sure what that is...
 
I'm not sure what it is either - and I'm not one to tout the benefits of belief/faith.

I think I can have faith in or believe any number of things, but without conviction (determination) then I'm merely dilusional ;)
 
with weight loss only - and i'll probably contradict whatver i said above -

do i believe I will get to my goal? yes--

though that goal might change before i get there...

but it's not because I have this strong belief in myself - I have more doubts and criticisms of myself than anybody but I have a clear understanding of my personal mission statement to get me where i want to be and i'm too stubborn to let myself fail.. I've made the path easy for myself to get there...

it's the scenic overlooks on my journey and detours that cause me angst... but i will get there... it's just staying focused
 
:) Okay, I will chime in...I think success has to do with vision (sucessful people see what others cannot or will not). And they have a driving passion for their vision. They are not deterred by the naysayers....it does not impact them. They are focused and driven to get what they see and believe in.

Beth
 
:) Okay, I will chime in...I think success has to do with vision (sucessful people see what others cannot or will not). And they have a driving passion for their vision. They are not deterred by the naysayers....it does not impact them. They are focused and driven to get what they see and believe in.

Beth

Good answer.
 
Being a professional of a field where there's no such thing as a perfect "product" and my daily studying never ends I've had to define success in my own way.
I needed to have a way of being happy with what I did every day although the real development would be visible/audible and recognized by somebody other than me maybe six months later, maybe never. That left me with one alternative.
I had to find positive feelings of success in the amount of my determination and getting through good and bad days without letting it affect my work, journey towards all the small and big goals in the future. And then the success as defined by the society, hopefully would come later and kind of justify the good feelings I already had had during the work process (without which the process would definitely not have been possible). If not, then I had felt good for trying anyway and would have enough energy to try again.
SO, success to me is actually not giving up and what makes it possible is the belief in development when you cannot see it yet.
Sorry for all the language mistakes. When I'm tired I sometimes remember that English is my third language... Hope you still decipher my point there..
Juliette
 
Being a professional of a field where there's no such thing as a perfect "product" and my daily studying never ends I've had to define success in my own way.
I needed to have a way of being happy with what I did every day although the real development would be visible/audible and recognized by somebody other than me maybe six months later, maybe never. That left me with one alternative.
I had to find positive feelings of success in the amount of my determination and getting through good and bad days without letting it affect my work, journey towards all the small and big goals in the future. And then the success as defined by the society, hopefully would come later and kind of justify the good feelings I already had had during the work process (without which the process would definitely not have been possible). If not, then I had felt good for trying anyway and would have enough energy to try again.
SO, success to me is actually not giving up and what makes it possible is the belief in development when you cannot see it yet.
Sorry for all the language mistakes. When I'm tired I sometimes remember that English is my third language... Hope you still decipher my point there..
Juliette

In short, I believe your answer is belief. :)
 
I believe that for there to be success on a constant basis, change must be involved. People evolve, viruses evolve, new techniques, ideas, and the list can go on and on. I think you must realize when whatever you are doing isn't getting the tasks set forth accomplished, so you must adapt to whatever new obstacle has been thrown into the mix. I feel that when you stop adapting, you will fail.

You can't teach the same thing the same way all the time. Some may get it, some may not, and if you are able to see that what you are doing isn't working and able to find a way to make it work, I think that is success!

IMO, this can be applied to life in all areas. Of course, I have thought about this for about oh.. 5 minutes maybe, so as I continue to think, I may come up with something that doesn't apply with my idea of change or adaptation.
 
I believe that for there to be success on a constant basis, change must be involved. People evolve, viruses evolve, new techniques, ideas, and the list can go on and on. I think you must realize when whatever you are doing isn't getting the tasks set forth accomplished, so you must adapt to whatever new obstacle has been thrown into the mix. I feel that when you stop adapting, you will fail.

You can't teach the same thing the same way all the time. Some may get it, some may not, and if you are able to see that what you are doing isn't working and able to find a way to make it work, I think that is success!

IMO, this can be applied to life in all areas. Of course, I have thought about this for about oh.. 5 minutes maybe, so as I continue to think, I may come up with something that doesn't apply with my idea of change or adaptation.

No, this is a nice post. Especially when dealing with the human body. Adaptation is something you want to avoid majorly in terms of fitness. Once adaptation sets in, say goodbye to progress. I have talked about this a lot in here as of late.

So what you are saying is, the ability and willingness to change is part of what goes into making those select few excel.

If that is the case, I agree.
 
You need to be in love with the steps you take. This way, if the destination doesn't show up when it's supposed to, devastation and frustration doesn't follow.

Not to be the devil's advocate, but I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I do not believe that you have to be in love with the steps you take to make the journey or the destination worthwhile. In fact, I think there is something to the whole "keeping your eyes on the prize" mentality with some goals and ultimate successes. The desire you have for the goal is what may get you through the steps that may be difficult. I know that when I have been successful in my life, I have gone through some fairly loathsome experiences to gain those successes. When I've jumped those hurtles, I am stronger because of it.

To answer your initial question as to what separates those who attain success from those who do not, I believe it essentially boils down to two charactaristics....

SELF-DETERMINATION-that pure resolve and tenacity to reach whatever goal has been set

PRIDE-the respect for oneself based on reaching the goal and having done it in an honorable fashion.
 
Not to be the devil's advocate, but I'm going to have to disagree on this one. I do not believe that you have to be in love with the steps you take to make the journey or the destination worthwhile. In fact, I think there is something to the whole "keeping your eyes on the prize" mentality with some goals and ultimate successes. The desire you have for the goal is what may get you through the steps that may be difficult. I know that when I have been successful in my life, I have gone through some fairly loathsome experiences to gain those successes. When I've jumped those hurtles, I am stronger because of it.

To answer your initial question as to what separates those who attain success from those who do not, I believe it essentially boils down to two charactaristics....

SELF-DETERMINATION-that pure resolve and tenacity to reach whatever goal has been set

PRIDE-the respect for oneself based on reaching the goal and having done it in an honorable fashion.

You made one assumption that dictated an incorrect response.... that being the idea that I don't find long term goals (destinations) important. I find them extremely important, vital actually, to success. If you read any articles that I have written, you would know this.

Ultimate goals that have deep-rooted emotional ties attached to them often times provide the fuel to act each and every single day. I mean, let's face it.... this is what we are truly desiring. Most of us don't REALLY want to wake up every single day and exercise. If we had the choice to be fit and have the body of our dreams without the hard work, I think many would opt for it. So again, I know that the destination is the energy provider.

And on top of this, I believe most people realize this, which is why I did not make it a focus. I think most people only focus on the destination, and too often forget how important the journey really is. You can't have one without the other.
 
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