subconsciously sabotage?

[LeaJnice]

Ok so I need to know if Im just nuts.... or if this would bother you and does it happen to you.

I have lost 20 lbs. I have been working really hard these past 2 months and my husband is not on the lose weight band wagon(I think he is going to join a new gym closer to work, we shall see) Anyway He always buys fast food right before Im about to go to the gym. I never eat it but it eats at me that he does it. And if he doesnt get a snack before I go.. he asks me to go through white castle and get him a "snack" which is like.. 2 burgers cheese fries and cheese sticks. Its normally around 9:00 pm. Like last night he brought me a large box of goobers(chocolate covered peanuts) and I LOVE those things. Its one of my weaknesses and he knows that. I ate a half of a serving. I just hate having them in my house in less I was craving them. I can have some, but I didnt want them and now I really want them. He thinks he is being nice, but in the back of my mind I wonder if he wants me to stay plus sized. I will lose my boobs when I lose the weight and I know that bothers him.

Both of out parents are overweight. Prob considered obese. I dont want to live like that. I want to be able to go on long family hikes. My son is almost 2 and I want to spend alot of time outdoors, swimming,going to parks,hiking, bike riding ect

So do you think its possible that their are people in out lives that sub consciously sabotage our lifestyle change?

 

[maleficent]

If he's going t o white castle and having fast food then it's not an "our" lifestyle change...

There's no reason why you can't have the occassional treat (if you consider fast food a treat) but it shouldn't be a regular occurance..

You both need to be on the same page if you want the "our" to succeed... Ask him what he really wants...

And not all women lose their boobs when they lose weight - sadly mine have stayed put... I wish they'd get smaller

 

[LeaJnice]

If he's going t o white castle and having fast food then it's not an "our" lifestyle change...

There's no reason why you can't have the occassional treat (if you consider fast food a treat) but it shouldn't be a regular occurance..

he eats it alot. I eat it when Im in a crazy rush like once a month..

You both need to be on the same page if you want the "our" to succeed... Ask him what he really wants...

he wants to lose the weight he is just so tired from working all day. He does work really hard but its on a computer all day. He's a web developer. So he gets like no exercise. He's 5'8 and about 210 lbs or so. So hes bot huge but he could be healther. His body fat percentage is high.

And not all women lose their boobs when they lose weight - sadly mine have stayed put... I wish they'd get smaller

But I know they will. The only reason I have them is because of my son. I got them while pregnant. I lost 60 lbs before and went from a C to a barely B and I can already tell they are going down after 20 lbs

 

[Iwan naloseit]

Girl do I know where your coming from. My SO loves me and hates to see me struggle. He always thought that by cooking or buying the foods he knows I love that he's doing something nice. Also, he sees that I'm very grumpy when I've been on low calories for several days in a row, he just wants the happy me back so he does something like, makes pizza or tacos (my favorites). It irritates me to no end but I would end up eating it so as not to insult him because I know he's doing it because he cares.
I don't know what the solution to that problem is, my solution was the my SO got re-stationed 4000 miles away so now he lives elsewhere and I miss him terribly. I'd even eat tacos to have him back!
Maybe your guy is worried that you'll change so much that you won't have anything in common with him when you're thin. Jealousy too, maybe he's jealous that your being successful at weight loss and he is not. It could be many things. Maybe its time to sit down and really have a conversation about your feelings on the situation. don't hold back or he may not get the whole picture. He's got to understand that he's hurting you and holding you back all at once.

 

[allyphoe]

He thinks he is being nice, but in the back of my mind I wonder if he wants me to stay plus sized.

Have you told him that doing those things makes it harder for you? My partner has me make Wendy's runs / buy ice cream bars / cook tasty-but-caloric treats, but she knows that it doesn't bother me.

I hear ya on the "last to come, first to go" problem.