Still doesn't seem real to me
- Thread starter Liz31
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I know I should be proud at how much I have lost but I find it very hard to be proud off anything good I do.
I don't know if its just me who is like this but if I have ever do something that is good or something I should be proud off - I always find myself looking at the bad points and thinking I could have done better, other people would have done better. I think I feel like this now because when I was at child I as always class as the thicko one, the stupid one, and if I did do something that was good or an achievement there was always someone better than me. Oh well never mind eh.
I don't know if its just me who is like this but if I have ever do something that is good or something I should be proud off - I always find myself looking at the bad points and thinking I could have done better, other people would have done better. I think I feel like this now because when I was at child I as always class as the thicko one, the stupid one, and if I did do something that was good or an achievement there was always someone better than me. Oh well never mind eh.
Loch
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I think that you have to force yourself to see the bright side in situations. No one can tell you how to feel, how to think, only you can do that. You have to figure out what it is in you that makes you so critical. We're all in the same boat, in one way or another. You lost an amazing amount of weight, but sometimes it's not the weight that you need to work on. Sometimes it's what's on the inside that you need to work on.
Omega
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Congratulations on losing 6 stone. It is a brilliant achievement.
Lots of people have body image issues and have difficulty in knowing whether they have got to goal. Sometimes peoples heads can take time to catch up and think of yourself in your new size.
It sounds to me like your acceptance of your achievement and your new size is linked to this. I suspect that in time you will accept yourself as you are now.
Lots of people have body image issues and have difficulty in knowing whether they have got to goal. Sometimes peoples heads can take time to catch up and think of yourself in your new size.
It sounds to me like your acceptance of your achievement and your new size is linked to this. I suspect that in time you will accept yourself as you are now.
I can totally relate to you Liz. I have lost around the same weight as you earlier in my life. But not once did I really feel like I had accomplished something. When I looked in the mirror I saw the same person as before. I was also labeled the "stupid/fat/ugly one" in school (even though I was not fat at the time, not ugly and certainly not stupid - I was very intelligent, but still, everything I said and did was met with mocking laughter). I still struggle with feeling inferior to everyone else, and sometimes it even makes me want to quit my studies etc. But you just have to keep telling yourself that you are worth it, no matter if you believe in it or not. My motto is: if I just tell myself enough, maybe someday I'll believe it.
You should be proud of yourself for your accomplishments. I didn't see results even though they were there, but I see them now, looking back. So like Omega said, just give yourself time
You should be proud of yourself for your accomplishments. I didn't see results even though they were there, but I see them now, looking back. So like Omega said, just give yourself time