Starting back up again...before pics and a motivational pic
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there's really nothing wrong with how you look now...
what are you looking to achieve?
what are you looking to achieve?
sleepymal
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Actually after thinking about it...
I really just want to have smaller thighs and bottom area so I can wear more things because it's very hard to find sizes of pants that fit ...
for instance I can wear a size 4-6 size skirt but only size 9 or 10 for pants. I'd like to be able to swap clothes with my skinny friends and make my boyfriend happy since I'm much bigger than him (he's 120 on a good day) and I think he would take me out more if I was smaller.
I guess ... yeah that's what I want lol ...to wear a greater variety of clothes with confidence, please my boyfriend, and never have him call me fat anymore
I really just want to have smaller thighs and bottom area so I can wear more things because it's very hard to find sizes of pants that fit ...
for instance I can wear a size 4-6 size skirt but only size 9 or 10 for pants. I'd like to be able to swap clothes with my skinny friends and make my boyfriend happy since I'm much bigger than him (he's 120 on a good day) and I think he would take me out more if I was smaller.
I guess ... yeah that's what I want lol ...to wear a greater variety of clothes with confidence, please my boyfriend, and never have him call me fat anymore
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h34vyK1tt13
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Get acquainted with machines that work your inner and outer thighs, jogging may also be good to define the muscles in your legs. Also laying on your side and lifting your legs is a great workout. Other than that I don't see anything that bad. Oi, a good machine for your butt is an elliptical!
Jewels
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Do you call him skinny? Rake? Toothpick? Do you ask him where he has gone if he turns side ways or the wind blows?
I don't know anything about you or your relationship so please don't take any offense to what I'm saying but his attitude toward you is HARSH! Even if he's "joking." You shouldn't treat your significant other that way. You have a beautiful figure and the changes you make should be for YOU. Not because some guy who weighs 120lbs has a complex about his own size, so calls you fat. In my experience losing weight for someone else or on someone else's terms has always been temporary.
I do apologize if you find my reply offensive but I just can't believe your boyfriend would call you or anyone who has your frame fat. Feeling good about your body is hard enough without having someone call you fat.
I don't know anything about you or your relationship so please don't take any offense to what I'm saying but his attitude toward you is HARSH! Even if he's "joking." You shouldn't treat your significant other that way. You have a beautiful figure and the changes you make should be for YOU. Not because some guy who weighs 120lbs has a complex about his own size, so calls you fat. In my experience losing weight for someone else or on someone else's terms has always been temporary.
I do apologize if you find my reply offensive but I just can't believe your boyfriend would call you or anyone who has your frame fat. Feeling good about your body is hard enough without having someone call you fat.
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Aleeluh
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I agree with Mal.
Everyone has some things they dislike about themselves though! I hope you achieve whatever it is you are looking for
sleepymal
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Darn it I just typed up a post but I clicked and *poof*...
Anyhow, I would make him eat cake but he hates it and food in general (I am convinced atleast)
He's stopped up his verbal diarrhea lately so things are pretty good or atleast quit and that is good.
Oh! On the elliptical note...I bought one! muhahhah now to log some hours.
I also want to get a gym membership but not sure which one to choose since I'm in an odd area of town. maybe I'll check that out tomorrow
thank you for the support! It is very encouraging
And if anyone needs to rant about any obnoxious doings of bf/hubbies I'm always here to lend an ear!
Talk to guys later on the forums. . . ^_^*
Anyhow, I would make him eat cake but he hates it and food in general (I am convinced atleast)
He's stopped up his verbal diarrhea lately so things are pretty good or atleast quit and that is good.
Oh! On the elliptical note...I bought one! muhahhah now to log some hours.
I also want to get a gym membership but not sure which one to choose since I'm in an odd area of town. maybe I'll check that out tomorrow
thank you for the support! It is very encouraging
And if anyone needs to rant about any obnoxious doings of bf/hubbies I'm always here to lend an ear!
Talk to guys later on the forums. . . ^_^*
laurajj'smommy
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Really I think a good body role model for inspiration is you. You are what most men would see as the ideal woman as far as shape if I were you I would work on improving my self image and confidence (of course keep excercising it does wonders for mind/body/soul) kick your lil waif of a boy "friend" to the curb and find a real man a strong solid emotionally secure man with a body to match. You deserve a full grown woman loving man with some manners and common courtesy OMG if I had a figure like yours I'd be holding out for a sexy hunk with manners like Brad Pitt not a little bratty baby that weighs less than most 12 year olds, wait is he twelve years old? He acts it.
joosefu
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Hell yeah, just run everyday. Since most people don't implement running into their daily exercise, power walk or lightly jog for a mile. You'll see more energy and your leg muscles will become more defined, and you will loose weight at the same time after a week or two.
You look great already by the way, but since it's your body and you would like a little change I say just doing thigh exercise and swimming / jogging will benefit you the most.
You look great already by the way, but since it's your body and you would like a little change I say just doing thigh exercise and swimming / jogging will benefit you the most.
momma4alex
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I don't personally see anything wrong with how you look now and if you have someone that is telling you that there is something wrong. then you need to kick them to the curb. I don't know how your relationship is but my hubby has nothing but good things to say about how i look even when i looked like hell after just having our son. and believe me i looked like hell.. lol anyways, sorry if i come out strong or offensive in anyway but yoru man should love and support you for who you are not really how you look. Its more about how you feel about you and if your not happy work towards that. Good luck on achieving whatever it is you want.
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hickgurltx
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I agree w/everyone else as well..
You look fantastic as is..
Just my 2 cents as well Re: BF -
His butt would be kicked to the side and I'd wait for a man that respected me inside/out to come along!
That is emotional/verbal abuse in my opinion...{sayin' things in a joking type manner does not make a crap either!}
Before I met my fantastic hubby, I had a BF that did that kinda of crap with me.. Lightly at first and then it got much worse..
I was lil ms. perfect to.. Size 0-1 /115 lbs. {healthy..I'm 5'8}
His deal was makin' fun of my small chest and begging me to get a boob job and would also nick pick my hair, nose{I have Italian/Indian blood}, etc..
Finally one day I had enough and punched him dead square between the eyes and got rid of him for good!
A month later I met my hubby! {A Real Soul-Mate!}
Sweetie you are beautiful and don't let anyone EVER tell you different!
Everyone should exercise and eat right even if they are where they want to be.. Just set up goals that keep ya fit and healthy..
You look fantastic as is..
Just my 2 cents as well Re: BF -
His butt would be kicked to the side and I'd wait for a man that respected me inside/out to come along!
That is emotional/verbal abuse in my opinion...{sayin' things in a joking type manner does not make a crap either!}
Before I met my fantastic hubby, I had a BF that did that kinda of crap with me.. Lightly at first and then it got much worse..
I was lil ms. perfect to.. Size 0-1 /115 lbs. {healthy..I'm 5'8}
His deal was makin' fun of my small chest and begging me to get a boob job and would also nick pick my hair, nose{I have Italian/Indian blood}, etc..
Finally one day I had enough and punched him dead square between the eyes and got rid of him for good!
A month later I met my hubby! {A Real Soul-Mate!}
Sweetie you are beautiful and don't let anyone EVER tell you different!
Everyone should exercise and eat right even if they are where they want to be.. Just set up goals that keep ya fit and healthy..
sleepymal
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Thank you very much.
I'm not sure what to do with him and I've had a few people say that "you need to train him" but I guess I'm not good at that. Where he comes from women aren't treated very well and he's very spoiled. He's my best friend though and I wish he'd see me as being good enough in a girl way not just in his best bud kind of way.
I like myself. If it was up to me and if guys opinions were not involved at all I'd probably just lift weights and be as strong and fast and healthy as I could.
But he doesn't want that for me.
I don't know where I'm going with this but thank you for your comments.
They're very encouraging~
I'm not sure what to do with him and I've had a few people say that "you need to train him" but I guess I'm not good at that. Where he comes from women aren't treated very well and he's very spoiled. He's my best friend though and I wish he'd see me as being good enough in a girl way not just in his best bud kind of way.
I like myself. If it was up to me and if guys opinions were not involved at all I'd probably just lift weights and be as strong and fast and healthy as I could.
But he doesn't want that for me.
I don't know where I'm going with this but thank you for your comments.
They're very encouraging~
Would you listen to yourself hun? You're like "I wanna lift weights but BF doesn't want that for me". Who gives a rat's ass what he wants on your body?! He wants a toothpick so let him go find one, if he can. You are frankly nuts to try to fit in to how he wants your body to be. That is just silly. I say go for the weights and get you a nice toned body that accentuates and tones up your curves. If he doesn't like it..well..NEXT! P.S. Where is he from that he's such a chauvinist and wants you to be something you're not?
why doesn't he want it for you? afraid you'd kick his butt? He m ight enjoy it..
Do what you want to do - as long as you aren't hurting yourself -he should be supportive.. and if he's not supportive of you -well find someone who will be...
Do what you want to do - as long as you aren't hurting yourself -he should be supportive.. and if he's not supportive of you -well find someone who will be...
sleepymal
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yeah he probably is afraid I'll kick his butt. 
But yeah he's from Vietnam and he has this whole "women suck ...guys are cool" mentality like most guys I've met that are from there.
He thinks he's super cool cause he doesn't fill up his car with gas, he doesn't know how to do laundry, mow the lawn etc. If he doesn't get his way he screams and yells and throws things. It's normal to me, I guess, because my father was from the south and things were always like that growing up (well he knew how to do things but he didn't do them my mom did). Guys are awesome girls are crap or maybe ok...but not awesome that's my bf's mentality.
He's fun as a friend and we've broken up before and it was great actually we talk for hours and have lots of fun. But then of course we get along so great we get back together. Then it's not so great.
Sorry...I'm rambling...
But yeah he's from Vietnam and he has this whole "women suck ...guys are cool" mentality like most guys I've met that are from there.He thinks he's super cool cause he doesn't fill up his car with gas, he doesn't know how to do laundry, mow the lawn etc. If he doesn't get his way he screams and yells and throws things. It's normal to me, I guess, because my father was from the south and things were always like that growing up (well he knew how to do things but he didn't do them my mom did). Guys are awesome girls are crap or maybe ok...but not awesome that's my bf's mentality.
He's fun as a friend and we've broken up before and it was great actually we talk for hours and have lots of fun. But then of course we get along so great we get back together. Then it's not so great.
Sorry...I'm rambling...