Starting a new life

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Hi Everyone, my name is Sarah. I recently moved, and I am starting a new life...I would really like to lose 30lbs and be back to my healthy, happy, and confident self. I went to a gym the other day and gave it a trial but instead of feeling motivated i was really embarrased and ashamed of my body..any tips to get past this self esteem issue?
 
Hi Sarah.

I myself have decided to make a life change. While I can't offer any tips in your self esteem, what I can think is, the more you progress and lose weight the better you may feel about yourself which in turn, solves the problem itself.
 
While self-esteem is not my strong point, I can tell you that going to the gym can be devastating to those of us who really need it. I felt like a blob next to these ripped young studs who apparently have nothing better to do than spend hours in the gym lifting massive amounts of weights and posing for the young girls.:banghead:

Self esteem came for me with accomplishment. Going thru the effort and seeing some reward gave me that sense of accomplishment. Keeping the efforts and goals at the front of your brain, will help get thru hard times. I had a trainer at the time and he was never judgemental, always encouraging and helpful, knowing that keeping to going back was the way to see results.

Just look at the body you see inside that you are trying to let out.

I hope that helps, we're all in the process

Good luck, we're here for ya
Brian
 
Self esteem can be a big roadblock when it comes to going to the gym. The best way to overcome it, is to face it head on, and just walk over it. Sounds easier said than done, right?
Try complimenting yourself in the mirror everyday. You don't have to give yourself a ten minute lecture on how much you love yourself, nor is it necessary for you to point out all the flaws and forget the beauty that is you, but just point out one or two things you like physically, or even in other aspects as well.
Go to the gym, and just work your butt off, and as someone above me said, the satisfaction that comes with the success you'll have by working hard will be enough for you to feel like you can face them.
Theres no need to be embarrassed, a lot of them may have started off in your place. :)
 
Sarah,

I have to agree...the gym is for people that want and need to work out..but when the others are hot and ripped..they make it seem like u dont belong there....I do workouts at home and stuff like that..or go walking...have u looked in Curves or anything like that? to be around people....that have the same goals as you? I hope you find the strength to just go to the gym..and do your thing!!
 
Sarah
I as well hate walking into a place that I feel like everyone is watching me. But I realize that all those people are looking at themselves. lol I just always tell myself that I am here starting out they have been at a while.
Think of it this way it is very impressive to people to see others working out (especially those who need to). You will end up feeling proud of yourself and build you esteem with every trip to the gym. And when you see your success it will get easier to walk in. Be very proud of yourself for making the choice to change your life and don't let anyone stop you. Always tell yourself I AM WORTH IT!
Best wishes and welcome.
 
Sarah, Don't give up. Keep going to the gym. I felt the same way at the gym were I now work! When I started I was 200lb and they offered me a job in the daycare. I thought the members would think why is this fat person working here. Boy, was I ever wrong about how people see me. They have watched me take off 15lb and they are so supportive! I look at people around me working out and everyone is there for the same reason. To get exercise and be healthy they are not secretly thinking bad things about your weight. They are probably thinking, good for her for coming here to get healthy! So don't worry, if anyone is looking at you they are just taking in your before and waiting for your after! Good luck and be strong.
 
yeah when i joined a gym i was near 330lb, i felt the odd duck. Took about a month or two before people spoke to me or anything. Looking back i think its because a lot of people join, hang around for a month or so then never come back.
Self confidance comes with the weight loss - you dont get it before hand. Stick with the gym, stick with tons of cardio and s bunch of weights and a good diet :)
 
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Thanks Everybody :)
My Internet was down for a bit but I am up and running again! I have been everyday since the last post, but only yesterday I started to feel better. I even met somebody with similar goals who put things into perspective for me. They said, "We feel this need to be thin now, everything needs to be right now. But we are here, we are working at it..and it WILL happen. " It makes me realize..maybe right now I don't like the outside. But I will, every step I run on that treadmill I'm putting that old life behind..and taking new steps forward :)
 
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