Sorry, but I have to vent

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O2BESKINNY

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I know no one likes to listen to a winer, but I feel that I can spill my guts out and no one is going to judge me. Everybody has their off days and I guess I'm just having one of those. I do have some depression and anxiety issues and haven't had my "chill pill" for a while (can't afford then right now) so this is just a crazy idea but that might have some thing to do with the way I feel right now. I'm not at all dissapointed in my progress. It's be a long road and maybe it should be more but I have lost a total of 29lbs. I'm currently at 172, but this whole "lifestyle" change is very hard. Things at home are still the same and the support there is very slim to none. It's more like "um...oh good job". Boy I can feel the LOVE. I hate all ways talking negatively about my husband, but he's not much help. We are on a really, REALLY tight budget, so when it comes to shopping for food, it's hell. All he wants is junk food to eat and greasy, fat foods. Although, I'm not a total health nut, I do know that those are not the foods I should be eating. I do try to do the shopping by myself so I can at least get some healthy foods. One thing I do have to say is we have really cut out buying sodas. So that's a good start but I don't have a very strong will power and find myself slipping more and more everyday. Some times I think so what eat what ever, when ever, how ever much you want who cares it's my own life and I'll live it the way I want. But the thing is I do care. I wasn't happy at 200 and Im not happy with 172, and why in the world would I want to put 29 lbs back on and probably more, then I would be right back in the same boat. I just can not figure out how to make myself do it. All the right thoughts and goals are there. I know what I want and really know what I need to do, but how do I make myself do it? What do you do when you feel you just don't want to do it anymore?
~Becky
 
all you can do is take it day by day and bring in small changes... a diet of nothing but junk food isn't healthy for a person regardless if they have any weight issues - that's not to say that people need to turn into granola heads who eat nothing but pine cones and other stuff but enjoy stuff in moderation and slowly come over to a healthier style.

the lifestyle change should effect the rest of your life -the rest of your life is a long time... you should enjoy what you're eating...
 
I never feel that I just don't want to do it anymore. I am focused, and am not going to let anything deter me. In the past, before i got serious about this, I gave up when I didn't feel like doing it anymore.

I, too live with people who love their junk food and have no intention of changing. I see how it makes them (morbidly obese and very low quality of life, health problems galore) and it makes me that much more determined. I see that junk food and it hold little allure for me most of the time. I am no saint, mind you, and I do eat some crap occasionally--but i do it in moderation. If there's pizza, I'll have one or two small pieces. I'll have a spoonful of ice cream, a small piece of chocolate--but not all of the above in one day. A few times a week.

You just have to decide what you want more--to eat what you want, or to feel good about yourself and be healthy. You can only do so much to change your hubby. He won't change unless he wants to. You can only do what's best for you--and that is not giving up! :hug2::hug2:

Exercise will go a long way to offset any eating mishaps..btw. Make sure you are doing some weight training.
 
Definitely take it one day at a time. If you slip that's okay. And remember you're doing this for YOU. If the support isn't coming from home, find a friend or another family member to be your cheerleader! As for food choices, small steps at a time. Maybe focus on fruit instead of another type of snack or eating a double portion of veggies with half the usual side of meat or something. Small goals, girl and you'll be cruising. Way to go!

Cindy
 
yeah, no matter how you do it - you are gonna come accross people who just wont support you or help you loose the weight. You can choose to shrug it off and keep going, or let them ruin it for you.
But either way, its your choice, how dedicated are ya in the end i guess.

Its worth it once you're down to your goal weight - and hey if you're hot and hes not and hes feeling a little insecure that guys are now ogling you - then its worth getting him back *grin*
 
I will soon be 28 and I DO NOT want to be this big by the time I hit 30. Getting older scares the crap out of me as it is, but I think if I'm still this big by then it will just devastate me. I have always "thought" about doing something but never really tried. Now that I have lost some I am not about to give up. This change has given me the kick start I needed. But maybe you all could just give me some suggestions or tell me what you all do when things start to get a little rough? ~Thanks Becky

Wishes - That thought has come across my mind before (a couple of times):D
 
Eating better when you're on a budget can be difficult even when you don't have somebody offsetting you. Congrats on shopping alone. Also, don't forget about frozen and canned fruits and veggies as they are cheaper. Now there are low sodium or lite syrups to offset the traditionally bad reasons for eating canned goods. Don't forget about portion control. Eating junk is bad, eating smaller portions of junk is better. Exercise, exercise, exercise. Remember, as long as your using more calories then you're taking in, you'll lose weight. For instance, my BF's father is literally addicted to exercise (to a very unhealthy point- 5 hours a day at least) and he can eat a whole cake and it doesn't show on his body (not suggesting that AT ALL, just an example). You can do it.
Also, your husband may not being supportive because he's insecure about losing you when you look great. Have a serious discussion with him about it. Is he overweight too?
 
hello! relax girl!! ok i dont have a husband so i wouldnt know (i'm still in high school) but i think that's how guys are. the guys in my school are forever eating junk and they dont really care about the whole girl issue about losing weight. SO GET A GIRL FRIEND TO GO THROUGH THIS WITH YOU! :) you can make a compromise with him. like he buys enough junk to eat by himself, and you eat healthier stuff. as in, it doesnt have to be all those health organic food etc coz i personally will never survive eating like those weird soups day in and out. you may be busy working, but if you cook at home (you can adjust like put less salt and more veggies), it turns out better in the long run. and i dunno, but for me its just that i feel better and more "alive" eating this than eating junk.

and exercising once in awhile isnt a bad idea. like if you had a bad day at work, go for a jog or a walk. it'll make you feel good for the rest of the day. fresh air works wonders :)

break a leg. all the best !
there'll always be ppl supporting you.
 
i dunnno, im anti relying on somebody else to loose weight. To easy to just use it as an excuse to quit
ie "Oh well shes not feeling well so she cant run so i wont bother .." which just gets worse and worse.
or "well she ate a cake so ill eat a cake .."

You can diet on a budget just as well as without. its not expensive to loose weight at all. I mean i manage to feed a family of 6 on about $120-150 per week, my husbands a junk food addict, and my oldest son a sugar addict.
I ignored their bad influences (though i did do the odd growl) and lost weight dispite all that, and in fact they saw me change and changed their own ways fairly substantially because of it (without me nagging)
 
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