Sex & Your weight.

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hopefullysoon1

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I'm very insecure about my body and that insecurity plays into my sex life. I feel bad because my SO thinks I'm the most beautiful thing in the world even now but I want sex with lights out and with me being covered as much as possible. I know if I was thin I would not have this problem but since I'm still in the process of losing weight I have to deal with this problem. My question is.. How many of you are like this? For those of you that your weight does not effect your sex life how can I get to that point? Thanks for any advice/comments.:blush5:
 
thats a personal issue. you have to be able to accept your body and understand that you are the shit.

until then you want be truly happy.
 
My Fiance has the same problem. Ever since we started going out (i was 30lbs lighter than now, and she was 10lbs heavier than now), she's wanted to have the lights off and under the covers..
Eff that!.. i mean.... we came to a "compromise"..

A night-light next to the bed (not quite strong enough to read by, but i can at least make out the color of her eyes).. start off under the covers with the cuddling/etc.. and once things start "heating up".. off goes the covers... she doesn't want sweat in her eyes and I like the view.. compromise ;)

I cant help thinking she's a beauty, and she "claims" that i'm still attractive to her.. so i dont think she minds all that much.. but its surely a self-conscious thing..

A little "mood teasing" and pre-bedroom foreplay goes a LONG way toward making the lights on/off a non-issue.. "heat of the moment" kind of thing.

my 0.02.
 
So this might make it better or worse.. but it is what it is...

When your SO touches you - in the dark - do you not think that they cannot feel every bump, bulge, everyhting you try so hard to cover up with sheets or itchy lingerie... Do you really think they care? They wouldn't be knockin' boots with you if they were turned off by you....

Lights lowered make most people look better -lights out is entirely too much effort - why make the poor person have to find you and the good parts?

Ooorr try this..

Blindfolds - add some fun to your play...
 
LandonsBaby said:
Being thinner isn't going to help. You have to work on the inside to fix this problem.
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Exactly. I always thought it would, but I'm only 113 lbs and still struggle with this sometimes. Some people think that being thinner is the key to all happiness, but I can tell you first hand that it's not.
 
I agree with maleficent and landonsbaby.

What some people don't clue in on is its YOU and not always your size/weight that makes you feel this way. Its about confidence, not how obese or slender you are. You can lose all the weight you want and still feel too self conscious to leave the lights on, or show all your body; equally, you could be 300 pounds and have every light in the house on and a blanket free bed for sex.
 
If you're self conscious, you're going to always be self conscious of something whether its your weight or hair or skin etc etc. You have to accept you as you...and it looks like your significant other has already
 
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