Scared of the scale

Bad day yesterday, real bad day. I had a bad food binge. Really disappointed with myself. You'd think that after all this time of knowing the good things to eat, I'd avoid all of the crap foods like the plague...but I don't. Ah well today is a new day and I'm going leave the events of yesterday behind me.
 
Cardio free for the day?

Good morning,

I went to the gym with all the intention of weight training, but alas as soon as I got to the weight room, that junk was filled to the brim. There were people waiting to use the machines. Alas, I didn't get any kind of weight training in yesterday. So I went and did more cardio...it's starting to get a little boring so in order to fight the boredom I've been trying to change up the workouts by doing different types of interval training. It seems to be working and I'm having fun doing it but I'm just itching to get into the weight room and really work those muscles. Oh well, I'm going to try again today and try and make it there before it becomes over crowded. Hopefully I'll be successful. If not, it's another day of cardio.
 
I love all the cool, helpful facts you've posted. Some of the tips sound so easy, but they're often way harder than they sound. Like eating two fewer cookies... seems so straightforward until the cookie tray is in front of you. Haha
It really sucks when the gym is crowded. Lucikly, I go to my university gym, so it's pretty empty in the summer when most of the students have gone home. I love it. :) Sorry that you didn't get your weights in the other day. I hope you had better luck yesterday!
 
Sweet temptation

Sometimes I wish weight loss was a lot easier and faster. I was surfing the interweb and I ran across this site advertising ephedrap57, a dietary supplement that claims to help you lose weight fast. The pictures and the testimonials looked so convincing and tempting....ah but I know about the short term effects of fast weight loss and I've also heard about all of the crazy things that happened to folks on ephedra. This is really just a rant, I wanna lose the weight, quick and be done with having to count calories and just focus on maintance, but I know that there is no such thing as quick weight loss. I guess the real thing is that I'm just tired of having to always be so careful about what I eat, how much of it I eat and feeling guilty about having consumed too many calories for the day. I wonder if anyone else feels like this at times?
 
I know I feel that way lots of times. It especially pisses me off when some of my thin friends can pig out and drink cocktails and have dessert and NEVER exercise and NEVER gain weight! Weird, isn't it? But then I look at what I'm doing and realize that I'm not just living for right now... I have to consider where I'm going to be in 20 or 30 years. Do I want to spend my 20's treating my body like that, only to be out of shape and lazy at 50? No way. I'm building a strong foundation for good health right now. That's why I always try to encourage my thin friends to take better care of their bodies. But because their bodies look good, they don't seem to be concerned about their health! It's the same way with those diet pills - you'll be skinnier, but it won't help you gain any strength or endurance. It'll actually put HUGE amounts of stress or your cardiovascular system. Those pills are crazy shit! Some people might be skinner than us, but I doubt they will be as healthy as us in the future.
 
I know I feel that way lots of times. It especially pisses me off when some of my thin friends can pig out and drink cocktails and have dessert and NEVER exercise and NEVER gain weight! Weird, isn't it? But then I look at what I'm doing and realize that I'm not just living for right now... I have to consider where I'm going to be in 20 or 30 years. Do I want to spend my 20's treating my body like that, only to be out of shape and lazy at 50? No way. I'm building a strong foundation for good health right now. That's why I always try to encourage my thin friends to take better care of their bodies. But because their bodies look good, they don't seem to be concerned about their health! It's the same way with those diet pills - you'll be skinnier, but it won't help you gain any strength or endurance. It'll actually put HUGE amounts of stress or your cardiovascular system. Those pills are crazy shit! Some people might be skinner than us, but I doubt they will be as healthy as us in the future.


Thank you, thank you!!!! That is just what I needed to hear. I guess I just needed someone to put it into prospective for me.
 
Curb your emotional eating

Food starts off as being not just a source of life but an expression of love. At the heart of almost every culture, hospitality is shown by feeding people. And a celebration or a time of grief wouldn't be complete without food.

Using food for reasons other than for simple sustenance is a normal part of life. It becomes a problem when food becomes so closely linked with feelings that the two overlap and become one. The foundation for this starts in childhood: "When I was good I got a cookie;" "On summer nights we went to the lake to get ice cream;" "Sitting at the kitchen table eating bologna sandwiches and chips was the only time I had with my mother;" "When I misbehaved dessert was withheld."

Food was transformed from a simple source of nutrition to a reward, a diversion, a punishment, a love object, a friend. Once that happened, food became a way to control your emotions and to deal with your feelings of powerlessness.

Why has food become the thing that you consistently turn to when feelings triggered by people or events feel unbearable?

Food serves two very effective purposes. First, it helps you avoid feelings. I call the desire to avoid emotions the "feeling phobia." Also, food gives you a way to replace bad feelings with the pleasurable experience of eating. I call the pleasurable experience that food provides the "food trance."

In short, eating protects you from the feelings that you don't want to feel. If your feelings open the door to your interior world, then eating slams the door shut.

It keeps you functioning on a surface level, and although you feel powerless to control what and how much you eat, at least you don't have to focus on the deeper things that really make you feel powerless (including failed relationships, unsatisfying careers, and difficult children).

Many people report to me that as they're approaching their goal weight they often sabotage themselves and all of their efforts. They wonder why that is. It doesn't seem to make any sense. In fact, you may be able to relate to that experience.

The answer, time and again, proves to be simple: if you didn't have your weight to think about you might have to think about what's really bothering you, and that's very frightening, because I know that you feel powerless to change the things that really bother you.

You've made what I call the "unexamined powerlessness conclusion." It's a conclusion that you're powerless over your feelings and the circumstances in your life that the feelings point toward, so you might as well eat.



Excerpt from Shrink Yourself reprinted with the permission of John Wiley & Sons, Inc. Copyright 2007 by Roger Gould

Why Do You Eat?

When you've installed food as a preferred way to cope, you stop developing new ways to deal with stress, your weight becomes increasingly difficult to control, and ultimately you end up reinforcing your feelings of powerlessness.

In simple terms, when something happens to bother you (such as a person ignoring you), it makes you feel bad, and you suddenly have the uncontrollable urge to eat.

Then, when you eat more than you know you should, it's always followed by regret, self-hatred and extra pounds.

For many of you, the moment when something bothers you overlaps with the moment when you suddenly have the uncontrollable urge to eat. For instance, my patient Gloria, a married woman who is 33-years-old and 30 pounds overweight, told me about an eating episode that occurred after an argument with her husband.

I asked her why she chose to eat to deal with how she was feeling. She responded, "What other choice did I have?"

In the next half hour of the session, we developed six other things that she could've done instead of eating.

For example, she could have taken responsibility for her part of the argument or done something to relax, like going for a walk or taking a bath, to buy herself some time to think things through and clarify her feelings.

Why You Eat When You're Bothered

I was struck over the years by how many people were similar to Gloria. Something happened, and they felt that there wasn't any other choice but to deal with what happened by eating.

By choosing food, they totally relinquished their ability to solve problems and deal with their lives in a mature and empowered way. The only way to recover that power is to pause long enough to determine what other options you have besides eating when something in life troubles you.

Even though it may not be obvious that something happened that bothered you, if you suddenly find yourself starving when you know you've just eaten, you can logically suspect that you've been emotionally triggered in some way.

Extensive research has shown that you're not really starving in those moments. It's almost always emotional hunger that drives you: a fight with a spouse, an uncomfortable work situation, a lull in your work day, a needy parent or child, your life, your future, your past. It's something that sets off a brief episode of powerlessness.

This book is really about finding the space between when something has affected you and your sudden urge to eat (which is not real hunger), and then exploring what goes on in your mind when you have that uncontrollable urge.

Up until now, the emotions and issues that fuel the urge to eat have been operating behind the scenes, sabotaging all of your good intentions.
 
So glad I could be of assistance, O. :)
Wow... that part about sabotaging your efforts when you near your goal weight freaks me out! I started to feel myself doing that when I got about 5 lbs from my original goal weight. Luckily, I have reigned myself in a little. Once again, a very helpful post!
 
No gym

I haven't been to the gym in a few days and I didn't get a chance to go today either. But I countered that with a lot of heavy lifting and moving. My dad is retiring and will be headed back to Nigeria to enjoy his freedom from work so we've been helping him with all of his packing and moving lots of stuff around. I was complaining about not beeing able to get to the gym and weight lift, and I got lots of it in today just moving boxes, beds and huge wall units. I also got in crazy amounts of cardio. The vacuum is broken so I actually had to bust out the broom and sweep a 3 floor house. I swept the entire first floor, dusted and washed dishes. My heart was pumping like I had done 30 minutes on the treadmill. I feel really good. Oh funny thing, I realized that my friends have become obsessed with my relationship with GYM. Everyone email message they've sent me has someone asking how GYM's doing and if I've seen him lately. Funny stuff everyone knows that I've become a massive gym aholic.

Breakfast

Grilled cheese sandwich on low carb bread: 170 calories

Lunch
Spaghetti with Broccoli: 300 calories

Dinner
Tuna?
 
Gymaholic isn't such a bad thing is it? Of course.. it looks and sounds like some sort of illness or disease. Gymaholic. :rotflmao: I think I'm doing well if I make it to the gym 3 times a week.
 
Personally, I'm proud of you and Gym and hope you live a long and happy life together. I just hope you're ok with the fact that he's a total slut and is in a relationship with just about everybody on here. :p Congrats on being recognized as a gymaholic!
 
Comfort Food: Not Always about Feeling Blue

We all have our comfort foods like mashed potatoes, Sloppy Joes, and macaroni and cheese just to name a few favorites. Contrary to popular belief, we generally seek out these "comfort foods" when we are already comfortable. A recent study conducted by the Cornell Food and Brand Lab revealed that people were more likely to seek out comfort foods when they were in upbeat moods - 86% associated comfort food with happiness and 74% used comfort foods to reward themselves. In contrast, 39% of the subjects sought out comfort foods when they were depressed and/or lonely.

Comfort foods help us maintain positive feelings or soothe us. When we're in a bad mood, dishes like macaroni and cheese give a quick bump of euphoria since all those carbs help make serotonin the "happy brain chemical."

Many diets fail because dieters think they need to completely swear off their favorite comfort food forever. I am here to say that is just not the case. Go ahead and reward yourself just pay attention to: the portion size, the emotions behind the eating and experiment with non-food rewards.
 
Personally, I'm proud of you and Gym and hope you live a long and happy life together. I just hope you're ok with the fact that he's a total slut and is in a relationship with just about everybody on here. :p Congrats on being recognized as a gymaholic!

Hahaha, so true. I've had a lot of people tell me that. But I love it, being a gymaholic is fun stuff. Except I didn't go the last 2 days because of the terrible rain that new york city has been getting and then all that junk with the exploding manhole cover, crazy times.
 
Accident prone

So, ah here I am again writing about another accident I've gotten myself into. This time it's not my ankle, but rather my right knee; the same knee I injured my sophmore year in h.s. that has been progressively getting worse as I've gotten older. Well, I've got this horrible aching feeling going from my knee cap all the way to the top of my hip. It feels asleep and I'm not liking it. Plus everytime I get up, my knees pop...imagine the sound of a crumbling newspaper and that's what my knee popping sounds like.

I've got an appointment with the doctor on Tuesday and I'm hoping that he'll give me something to help the pain. With my knees being out of commission, I haven't been to the gym in about 2 weeks. It sucks because sometimes I feel as though I actually feel myself gaining weight. Then I rush on over to the scale and it reads the same. Ahhhh, I hate this feeling. Plus, I've been noticing that my appetite has increased A LOT. I constantly find myself feeling hungry, I mean real hungry. I try and curb the hunger pangs by eating fruit and drinking water, but it doesn't help and by the time an hour has passed, I feel as though I haven't eaten in like 6 hours.

I think I'll speak to my doctor about this when I go and see him. I hope that it's nothing bad. One more bit of crap news, I'm stuck at a plateau. I don't understand why my body just doesn't want to drop these measly 4lbs so that I can finally hit 170. I mean it's not as though I haven't been much thinner than that before in my life. My sophmore year, I was down to a solid and healthy 160lbs and I wasn't even trying. I played volleyball and ate lots of crap food. I mean real crap food...pizza every day, soda, fast food, chocolate, cookies, cakes, candy everything and I actually ended up losing 20lbs.

I remember when I went to the doctors office and he told me I was 160lbs. I almost fell over from the shock of it all. Now I'm actually making a conscious effort to eat right and I got nothing. I just hope I can kick this plateau in the butt. Does anyone have any tips or tricks that they've used to help them break through a plateau??? Alright no more bad news, only good news. After going through a couple of interviews, I was called back to enter round 2 of the interview process with the Administration for Children's Services over here in NYC. The second interview is Aug. 16th and if all goes well, I'll be a brand spanking new Child Protective Specialist (read social worker). I'm excited and hope I can convey my enthusiam to the hiring manager. Alright I'm going to go and pop an advil and hope that helps with the dull aches.
 
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Ouch! Sorry about the knee. :( That sounds bad. You definitely need to see a doctor. When you injured it the first time, did you get physiotherapy? You should definitely mention to your doctor about possibly getting some physio for it. Otherwise, you'll probably just keep injuring it in the future.

I haven't experienced any major plateaus, but I know that cheat days help with that. If you're eating fairly low calories all the time, bump it up for a day or two and make sure you do that at least every couple of weeks.

Congrats on the second interview! Good luck with it as well. :D
 
the same knee I injured my sophmore year in h.s. that has been progressively getting worse as I've gotten older.

Does anyone have any tips or tricks that they've used to help them break through a plateau???

The second interview is Aug. 16th and if all goes well, I'll be a brand spanking new Child Protective Specialist (read social worker).

Ugh--that is my worst nightmare!!:eek: A sports injury that impedes my athleticism. I'm so sorry, F.P.--I wish you the best! :hug2:

On plateaus-- Try to re-examine your diet. I found I am not losing weight because I'll just eat to maintenance. It's so simple, it sucks :p It is NOT always the case but since it is supposed to be energy in, energy out---it every well could be.

And WOW! That is impressive!!!!! Hope you get it!!! :D
 
Eat Right without thinking

20 secrets to eat what you love and still get the body you want.
By Holly McCord & Virginia Leoni Moles, Men's Health

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As new college kids ditch home life for campus life, many of them face the dreaded freshman 15. But the sudden weight gain could affect any of us, as we pack away our bathing suits and begin purchasing heavier sweaters and sweatshirts that can potentially hide bulging bellies underneath.

When summer ends, we eat more, because we can get away with it. We're not as likely to bare our midsections and no longer will we strut ourstuff on the beach. That means more nights of ordering out pizza, and over-doing dessert.

To prevent fall weight gain, adopt some of the following smart habits. These 20 simple tactics—if you stick to them regularly—will help you get more of the stuff you need into your diet while eliminating the stuff you don't. The best part? Before long you'll be dining like a nutrition expert, without even thinking about it.

At breakfast, put coffee in your milk instead of milk in your coffee.

Fill your mug to the rim with skim milk first thing in the morning. Drink it down until all that's left is the amount you'd normally add to your coffee; then pour your java on top. You just took in 25 percent of the vitamin D you need every day, and 30 percent of the calcium.

Take your vitamins every morning.

Study by study, evidence is mounting that a standard multivitamin fills enough of the gaps in your diet to make a real difference. For example, a recent study at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Institute in Seattle showed that people who took a multivitamin supplement and 200 I.U. of vitamin E for 10 years were half as likely to get colon cancer.

Drink two glasses of water before every meal.

This will do two things: keep you hydrated and make you eat a little less. A Dutch study showed that drinking two glasses of water can make you feel less hungry, possibly reducing your food intake and aiding weight loss.

Always order your pizza with double tomato sauce and light cheese.

Men who eat a lot of tomato products tend to have less prostate cancer—probably because tomatoes are a rich source of lycopene, a type of carotenoid that's believed to cut your risk of cancer. If you double the sauce on your pizza, you get double the lycopene. Reducing the mozzarella by just one-third (you won't miss it) will save you 20 grams of fat. That's as much as in a McDonald's Quarter-Pounder.

Always order your sandwiches with double tomato slices.

Another chance for a healthy dose of lycopene.

Pile onions on everything.

Research has revealed that onions are so healthful—they're a top source of heart savers called flavonoids—that it's practically your duty to eat them lavishly on hot dogs, pizza, burgers, and sandwiches. And speaking of junk food...

Whenever you eat fast food, drink two glasses of water afterward.

Big Macs, subs, fries, and pepperoni pizza are all loaded with fat and sodium, which can be hellish for your heart. You can't do much about the fat once you've eaten it, but you can flush away some of the excess sodium by drinking plenty of fluid afterward, says Tina Ruggiero, R.D., a New York City dietitian.

When the waitress asks what you want to drink, always say iced tea.

The more we learn about tea, the more healthful it looks. A recent U.S. Department of Agriculture study found that a serving of black tea had more antioxidants—crucial to your body's defense against heart disease, cancer, and even wrinkles—than a serving of broccoli or carrots.

Have an afternoon snack every day at 3 o'clock.

A nutritional boost between lunch and dinner wards off fatigue and keeps you from overindulging later, says Keith Ayoob, Ed.D., R.D., director of the nutrition clinic at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine's Rose F. Kennedy Center. Just don't scarf down a candy bar. Try yogurt and fruit, crackers and cheese, or eat an egg (hard-boiled), an apple, and a thirst-quencher like bottled water. All of these foods will give you long-lasting energy.

Always leave the skin on your fruit.

If you peel apples or pears, you're throwing away heavy-duty nutrients and fiber. Same goes for potatoes. Go ahead and peel oranges, but leave as much of the fibrous white skin under the rind as you care to eat—it's loaded with flavonoids. Ditto for the white stem that runs up the middle.

Put a bottle of water in the office freezer every night before you leave work.

You already know that you should drink eight glasses of water a day, but how are you supposed to do it? Fill a half-gallon bottle in the morning, and make sure you've downed it all by the time you go home. If you like your water cold and you have access to a refrigerator, fill the bottle partially the night before and stick it in the freezer. Next morning, fill it the rest of the way. You'll have ice-cold water all day.

Whenever you buy grapefruit, go for red instead of white.

Remember lycopene, that stuff in tomatoes that may fight prostate cancer? It's what makes tomatoes red. And it's responsible for the color in ruby red grapefruit. (Watermelon and guava also have some.)

Eat salmon every Wednesday.

Actually, the day doesn't matter; the important thing is to have it once a week. Salmon is a rich source of omega-3 fatty acids, a type of fat most experts say we don't get enough of. Omega-3s seem to keep the heart from going into failure from arrhythmia—men who eat fish once a week have fewer heart attacks—and they may even ward off depression. A weekly serving of salmon should supply the amount of omega-3 fats you need.

Always wash your meat.

Here's an easy way to cut the fat content of your secret chili recipe: As soon as you finish browning the ground beef, pour it into a dish covered with a double thickness of paper towels. Then put another paper towel on top and blot the grease. If you want to remove even more fat, dump the beef into a colander and rinse it with hot (but not boiling) water. The water will wash away fat and cholesterol. Using these methods together can cut 50 percent of the meat's fat content.

Whenever you have salad, keep the dressing on the side.

Here's the drill: Dip your fork in the dressing first, then spear a piece of lettuce, then eat it. Sound dumb? In fact, it's one of the smartest habits you can have. Four tablespoons of, say, honey-mustard dressing can have 60 grams of fat—nearly an entire day's worth for an average guy.

Whenever you eat broccoli, put a little margarine, olive oil, or cheese sauce on it.

This is our kind of nutrition advice. Broccoli is a rich source of beta-carotene—one of the major antioxidants your body needs. But beta-carotene is fat-soluble, which means it has to hitch a ride on fat molecules to make the trip through your intestinal wall. Without a little fat in the mix, your body won't absorb nearly as much beta-carotene.

Always have seconds on vegetables.

If we had to pick one food that represents the best insurance for long-term good health, vegetables would be it. Your daily goal: Three servings minimum. A serving, by the way, is ½ cup. Think of a tennis ball—it's about half a cup in volume.

Do a fat analysis before every meal.

It's tempting to go fat-free at breakfast and lunch so you can indulge in a high-fat dinner. Wrong. Studies show that, for several hours after you eat a meal with 50 to 80 grams of fat, your blood vessels are less elastic and your blood-clotting factors rise dramatically. William Castelli, M.D., director of the Framingham Cardiovascular Institute, says, "The immediate cause of most heart attacks is the last fatty meal." Spread your fat intake over the whole day.

Always eat (a little) dessert.

Here's why: Sweets such as cookies and low-fat ice-cream bars signal your brain that the meal is over. Without them, you might not feel satiated - which might leave you prowling the kitchen all night for something to satisfy your sugar jones.

Eat a bowl of dry cereal every night before you go to bed.

A low-fat, low-calorie carbohydrate snack eaten 30 minutes before bed will help make you sleepy, says Judith Wurtman, Ph.D., of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. The nutrition bonus? Cereal is one of the easiest ways to reduce your fiber deficit. (Most men eat only half the 25 to 35 grams of fiber they need daily.) So pick a cereal that has at least 5 grams of fiber per serving.
 
Weird... I have never heard of some of those things. I'm not sure I could eat a bowl of cereal before bed. That would hurt my tummy! I really like the one about rinsing meat though. I already do the paper towel thing, but I have never thought of rinsing it in a colander.
 
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