Scared Of Failing

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breatheme

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I’m not really a newcomer. I joined about 2 months ago and I’ve been delaying..

My story goes..I decided about 9 months ago that I was serious about changing my eating habits. I successfully lost 30llbs since then. Which is good...but isn’t great. I hit a plateau (I’m stuck at 210 (5’7) )about 3 months ago and somehow it made me feel less motivated. And ever since then I’ve just been “screw this whole diet/lifestyle thing”. I had journals and motivators and I just hid them..literally. I realized I was so frustrated that I just gave up. I hate myself for giving up because quitters never win and winners never quit. Now I’m back and I feel motivated (just as I did 9 months ago) and I’m scared that I will fall back into my old patterns and just give up.

I think my main problem is motivation. It gets hard. I guess you can say I’m the only overweight person in my family and because of that I don’t really feel comfortable talking to my mom about my weight issues. When she goes grocery shopping she buys healthy foods but she also buys the “snacks” and it gets really hard to ignore them. I’m not blaming her but it gets really hard.

While I’m going in school I recently started working. I find that when I come home from my 3-9 shift I eat the most mainly because my lunch break is 4 and by the time I get home its about 10:15(that leaves about 6 hrs in between) and I’m starving so I just eat the quickest and easiest thing I can find. This is a problem because the quickest and easiest thing isn’t always the “healthiest”. I need to find a solution to deal with that along with my cravings. I’m hoping this weight-loss forum is the motivation that I need.

“Diets don’t fail people, people fail diets”
 
Hi Breatheme! :seeya: What kind of job do you have? Is there anyway you could drink maybe a protein shake or something a couple hours after your lunch break? Or maybe a "meal" bar of some kind? Glad to see you're newly motivated! :D
 
The fact that you're on here shows you haven't lost your motivation. I know what you mean about peaks and and valleys, as long as you find your way back on to your path. Sorry I couldn't say much to help but welcome to the forum and I hope you find increased motivation. My suggestion is to get on a treadmill or bicycle where you can MEASURE that your heart rate is really high and do interval cardio that way. I have lost four inches off my waist since September doing that, though not many pounds. I don't care so much about the pounds. just excited to get results almost immediately once I started in the gym. Good luck.
 
Welcome. You are doing the right thing by joining this forum. You will get support you need to face this challenge. You also can try have nuts and cereal bars on hand. I find if I wait to long to eat I over eat when I get around to it. They also make protein bars that are pretty good. I would never suggest eating only them in place of a meal. But they are good when you need to eat and can't sit and eat a proper meal. Maybe just buy the snacks (100 cal) that will support your goal and keep them around in your home. Maybe you will be less tempted by the others snacks you mom buys. You could maybe suggest to her when you she is shopping to maybe pick some up for you. That way you can let her know in an easy way that you would like to be more healthy.
You can do this and I hope my suggestions will help as little as they are. I have friends that can eat anything anytime and when we get together I do bring my own snacks. Good luck to you. Tina:grouphug:
 
Office work..as long as we're at our desk we're pretty much allowed to do anything as long as it looks professional. Instead of drinking coffee during my break I'll switch to a shake or a protein bar..

Like me my mother has a sweet tooth. I go gorcery shopping with her and shes always like "I need something sweet in the house to munch on". The only problem is she doesn't gain the weight..I do. I think I'm going to start baking my own treats so I'm not tempted by hers.

thanks everyone for all the support :) and encouragement!!!
 
I have a sweet tooth too.. so i know how that goes.. have you tried granola bars, some even have chocolate in them.. or quaker has something called mini delights.. like multigrain cakes.. drizzled in chocolate or the 100 calorie packs they have.. those are the things i turn to when i need something sweet so i dont ruin my whole day..
 
I just read an article about breaking bad habits(such as eating bad food)that really hit home.It takes 21 days at least to break a habit and even when you've broke the bad habit you need to replace it with something else to fill the void otherwise you will end up repeating your old unhealthy habits.So in other words...when you want to eat the bad food do something else for a moment until you can refocus and then go back and hopefully choose something healthy.It has to be the same replacement everytime so that it triggers your mind into your new habit when you go for the old habit.I've started grabbing a glass of water to drink and at the same time I grab my motivational picture of what I'm striving to look like.So far it's working like a charm...once I see that picture I have no desire to eat the evil food.Besides ..the water fills me up to.Hope that helps!!
 
For me, the best way to get rid of a sweet tooth, is to deny myself any sweets for a few days. No juice, diet pop, fruit, cookies etc.

Then once you are accustomed to no sweets, grab a piece of fruit. It will taste delicious and your buds will be happy again. The beauty is that you can satisfy your cravings with something healthy.

Personally, I never eat fruit without a bit of protein to slow down the spike in blood sugar. So I always keep some nuts around, like raw unsalted almonds. Have 20 of these with your fruit and you will be satisfied for several hours.

Hope this helps.

As for motivation, consider reading as much about general health stuff. Being heavy is unhealthy... I wish it wasn't true.
 
those are some good tips..Sometimes I put my ipod on to full blast if I'm craving something. Or I'll tell my mom to turn off all the lights downstairs so it freaks me out to go downstairs for late night snacks..lol.
 
Breathe, I'd also suggest putting some healthy things in ziploc bags in the fridge ready to go for your snacks when you get home. fruit already washed and bagged if it's something like grapes. Precut the fixings for salad and have thsoe seperated into bags too so all you have to do is put them into a bowl and add a little dressing. Keep nuts and dried cranberries or raisins already mixed and in serving size bags too. It might take you about a half an hour one day to prepare it all, but you'll be set for the workweek or at least reduce the nights you eat the unhealthy stuff to one or two nights. BTW, I love dried cranberries and almonds together. YOu still have to keep an eye on quantity, but it's a nice healthy snack. Hint, look for dried cranberries with no added sugar.
 
Yesterday I went to the grocery store and invested into some ziploc bags. I used to pre-cut veggies and fruits but I got lazy. But I'm on track now. There are some chips and ice cream in the kitchen that are calling my name and its taking a lot to not eat them. It's going to take a couple days to break the habbits but I'm prepared!!!
 
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