Rho's Diary

I don't care about the inch loss, I don't care that I'm fitting into smaller clothes and looking better in them, I don't care that people remark on my weight loss.

Rho the only problem that I see with this message is above. You have to care about those things because your measurements and the way your clothing fits are the single best gauge of how you're really doing. You're in a 'plateau' is all, just like I was 1 month ago, and I'm doing ok at the moment. Keep some faith that soon you're going to see the number go down. Miss Ladybug is in a 'plateau' at the moment, but like you, she's losing inches and wearing stuff she hasn't worn in years. All the hard work you've been putting in at the gym isn't all for naught, you're doing an amazing job and I know that scale will reflect it eventually, but until it does, fuck the scale and be proud of what you've accomplished! I am proud of you and you just keep doing what you're doing, just don't overdo it out of frustration. :hug2:
 
Sweetheart, I think Cannon said it all in a post to my diary yesterday:¨
http://weight-loss.fitness.com/weig...iette-cross-training-romeo-29.html#post275357
To make you feel slightly better, this morning my scale showed me a number higher than the one from which I started my personal summer challenge on May 28th. That's about 4 pounds more than yesterday. That's after gathering about 12000 calories deficit in these 3+ weeks. And this probably, because I ate out with my mom yesterday = a decent size portion of pasta with A LOT OF SODIUM in it and didn't drink nearly enough water. Other explanations defy the laws of human physiology so much, that they can't really be considered.
I'm wearing a pair of fitted bermudas I sewed myself when I was on 7th grade, 14-15 years old. Wore them then. The number on the scale then was about 128 lbs. Wore them yesterday = 146.5, am currently wearing them, scales today = 150.5. You come and tell me, it's the scale that matters??? :confused:
Am I going to say, all my hard work at the gym and healthy eating has been in vain? HELL, NO!!! I'm in better shape and feel better than maybe ever in my life. I'd say I don't look too bad either. At 33 that's a very nice feeling. :D
What if your number on the scale yesterday was the same kind of anomaly like mine today? How much are you going to let it affect your life? A mechanical object known to be incredibly inaccurate???
Would you rather feel the sense of achievement from your gym visit yesterday and all the days before that? Would you rather enjoy the power you have over how you live and feel?
You wrote:
So much for this lifestyle change. It seems it's good for maintaining a weight, but not losing!
To me maintenance is +-0. -7 is losing. 7 pounds in 2 months is 42 pounds in a year. Would you rather stay in the weight you are now than be 42 pounds lighter a year from now? Or maybe gain a few instead?
You ARE doing a good job. There's nothing that can take that away from you. I just hope you could believe it yourself! :)
Julie
 
I'm sorry guys - I've had a chance to sleep over it and re-read all I wrote, and I know I was just being melodramatic. I was really angry when I wrote it, and in a moment of panic everything I've learnt about fat loss just seemed irrelevant. It just really baffles me how you can lose so many inches and not lose any weight.

Sara, I DO care about inch loss and fitting into smaller clothes and looking better in them. I DO care that I look smaller. I guess I found it hard to believe that I'm in a plateau so soon into my programme! And after losing only 7lbs! I guess I was just stuck on the numbers. It was a moment of weakness. The funny thing is that I'm a strong advocate for not dwelling on the scale, for focusing on all the other indicators of fat loss and improved health, but yesterday I kinda lost it mentally. I feel quite weird about that because it makes me worry about what I really think about myself. Do I only value myself when the scales tell me I'm a certain weight? It's funny how a number can introduce so many questions. Thanks, Sara, I DO know I've been working hard, both in exercise and food. So I just need to stick with the programme and I'll see more of the weight drop off.. Thanks for being so pragmatic. I'm quite ashamed of my outburst :(

Juliette, I never actually thought that a 7lb loss every 2 months amounts to 42lbs in a year. I would definitely be happy with that. I KNOW I'm being stupid because it's not like the fat suddenly piled on - I got fatter over a long period of time, so why on earth do I expect to lose it all so soon?! I guess the thing I'm rapidly finding out is that I can have only so much control over numbers. I'm a bit of a control freak so when things don't go according to plan I tend to go off on a tangent, like I did. I'm tempted to remove the post because I'm so ashamed, but I'll leave it up there to serve as a reminder. I remember thinking "Whoa, she's doing such a great job!" when I read about you fitting into your Bermudas so I know it's not fair to imply that all that hard work is irrelevant. You've done such a great job so far, you and Sara and Kim and Christina and a hell of a lot of other people - I suppose I feel like I'm slacking compared to you guys! I read Cannon's comment too and it made me sad because it's so true. I'm the one placing so much pressure on myself, and unnecessarily so!

Thanks guys - I feel suitably chastised. I've got my gym bag with me so I'm going straight to the gym from work today for my cardio session. I've got a Terry Pratchett book which I intend reading while on the bike, and I will aim to burn 700 calories tonight. I'm determined to tackle this. I can't give up as that would be admitting defeat, and I can't view myself as a failure, neither do I want you guys to view me as a failure.

So THANK YOU guys, I feel much more hopeful about my progress.
 
Thanks Juliette, I've felt more optimistic for most of today. I went out for a long walk during lunch (my cramps kicked in big time today), and will soon be leaving the office for the gym although I'm hella sore..

Off to eat a mango now so I have enough strength for my workout..
 
mmmm mangos :) just reminded myself that I have a very ripe mango in the fridge -I think some mango salsa might be in the works with dinner tonite :)
 
Juliette, the endorphins really help! My knees were creaking really loudly yesterday, but after my workout the pain was all gone... You'd think there was nothing positive the way I went off on one.. I hope it works again tonight.. I'm so sore it hurts to raise my hands and my chest hurts...but it's all good :D

Mal the fun aunt, I forgot about mango salsa! Maybe I should have some of that tonight too... too much fruit maybe? They're big fat mangoes too! Enjoy!
 
Rho I understand, it's sick that we can allow our weight to affect us in such ways. Some days you just want to scream and be pissed off, and that's cool because we all feel like that, we're losing weight the healthy way which is incredibly frustrating at times. Other times it's really rewarding but I'd say that frustration kicks in often for me. :hug2: Now that you're feeling a bit better it's great that you're getting right back to it and hitting the gym again. You're awesome Rho, and eventually the scale will reflect your hard work :)
 
Hello all,

Didn't want to end the day without an update, cos I'd then have to play catch-up later. Today was ever so busy at work - I didn't even have time to check my e-mails! Really exhausted now so I'll keep it brief..

Yesterday's workout was cool. The bike wouldn't allow me set a workout time beyond 30mins, so I did 30mins (burning 370 calories), then did another 30mins (burning 300 calories), then 15mins (burning 84 calories). Coupled with the 74 calories burned during warm up, the total calories burned was 828 (whoa - I calculated that right?). I was raving hungry by the time I finished though (if I hadn't had that mango before my workout, goodness knows if I'd have managed to stick through the whole thing)... I was determined not to spoil the mood of the day, so I stopped off at the supermarket to get some ready-to-eat chicken, which I had with frozen veg and an Italian salad. Neighbours living above me kept waking me up though, so getting rest was not easy, which is why I was so tired today..

It was hard getting to the gym today. I really just wanted to go home to bed, but yet again, I remembered that I'd recorded my plan HERE, so I dragged my sorry ass to the gym. It took me a while to get started though. Usually I just get in there and get out, but I spent a little time chatting to some of the regulars and personal trainers I know..there's even a manager at the gym who said he's been so motivated by my determination that he's decided to get back into shape, which is cool.

Anyhoo, I used the bike again today, this time burning 304 calories in the first 30mins, and 320 calories in the second half hour. So the total (including warm up of 54 calories) was 678. I'm not as raving as I was last night, but I've decided to reward myself with a square of dark chocolate (I get this lovely M&S brand, which is just melt-in-the-mouth delicious).

Ok, that's my little update. I'm off to bed now. Loads of work tomorrow *joy* :( I shall have to catch up with all you lovelies' diaries. G'night y'all!
 
Hi Rho, sorry I was really lazy yesterday diary-wise even though I was around. :rolleyes: I think you did precisely the right thing. When you said, "the bike wouldn't let me go for more than 30 mins" lots of people would have just gone the 30 mins and used the bike for an excuse, but you did 75 mins? That's wonderful. And the way you savored the single piece of chocolate, is great. Because that's the way it's supposed to be! We're supposed to enjoy food, and indulge, but in moderation which is what you're doing, and that's so fantastic. :) Congrats Rho, I hope you had better sleep last night, and that you have a nice day.
 
Hey Sara,

Don't apologise - I feel that way sometimes too.. Even though I checked out the diaries yesterday I didn't have time to respond, not even to update on my diary..

Thanks for the rep (WLF wants me to spread the love before giving you some more, apparently).. The single piece of chocolate was heaven... I really can't imagine going back to milk chocolate as I love the dark kind so much..

After work I went to the movies with a friend. We went to see Oceans 13, and my friend brought her younger sister with her as she'd just found out she'd got a 1st class with honours at her uni.. Anyhoo, by way of celebration my friend bought everything - popcorn, Haagen Dazs tubs, hot dogs, the lot. I was pretty hungry but said no to all of them, even though they kept insisting and I felt a little bad for not 'joining in the celebration', so to speak. I hope they realised how happy I was for her, even though I didn't join in the food.. We would have eaten before the movie, but they got there too close to the movie start time so we had to see the movie first. The theatre was packed, so we ended up sitting right in front (which is not pleasant, except for the Lord of The Rings movies) so by the end of the movie I had a headache.. and I was nearly mad with hunger..

I couldn't wait to dash to Nandos afterwards where I got a chicken salad, plus 5 extra hot wings.. I resisted the urge to get the corn, or the rice, or the delicious periperi chips, or the coleslaw.. I just had the chicken with the salad... It was at the other end of London so I had a hard time getting home as I missed the last underground train. I finally got home way past 3am, and realised I was pretty hungry. I guess the salad didn't go a long way. So I had a few strawberries and climed into bed, hoping to get 9 hours sleep to make up for all the sleep I haven't had all week.

8am I got woken up by my cinema friend calling to make sure I got home alright, which was really sweet, then at 10am this other friend of mine in Oman called to say hi (really strange out-of-the-blue phone call), and then I gave all attempting to sleep at 11.30am when my best friend called. Isn't it funny - when you're feeling lonely there's hardly anyone around, yet the moment you want a moment's peace everyone's on your case! It's great though - I'm hardly complaining. It's great when friends remember you and consult you and stuff..

I was so hungry when I crawled out of bed (what is it with me and hunger these past couple of days) so I had breakfast of some wholemeal toast and 2 boiled eggs. I still wasn't full after that, so I had more strawberries with low fat organic yoghurt, so I'm alright now.. I think it's the strawberries - they're just so tasty! (I got them from Waitrose, and they're a million times better than the usual tasteless supermarket variety... who wants to eat strawberries without taste?!)

Ok - I think I'll crawl back into bed. My head's been giving signs of an impending headache, so I've decided to get more rest. A couple more hours should do it, after which I hope to go to the gym later tonight. I'll monitor how I'm feeling.. I still intend doing the 25km walk tomorrow with The Ramblers so I need to be sure I'm well enough for that..

That's my little update - I'm off to bed now. Ciao lovely peeps..
 
by way of celebration my friend bought everything - popcorn, Haagen Dazs tubs, hot dogs, the lot. I was pretty hungry but said no to all of them, even though they kept insisting and I felt a little bad for not 'joining in the celebration', so to speak. I hope they realised how happy I was for her, even though I didn't join in the food..

Rho I'm so proud of you! You are incredibly strong my friend. Strong for simply resisting the food, and strong for standing up for yourself even when among friends. I know that my friends perceive my abstaining from that sort of food to be an insult, and I'm not looking forward to going home and having to risk hurting feelings when I don't indulge. I am sure that they are aware that it is nothing against them, but that you're trying to be healthy. I think that's just so cool!

On the same note, you're doing a great job in general. Your food is so on, and that's fantastic, and you resist urges :hug2: yay! hahaha that's hilarious about all of your friends wanting you at the same time :rolleyes: that is absolutely the way it goes, isn't it! Not a bad problem to have, aside from the sleep issue ;) I hope you have a beautiful day :)
 
Haha - I wish I could say I was strong, but the truth is I kept thinking about the last couple of days at the gym, the struggle to get through my workouts. The thought of blowing all that on a few minutes of mindlessly scoffing popcorn and slurping haagen dazs was just not appealing enough..

I know there'll be many more challenges, and on the scale of 1-10, that challenge was maybe a 4 :D

I'm a little confused about my plans right now. My original plan was to go to the gym tonight, then go for my 25km walk tomorrow. But I feel absolutely weird and am wondering whether it's such a good idea to work out tonight as I don't want to weaken my system. I might go for a long walk instead. I'm also hungry but not sure what to have, seeing as my plan for the day is all messed up. Since I woke up so late I had brekkie around 1.30pm so I'm not sure how to manage the rest of today's meals.. All I know is I'm hungry and could do with something to eat.. MY self-control can only last so long...
 
I would worry about that too, because if you're super sore tomorrow due to a heavy workout today, that could be a bit dreadful during the walk. Maybe it would be a good idea to go for a nice walk tonight and also, you should have some carbs this evening...at least I think so? The night before big meets in high school we'd have get togethers and it would be a carb fest! Maybe some whole wheat pasta...grains and fibrous stuff in addition to whatever protein you prefer?
 
What a beautiful description of your walk along the Thames. How special to be living in London.

You diary is super, lots of introspection and helpful comments. Glad I stopped by. Take care.

By the way, I am working the patience thing too, waiting for fulfillment, waiting for results. Let's not give up!!
 
Hey Sara,

I decided to listen to my body and not go to the gym tonight. Tomorrow's Walk is going to be tougher because there's loads of climbing, so I thought it best to take it easy.. I did take a little walk so I could do a spot of food shopping to stock up on supplies for tomorrow, but before I did I had some rice with loads of veg and chicken, so I'm good on the carbs part :)

Hey Kelly, thanks for visiting my diary! It's great to meet new people. Thanks for the compliments, on all fronts..:D I'm definitely realising patience is the way to go, so we just need to do what's necessary and stick with it and we'll slowly but surely see the results... I'm also realising how much more there is to London..such a beautiful city.. Thanks again..

Speaking of city, there really is no end to what you can discover about London. I was a little worried about what Walk to undertake tomorrow. The initial plan was I'd do a 11 mile walk with a friend, but she can't make it. Not a problem in itself, but my plan was that we'd join The Ramblers for the . I will be joining the group, so I thought it best to first see what it's like walking with them. But I don't really feel like meeting and walking with a bunch of strangers tomorrow... I'm probably being silly.. I was prepared to meet them with my friend (so I wouldn't be alone), but not by myself..

Anyhoo, I had to change my planned route, so I searched on the Internet, and found the . Now, it's a 240km route but it's divided into 24 sections. I've decided to do Sections 4, 5 and 6 tomorrow, a total of 31.3km. Ambitious, I know, but it'll probably be more like 28 or 29km because I finish a couple of km before the end point - the train station will apparently be closed, and the only other way I can get home is by using the bus, and the bus stop is a couple of km before the end point.

I'm pretty much ready for it, I think. I think it'll be a good challenge, not just this walk - the whole of the London Loop. It'll be cool to be able to say "Yeah, I've done the London LOOP" Ok, enough talk. I really should get myself to bed. Goodness knows I'm tired out as it is..

Goodnight y'all :)
 
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A really long post

Thanks guys, for your faith in me!

I just got back from the most gruelling walk in the history of the world! Ok - maybe not, but it sure felt like it! I started quite late...around 1pm.. I'd gone to bed quite late still preparing the route, but I made a last minute decision to pop into Waterstones to get a book on the London LOOP. Luckily the female staff knew her business and referred me to David Sharp's The London Loop. In hindsight, I honestly don't know what I'd have done without it because its instructions were far more detailed than those I printed from the Internet..

To be honest, if I'd known how difficult it would be, I would almost definitely have avoided doing it!! I didn't know that many woods even existed! Spring Park Woods, Three Halfpenny Wood, little Foxes Wood, Pinewoods, Heathfield Gardens, Bramley Bank, Littleheath Wood, Selsdon Wood..and these are great big woods with thousands of trees.. I feel so humbled..

The first wood was ok. I'd just been to the West Wickham parish church (took pictures and all) and lingered a little to soak in the ambience...the bells were sounding..that sweet peal that announces a Sunday..then I got out through the kissing gate (another lovely term I've now learned) then into Spring Park - a large never ending field. I saw a few people playing with their dogs...very idyllic. The grass had recently been mown,so it was easy crossing the field and entering Three Halfpenny Woods.. I met quite a few people in the Woods, mostly walking their dogs, or, in some cases, lovers walking hand in hand soaking up the romance from the trees...it wasn't raining then..

A difficult part of the walk was in Addington Hills - the steepness of the climb left me gasping for air..the mixture of gravel and pieces of tree bark didn't help either! But I finally got to the top, and was rewarded with the most beautiful view over Croydon. I could see the phone masts at Crystal Palace (massive things). Not too far off there was a restaurant in the middle of nowhere... outside it was this really cute family with their two little babies walking hand in hand and their parents walking closely behind them..It was ever so cute.. I said a quick hi and went on my way..

It began to pour down...that steady drizzle that means to get you soaked no matter how resistant you try to be to it...I kept getting lost! Especially at Heathfield Gardens, which leads to the London Wildlife Trust nature reserve. I spent a good 45 minutes doubling back on myself over and over again until I finally found the route in the book! All the while I was on the verge of tears at the thought that I wouldn't be able to complete the route! I finally got in, after taking pictures of slugs at the roadside...

There was this old bridleway in this ultra modern area, complete with housing developments and stuff (the nice kind) and it leads to Selsdon Wood. I was really tired when I got into the wood (even though I'd just had a little break to eat my little sandwich), and I realised with a sinking heart that it was a really thick wood...the trees literally blocked out the little daylight and the rain continued pouring steadily down, obscuring my vision. I didn't meet a single person in there, and more than once I fancied someone was following me, but it was only my wet bag rubbing against my trousers loudly...very easy to get paranoid when you're alone in the woods..I began panicking inside, thinking that nighttime would come and I'd still be stuck in the woods! Never before had the terrors of Midsommer Murders and all such woodside murder mysteries come to life in my mind! I nearly cried in relief when I saw daylight at the other side..

I realised the sheer distance I'd walked when I was in Littleheath Wood. This vast expanse of open grass beyond..stretching so far that the trees seemed like the horizon..bright green and hazel colours, swinging in the rain.. I had to walk through this grassy field, which would have been more than pleasant...if it wasn't raining. The grass stalks were tall and proud, coming up to my torso, so my trousers got quite wet, the rain from the stalks soaking into my walking shoes and drenching my socks.. As I squelched along I remembered I'd forgotten to take a second pair of socks..stupid me, I know...not that it'd have helped anyway with my soaking shoes.. I felt so lucky that I was enjoying all this all by myself.. it really was beautiful.

I met a few more people later on, outside the Woods. More than once I was scared by the sight of great big dogs bounding furiously towards me..I was always so relieved when their owners called them away..all of them said I'd chosen a horrible day to do the Walk... I said 'I like a challenge, me', but inside I thought 'Rhoda, you really are stupid, aren't ya, to have chosen the rainiest of days to do this Walk!'

Ah well... I was on this mud track which the book said would join the road and to my left were the greatest cows I'd ever seen. I mean, I've seen cows, but these were huge!! Maybe it's all that country air and grass, but they were massive! It continued to rain heavily, and I could see horse tracks in the really narrow muddy track. The cows mooed, so I tried to take a picture of them but the stupid camera refused to work.. Anyhoo, I'm squelching along - my jeans are getting wet all over again, this time all the way up to the tops of my thighs, thanks to the tall blades of grass that just seem to have soaked up all the rain. Then I heard a clip-clop sound some way behind me. I looked back, and saw that a cow was following me. At first I ignored it, but I saw that it was walking with a purpose...towards ME! Before I knew it my legs had begun running as fast as I could down the narrow track, forget it was so muddy that running was really impossible.. Mud splashed across my trousers but did I care? Did I heck! Then I looked back to see the damn great cow had stopped and was merely looking at me...perhaps laughing in its great bovine head..

A little while later, 2 valleys before the end point, I was on a track running between thick hedges, and to my right was a field (I could see a farmhouse in the distance).. It was really quiet here, so I nearly jumped out of my skin when I heard a 'baaaa'. Bloody sheep nearly gave me a heart attack. I hoped it wouldn't attack me for 'being in its territory' or whatnot but thankfully there was a fence separating it from the track.. The track was really weird - first of all it dropped really steeply...I skidded quite a few times but thankfully didn't fall flat on my arse..and then it climbed really steeply...the rain kept washing all the soil down so I had to tread on the stony bits in order to climb.. I sweated buckets yet again...then the path came to an abrupt end and I stood there thinking 'Shoot, what do I do?!', then I saw that the fence blocking the path had a stile across it.. a step across the fence, which led to the path that led to civilisation at last. There were great big horses in the field to my right covered with blankets that looked up to watch me walk by (I thought 'What's the point of the blankets if they're in the rain' but then I'm not a horse expert). Eventually the dirt path became tarmac, which jarred my legs and hips with each step I took, though, so the final bit took a while (twas a long road though)


I was really lucky on this walk because there were signs in the woods. Many, many times I felt like I wasn't getting out of there (at least my decomposed body would add nutrients to the forest...I morbidly thought at one stage) and then I'd see the little green sign. When I didn't understand the instructions in the book it was the sign that would encourage me, help me realise I was on the right path.. This walk is not meant to be easy, I realise that now. Even if the weather was brilliant it still would be extremely difficult, but the rain just turned it into torture. But I still massively enjoyed it, and feel more than humbled by the sheer size of nature..

Oh, one more thing. I massively overestimated my ability to do stages 4 and 5 of the LOOP. A mile walk on tarmac road is most definitely NOT the same as a mile walk in woodland with the climbing and dodging trees and slipping and the sheer activity..I got myself an exercise watch during the week so I could measure time, distance, etc, and it said I'd covered 22.5miles in 7 hours, which seems insane. I don't understand it. I know there were times I walked like I was flying - with my increased fitness I find I'm able to walk a lot faster and take longer strides, but there were also really slow bits, like when climbing steep hills and chatting with people. Either way, I know I've done a part of the LOOP. And the next time I go on a Walk, I'll do another part. I'll complete all 240km, so help me God.

It really was beautiful. The memories are pouring in thick and fast now, moving me to tears - I really am humbled. I feel extremely lucky to live in a country, a city where I could get lost in nature, where I could roll in the grass and meet lovely people. There really is so much I want to say but I can't even express it. It was more than a Walk for me - it was more of a realisation that life is what I make it. I complain about London so much, I complain about congestion on the trains, about smog, about high taxes, about this, about that, and yet it's the same London that's given me such a tremendous gift like I had today, and hope to continue experiencing. I'm glad I did it by myself - all the pleasure was mine..
 
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