really upset/angry

[bexxx]

sooo i am getting no support of family and friends
my bro took me out to a big fancy restraunt which didnt really have anything light or helathy on menu
next day my friends are trying to literally force feed me choclate and crisps
now mum and dad took me to mc donalds and sat and ate it in front of me i was so hungry and they are going ooo go and get some frys
i just feel like giving up and im trying so hard and thier just pushing and pushing at me all the time.
telling me to skip the gym aswell

 

[becky90]

Hm

That's really not cool of them. Just keep saying no and they will learn to stop that. Saying no to take away will be easy once you've formed the habit of it. But its a shame they're not supporting you. Try talking to them about it and tell them how they're making you feel.

 

[Primevci]

they probably are not doing it on purpose... and there probably not trying to sabotage you.. why didnt u get a salad at mcdonalds? why not order a Chicken breast or steak at the fancy restaurant? why not have a little chocolate.. it is all about moderation

 

[bexxx]

they probably are not doing it on purpose... and there probably not trying to sabotage you.. why didnt u get a salad at mcdonalds? why not order a Chicken breast or steak at the fancy restaurant? why not have a little chocolate.. it is all about moderation

i didnt know mc donalds did a salad
and it was like an intalian pizaa place =/ so it was all pizza not good.
x

 

[bexxx]

i dont mind them asking just that when i tell them no and remind them they act like im odd or weird for sticking to my diet =/ x

 

[Primevci]

i dont mind them asking just that when i tell them no and remind them they act like im odd or weird for sticking to my diet =/ x

Do you call it a diet to them i found this gives me a little grief so i say im eating healthy now because really im not on a diet im jsut not eatiing 4000cals anymore, and eating healthy foods.. I don't know where you live but in the states McDonalds do sell salads.. i just want you to know there not trying to make you fail.. think of it as them testing you and helping you be stronger

 

[saskman]

Do you call it a diet to them i found this gives me a little grief so i say im eating healthy now because really im not on a diet im jsut not eatiing 4000cals anymore, and eating healthy foods..

I call it a lifestyle change not a diet..........cause all diet is is DIE with a T added.

 

[Rox2]

sooo i am getting no support of family and friends
my bro took me out to a big fancy restraunt which didnt really have anything light or helathy on menu
next day my friends are trying to literally force feed me choclate and crisps
now mum and dad took me to mc donalds and sat and ate it in front of me i was so hungry and they are going ooo go and get some frys
i just feel like giving up and im trying so hard and thier just pushing and pushing at me all the time.
telling me to skip the gym aswell

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this....but it's not an uncommon problem. It's much easier to make this kind of lifestyle alteration if the family and friends are all behind you helping out, but not everyone gets that. In fact, it can be very hard for the people around us to accept the fact that we are changing. It can make them feel threatened and afraid and they take it out on you...

It's very good that you have started to make this big effort to change your life. That takes strength. But you're going to have to find even more power inside yourself...the power to calmly accept all the remarks and unhelpful behaviors of your family and just ignore them. Your job is to keep on doing what is best for you- not to please other people who aren't really thinking clearly about your best interests.

You will find this site is a very good place to get support and advice. It's not as good as having family that support you- but it's pretty darn close. This board helped me lose over 70lbs already, so i know it can be done!

Bets of luck to you!

 

[NiallTTC]

I find this to be the biggest challenge. Any previous healthy eating attempts I've made have been crushed by a social gathering or a night out which usually involves consumption of beer or spirits.

This time, I've decided to tell no one and rely on will power. It's one hell of a challenge, as I have a history of not being able to say no, but for some reason I have a lot more determination this time.

 

[MattV1984]

This happens a lot, a lack of support or at least a perceived lack of support when adjusting eating habits. People will call you out for not eating certian foods because they simply do not understand the benefits or in some unfotunate situations dont care; and no matter how many times you tell them you have cut particular foods from your eating habits they will forget and continue to offer because it is your lifestyle change, not theirs, so it is not at the front of their minds.

I would say a good step to take here is to bring this issue to their attention. Let them know that what they are doing is coming across to you as a lack of support or maybe even attempted sabatoge of your attempts at a healthier life. Explain to them why you are eating the way you are (how it benefits you and maybe even those around you) and let them know what your goals are. Just saying no repeatedly may not be enough for them to get the picture or take a hint, and they may not even be aware of the trouble their actions are causing you. By discussing the issue with them and what their actions are doing it should help serve as a reminder, hopefully they care enough to take it to heart and make an attempt, and if not maybe distance yourself from the negative influences a little and spend that time with more supportive individuals.

Beyond discussing this issue with those around you who are being a negative influence just remind yourself why you are making a change. Hopefully you are making the change for you because you want to reach your goals regardless of what others think about it. We are always here to provide support as well so when you need to vent do so and we will do our best to provide guidance.

 

[Daybehavior]

Beyond discussing this issue with those around you who are being a negative influence just remind yourself why you are making a change. Hopefully you are making the change for you because you want to reach your goals regardless of what others think about it. We are always here to provide support as well so when you need to vent do so and we will do our best to provide guidance.

This is so true, I always tried to lose weight for the wrong reasons (mostly to impress others) but now I take my time and do it right because I've finally
established an internal dialogue with myself. Everything I do is for me, so the stakes are twice as high and I refuse to let any external influences stop me.

 

[SoCoSideshow]

A lack of support from friends and family can be a big problem for someone trying to lose weight, and can seem like an even bigger one if you happen to be the only person you're close to who is undergoing a weight loss journey.

It's easy for someone who isn't committed to eating better or living healthier, or someone who doesn't have to work for it, to take shots at people who struggle.

And that's why people from all over the world reach out to one another in places like this, to make people who may feel alone understand that they're not.

Shame on your friends and family for not being supportive of your committment to better yourself. Be strong!

 

[ChefChiTown]

Allow me to be blunt and honest...

sooo i am getting no support of family and friends
my bro took me out to a big fancy restraunt which didnt really have anything light or helathy on menu

How is that your brother's fault? He's not the owner or chef of the restaurant, so it's not like he controls the menu, you know? And, it's not his responsibility to make sure you stick to your diet - that's all on you. So, if you go to a restaurant that doesn't have food that satisfies your needs, you can't blame anybody but yourself.

That has nothing to do with not getting support from your brother.

next day my friends are trying to literally force feed me choclate and crisps

Unless they tied you down and were stuffing them into your mouth, nobody was force feeding you anything.

And, do your friends (or anybody else) know that you're trying to watch what you eat and lose weight? If not, then they can't be sabotaging you. People can only sabotage you if they know what's going on in your life. So, try telling people that you are trying to watch what you eat. Maybe they'll be more understanding of your situation.

now mum and dad took me to mc donalds and sat and ate it in front of me i was so hungry and they are going ooo go and get some frys

Once again, how is this your parents' fault? McDonald's isn't the healthiest place around, but there are things on their menu that you can definitely eat while on a diet. And, if you choose to eat something else (something that isn't so healthy), then that's not your parents' fault - that's your responsibility.

Or, if you choose to just sit there and not eat while other people eat in front of you, then you can't really blame them for anything - they're just eating - you're the one who is sitting there watching them.

People are going to eat in front of you, regardless if you are on a diet or not. And, just because someone scarfs down a Quarter Pounder w/ Cheese in front of you, it doesn't mean they're sabotaging you - it means they're hungry. People aren't going to stop eating just because of you.

i just feel like giving up and im trying so hard and thier just pushing and pushing at me all the time.
telling me to skip the gym aswell

The harsh reality is that you need willpower in order to survive. Easier said than done, I know. But, the world isn't going to change for you just because you want to lose some weight. Restaurants aren't going to stop serving rich and fatty foods, and people aren't going to stop eating in front of you just because it would make your life easier. So, just find it within yourself to accept the fact that losing weight is hard thing to do. And, when moments get hard, realize that you have to overcome the desires and stay on the right track. When things get hard, don't blame other people or point fingers and say that they're trying to sabotage you - take responsibility for your own actions and realize that it's all up to you.

Nobody can make you lose weight but yourself.