Quick fix

Well, some good news today. After the email from "the man" yesterday on my weight, being the size 6-8 that I am, he and I had words and he's managed to leave my 1.5 year old and I, again, conveniently on Cinco de Mayo (he leaves a lot when we fight, drinks, parties, then thinks he can come home). This time I packed his bags for him.

With that being said, I am ready to commit to working out for ME. I gardened all day today, which is also quite theraputic, and tomorrow is my Dog Walk. I raised over $250.00 in one week with friends helping support the cause.

I wake up with my son at 5:45 every morning and drive an hour and a half to go to work, dropping my son off at daycare beforehand. I am a Real Estate Property Accountant for a well-known Clothes Chain and enjoy my job for what its worth. I usually work 8-4:30 daily with a half hour lunch break, and almost always power walk around the building (twice) before heading in and going back to work. I don't eat junk, so it has to be that I'm not burning enough calories simply power walking every day. I get home around 6:30-7, depending on traffic, start dinner, tidy up, care for my son, and by the time I'm finished, I'm thoroughly exhaused and ready to hit the sack to start all over tomorrow. I'm going to try and incorporate at least 20 mins on the elliptical per day, and continue walking at lunch. On the weekends, I'm always outside, whether it's hiking, or walking, or gardening, and we live on a private lake, so we're always in the water during the summer months. I was just hoping to get to the point of looking good in a suit prior to July. I have time, so beginning today, I'm going to hop on the elliptical and burn some pent up energy I still have from "HIM" leaving. I still don't know, nor do I care, if he returns. Deanna Lynn - thanks for your prayers and concerns, and yes, I am safe. He's much more mentally abusive than anything else ... and with the right people around me, he'd never lay a hand on me. Sometimes I'd rather him because it'd be one blow and it's over. The mental remains ...:(

Until tomorrow my friends, and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your good advice and concerns. :eek:
 
Hi Healthy, I am glad to see another post from you. I am very sorry you are going through the ending of a relationship, it is very hard. Even when it is for better, it just sucks. Your post sounds so positive compared to your earlier ones, less distressed and calmer.

I can see why you are so tired in the evenings, that drive would be draining. Hugs and prayers for you and you son, good luck on your goals.

Lisa
 
Hi, healthy, I've only just discovered your thread or I would have posted sooner, but I just wanted to say I really hope the events of the last couple of days have given you a way out of a negative situation. As well as the tiredness that comes from a long working day and having a young child to care for, I bet the negative "vibes" in your relationship were sapping even more of your energy. It is important to be physically healthy; I think most people here agree that. But you can't enjoy your physical health unless you have your emotional health to go with it.

I don't have any quick fixes for you, and I know people have already suggested ways of fitting more activity into your daily life. My suggestion is longer term, and I don't even know if it could be practical for you or not. Since you have such a long journey to work, perhaps you could consider either changing your job, or if your current job is truly that important to you, moving closer to your work. If you could cut your journey to work down to 30 minutes each way, you would have an extra 2 hours each day to play with, and that's a lot of time.

Otherwise, be strong, and try to find some time to relax as well as exercise.
 
As much as we'd all like to see this situation change, it's just not up to us. I don't think a few strangers on a message board can incite a fire inside of someone to change what’s been going on for the past several years. I wish we could, but to me it's quite obvious that she is unwilling to change right now. It’s obvious that if she was just looking for reassurance to leave then she has gotten that already, but she isn’t. The situation is probably much more complicated then we can imagine. Unless you've been in the exact same situation you can't know what it feels like, you can only say how you 'think' you would feel or react, but this is her reality guys. Let's just help her with what we can, and if she opens up to one of you ladies, help her as much as you can, but for now just give dietary help.

I'm pretty new too, so I can only say your diet looks pretty good and should be naturally creating a deficit with all that work around the house.

Good luck!
 
I am so sad to read this post:( I was in a relationship that tore me apart and I lost myself. It was devastating and I was unhappy a lot of the time.. yes there were still some happy days. I still loved him and eventually I realized I needed to leave if I wanted to be happy but his control kept me there, making excuses. It took me 3 years to finally sever ties forever (granted there were no children between us... though there was children). You had a kid. A womans body changes when they have children and though I think you can get back to a size 4 it may not be healthy for you or your child. This is abuse any way you slice it and I know things are difficult with a child. I am single mother after my husband left me. It is hard but doable and ultimatly better for me. Even if he won't get therapy it may do you some good to talk to someone. Good luck and you are in my prayers.
 
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