Project Rox
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Verobc1
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Congrats!!! I am so happy to see you having great results and also eating more, you sound alot more upbeat!!!! Keep up the great work and there will be even more happy dance!!! Good job on your choices when out with friends, I struggle all the time when we eat out!
About the self image, from what I read on here even once you have lost the weight it takes a bit longer for your head to feel the change you just have to challenge yourself to do things you didn't do before because of your wieght and eventually you will be more confident!!1
Rox2
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Congrats on your great result this week, Val! I'm very happy to have someone to dance with!
Thanks for the encouragement. I do get a bit down about my looks these days. For the lst few years, I just didn't think about it. I knew I looked bad and I avoided cameras. I just put it out of my mind.
I know my husband didn't think I looked that great, but he said he loved me and fat was just how I was going to be. Which is wonderful...at least I know he loves me no matter what!
But I am so anxious now to look better, both for myself and for him.
I know I need to be patient, but I feel that I still look like a blob. Bleah.
But all I have to do is keep working away at it, right? I know the results I want will come, as long as I never lose my focus!!
I really appreciate the support and feedback I get on this forum. It really helps keep my spirits up!
And maybe at the end of June I'll be brave anough to do a mini "before and part-way there" photo post. Perhaps.
Thanks for the encouragement. I do get a bit down about my looks these days. For the lst few years, I just didn't think about it. I knew I looked bad and I avoided cameras. I just put it out of my mind.
I know my husband didn't think I looked that great, but he said he loved me and fat was just how I was going to be. Which is wonderful...at least I know he loves me no matter what!
But I am so anxious now to look better, both for myself and for him.
I know I need to be patient, but I feel that I still look like a blob. Bleah.
But all I have to do is keep working away at it, right? I know the results I want will come, as long as I never lose my focus!!
I really appreciate the support and feedback I get on this forum. It really helps keep my spirits up!
And maybe at the end of June I'll be brave anough to do a mini "before and part-way there" photo post. Perhaps.
AlexPlatups
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Hi Rox,
First of all -- Congrats on your weight loss!
and yes, to keep working at it...is the key!
I wrote this in another part of the forum, but here is the best way to look
at weight loss when you still have a way to go!
Take two steps forward then one back, then take two more steps forward
then one back, and so on and so on.
As you can see as long as you make a conscious choice that you, Rox, will
never quit or give up, "no-matter-what" it will only be a matter of time until
you arrive at your final destination.
If you take take 30 steps forward and 15 back, you will be 15 steps ahead!
So what if it takes two years, or even more, the time will pass anyway, there
is nothing you can do about that!
But, you can make a choice that you will not give up, and no matter how
many times you fall off the wagon, you will get back up, wipe off the dust
and then just keep going!
Making this choice is more important than it seems, it really changes
everything, and I think that if you truly make this choice, you will feel
something click inside of you, and nothing will ever be the same.
First of all -- Congrats on your weight loss!
and yes, to keep working at it...is the key!
I wrote this in another part of the forum, but here is the best way to look
at weight loss when you still have a way to go!
Take two steps forward then one back, then take two more steps forward
then one back, and so on and so on.
As you can see as long as you make a conscious choice that you, Rox, will
never quit or give up, "no-matter-what" it will only be a matter of time until
you arrive at your final destination.
If you take take 30 steps forward and 15 back, you will be 15 steps ahead!
So what if it takes two years, or even more, the time will pass anyway, there
is nothing you can do about that!
But, you can make a choice that you will not give up, and no matter how
many times you fall off the wagon, you will get back up, wipe off the dust
and then just keep going!
Making this choice is more important than it seems, it really changes
everything, and I think that if you truly make this choice, you will feel
something click inside of you, and nothing will ever be the same.
Thanks Rox, I've felt bad about my looks for about 20 years now and even now I will never be happy with them however slim I get as at 53 my skin isn't great and I'll never have a really toned body but I have decided that even though my bikini days are over I will still be able to look good when I go out. I used to cry every time I went to buy clothes and everytime I got dressed to go out anywhere special as I looked so awful and lived in my mum's hand downs so as not to go clothes shopping. I'm starting to feel much better about myself and have to admit that although my stomach needs a lot of work still I haven't got a bad pair of legs for my age. You are well on the way to feeling the same as I do and it will just take a bit more work for you to get there. Believe me it is so worth it. I already feel so much more confident and happy. I have had a terrible year as I lost my mum last July but this has given me something to focus on and I know my mum would be so proud of me.
As Alex says every little loss is one step in the right direction and I feel sure that you have the right attitude to get there
x
As Alex says every little loss is one step in the right direction and I feel sure that you have the right attitude to get there
x
Rox2
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Val- It's so nice to be encouraged by a woman who has been just where I am and who is making it out of the spiral of overweight, bad-self image and unhappiness.
I am so sorry about your mother. The fact that you didn't crumble under the pain of losing her, but went on to show incredible inner strength can really be seen as your tribute to her. (Only people like us here on the forum know how much constant perseverance it takes to lose weight) I think you must be right that she'd be very proud of you right now.
At night, before I sleep I try to take Alex's advice and concentrate on my goals. I really visualise what I want and exactly how i'm going to get it. I imagine myself at 69 kg- a weight I haven't been at since 1992, before my first daughter was born. Next, I think about all the good, healthy foods i'll try to always choose and the exercise I'll do.
Then , I wake up the next day and do it, which feels great!
Alex-I really am making a choice now and I will never give up. Click!
My food is good today-
Breakfast: Vanilla protein shake
Morning snack: small nectarine
Lunch: Tofu burger and grilled veggies
Weight Watchers chocolate dessert
Snack: non-fat herbed fromage frais and a whole wheat cracker
200ml vegetable juice
Dinner:?
My calories are at 722 according to MyPlate. That leaves me plenty for a nice dinner and then a small evening snack!
For exercise- I had a lot of heavy gardening to do today. So, while I didn't manage to walk or do a dvd, I did gets tons of activity in. There was lots of hoeing and digging and lifting. Very productive!
I am so sorry about your mother. The fact that you didn't crumble under the pain of losing her, but went on to show incredible inner strength can really be seen as your tribute to her. (Only people like us here on the forum know how much constant perseverance it takes to lose weight) I think you must be right that she'd be very proud of you right now.
At night, before I sleep I try to take Alex's advice and concentrate on my goals. I really visualise what I want and exactly how i'm going to get it. I imagine myself at 69 kg- a weight I haven't been at since 1992, before my first daughter was born. Next, I think about all the good, healthy foods i'll try to always choose and the exercise I'll do.
Then , I wake up the next day and do it, which feels great!
Alex-I really am making a choice now and I will never give up. Click!
My food is good today-
Breakfast: Vanilla protein shake
Morning snack: small nectarine
Lunch: Tofu burger and grilled veggies
Weight Watchers chocolate dessert
Snack: non-fat herbed fromage frais and a whole wheat cracker
200ml vegetable juice
Dinner:?
My calories are at 722 according to MyPlate. That leaves me plenty for a nice dinner and then a small evening snack!
For exercise- I had a lot of heavy gardening to do today. So, while I didn't manage to walk or do a dvd, I did gets tons of activity in. There was lots of hoeing and digging and lifting. Very productive!
Penguinita
New member
Hey Rox,
You've been doing awesome keep up the good work! I totally agree with Alex, so far my weight loss has been picking myself up after stumbling into a new problem. But that's life, no? We learn from these unfortunate but needed incidents in order to solidy our mindset. This way we can be confident that when all the weight comes off it will stay off. At least that is what I tell myself when I hit a platau, get super busy, or just run across something unexpected.
I've taken your advice and have been eating more fresh fruits and veggies. So far I've noticed a clearing up on my face!!! Sucks that I still have the acne scars, but I was reading that as an adult your skin doesn't heal as fast so I have to wait a couple of weeks for those marks to dissapear. Oh! I also noticed I am spending less by switching snacks to fruits, wtf! I thought I'd be spending more. Such a happy surprise
You've been doing awesome keep up the good work! I totally agree with Alex, so far my weight loss has been picking myself up after stumbling into a new problem. But that's life, no? We learn from these unfortunate but needed incidents in order to solidy our mindset. This way we can be confident that when all the weight comes off it will stay off. At least that is what I tell myself when I hit a platau, get super busy, or just run across something unexpected.
I've taken your advice and have been eating more fresh fruits and veggies. So far I've noticed a clearing up on my face!!! Sucks that I still have the acne scars, but I was reading that as an adult your skin doesn't heal as fast so I have to wait a couple of weeks for those marks to dissapear. Oh! I also noticed I am spending less by switching snacks to fruits, wtf! I thought I'd be spending more. Such a happy surprise
Rox2
New member
Hey Rox,
You've been doing awesome keep up the good work! I totally agree with Alex, so far my weight loss has been picking myself up after stumbling into a new problem. But that's life, no? We learn from these unfortunate but needed incidents in order to solidy our mindset. This way we can be confident that when all the weight comes off it will stay off. At least that is what I tell myself when I hit a platau, get super busy, or just run across something unexpected.
I've taken your advice and have been eating more fresh fruits and veggies. So far I've noticed a clearing up on my face!!! Sucks that I still have the acne scars, but I was reading that as an adult your skin doesn't heal as fast so I have to wait a couple of weeks for those marks to dissapear. Oh! I also noticed I am spending less by switching snacks to fruits, wtf! I thought I'd be spending more. Such a happy surprise
Thanks! And congrats to you on the change in food habits. It's great you're starting to see a difference already. And I bet your body is enjoying all the micronutrients. You've already lost lots of weight, which can be so hard on the body...it's important to take care of yourself.
Well, now I'm off to go look at your diary!
Rox2
New member
I've got my eating managed pretty well, despite the fact we have visitors.
Today's calories are at a total of 1195, which is right on target for me.
Since April, I've been weighing myself every other day. I'm thinking this is not good for me, as the fluctuating numbers can really mess with my head. I can't STAND it when I spend a day eating perfectly and exercising and my weight seems to go UP two pounds. It kills me! And then I feel like I should eat even less the next day, just to make the stupid numbers MOVE!
I think I'll be much better off if I just weigh in once a week.
As I'm in the June challenge, I'll be weighing on Tuesdays this month. Maybe it will help me conserve my sanity points. lol
Today's calories are at a total of 1195, which is right on target for me.
Since April, I've been weighing myself every other day. I'm thinking this is not good for me, as the fluctuating numbers can really mess with my head. I can't STAND it when I spend a day eating perfectly and exercising and my weight seems to go UP two pounds. It kills me! And then I feel like I should eat even less the next day, just to make the stupid numbers MOVE!
I think I'll be much better off if I just weigh in once a week.
As I'm in the June challenge, I'll be weighing on Tuesdays this month. Maybe it will help me conserve my sanity points. lol
Penguinita
New member
Don't feel bad about the weight fluctuation, specially since you've been weighing in daily. I used to be the other extreme--- avoided the scale at all costs! only went on it during doctor check ups. But it's hard to track progress when there's no measurement, and you're body is going through a lot right now in this process. Weighing in weekly seems like a good idea, it's what I stick to now.
Also this might may your weight go back up temporarily--- you've been eating more calories, which is a good thing! Your body may be adjusting, so as soon as your metabolism rises you'll be dropping the pounds for good. My doctor told me the only real way to raise your metabolism is to gain muscle mass, so make sure to throw in a few weight sessions in your work outs
Also this might may your weight go back up temporarily--- you've been eating more calories, which is a good thing! Your body may be adjusting, so as soon as your metabolism rises you'll be dropping the pounds for good. My doctor told me the only real way to raise your metabolism is to gain muscle mass, so make sure to throw in a few weight sessions in your work outs
Well done Rox. That just proves that you have got it in you to succeed with this and if you do eat a little bit too much at any time while you have visitors don't beat yourself up about it or feel a failure just get back to the healthy eating.
I used to drive myself mad weighing myself 2 or 3 times a day but as my scales are so unreliable I only take notice of my weekly weigh ins at weight watchers now.
I used to drive myself mad weighing myself 2 or 3 times a day but as my scales are so unreliable I only take notice of my weekly weigh ins at weight watchers now.
Rox2
New member
I'm glad i'm not the only one! I'm going to only weigh on Tuesdays and see how it goes.
My food today is good, as usual ;-)
Breakfast: Grapenuts and skim milk
AM snack: 7 surimi sticks
Lunch: Weight watchers seafood pasta
Weight watchers chocolate dessert
I'm at 850 so far and will try to have a good dinner tonight before i go off to rehearsal.
Also- This is SO fun: I just got back from taking my girls and two of their friends to a shooping mall. I bought the girls snacks and ice cream, but wasn't at all tempted myself...which was so nice! And then this happened: One of my 12 year old twins won a 200 euro (that's about 240 US dollars!) shopping spree at the mall. How cool is that??!
My food today is good, as usual ;-)
Breakfast: Grapenuts and skim milk
AM snack: 7 surimi sticks
Lunch: Weight watchers seafood pasta
Weight watchers chocolate dessert
I'm at 850 so far and will try to have a good dinner tonight before i go off to rehearsal.
Also- This is SO fun: I just got back from taking my girls and two of their friends to a shooping mall. I bought the girls snacks and ice cream, but wasn't at all tempted myself...which was so nice! And then this happened: One of my 12 year old twins won a 200 euro (that's about 240 US dollars!) shopping spree at the mall. How cool is that??!
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Penguinita
New member
Congrats on your kids winning the mall prize! That's so cool, I wish the mall around here did that... but then again I pass by the "sample" stands a thousand times so.... lol
Also kudos on your control, to not even want the ice cream is an amazing period in your weight loss. That will help you keep loosing more than anything, in my opinion anyways
Also kudos on your control, to not even want the ice cream is an amazing period in your weight loss. That will help you keep loosing more than anything, in my opinion anyways
Rox2
New member
Happy Monday! I hope everyone had a good weekend!
Mine was both good and bad.
First the good: On Saturday I got in tons of walking and ate 1235 calories of healthy foods.
Now the bad: On Sunday I only had 715. And that's because I spent the evening in the hospital with chest pains :-(
The doctors still aren't sure what's going on. I do have a heart murmur, but they're not sure if that's part of the problem. I've been told not to exercise vigorously until more test have been done and this is all figured out.
Gentle walking is ok, if I have someone with me.
This is kind of strange and scary. I am a non-smoker and am generally very, very healthy.
But I'm sure it will turn out fine.
Today I've had a
breakfast: protein shake
Lunch: Tofu burger
spinach and tomatoes
afternoon snack: one whole wheat cracker with non-fat cheese
I'm at about 600 for the day. that leaves plenty for a nice dinner with my guests and even a snack later!
I'm thinking of making a chicken and vegetable curry sauce tonight. I'll make whole grain thai rice and keep some of the chicken and veggies out of the sauce for me to eat.
Mine was both good and bad.
First the good: On Saturday I got in tons of walking and ate 1235 calories of healthy foods.
Now the bad: On Sunday I only had 715. And that's because I spent the evening in the hospital with chest pains :-(
The doctors still aren't sure what's going on. I do have a heart murmur, but they're not sure if that's part of the problem. I've been told not to exercise vigorously until more test have been done and this is all figured out.
Gentle walking is ok, if I have someone with me.
This is kind of strange and scary. I am a non-smoker and am generally very, very healthy.
But I'm sure it will turn out fine.
Today I've had a
breakfast: protein shake
Lunch: Tofu burger
spinach and tomatoes
afternoon snack: one whole wheat cracker with non-fat cheese
I'm at about 600 for the day. that leaves plenty for a nice dinner with my guests and even a snack later!
I'm thinking of making a chicken and vegetable curry sauce tonight. I'll make whole grain thai rice and keep some of the chicken and veggies out of the sauce for me to eat.