Project Rox

just getting caught up on everything....then left hanging. lol.

Seriously - congrats on reaching your goal and plunging into the 130's. Fantastic.
 
What a morning!

Rejected Hot Neighbor just sent me a text, asking if I can see him tomorrow at noon. I'm not sure what he wants....ok- that's a lie- I can probably guess what's on his mind.... and as wisdom and self-restraint are not really priorities these days, I said I could spare him a moment.
And the minute I got done texting my answer to him, A. (the sex club guy) sent a text indicating that
A. I'm gorgeous
B. He adores me
and , finally,
C. He'd love to take me to the club again this Saturday night.

This text was much easier to answer. It was a definite yes, as I had such fun the first time I went....

Now, even just six month ago, I would have flatly denied that I would ever end up in a swingers' club. I wasn't even really sure that such places existed. You probably would have had an easier time getting me to believe in UFO's and unicorns.
Srsly.
I was SO naive. I even actually believed (and this is totally hilarious!) that the vast majority of people were faithful to their marriage vows! (Feel free to chuckle heartily here, folks, and shake your heads at my pathetic cluelessness) I really thought that infidelity was mostly something made up by television writers to make their programs more sensational and sleazy.
Little did I know that real life is a lot more complicated than I suspected.
Isn't it crazy that it took me 45 years to figure that out?

At any rate, when I figured out the actual structure of the corner of the universe that I'm personally living in, a club seemed like a good solution for me. And when I had dinner with A. one Saturday night, he explained it all to me in detail and the whole idea sounded even better.
I met A. online when I posted on the forum of the club I chose as my target. A woman that works there as the main hostess wrote back and proposed that I get in contact with one of her male collegues... And that was A.- a fairly good-looking guy with a great personality and a way of making people feel at ease. I guess that's why he's the guy they call in when a new couple come in the club, wanting to try a threesome with another guy, but not sure how to go about it (so to speak). A sort of kinky sex troubleshooter, if you will.
so, he's very sexy, but non-threatening, which made him the perfect person to initiate me into the club. We had dinner, he told me a bit about how it works and off we went....

The club is located in a big chalet on the side of a mountain. I'm not kidding! It was very nice, but not what I was expecting. It was cold up there and I was wearing a very short dress. (In fact, women who wear pants are refused entrance!)

I'll tell you right away- no, people were not walking around totally naked. Some were wearing very little and many were obviously not wearing any underclothes....but nobody was completely starkers. Except for a couple of male pole dancers later on, but I digress...

My date paid to get us in. It was 40 euros per couple. Women alone get in free. Lone men are only allowed in in limited numbers on specific nights and have to pay 50 euros. I guess this is to prevent the place from filling up with 200 men and then only having about 20 (very nervous!) women for them to have fun with.

A. introduced me to the club owners right away. JL is West African and his wife asian in origins...which probably explains the "no racism allowed " disclaimer on the website and the presence in the club of people from diverse ethnic groups. Which I found very cool.

Half of the club was completely normal....there was a bar and a dancefloor. Maybe the decor was a bit too leopard-print oriented for my taste. And above the bar there was an absolutely enormous bronze penis statue. But other than that, I had no objections to the place so far.
But then A gave me a tour of the "coins calins" ('cuddle corners' in English. lol)
These were five rooms, each containing a very large bed. One of them had a door, but the others just had curtains across the doorway. The biggest room had a sort of framework nailed to the wall. And looking at all the leather straps and metal buckles hanging off of it, I did sort of start to think "What the HECK am I doing here?!"
 
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WOW!!! :beating:!!! Freaking CRAZY!!!! That's so amazing!!! I went to a club/ really cool looking tri level outdoor venue this past weekend with a really good friend and her friends from uptown Hippie town, and the whole night was a gay night! It was CRAZY!!!

They decided that we should all take some mali (a very pure form of exstacy) and since it had been YEARS, I was all for it!! There were over 300 gay men/ straights mixed in/ and women all over! The lights, the music, and the atmoshphere was CRAZY!! Even crazier, that even though I have a bf, these gay HOT :drool5: men, were all over me too!! It was so packed in there I couldn't get them away even when I wanted to. And I tell you, at the end of the night, I'd say it was so packed in there that like 4 different GAY guys, made themselves an opportunity to kiss me on the lips, at the most unexpected times!!

I thought it was very non threatening. Very. I was shocked! I had a blast to say the least!! :D! It was wild!!! And they do not hold back at all when it comes to each other!!! :eek: Your club experiences sound crazy wild!!
 
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Why Alta-you little minx! You're quite the naughty girl. (And I'm very glad to know I'm not the only one around here!)

I have to admit that it was a crazy night for me.
Completely. Totally. Insane.
And I don't even have the excuse of drugs or drink. I was stone cold sober. Which makes sense. When you're making your wildest fantasies come true, you don't want to be drunk at the time so that you're unclear on the details later. Amirite?
 
Rejected hot neighbor! Haha, I love it! Looks like me and you are both experiencing new things later! Just BE SAFE! I know you will be, but I do worry! Take care and stay sexyyyyy Rox!
 
Sunflower said:
Rejected hot neighbor! Haha, I love it! Looks like me and you are both experiencing new things later! Just BE SAFE! I know you will be, but I do worry! Take care and stay sexyyyyy Rox!
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Thanks, Hana! But no need to worry. The club is a very safe environment. There's lots of people around if things start to go wrong, so that makes it much more sensible than just hooking up with random people through the internet and meeting somewhere private. Plus the owner and his wife seem very invested in keeping things safe and fun. There are lots of condoms about and everybody knows you have to use them...so that keeps things easy, as well....

So- it seems that we've got quite a little Naughty Girls Club started here. You, Alta and I can be founding members. And I'm sure there's other ladies around here on the site that could tell us a few stories and become members, as well. lol!

In answer to Tigs' earlier question...yes, Valentine's Day is indeed celebrated in France. (It's a Catholic saints day and those are all marked on every French calendar) It's pretty much the same as in the USA as far as celebrating goes...roses, cards, chocolates, etc. The displays in Paris were really lovely in the candy shop windows and in the bakeries....

I personally didn't get much action on Valentine's Day. Just a text from A. and that doesn't count, as he's not my sweetie. I guess I don't have a sweetie, as I'm not in love with anyone.... But that's ok. Right now, I'm all about sex.

Not that I went into that club two weeks ago planning to get crazy! I'd made it very clear to A. that this was just a "getting comfortable" outing and I was NOT going to be getting or giving any action of any kind. Definitely not.
For sure.
No way, José!
etc.
And the straps and chains hanging on the wall kind of reinforced this view of things!
But then we went back out by the bar and started talking with people. A. introduced me to several really nice couples. Most seemed to be in their late 30s-early 40s...in fact, there were very few people any younger than that. So, that made it feel really sociable and natural.
And another thing?
I was far from the least attractive woman there.
In fact, I'll dare to say that I looked pretty darn hot and got a lot of attention, from both men and women. Which was fun and amazing!
It was kind of like "Cinderella", only set in a swingers club in France. lol
 
BTW- that was indeed a booty call from Rejected Hot Neighbor.
And I SO shot him down.
We had a nice walk together and I explained that he's nice as a friend, but I just wasn't into having sex with him.
We could still be friends, though.

Mwahhahahaha!!!

(Am I evil if I admit that it was fun? It's been years since I had to let a guy down with the old friendship ploy. Good times!)
 
:smilielol5: I just love coming here and reading your journal!!!

Kinda fun to think of HNG pining away for you, isn't it? Was the sex with him not that great really? Or was it mostly the wife issue that made you break it off with him?

Can't wait to read the next chapter in the saga that is your life!
 
Tigpuppy said:
:smilielol5: I just love coming here and reading your journal!!!

Kinda fun to think of HNG pining away for you, isn't it? Was the sex with him not that great really? Or was it mostly the wife issue that made you break it off with him?

Can't wait to read the next chapter in the saga that is your life!
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I have to say that I LOVE writing this all down. I don't have any IRL friends I can share any of this with, so it's great to have my WLF online gal pals!

It is indeed rather sweet at age 45 to have a hot guy desperate to get me back into bed. But he really isn't worth the trouble. He's pretty hot and has quite an enormous...piece of personal equipment.
Very enormous.
*Ahem*
But compared to Hot Boyfriend, A. and the crazy stuff at the club, he just doesn't stack up that well. Not very creative.

I don't think I was worried about his wife finding out...On furthur reflection, I was actually worried that he'd break off with me first because he was worried about his wife, if that makes sense...
But of course, now that I'm unavailable to him, it just makes him want me that much more. Twisted psychology, FTW!

As for the rest of that night at the club? Well, the atmosphere was good, the people were friendly ( not sleazy!), I looked hot and felt sexy and my date kind of looked like Mel Gibson.
And he was totally into me.
All of the above in mind, can you blame me for going back on my intentions of only window shopping on this first trip to the candy store?
It started out just with A and I making out in one of the rooms....and sort of got more complicated from there.
My most wild time of the night? That would be when A. introduced me to his two lesbian friends who thought I looked kind of yummy....
Now, the entire extent of my girl on girl experience is the following: when I was 19, I was reallly drunk and French-kissed my best friend. (Luckily, she's the best human being ever, so we still laugh about the story today)
Other than that, nothing.
But I'm pretty curious and open and I figured that it could be...fun.
So, I ended up in bed with A. and Isabelle and Crystal all trying to make me very happy.
It was extremely interesting, as you may imagine. Very nice, but I definitely needed the presence of a guy there for it to work for me....At least now I know that I'm definitely not lesbian...and not even really bi.
Maybe more Bi-comfy?
 
Rox said:
has quite an enormous...piece of personal equipment.
Very enormous.
*Ahem*
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:smilielol5::smilielol5::smilielol5:

But I guess it doesn't matter what you've got for equipment if you don't now how to use it, right?

I don't exactly have a lot of personal experience with what various equipment is out there. My exposure has been to what ever hubby's got, plus a handfull of porns I've seen.

I went to a bachelorette party one time and the bride to be was given a 'toy' that was supposed to be an exact replica (same size, shape, texture etc) as some famous male porn star. When she opened it and held it up all the women there started laughing and screaming and going OMG!!! It's HUGE!!! And here's me with my limited personal experience thinking that's just what size they come in and I said "It is???" They all looked at me with this look on their faces like holy cow you poor woman! What kind of monster do you have to put up with at home????

LOL - it sort of embarrassed me for some reason. I kept my mouth shut after that. :sifone:
 
Tig....you got me ROTFLMAO, girl!
No wonder you kept your mouth shut- otherwise it would have seemed like bragging!


I'm having a good laugh over all this...but you are certainly right- it's what you do that matters, not what you've got....
 
Tigpuppy said:
:smilielol5::smilielol5::smilielol5:

But I guess it doesn't matter what you've got for equipment if you don't now how to use it, right?

I don't exactly have a lot of personal experience with what various equipment is out there. My exposure has been to what ever hubby's got, plus a handfull of porns I've seen.

I went to a bachelorette party one time and the bride to be was given a 'toy' that was supposed to be an exact replica (same size, shape, texture etc) as some famous male porn star. When she opened it and held it up all the women there started laughing and screaming and going OMG!!! It's HUGE!!! And here's me with my limited personal experience thinking that's just what size they come in and I said "It is???" They all looked at me with this look on their faces like holy cow you poor woman! What kind of monster do you have to put up with at home????

LOL - it sort of embarrassed me for some reason. I kept my mouth shut after that. :sifone:
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:smilielol5:!!! You are so funny!!!

I used to be a sex party host!! I have TONS of those toys as remainders in my closet from my previous business ventures and let me tell you, there are SO MANY different kinds!!! :eek:!! Crooked, straight, rippled, lumpy, large, small, average, with extra peices that resemble a tongue and a male instrument in one!! (those are really FUN!! :reddevil:!)

Of course, I had to try the bulk of them, for customer reviews of course!! LOL!!! ;)!!

You are really adorable!! :D!!! "You poor woman" had me DYING!!! :D!!!
 
Said by Rox : "Now, the entire extent of my girl on girl experience is the following: when I was 19, I was reallly drunk and French-kissed my best friend. (Luckily, she's the best human being ever, so we still laugh about the story today)"

:smilielol5:!!! Ohhhhhh, do I know that story!! I think I was the same age and I was messing around with a co-worker in the back room and we decided to take it to the next level of hanging out outside of work one night. Me, two girlfriends, a big bottle of Rum, exstacy, and the next thing you know, ....we are all in the room together with his KING KONG!! The next thing you know, I found myself licking parts of my best friend that we couldn't stop laughing over the next day!!

To this day, we joke and laugh too!! She'll lick her finger and wink, look at me and say.."I know you still want this baby." ..and proceed to move her licked finger down over her nipple!! LOL!!

It's so funny...!!! :D!! LOVE YOUR STORIES, ROX!!! :D!!
 
As I look back over my diary, it looks like it's changed from a 'Weight-loss diary' into an 'All-porn, All the time diary".....which is kind of cool. lol!

The weightloss....is at a standstill. I'd decided to lose inches and get toned and not worry about losing more weight. But even that isn't going as I planned. The weather is so nice latelyv that I'm walking outside, rather than staying in and doing my shred dvd. I should really do BOTH, but I just don't want to spend the time right now.... I have a big concert coming up on Friday night and I have so many rehearsals lately.

That's right! I do other things besides have sex! Who'd have thought?!

When I came back from the USA in August, I tried out for a spot as a student in a music conservatory. I'd always sang with little groups, but never got much professional training. But I was feeling so bad about my marriage and about myself, I thought that getting into the school and getting proper training singing classical music would help my self esteem. And if I was rejected...well, I figured that I was already so low that i couldn't go any lower....
But I got in, and it's been great!
And in the concert, I've got a solo piece to perform. Plus, I get to wear a great costume! I'm so excited!!

Normally, you get a degree in five years of study, but my teacher thinks i'll be able to skip a year (because I already have experience and I've been making fast progress) So...after this year, I may only have three more to go before I have a degree. Then I could teach music here in France. ( It's probably a bit late to start a career as an opera singer....but who knows? lol!)

So, that's got me all wound up right now!!!

Other excitement?
Well, Hot Boyfriend took a day off tomorrow, so he'll spend the day with me.

And last Saturday night at the club? OMG! There were fewer people there and things got crazier a lot faster. It was very fun! The club owner has taken quite a fancy to me and was quite flirtacious. The only trouble is that A. (my club friend) seems to be the jealous type...which is SO not what i need!!!

At one point, the owner suggested that he and my date double team me.
And I'm not talking in the sports sense of the word here, people.
And the letters D and P may or may not have been mentioned.

*ahem*

It would have been a first for me and I was totally up for it, but my date SO was not.
I'm not sure what to do, as he is lots of fun and it's nice to have a date in these places...but I need somebody very open and free...NOT another husband. I already have one of those , thanks. Gah!

And in a related news story: a new swingers club has opened up....five minutes away from my house!!!! Is that completely insane, or what?
I've already signed up for my (free for girls, of course) membership card!
The first party is this Saturday night.
This may be my destiny people!

On the other hand- am I brave enough to go all alone?
 
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Haha, I talk about sex in my diary all the time. People who don't like it don't have to read it and I love reading your diary! I'd be into swinging I think. I like the idea of being watched. Jealous guy may be a problem--Be careful and safe! Happy swinginggggg!
 
Sounds like you are having a great time getting to know yourself again. Older, more experienced in knowing that living life to fulfill yourself is ok - don't worry about what anyone else thinks.

Great news about the degree.

You've lost alot of weight - the toning will continue with time.
 
Like you my weightloss seems to be at a stand still as well. But I'm not exactly trying that hard either. Just sort of maintaining and coasting along.

But in other areas you life is WAY more exciting than mine by far! Love hearing about it!

Enjoy yourself, but be safe. You've worked so hard you deserve to have a ton of fun!
 
Rox is this really the same meek woman that I swapped emails with when you were going through such a bad time?????? I can't believe the change in you. I think that your husband did you a favour as you are having so much fun.
If you get a video taken of you singing then upload it to youtube and give us the link. I'd love to see it.
Have a great weekend. I don't know why I even bothered saying that as I know that you will ;)
 
ecky said:
Rox is this really the same meek woman that I swapped emails with when you were going through such a bad time?????? I can't believe the change in you. I think that your husband did you a favour as you are having so much fun.
If you get a video taken of you singing then upload it to youtube and give us the link. I'd love to see it.
Have a great weekend. I don't know why I even bothered saying that as I know that you will ;)
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You really helped get me through those early days, Val! I was so miserable and you really helped build up my confidence....
So, all this is partially due to you. And i DO thinak you, as i am having such a good time!
In many ways, what my husband did was horrible...but i think I've done my best to turns lemons into lemonade, so to speak. I feel like I've been asleep for years and am only just now coming awake....


The concert last night went GREAT! I'm not sure how the recording turned out, but I'll for sure post a few photos!

To celebrate afterwards, we went out with friends to a restaurant. I had a salad and water, as I was just so hyped-up. I'd hardly been able to eat all day and was well below my calories for the day.

The day before had been low in calories, too, as I was so busy. Hot boyfriend came to spend the day with me, which always burns tons of calories. lol! And then I had to be in rehearsal from 5pm until 9pm...so I really had no time to eat!
I'm thinking that I'm ready to make the final push to my real goal...

BTW...yesterday, Rejected Hot Neighbor came by for coffee. One thing led to another and I gave him another try. (I figure that maybe he can be taught?) At any rate, he distracted me and kept me from thinking about eating, which is always good. lol!

Tonight I'm off to the new club!!!!!
 
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