I am 27 years old, and I weigh about...264,260,264,260,264,252 lbs. I am truly an emotional eater. I have good weeks and I have bad weeks. Some weeks I work out daily while others purge all day long. I know and have probably tried every diet on the market. But at times I truly hate food. I HATE it with every inch of my being because it stresses me to have to think about what I should eat. Some times I wish that my jaw was wired shut so that it would be a non-issue. August 31st I got tired of where I was at and I decided to start my good carb diet + intense work out plan. I lost 12 pounds in 12 days. Then on the September 12th it was my birthday and my God sister bought me a cake from my favorite bakery...I felt like I should treat myself so my "i'll just have one slice" turned into "i need a piece with some ice cream"... Now I've been out of control every since. About 4 years ago I had real success I lost 40lbs. In like six months I got down from a size 24 to a size 14. I had never been a 14 before. And I acctually maintained in for 2 years!... Now I've gained some of it back, I yo yo between a size 18 & 16 now. And it is killing me that I'm stuck here I really need someone to talk to because no one in my circle of family and friends understands. I'm surrounded by these people that pig out all day and never gain any weight. It's just so simple for them. Can anyone relate?
Out of Control! I need help
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Probably half the forum can relate. Loads of us are more inclined to put on weight that a lot of people that we know and are so good at over-eating due to stress we could make the national team if it were ever made an Olympic sport...
I think that we have to ignore our past diet failures and believe that we can do this.
We have to break any connection or comparison going on of what we eat and how we exercise compared to people that we know. We either compare our behaviour with people with totally different metabolisms that can eat all that we eat and never gain an ounce or alternatively people who are just as big as ourselves who are not tackling their weight issues. Either way we are surrounded by people who can eat what we choose not to eat.
We have to sort out our nutrition so that we know how to eat healthily. The nutrition section is full of lots of great information on that. We can plot what we eat and how we exercise on and see our calorie balance for the weight loss that we deserve.
We have to build coping mechanisms and train ourselves to follow that path when things get stressful or difficult. That may mean that instead of binging on junk we binge on sugar free sweets or fruit. It might not be ideal but at least it will do us less harm. Chewing sugar free gum can sometimes help if you know that you are going to be in a tempting situation.
We need to inform our friends and family that we are trying to address our weight problems because we no longer want to risk our health. We would therefore appreciate it if they could support us by not buying tempting food or treats for us. Then before birthdays, Christmas, Easter or family gatherings remind them of this fact and maybe offer to supply dessert. Last Boxing Day I made a grape and gooseberry flavour sugar free jelly with lots of grapes in and my anorexic looking cousins all ate it and agreed how nice it was. I am not sure whether they realised that it was sugar free and therefore not going to harm my weight control project.
I think that we have to ignore our past diet failures and believe that we can do this.
We have to break any connection or comparison going on of what we eat and how we exercise compared to people that we know. We either compare our behaviour with people with totally different metabolisms that can eat all that we eat and never gain an ounce or alternatively people who are just as big as ourselves who are not tackling their weight issues. Either way we are surrounded by people who can eat what we choose not to eat.
We have to sort out our nutrition so that we know how to eat healthily. The nutrition section is full of lots of great information on that. We can plot what we eat and how we exercise on and see our calorie balance for the weight loss that we deserve.
We have to build coping mechanisms and train ourselves to follow that path when things get stressful or difficult. That may mean that instead of binging on junk we binge on sugar free sweets or fruit. It might not be ideal but at least it will do us less harm. Chewing sugar free gum can sometimes help if you know that you are going to be in a tempting situation.
We need to inform our friends and family that we are trying to address our weight problems because we no longer want to risk our health. We would therefore appreciate it if they could support us by not buying tempting food or treats for us. Then before birthdays, Christmas, Easter or family gatherings remind them of this fact and maybe offer to supply dessert. Last Boxing Day I made a grape and gooseberry flavour sugar free jelly with lots of grapes in and my anorexic looking cousins all ate it and agreed how nice it was. I am not sure whether they realised that it was sugar free and therefore not going to harm my weight control project.