Older, Wiser, but still fat...

Interesting background info there. Yup, and daily battles to maintain are not just for us overweighties, most people that maintain a reasonable weight that we see around often struggle on a daily basis with their weight. Never seems that way but I know my whole life was spent on dieting or watching what I eat or trying to get some exercise in and count calories, I've been doing this bull shit for damn well decades now! I mostly won the battle until the last few years :). Some people like my sister, on the other hand, just go through life with food and weight never being much an issue. She's never exercised a day in her life but always been 2 sizes lower than me. Oh well life's such a bitch! But great at the same time :).
 
Hey Karl.... I hope that all is going well for you and your wife... I had no idea she was going to get that done, I guess I must have missed those posts earlier or something.. Anyhow, I wish you all the best on your journey together... and remember we are all here for both of you... I will keep you all in my prayers.
:seeya: Natasha
 
The weekend is over, the craziness ending last week with my wife being in the hospital an hour away is done. She is home, and doing pretty well, but there are some glitches, things that we will have to learn as we go along.

First off with my running around and going back and forth my eating pretty much fell apart. My exercise was still on track though because I made adjustments. The one thing I can honestly say I'm on top of, virtually always. I managed to come in at only 2 lbs up from last week. Given my on the go eating and lack of preparation, I'll take it. I should have that gone by the end of the week. My life goes back to normal, with a couple of exceptions.

My wife's life is going to be different. She was suffering the effects of mild dehydration today. Why?, Because her stomach will only hold a couple of ounces at a time now. She (we), need to make sure that she is always taking sips of water, on a semi constant basis. If I get thirsty, I can slug down a glass of water and be done with it. She cannot. By the time she is becoming dehydrated, its already too late. Food has been a couple of ounces at a time of yogurt, soup etc. No solids yet. Alcohol... Are you kidding? Maybe months from now she could have a drink here or there, but she'll be a cheap drunk... We really aren't drinkers anyway. A twelve pack of Sam Adams will last me 6 months.

My life is different on other levels. I went grocery shopping the other day, picked up some boneless chicken breast on sale. God price on only the family packs. Ended up BBQing it and freezing some of it, refridgerating the rest and I'll be nuking it for leftovers for a a while. Really nobody else eating it except me and one of my daughters.

Spoke to some friends online the other day. Haven't seen them in a bit. They knew about the surgery, but you don't really think about it. They mentioned going out to dinner sometime in the future once she's feeling better... It took a second to dawn on me, but, food is no longer a focus for us, it can't be really. Going out to dinner? I guess we need to start thinking of alternative activities.

There are some adjustments. I'm hoping they will all be fairly easy ones to make. It really doesn't matter though, even if they aren't, its too late and we have to do it anyway. I'm hoping this will help me out too. If food can move away from being one of my focal points too, than I gain (well lose really), from this too.
 
Back to accountability for me.

Food today: 2840 cal, 86g fat, 116g protein, 431g carbs

Exercise:
strength - 30 minute heavy push workout.
Cardio - 60 minutes of cycling, 16+ miles

Had a woman on a nice roadbike, aero bars etc. call out "on your left' to me today, then told me she figured she'd better just hang with me because I usually pass her anyway... ??? I did remember passing a woman a few weeks ago on the trail who was moving pretty well... Apparently she has seen me out there a bunch of times

Anyway, we rode together for a bit, and while I could tell she was pushing to stay with me downhill, we seemed pretty even on the flats and I was pushing on the uphills to stay with her. I told her she was keeping me honest, instead of letting me be lazy.

I felt pretty good aout it. She says that she used to run marathons before she got into cycling, and she is clearly in better shape than me, but we seemed to be pretty evenly matched overall. I guess some of my hard work is paying off.
 
Glad to hear your wife is doing well after the surgery! Sounds like you have it all pretty well under control, you did well to only gain 2 pounds given the circumstances.. it would have been easy to over eat.

I hope things continue to improve as she (and you) get used to the new regume - it will certainly be a life changer for you both!!! I know what you mean about your diet changing too.. my hubby is like that I pretty much decide every meal so it has made a big difference to him me being on a diet. (I get to decide mainly because he really doesn't care that much, works 14 hours a day and only occassionally cooks.. plus prefers to take lunch from home rather than buy food... not coz I am a control freak..(although of course I am LOL) in fact it drives me nuts having to make EVERY decision LOL )
 
Kori said:
(I get to decide mainly because he really doesn't care that much, works 14 hours a day and only occassionally cooks.. plus prefers to take lunch from home rather than buy food... not coz I am a control freak..(although of course I am LOL) in fact it drives me nuts having to make EVERY decision LOL )
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Can you use parentheses inside of parentheses? :biggrinjester: J/K

It's kind of funny. I've never been a fan of the traditional household roles (read that old fashioned gender roles), but, my wife has always done the majority of the cooking. This now means that I am, at least in the near future, the one who will be the primary cook, since she won't be eating standard food for a little bit.

Of course this also means that I will be the sole person to blame regarding the quality of the food (health wise, I'm not a bad cook), so there will be no excuses for not eating healthy. We used to be sort of co-dependant enablers with regard to junk food. now I have to accept 100% responsibility for my own choices.
 
Im glad to hear things have gone well for your wife...trail and error regarding the dehydration, alot to learn and remeber.
 
Karl...Please give your wife a hug for me even though i dont know her, I understand...before i started this journey I said to a good friend I was so miserable I would do anything...although I would never have qualified for lap band or GBypass (i know i took the online quizes) I longed for something that would help me...funny but I dont know why Weight Watchers worked (FINALLY) and now I am pretty much on the right track except for the cake and chardonnay addiction (i am working on both)

I worked with two people who had their surgery at the same time..one had gastric bypass the other the lapband...both look wonderful...and my friend who had the lapband is so beautiful inside and out and she beams with pride...and boy does she look good in a pair of jeans....its been a difficult road for both (physically and mentally) but I think they both are much healthier and happier..

My hubby has lost about 50..."things" that were good before are "more better now"...because goals are withing "our reach" ifyaknowhatamean.

hugz to you both
me
 
Thank you, thank you!! Everyone, thank you so much for the well wishes headed towards my wife. She is doing really well right now and starting to feel more in sync with her system. We went walking around the neaighborhood last night, the first time really after surgery and she was able to go a moderate distance without getting too tired.

I tell you though, the weight loss is wild, she has already lost like 14 lbs since last Thursday :eek2:

I on the other hand am just trying to get back to where I was prior to the running around at the end of last week. I should be there and more by Monday's official weigh in.

Food accountability

Tuesday: 3793 calories (ouch), 106g fat, 179g protein, 579g carbs The saving grace here was that I did 30 minutes of weights and 45 minutes of intense cardio cycling, so I can't complain too much.

Wednesday: 2725 cal, 97g fat, 122g protein, 374g carbs and one hour of cycling, again moving pretty well. Hopefully made up for some of my excess on Tuesday. Actually, this was kind of like calorie cycling, at the top of my range one day, at the bottom another day. We'll see if it does anything.

The rain is supposed to be coming back in tomorrow and the rest of the week, right through the weekend pretty much sucks ass according to the weather people. Not happy about that, they are refinishing the indoor track at the college, so that removes it as a walking option. Additionally this is the area where they keep the rowing machines, so they will not be an option either. Guess I'll have to use the Arc trainer and the ellipticals :(
 
I glad your wife is doing well after the surgery thus far. My mom's friend had the same surgery in March. She has lost like 45 pounds so far!

Good luck with everything. Sorry i've been MIA. I'll be back more often now.
 
Miss me? Cuz I sure missed U :)

I just caught up on latest with you and your wife. It's great to know that you are doing well and that she is recovering well too. I just wanted to let you know that I'm back in the game again and this time hopefully it will be easier for me to lose the weight after the baby. If you hadn't had a chance to read my diary yet, I had a 9 pound boy who we named Ryan Mathias. He is gorgeous. He was born on my younger daughter Danyela's birthday so that was pretty cool. I gained 53 pounds with him. I've lost 36 pounds so far and hope it keeps coming off. My goal is to get to my goal weight by their birthday, June 1st 2010. It's good to be back. I hope you keep in touch. I can't wait to get on my bicycle again. I should get the okay by July 13th. That would be six weeks after my c-section. Take care. :seeya:
 
reluctantcabbie said:
The rain is supposed to be coming back in tomorrow and the rest of the week, right through the weekend pretty much sucks ass according to the weather people. Not happy about that, they are refinishing the indoor track at the college, so that removes it as a walking option.
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boston vampires must be very happy with this weather... :p

glad ur wife is doing better! :hug2:
 
My weekend is over, and I've done the gym thing and such today. Raining still! so no cycling, although I did decide to brave it for 25 minutes of walking today. I also did 20 minutes on the elliptical at the gym, as well as my usual upper body heavy push split today (30 minutes). I will weigh in later this afternoon.

Everyone, I'm sorry I have not gotten to other people's diaries much lately, I have had a really full plate between work and my wife's surgery/recovery. I'm hoping things will settle a bit now, and maybe I'll have some time to stop in on y'all. You folks are all the best :grouphug:

I've also decided to join Omega's challenge to keep me accountable because the last one seemed to do good things for me.

I did nothing to track food over the weekend, however, I also didn't fall off the wagon either. I ate well, so I don't expect any issues today.
 
Here is the breakdown. I did well enough over the weekend to see a loss today. I'm down 3 lbs as of this afternoon. Got my gym time in today and some walking as well as some elliptical time. Raining frigging constantly here so unless I feel like being a duck, most outdoor activities get curtailed. I did walk outside when it was just drizzling.

Calories for today: 2478, 63 g fat, 411 g carbs, 119 g protein. Actually pretty low given the exercise.
 
Hey Karl...how is the wife doing?????

I havent been around much either...I need to be though because I dont want to get complacent in my weightloss....

Hope to talk to you soon
Love
me
 
Since you asked...

My wife is doing very well! Tomorrow will make 2 weekes since the surgery. She has her energy back for the most part, and is up and walking around, going to the store, driving etc. She is basically not restricted in any way with physical activities (nothing more than 25 lbs yet, not really an issue). Solid food is on the horizon for her.

I do have to get on her case about making sure that she is actually eating enough, she says she no longer really feels hungry. In 2 weeks time she has dropped a little better than 20 lbs. If the weather would cooperate, we would be taking evening walks, but it has rained for pretty much the last week solid here. I feel like I'm living in the rain forest.

We did play on the Wii fit last night and she had no problems doing the step aerobics for 20 minutes or so.
 
Hey cabbie,
Just stopping by and see your wife had surgery. Hope all is well and wish her a speedy recovery.

Yes, the weather is awful and depressing. I need some sun. We will probably go into a drought after this. No happy medium.

Matt
 
reluctantcabbie said:
My one regret is that we didn't figure out this stuff a long time ago. I hinted in a post in another thread that I have things focusing me that are not entirely for the right reason, this is it. I do not want to do the surgery myself. I want to prove that I can do this by pushing myself to be honest about what I do. Sometimes I wish it was easier though. I'm realizing slowly that this is never going to end. even if I hit goal, I will need to watch it like a hawk or fall back on my old ways. There will never be a moments rest from battling the bulge. I will need to stay active, I will need to keep watching what I eat... forever. I think I'm okay with that, but sometimes... I just get tired of it.
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cabbie,
Just saw this post. You are a good man. Plain and simple.

Your wife chose a path that hopefully works for her. I never judge someone else for the path they take. If it works for them and they stick to it, who am I to judge. I wish her the best.

I have also come to the realization that this is a life long struggle. I will need to watch what i eat for a long time. Does that mean i cant enjoy myself every so often? absolutely not. It's all about balance. You will know when your body needs a break. Keep doing what you are doing and you will be fine.

Stay strong.
 
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