cinderelly
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yah the pervs are more like teases...though so relly..dont worry...still involuntarily celibate here on the homefront..LOLOL
Ha Kare - Im not worried hun...lol...I know Karl well i know what he is like...heh LOL
Older, Wiser, but still fat...
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Ha Kare - Im not worried hun...lol...I know Karl well i know what he is like...heh LOL
cinderelly
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Really?
I hate being involuntarily celibate but what can ya do lol, in my case anyway, heh
nmartinez0531
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Hey Karl... Where are you? LOL! Just checking in on you again... to see how you're doing... Pushing yourself to the max no doubt... Hang in there... and hope to hear from ya again soon.. Thanks for stopping by my diary and always offering advice... It really helps and feels good to have friends that care 
Natasha
Hang in there... and hope to hear from ya again soon.. Thanks for stopping by my diary and always offering advice... It really helps and feels good to have friends that care Natasha
CRAZYMAIZY
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Morning Karl
How's it going, thought I'd drop in to see how the healthy lifestyle is getting on, hope to read an update soon from you and really hope things are going well. How's the bike?
Bye for now
How's it going, thought I'd drop in to see how the healthy lifestyle is getting on, hope to read an update soon from you and really hope things are going well. How's the bike?
Bye for now
nmartinez0531
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Okay Mister 
Where the heck are you? We've came this far... so you better get your butt back in here!!! I hope all is going well with you... I haven't seen you post on here for a day or two, so naturally because I care... I'm worried.. please let us know you're alright and how things are going okay? Remember, even if you've had a bad couple of days to pick yourself up and that we're all here for you okay....
Natasha
Where the heck are you? We've came this far... so you better get your butt back in here!!! I hope all is going well with you... I haven't seen you post on here for a day or two, so naturally because I care... I'm worried.. please let us know you're alright and how things are going okay? Remember, even if you've had a bad couple of days to pick yourself up and that we're all here for you okay.... Natasha
thecabbie
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Hey all, I have had a weekend full of umm... really good times... involving hot tubs and hotels... Let your imaginations run where they will, the reality might have been even more fun...
Anyway, I have not gotten on for a couple days and I love the fact that you folks check on me!
Lotsalubs...
I'll be back to update prolly tonight...
Cyalatabye!!
Anyway, I have not gotten on for a couple days and I love the fact that you folks check on me!
Lotsalubs...I'll be back to update prolly tonight...
Cyalatabye!!
nmartinez0531
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I'm so glad you're okay!!! I was worried aboutcha... Glad you were having lotsa fun!!! Boy do I wish I was in your shoes! LOL! Well, hope to read and update on all the fun you've been having and your progress!!!
Natasha
Natasha
thecabbie
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So...
Tha weekend eatig was full of poor qualityfood choices, but without tremendous quantities so I managed to at least save my butt on calories. Way too much fat and carbohydrate content (and a little alcohol too)
There was I'm pretty sure, enough activity to offset the poor choices, and I did manage to keep it in range so I will call it a win. I haven't yet weighed in. This is my weigh in day, I usually go in the afternoon. Keeping my fingers crossed.
I'll get a chance probably to make a stop in y'all's diaries and such later on tonight.
Tha weekend eatig was full of poor qualityfood choices, but without tremendous quantities so I managed to at least save my butt on calories. Way too much fat and carbohydrate content (and a little alcohol too)
There was I'm pretty sure, enough activity to offset the poor choices, and I did manage to keep it in range so I will call it a win. I haven't yet weighed in. This is my weigh in day, I usually go in the afternoon. Keeping my fingers crossed.
I'll get a chance probably to make a stop in y'all's diaries and such later on tonight.
thecabbie
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Regrets?
I have been big most of my life. I come from a family of people with addictive disorders. Perhaps there is a genetic defect. I don't know if there is an addictive gene, or a poor eating gene. At the end of the day, whether there is or not, it needas to be dealt with right? It could be entirely nurture too. Doesn't matter, it still needs to be dealt with if you want to get past it.
I played with drugs and alcohol as a teenager and into my very early 20's. I basically dropped those when I discovered that my girlfriend (now wife), was pregnant, and did the right thing. I grew up and applied myself to work etc, stayed away from drugs, very little drinking (still), but cigarettes and food...
My wife also came from a dysfunctional family. Alcoholism and abuse runs rampant through her bloodline. Together we have made a life, and a good one in most respects too. We are still very much in love, 22 + years of relationship later. We raised 2 daughters who have both become intelligent, responsible adults who treat people with respect and have a good work ethic etc.
We are all overweight though. My kids did not grow up with the demons that our families had. There are no drug addicted divorced parents, absentee dads or abusive alcoholic parents storming through their lives. What they did have was two loving parents, who did not set good examples with food and activity. My wife and I are both overweight. I am active (now) and trying to deal with it through diet and exercise (and willpower). It's a long road. My wife is going thursday for bariatric surgery. I wish that she could have seen a way to join me in my quest, but I understand why she is doing it too. She has a family history of diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol, etc. I will be there for her every step of the way. A piece of me is sorry that this is the choice though.
My one regret is that we didn't figure out this stuff a long time ago. I hinted in a post in another thread that I have things focusing me that are not entirely for the right reason, this is it. I do not want to do the surgery myself. I want to prove that I can do this by pushing myself to be honest about what I do. Sometimes I wish it was easier though. I'm realizing slowly that this is never going to end. even if I hit goal, I will need to watch it like a hawk or fall back on my old ways. There will never be a moments rest from battling the bulge. I will need to stay active, I will need to keep watching what I eat... forever. I think I'm okay with that, but sometimes... I just get tired of it.
I have been big most of my life. I come from a family of people with addictive disorders. Perhaps there is a genetic defect. I don't know if there is an addictive gene, or a poor eating gene. At the end of the day, whether there is or not, it needas to be dealt with right? It could be entirely nurture too. Doesn't matter, it still needs to be dealt with if you want to get past it.
I played with drugs and alcohol as a teenager and into my very early 20's. I basically dropped those when I discovered that my girlfriend (now wife), was pregnant, and did the right thing. I grew up and applied myself to work etc, stayed away from drugs, very little drinking (still), but cigarettes and food...
My wife also came from a dysfunctional family. Alcoholism and abuse runs rampant through her bloodline. Together we have made a life, and a good one in most respects too. We are still very much in love, 22 + years of relationship later. We raised 2 daughters who have both become intelligent, responsible adults who treat people with respect and have a good work ethic etc.
We are all overweight though. My kids did not grow up with the demons that our families had. There are no drug addicted divorced parents, absentee dads or abusive alcoholic parents storming through their lives. What they did have was two loving parents, who did not set good examples with food and activity. My wife and I are both overweight. I am active (now) and trying to deal with it through diet and exercise (and willpower). It's a long road. My wife is going thursday for bariatric surgery. I wish that she could have seen a way to join me in my quest, but I understand why she is doing it too. She has a family history of diabetes, high blood pressure, cholesterol, etc. I will be there for her every step of the way. A piece of me is sorry that this is the choice though.
My one regret is that we didn't figure out this stuff a long time ago. I hinted in a post in another thread that I have things focusing me that are not entirely for the right reason, this is it. I do not want to do the surgery myself. I want to prove that I can do this by pushing myself to be honest about what I do. Sometimes I wish it was easier though. I'm realizing slowly that this is never going to end. even if I hit goal, I will need to watch it like a hawk or fall back on my old ways. There will never be a moments rest from battling the bulge. I will need to stay active, I will need to keep watching what I eat... forever. I think I'm okay with that, but sometimes... I just get tired of it.
cinderelly
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Wow Karl...I haven't felt close to you in awhile and that post made feel closer to you than I have in a long time...ya know I am still here for you if ya ever need to talk.just remember that ok...if I was you I would feel the same way abt your wife it is a tough place to be in...you are doing what you should be doing standing beside your wife and supporting her...the diet and exercise thing is a tough one...I stop and start a lot and for that reason I get tired of being so disciplined and never getting anywhere but for me I'm also scared of succeeding.
Kori
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Hey Karl,
I loved your post, very honest and blunt! You are a good man (but you know that)
i hope your wife recovers from the surgery quickly, and that she applies herself as much as you do ... even with the surgery, it is still a huge amount of work to lose the weight, on another forum I am a member of, I have watched and travelled along with someone who had it, and lost over 250 pounds so far, they have now lost more than they currently weigh - but it has been a super hard road, and they have had to work just as hard as the rest of us fighting the addictions/dealing with the pain and discomfort etc.. it doesn't just stop because you have the surgery... it's still hard, and I take my hat off to anyone who does this.. no matter how they do it
Glad to hear you had a fun weekend though I was away for 4 days too.. but not quite as much adventure and debauchery as your weekend
I loved your post, very honest and blunt! You are a good man (but you know that)
i hope your wife recovers from the surgery quickly, and that she applies herself as much as you do ... even with the surgery, it is still a huge amount of work to lose the weight, on another forum I am a member of, I have watched and travelled along with someone who had it, and lost over 250 pounds so far, they have now lost more than they currently weigh - but it has been a super hard road, and they have had to work just as hard as the rest of us fighting the addictions/dealing with the pain and discomfort etc.. it doesn't just stop because you have the surgery... it's still hard, and I take my hat off to anyone who does this.. no matter how they do it
Glad to hear you had a fun weekend though
I was away for 4 days too.. but not quite as much adventure and debauchery as your weekend
thecabbie
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Thank you Kori and Cerella! to both of you. I know this is not going to be easy, regardless of the method. I started out at 140 -150 lbs past my ideal weight, now I'm around halfway to where I want to be. In one sense, when she goes through the surgery, it will help me too. We certainly will not be going out to any restaurants any time soon. That by itself will help keep me honest.
The surgery is done laparascopically now, and the recovery time is much less than it used to be. Insurance is covering it as well, because of the related health issues.
The issues are going to be related to the idea that food is fuel only now. The entire social aspect revolving around food goes away. A whole new attitude will have to develop around our social life. There are needless to say, going to be some adjustments.
to both of you. I know this is not going to be easy, regardless of the method. I started out at 140 -150 lbs past my ideal weight, now I'm around halfway to where I want to be. In one sense, when she goes through the surgery, it will help me too. We certainly will not be going out to any restaurants any time soon. That by itself will help keep me honest.The surgery is done laparascopically now, and the recovery time is much less than it used to be. Insurance is covering it as well, because of the related health issues.
The issues are going to be related to the idea that food is fuel only now. The entire social aspect revolving around food goes away. A whole new attitude will have to develop around our social life. There are needless to say, going to be some adjustments.
I'm so glad you can come here and share so freely Karl.
It will be big changes for you and your wife. I completely understand wanting her to do it "your" way, but at least you are realistic about your feelings. Plus it's true, everyone has their own path even when you are in a marriage.
Thank you for sharing.
It will be big changes for you and your wife. I completely understand wanting her to do it "your" way, but at least you are realistic about your feelings. Plus it's true, everyone has their own path even when you are in a marriage.
Thank you for sharing.
thecabbie
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Well, I took today off from tracking. It was more a question of convenience than anything else really, I don't think I went over by much, although I did eat out at a restaurant tonight.
This was my Wife's last day of normal food for a while, and She is going into surgery first thing tomorrow. I will be working overnight, then bringing her into the hospital and hanging out till I know she's all set. Then home for a nap and back in to the hospital in the afternoon.
I will have done a grocery shopping trip based upon her new needs, and healthy eating for me by the time she is out of the hospital, so the new adventure begins. I'm guessing accountability will not be an issue for me in the future. We've always been kind of each other's enablers in the past. Removing her diet from the equation is likely to have a profound effect on mine also.
Wish us luck folks!
This was my Wife's last day of normal food for a while, and She is going into surgery first thing tomorrow. I will be working overnight, then bringing her into the hospital and hanging out till I know she's all set. Then home for a nap and back in to the hospital in the afternoon.
I will have done a grocery shopping trip based upon her new needs, and healthy eating for me by the time she is out of the hospital, so the new adventure begins. I'm guessing accountability will not be an issue for me in the future. We've always been kind of each other's enablers in the past. Removing her diet from the equation is likely to have a profound effect on mine also.
Wish us luck folks!
cinderelly
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I will be thinking abt you guys and I hope your wife does well through her surgery.
momma4alex
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Hey karl, hope recovery goes well. i had talked to my doc about doing the surgery years ago because of my health issues but because i was under 20 and didn't have kids at that time they said it wasn't a good choice to make. Now that i have learned more about exercising and such i think that while i would love to lose weight fast as my friend did(she went from 250 down to 135 in less then 2 years) I want to prove to myself and my family that i can do this without medical intervention if possible. Even more so to set a good example for my boys. So while i understand your wifes point in the surgery i also get yours too. Good luck and keep your head up.
CRAZYMAIZY
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Hey Karl
Really hope it all goes ok for your wife, sounds like you are up and running for looking after her.
Its times like this when we think of our health and fitness that little bit more, you are here, you are working at things & I wish you both well.
Really hope it all goes ok for your wife, sounds like you are up and running for looking after her.
Its times like this when we think of our health and fitness that little bit more, you are here, you are working at things & I wish you both well.