since you sound like you are desperate for advice, and to save you some time, i'll copy and paste an answer i gave to another poster asking how to loose weight. sorry typing it out every time is making me feel a bit reduntant so here goes:
to loose fat you need to be in a calorie deficit. you can expect to loose 1-2 pounds a week. of course, the first couple of weeks you will loose the most because you would probably be cutting down a lot of the salt and thus not retaining as much water). open up an account at fitday.com and start tracking your food intake, NOT going over allowable calories DAILY. the key is to be consistent. if you have trouble finding certain foods on fitday.com then what i do is i usually search them on thedailyplate.com which has a bigger database. if you are consistent at tracking your food and staying within this calorie limit then results are inevitable. adding exercise to your routine would help speed up the process too, as you would be burning even more calories. every 10 pounds you loose, you will have to readjust to daily calorie intake accordingly. here is how to find out how many calories you can have daily yourself...
just head on over to this site:
- once you calculated your BMR write it down
- click on "daily calorie needs" right below the 'calculate BMR button'
- do the calculation on the page depending on how active you are, and this will give you the calories that you need to MAINTAIN your weight
- then take your maintenance calories and minus off 15 -20%, and this is what you should be eating to loose weight
you can find all this info right here on the site by reading all the stickied threads on top of the forums. i also find it helpful to read Steves posts which are very informative (all this info i am sharing with you, i received from reading his advice - and trust me its very effective i lost 20 pounds since late march)