Not gonna take it anymore
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Tinibikini
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Happy Easter 2skinny!
Tinibikini
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I need some support guys/gals.
I feel like quitting, but I really don't want to, because I will only be what I've always been, someone who never goes through with anything.
I need some pick me ups, and over diet hints, because I don't want to give up on my goal, and myself, anymore.
I've eaten terribly the past two weeks, with stress at school and just the freetime to do so.
Easter doesn't help, either.
I really want to feel comfortable in a bikini this summer, it is something I have wanted all of my teen years, and have never been able to do.
What do you guys do, just as you are about to pig out, or eat something you know isn't good for you?
It seems the past weeks, I put myself on auto-pilot, and I don't feel crappy about eating until the whole bag is gone, figuratively.
I need some help.
Please.
<3
I feel like quitting, but I really don't want to, because I will only be what I've always been, someone who never goes through with anything.
I need some pick me ups, and over diet hints, because I don't want to give up on my goal, and myself, anymore.
I've eaten terribly the past two weeks, with stress at school and just the freetime to do so.
Easter doesn't help, either.
I really want to feel comfortable in a bikini this summer, it is something I have wanted all of my teen years, and have never been able to do.
What do you guys do, just as you are about to pig out, or eat something you know isn't good for you?
It seems the past weeks, I put myself on auto-pilot, and I don't feel crappy about eating until the whole bag is gone, figuratively.
I need some help.
Please.
<3
Tinibikini
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Could I please get some advice?
2Skinny
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How did we miss you April 9th?
Bummer Tini, I wish I'd seen your post on April 9th and not April 17th. I hope you haven't been beating yourself up mentally.
At age 15, and all through teens, it is very normal to think completely in the NOW, during those years, we humans tend not to realize how long life is yet. What I'm trying to say is you may have binged for a couple weeks...so what? You have your whole life to get this right. What do we do just as we are about to pig out? LOL We pig out!! K, well, maybe not all of us. But MOST of us give into cravings and can completely relate to your struggle.
I'm an overeater, an addict of sorts. And like you, during binges I go on auto-pilot (great phrase). I can go for two hour marathons of non stop eating while watching a movie. Afterwards, I'll go to bed and feel like a beached whale and literally SICK with guilt. I think a lot of people on this forum experience that. You are not alone. Teens are so honest and I love that about them.
You feel like quitting...meh. You won't. You might slide down the hill a bit, but from what I've read in your journal, you are one amazing young woman and you are going to succeed. We have to fall and get up a whole bunch of times before we get it right...most of us.
Something about auto-pilot eating is that we slip into a subconscious mode, a mentality where we are no longer aware. We don't want to be aware maybe for different reasons. Sometimes I don't want to be aware because of emotions...maybe I'm angry or hurt, or lonely or bored, whatever emotion. And slipping into the unconscious binging mode is an escape. One healthy eating tip is to begin a journal of every single feeling you are having and when you have a craving, to write what types of feelings you might be wanting to avoid.
Another thing that occurs to me is you being 15, you might not be able to control what kinds of food are in the house, or what types of meals are being prepared. This is an extra challenge. I wonder if besides this forum, you need some more support right close by. Is there a dietician or nutritionist at school? A teacher or guidance counselor that you could privately meet with and tell of your healthy eating plan but that you could use some support with it? I know, that might be goofy, but another idea is a support group for people who want to lose weight.
You don't have to be perfect in your journey, you can afford to have a few weeks where you 'mess up'. Because now you can learn something more about yourself, or you can find out what other tool you need in your weight loss tool kit. We're all so unique and you will find what you need, just be patient and don't panic. You have time.
Last thing; the bikini. Oh that cruel blasted bikini! Curse that bikini!! LOL Hey, I know that is your goal and your motivation...and that's fair. But eating healthy and exercise are acts of self love for the total YOU, not just the outer physical appearance. You will get into the bikini...of that I am quite sure.. but you will do something far greater than that, on your journey. You will learn to forgive yourself, believe in yourself and get up after a fall. Tini, most of us on this forum didn't start paying attention to our health until much later in life. Few started as early as you are. You should be incredibly PROUD of the fact that you give a damn.
I know many other people here want to support you and for some bizarre twist of fate, we missed the April 9th post. I hope you check back in your diary and see my post...because I really want you to be happy.
Luv and hugs,
Lili
Bummer Tini, I wish I'd seen your post on April 9th and not April 17th. I hope you haven't been beating yourself up mentally.
At age 15, and all through teens, it is very normal to think completely in the NOW, during those years, we humans tend not to realize how long life is yet. What I'm trying to say is you may have binged for a couple weeks...so what? You have your whole life to get this right. What do we do just as we are about to pig out? LOL We pig out!! K, well, maybe not all of us. But MOST of us give into cravings and can completely relate to your struggle.
I'm an overeater, an addict of sorts. And like you, during binges I go on auto-pilot (great phrase). I can go for two hour marathons of non stop eating while watching a movie. Afterwards, I'll go to bed and feel like a beached whale and literally SICK with guilt. I think a lot of people on this forum experience that. You are not alone. Teens are so honest and I love that about them.
You feel like quitting...meh. You won't. You might slide down the hill a bit, but from what I've read in your journal, you are one amazing young woman and you are going to succeed. We have to fall and get up a whole bunch of times before we get it right...most of us.
Something about auto-pilot eating is that we slip into a subconscious mode, a mentality where we are no longer aware. We don't want to be aware maybe for different reasons. Sometimes I don't want to be aware because of emotions...maybe I'm angry or hurt, or lonely or bored, whatever emotion. And slipping into the unconscious binging mode is an escape. One healthy eating tip is to begin a journal of every single feeling you are having and when you have a craving, to write what types of feelings you might be wanting to avoid.
Another thing that occurs to me is you being 15, you might not be able to control what kinds of food are in the house, or what types of meals are being prepared. This is an extra challenge. I wonder if besides this forum, you need some more support right close by. Is there a dietician or nutritionist at school? A teacher or guidance counselor that you could privately meet with and tell of your healthy eating plan but that you could use some support with it? I know, that might be goofy, but another idea is a support group for people who want to lose weight.
You don't have to be perfect in your journey, you can afford to have a few weeks where you 'mess up'. Because now you can learn something more about yourself, or you can find out what other tool you need in your weight loss tool kit. We're all so unique and you will find what you need, just be patient and don't panic. You have time.
Last thing; the bikini. Oh that cruel blasted bikini! Curse that bikini!! LOL Hey, I know that is your goal and your motivation...and that's fair. But eating healthy and exercise are acts of self love for the total YOU, not just the outer physical appearance. You will get into the bikini...of that I am quite sure.. but you will do something far greater than that, on your journey. You will learn to forgive yourself, believe in yourself and get up after a fall. Tini, most of us on this forum didn't start paying attention to our health until much later in life. Few started as early as you are. You should be incredibly PROUD of the fact that you give a damn.
I know many other people here want to support you and for some bizarre twist of fate, we missed the April 9th post. I hope you check back in your diary and see my post...because I really want you to be happy.
Luv and hugs,
Lili
That's great advice by Lili (2skinny) above.
I'm also in the same boat .. wanting to fit into the bikini but it's more like a goal "when I get there" rather than it being fully my goal. I mean I want to wear a bikini but I'd also like to wear half a dozen different things when I get to my goal weight as well!
Maybe you need to rework this a little and really outline your goals .. perfectly to a T. Make small goals and milestones - in 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 8 weeks .. with maybe a reward at these points if you reach them.
About food .. I know one great advice someone told me once. Whenever you feel like you need to eat something bad .. then pause, go do something else. Do a short work out, read a book, anything .. for 10 - 15 minutes. If after that you still crave it (though most of the time one doesn't) .. then go ahead.
Another trick is to use a smaller plate at meals (a dessert plate), don't know why this helps but it always helps since I can't put too much stuff on the plate.
Good luck
I'm also in the same boat .. wanting to fit into the bikini but it's more like a goal "when I get there" rather than it being fully my goal. I mean I want to wear a bikini but I'd also like to wear half a dozen different things when I get to my goal weight as well!
Maybe you need to rework this a little and really outline your goals .. perfectly to a T. Make small goals and milestones - in 2 weeks, 4 weeks, 8 weeks .. with maybe a reward at these points if you reach them. About food .. I know one great advice someone told me once. Whenever you feel like you need to eat something bad .. then pause, go do something else. Do a short work out, read a book, anything .. for 10 - 15 minutes. If after that you still crave it (though most of the time one doesn't) .. then go ahead.
Another trick is to use a smaller plate at meals (a dessert plate), don't know why this helps but it always helps since I can't put too much stuff on the plate.
Good luck