Newcomer Story here.. Stuck in a rut!

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DidiDidums

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Before I start I'm porting here cause I guess I need some support as I feel like i'e come to a stand still...

Oke, so I don't really know if i'm posting this in the right place either, but here goes... (SOME PHOTOS DOWN THERE)

I was always a chubby kid and it bothered me from a young age.. but it never really escalated until about the age of 17.. (I'm 19 now). My weight started to really mulitiply after I started dating the love of my life, and I think I became a little TOO comfortable that he loved my already curvy body,, so I just ate and ate WITH him (he is very slim no matter what he eats). a few months late I started to notice that none of my old clothes were fitting me anymore and I had gone up from a UK size 12-14 to a size 18. Being only 5'3'', this image was no longer curvy and had turned flumpy! :p

I began to feel really low about my image but it seemed the more sad I felt, the more I would eat, and in secret as I was ashamed for people to see me stuffing my face.

Eventually, after an all time low and probably after another failed shopping trip, I opened up to my boyfriend about my body confidence worries and decided to weigh myself. My weight had gone up to an upsetting 15st (210lb) and I was more certain than ever that something had to change.

So I decided to cut out bread, potatoes, sweets, snacks, and was eating child sized portions for al meals. As well as this I was walking to and from work (about 3 miles in total a day) 5 days a week.. and after only 2 months I had gone down to 13 stone.

Now.. was just over 2 years ago, and, I am still 13 stone. After the loss I completely lost ALL motivations to lose any more and stopped walking, stopped eating properly and have been on/off ever since on daily basis, I have Hovered around 175 to 186lbs.

My biggest problem is, I know I need AND want to lose the extra weight, but not as much as I want to eat yummy food and be lazy!

I have short bursts of motivation but my life has changed so much since then and I don't find it as easy to follow that old routine, so I give up very easily.

Before, I was living with my BFs family and they were very understanding and supported me alot with it, and now, I am back with my famiyl who are not very supportive at all, my Mum gives very large portions even when I ask her not to and are always buying VERY tempting snacks for me to feast my eyes on.

ALSO I no longer have as much oppertunity or motivation to excersise. I am in college 3 days a week, and it's too far to walk to or from, the other 3 days I work, and I start very early and feel too uncomfortable walking to work alone in the dark and by the time I am finished work I am usually too tired after a very busy week of college and work to walk home and give up completely.

I keep trying but no matter what I do, i'm just finding it SO hard to get back into it and hopefully you guys have some words of advise for me as it really is getting me down.

PS! IM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST! Here are some pics.....

The first 3 are before at 15 stone and the other 2 are after at 13 stone....
 
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My guess is that you have good days and bad days of eating and exercise. You know what works for you, but you should start doing it again. You'll feel better about yourself.
As far as motivation goes, just look around. There's lots of people losing weight and feeling great about themselves!
Believe in yourself!
 
It's great that you want to continue on your healthy journey.

It's too bad you do not get the kind of support you are looking for at home.

A couple thoughts - Is it possible to serve yourself - that way you are in control of how much is on your plate. Another option would be to make yourself some healthy meals and you can buy some healthy snacks to have around.

As for exercise and energy - I have always heard that exercise gives you more energy. My personal experience has found that to be true. I find the hard part to be getting off my duff and actually doing the work. I almost always feel fantastic after working out - often it is just 30 min on the treadmill.
 
Hey girl :)
You're so beautiful!/ I love your blonde hair :)
I'm going through the same thing that you are, and we started at close to the same weight. With the holiday season hovering it's getting very difficult, but it always helps me to think that I was no clue what I ate last year around this time, so it must not have been worth it to pig out. If you can get your mind to think not instant gratification and more long term, I think it'll help you with all the temptations. Also, have you thought about any goals that you want to acheive? :)
Good Luck!
 
Thankyou all for your replies! And you're all right.. I agree with you about why i'm not motivated.. I think the biggest problem for me is that I was so pleased once I lost the 2 stone, my confidence went up so much, I changed my whole appearance and the left over weight just didn't seem like a problem anymore... But recently the guilt and discust has creeped up again but I just don't seem to be snapping into order! I think it's mainly because I do have days where I like the way I look and the diet doesn't seem so important, then I have days where I feel big and ugly...

One thing that I make sure I do is to not put any of that weight BACK on and I haven't in the past year or so....

And yeah Shinelikegold, Christmas is proving to be a problem! And I just can't decide whats good for me.

I had a thought that over christmas if I just keep making sure I don't put on any extra weight, then I don't feel that i'm missing out, and then New Year, I totally push myself into weightloss mode... But I know that alot of people say that it doesn't really work like that.

Jenifer72, thanks for your advise, I totally agree about the excersise! I do love it when I get into it, and I enjoy getting stronger and stronger.. I deffinately want to be fit more than anything so I know that's something which is going to make the world of a difference, and I need to get up offf my butt and do something!


Overall, it's really nice to have the support from you guys and I really think it's going to make a difference to know i'm not alone in this!
 
My biggest problem is, I know I need AND want to lose the extra weight, but not as much as I want to eat yummy food and be lazy!
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My problem as well! I'm hovering around 13st right now as well and am struggling to drop down any further (I actually started around 210 as well but only started dieting seriously at about 202)

I too have days where I'm like..Well, I've already done really well so I don't *have* to do any more if I don't want to. And then the next day I'm like URGHHHH why am I so lazy!!

Hope you stick around and do some calorie counting with the lovely ladies (and men ;)) on this forum. It's helped me so much :) xxx
 
HEy welcome to the forum! I also think you are very pretty in those photos! My advice is do it now because it's easier when you are younger. Also your skin will snap back quicker now as opposed to waiting 5 more years. Those are some good motivators right there!
You can pick up some pretty cheap workout dvd's to do at home. I just got the 30 day shred dvd at Shoppers for $12.99 and the workouts are only 20 minutes long. You could start with one workout a day and build up to more. You can do one in the morning and one at night if you don't have time to do them at the same time.
If your mom insists on dishing out your food for you just don't eat it all. Tell her your full and package up the rest for lunch tomorrow. Try just having bites of your hunnies junk or fast food instead of getting your own - the taste is all you need and you will feel so much better turning it down. He will probably start to eat to healthier too if he sees it's important to you.
Anyway staying accountable is a great step and this site really helps with that. Looking forward to seeing how you make out. Keep it up!!
 
Sunflower i'm exactly the same!!! My other problem is that my bf pretty much loves my body which takes away some of that motivation but yeah the same! My biggest problem is everyone around me really, my friends and family etc all eat what they like and I guess me eating badly with them is feeling sorry for myself if I don't! But I know that this has got to change and I have to be stronger than I am being now!

Chubbygirl, your photos are gorgeous too! You looked really great in your weddingdress! :) My main aim is that I lose weight before I turn 21, I want to spend a good few years feeling good about myself before I have children as the women in my family have really bad skin when it comes to stretchmarks and excess fat from birth so as soon as possible is good for me!
I actually think I have 30 day shred and haven't ever used it (terrible I know)... My favorite is my pilates for dummies though, I dont really know why I ever stopped doing it because I was getting really strong with that! I can't tell you how nice it is to have all this advise!

When I lost the weight before, I basically had child sized breakfast, shreddies with full fat milk and chicken wraps for lunch with low cal crisps, then I would just have child sized portion for dinner.. I think it's just getting back into that habit after moving back with my family really....
 
Hi! And welcome.

When I have problems with family who serves too much, I started using my own plates and bowls. They are a lot smaller than everyone elses, and it keeps me mostly honest. The other thing I do when I cant is I put the fork down between everybite and really chew my food. That way I can actually pay attention to my stomach when it tells me I'm full.

Anyway, you'll get lots of support here, trust me. I was in the same situation once, and this site helped me lose 30lbs. I'm on my second go, but I came back to this site because I know that everyone is cheering for me, as I'm cheering for them. :)

Anyway keep up the good work, and I bet in no time, you'll be back to feeling healthy and confident. :)
 
xorie! Thanks for the advise about the dishes, my boyfriends Mum actually does something similar, so I am going to do that from today!

I was also wondering, is oke for me to pretty much eat as much dried fruit as a like? Cause im really enjoying at the moment!
 
Hi Didididums

I would like to add something to think about.
In the days before sat nav, if you and I were to go for a drive, we would have probably looked at the map, identified where we are now and where we want to get to. Then, starting from where we want to get to, assuming that we wanted to go directly there, we would have traced a route back the way. That is we would identify where we want to be then effectively placed ourselves there and worked back to trace the route as to how we got there. We may have identified some key signposts that we would pass on the way and by when, in order that we knew that we were on track.

Of course, this is just a metaphor, but then what is a meta for.
If we had set out from where we are with only a vague idea of where we were going and what the general direction is, and no prior identification of the signposts we would pass on the way to know that we were on track, what would be the chances of us getting to where we want to go?

I hope you find that interestingly useful.
Best wishes
 
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