Newbie PEC here!!

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PEC

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Hi...

I'm a girl (even though my nickname doesn't really protrude "girlie".)

So I'm here because for some reason i am not able to do this alone; nor am i able to get the support i need from my skinny friends.

I hope I can meet my goals.

A little about me: I'm 26, 228lbs and 5'8. I run little races here and there but "forget" to train in between. Over the past 12 months i've been, for the most part, consistently gaining a pound or two each month. I am hoping to: 1, stop that and 2, start losing.

Summer should help but my goal is in a year to be 180lbs. I think that's completely reasonable with a steady loss of 1 pound per week.

I'm looking for friends i can chat with about this and support them in their goals as well.

Have a wonderful Tuesday.

-PEC
 
I believe one of things that frustrates me the most is I don't "feel" that unhealthy in my life style, but my body doesn't show that.

I am fat compaired with all my friends and am fat according to what the doctors say.

-I run more than any of my friends.
-I bike to work many days in the spring/summer/fall depending on weather.
-I don't keep soda in my house (i won't say i drink it often, but maybe it averages to once a week)
-I don't eat super healthy--i totally admit that. The amount is probably a little greater than my friends, but i don't eat out all the time and maybe i'll go to a fast food every two weeks.
-My main drinks are water and green or white tea.

But I look gross and am starting to feel gross and am healthy. It's just hard when all my friends sit around and drink like fish and eat whatever they want. Plus it sucks even more when my friends are like "you're so active how can you run that long" or other bull and they sit there in their tiny little bodies scarfing down a double cheeseburger.

I don't need to be thin, i just don't want to be fat. see the difference??

It's a bad day today...i feel gross.
 
I think you'll do great PEC. I too cut soda out almost completely. I average maybe 1 can every 2 weeks (what can I say, I love sunkist). I pretty much only drink water now. I have cut out soda several times in my life and have always lost about 20 lbs with that alone. This time however, I am eating healthy getting in parts of all of the foodgroups (except the fast food-group:coolgleamA:) and excercising. I think maybe you have a good advantage since you already run. I really can't get to "enjoy" the cardio portion of my workout. I have a treadmill and really don't like doing it, but I force myself to 3-4 times a week. I have been taking my dog on walks when there is nice weather, but I would rather be running. I have no endurance when it comes to running, I can't even go 2 minutes at a steady jog. Best of luck to you, and I hope to see ya around on here a lot because that means I'm still here too :p
 
Man was i in a horrible mood earlier. I got a nice cardio workout this evening and am feeling SO much better. I think the issue is i wasn't active at all in the previous 24 hrs and it was putting me down.

I wish if i stopped drinking soda i would lose weight, but i never really drank much, like i said maybe once a week, but probably less.

I think my weakness is alcohol. I've done months without drinking before...and it's not like i'm an alcoholic. but i do like to have a glass of wine or a pint of beer with dinner. I've started drinking straight up vodkas so i don't get so many calories when i go out to the bars with friend but (sadly) my friends aren't doing quite as well in this economy so we go out less often and that works well for my drinking.

I know i'm writing a lot, but i hope this helps.

Good luck with the running, have you thought about completely a 5K fun run in your area? I know it always helps me. I've completed 5 1/2 marathon and numerous other runs all over. All weighing over 200llbs. You are sore but it's a "good" sore.
 
Hi PEC, Glad your workout put you in a better mood. I seem to always dread the cardio workouts unless it's walking my dog at a brisk pace, but I do always feel better once I get through it too.

I see what your saying about the soda. i was consuming at least 4 or 5 a day, so cutting it out really made a difference for me. I hope to stay in your mindset though and never go back to drinking more than 1 every 2 weeks or so for the rest of my life. The hardest part for me was not having it with a meal. But I am getting used to water with my meals. I havent drank alcohol in over 100 days either so that is probably helping me too.

As far as running a 5K. i would love to get to that point. A lot of my problem with running is that i'm not comfortable with my body. I refuse to even attempt running outside unless it's dark out because I bouce around too much and it's not attractive. I hope to be at a point where I don't bouce around by the end of the summer (or at least by the end of the year) so I need to keep working hard and eating right but I know it's going to happen this time. I have never committed to a complete lifestyle change like I have this time. Don't get me wrong, whenever I do get to my goals, I plan on allowing myself to eat a sandwich from a fast food joint 1 or 2 times a week, but for the most part I am going to be eating healthy. I am also starting to find too, that if I consume too much bad food now, it tears my body apart. I need to go to the doctor and have it checked out because I am concerned it's my gaul bladder or something, but I do take a cheat day about 1nce a week or two and I typically have pizza. There have been 3 or so occations now wher after I eat pizza my entire midsection from below my chest to above my waist just starts killing me. It's in my back and in my front. It's good insentive to not eat unhealthy, but I am a little concerned that there is more to it that needs to be checked out by a doctor.

Keep up the good work!
 
That's amazing you haven't had alcohol in so long. Admittedly i should try that, but of course i have my excuses. I have a trip to vegas in the next week, then trip to california, then july comes along and i have two weddings...I guess since i want to drink during those occasions i just won't be drinking besides that. I think that's completely reasonable and acceptable.

Here the thing about doing a 5k--i realize you don't want to run in front of people. But one: it's not as bad as you think! two: if you join a big enough run, nobody notices you.

I suppose i'm lucky on one hand because i will NOT let my weight hold me back from doing anything. Sure i don't like the way i look and it's harder to do some activities, but i'm out there and doing them. I think the reason the past 3 months has been hard is i gave up on being social...that's changing in the last 2 weeks.

Also i should add, much of this last 25lbs i gained from a sprained ankle and horrible break up (that was a bad day) So each day i remind myself i'm not with him anymore for a reason and i can do better. When really all i want to do is lay in bed and cry for him to come back to me.
 
Hi PEC and welcome to the forum!

I can empathize with the lack of support you may be getting from your "skinny" friends.

Unfortunately, a lot of people just don't understand the physical, psychological and emotional challenges that weight issues involve!

You've made a great choices by seeking out like-minded people in this forum - the support is here!

~Tim
 
Thanks Tim.

You're in Portage huh? I used to live in Kalamazoo. Panera Bread was the death of me...
 
Hey PEC, you hit on 2 subjects that are close to home. A breakup (that's what made my world fall apart) and my lack of alcohol... The breakup made me realize that I had a substance abuse problem. It wasn't alcohol, but I havent touched anything that can give me a buzz since my breakup, and I am undecided if I will ever drink again at this point. Maybe we can chat sometime because if your anything like me, It helps to talk about my problems. I like your attitude about not letting the way you look preventing you from doing what you want to do. I wish I had that attitude. I don't though. I get embarrassed and feel terrible about myself. I don't wear t-shirts in public because it discusts me. It's crazy, I know.... but it's just how it is. I wasnt as hard on myself when I was using, but now that I am clean, I am so critical of myself. Take care.
 
So it's been a week that i've been on this forum admitting to myself and "the world" that i need and want to lose weight.

I have yet to lose weight. I've been to the gym twice in the last week; but it's been so nice outside i haven't wanted to. I've ridden my bike to work 4 out of the 5 work days (although riding home is really just coasting) been on a hike.

I guess i need to hit myself on the head--i don't know why i would think those things would help when i've almost always been that active. Really the only difference i've made so far is no alcohol. I suppose what's frustrating me the most is how i can be this weight at this activity level. It's hard to remember everyone is different and someone who is the same weight as me but stagnant then jumps up to my activity level can lose weight when i can't.

I know i want to change, i just don't know how.

In other noncomplainning news: i signed up for my 6th 1/2 marathon today. It's at the end of June. I'm very excited for this one. I ran a 12k about three weeks ago and my ankle was hurting the first 2 miles and then the pain subsided, so i'm fairly positive i won't have an issue with it by the end of June.
 
Hi PEC,

sorry to hear you haven't seen any results yet but keep at it and I'm sure you will. I in no way claim to be an expert, but since you are already fairly active, the only thing left to change is your diet. I remember you said you only eat fast food about once every 2 weeks and rarely drink soda, so that doesn't leave you the terrible things to cut out, but maybe you're eating the wrong kind of food? I don't know, its just the only thing that I can think of that you haven't commented on yet. Care to share what a typical day of food consists of for you? It may help others give you some tips on what to be eating.

Keep at it!!
 
Hi PEC,
Keep your Spirit Up :) Good things take time and you can do it!!!

Gee, seems like everyone here is going through breakup. It's a tough emotional roller coaster ride but everyday will get better.

Ooh you're coming to where I live (Vegas). Enjoy your Vacation! Try not to get too off course with the eating and drinking. There's lots of good food here and drinks everywhere.

As far as the no results:
What do you eat on a normal day?
How long do you exercise and how long is the commute to work on your bike?
What is your intensity level when you workout?
Have you tried Interval training?
 
ugh...I'm back home after my weekend in vegas. it was a busy few day with celebrating two bachelorettes and a birthday in 3 days!!

I think i did fairly well. Tons of walking, a good amount of alcohol and then averages two meals a day and i didn't buy snacks or any deserts.

But my normal life: I know what i need to do is change my diet i'm just not sure where to start. I normally have honey nut cheerios and a banana and a green tea for breakfast. lunch is normally an apple or orange and a sandwich. dinner is normal just some kind of meat like some chicken or pork loin (only half the time do i make veggies with it.

I guess ever since my break up i find it SO frustrating to make meals for one person. maybe people have a cook book they recommend.
 
Hey PEC, glad your back and it sounds like you had some pretty good control considering you were in VEGAS.

I guess ever since my break up i find it SO frustrating to make meals for one person.
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I had the same problem for the first month. I always cooked at least half of the time and when I became single again, I just didnt want to do it. I have always loved cooking but it can be difficult yo cook for one. It just seems like you have to cook so much to justify making the mess :p (that was my problem at least). I have gotten into the routine of almost every other weeknight making my meals and making enough for leftovers the next night (or where I just have to prepare something simple to complete my next nights meal) So at least I dont have to dirty a bunch of pots and pans everynight. I also "try" to make something like stirfry or spaghetti on the weekends (when I make spahgetti I have started using the whole wheat pasta) and then divide it into tuperware for my lunches throughout the week. I failed on that this week so my lunches will consist of me going to the store before work tomorrow morning and getting a loaf of whole wheat bread and a package of the deli select turkey and the yoplait light yogurts or an apple. but to sum it up, for me I found it's easier to make at least 2 meals at 1nce so that at least every other day doesnt take to long to prepare my dinner and clean up. I havent really found any cookbooks that I like for healthy eating yet. I just tend to stick with the easy things that I know are healthy, or I just get creative and use a lot of healthy ingredients. Good luck.
 
Thanks for the reply Doug.

I think you are right, i just need to get in the habit and mindset to make meals and divide them up to leftover meals a couple times a week.

This morning was my weigh-in morning ( i only weigh myself monday mornings) i was dreading it because of the vegas trip. I lost 5 lbs!! It's nice to see some improvement.

Doug--did you start a "diary" I haven't decided whether to start something or not.

I hope everyone is enjoying the holiday today!
 
How do you get rep power? I read the FAQs about it but am still confused. some people just joined, have 5 posts and tons of "rep power".

More curious than anything i guess.
 
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