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Hello, my name is Jami..

To start out I have never tried this before and I'm hoping to get inspiration from everyone to loose weight.. I don't have the motivation on my own to do this even thought I really want to.. It just is not there.. I am an emotional eater.. I let my emotions take over and even if i am not hungry i will eat.. Also a bored eater.. I eat when I'm bored.. anyway I just wish to see if this will work for me.
 
Welcome to the community.

I generally don't see external motivation working to overcome internal issues like the ones you describe. In my opinion, you have to confront your issues by identifying them and fixing them.

It's a good start that you admit you overeat which leads to you weighing more than you'd like. Often times people won't even fess up to this.

Why do you turn to food when you are emotional?

What sort of foods do you turn to?

Is it logical to assume food is going to fix whatever is making you emotional or is it going to lead to perpetual frustration?

Why do you want to lose weight?

These are questions I'd spend a lot of time answering to get the ball rolling.
 
Imnotperfect22 said:
Hello, my name is Jami..

To start out I have never tried this before and I'm hoping to get inspiration from everyone to loose weight.. I don't have the motivation on my own to do this even thought I really want to.. It just is not there.. I am an emotional eater.. I let my emotions take over and even if i am not hungry i will eat.. Also a bored eater.. I eat when I'm bored.. anyway I just wish to see if this will work for me.
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Hello there and welcome. :)

A few things you have wrote I will touch on.

1. It's starts with you! At least you are here in search of some help, but that will only get you so far if you aren't mentally ready to do this journey for yourself.

2. This will work for you if, YOU THINK IT WILL WORK FOR YOU. Believe in yourself. Do it for yourself. You can't expect to not succeed because then you won't. It's called self-preservation. Or, no it's not, I can't remember the term. But anyways, hang in there!! Even if you don't have yourself figured out completely, exercise your way through to finding you. :D
 
Steve said:
Welcome to the community.

I generally don't see external motivation working to overcome internal issues like the ones you describe. In my opinion, you have to confront your issues by identifying them and fixing them.

It's a good start that you admit you overeat which leads to you weighing more than you'd like. Often times people won't even fess up to this.

Why do you turn to food when you are emotional?

What sort of foods do you turn to?

Is it logical to assume food is going to fix whatever is making you emotional or is it going to lead to perpetual frustration?

Why do you want to lose weight?

These are questions I'd spend a lot of time answering to get the ball rolling.
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Why do you turn to food when you are emotional?
Because it’s just a comfort for me..

What sort of foods do you turn to?
Really anything that I can find in my fridge.. And Chocolate..

Is it logical to assume food is going to fix whatever is making you emotional or is it going to lead to perpetual frustration?
No it’s not logical to assume it’s going to fix what ever is making me emotional but… Like I said, it’s a comfort thing..

Why do you want to lose weight?
It’s not healthy.. to be the weight I am at my age.. at any age really. And because I found out that I have diabetes.. and that at my age is not good.. not good at all..

The emotional eating does not happen very often.. Just when I feel a REALLY strong emotion.. (Ex. Last time I did that was when My best friend betrayed me)

I also eat because of boredom.. Which is not good either. This happens when I’m bored.. Which is a lot…
 
Welcome!

I'm totally a bored eater too, well... not so much anymore. But when I was bored I used to just make myself some peanut butter jelly sandwiches and eat those. or like you said anything in the fridge. Its a big mental thing, you're going to have to overcome by instilling new positive beliefs, and ways to deal with your boredom, and or emotional things.

Suggestion, have only good things in your fridge :) like veggies, and fruits. speaking of which... I have some strawberries calling out to me :)

Good luck you can do it!
 
Thank you!!

I wish I could have only good things in the fridge.. But.. I live at home and I do not buy the food.. although my parents are pretty good about that.
 
RJAZ520 said:
Welcome!

I'm totally a bored eater too, well... not so much anymore. But when I was bored I used to just make myself some peanut butter jelly sandwiches and eat those. or like you said anything in the fridge. Its a big mental thing, you're going to have to overcome by instilling new positive beliefs, and ways to deal with your boredom, and or emotional things.

Suggestion, have only good things in your fridge :) like veggies, and fruits. speaking of which... I have some strawberries calling out to me :)

Good luck you can do it!
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strawberries! reading that gave me an instant craving, luckily i have some. i normally slice them up and have them with some cool whip lite (or free, whatever is in the fridge) and it makes the perfect dessert. i would've forgotten about "dessert" until i saw this. ha :)
 
Imnotperfect22 said:
Because it’s just a comfort for me..
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Are you comfortable being overweight?

Assuming the answer is no, maybe you can start linking mindless eating and over indulgence with being overweight to a point where no longer does it feel comfortable turning to food.

It's all about identifying weaknesses in the mind and converting them to empowering thoughts.

But it's not the sort of thing you can identify once and be done. It takes hard, consistent work of constantly scanning the horizon for disempowering or irrational thoughts and literally, consciously changing them to benefit you and your goals.

Really anything that I can find in my fridge.. And Chocolate..
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As noted above, stock up on low calorie density foods like raw veggies. When you feel the need to indulge yourself, chow down on these. They'll fill you up yet keep the calories in check.

No it’s not logical to assume it’s going to fix what ever is making me emotional but… Like I said, it’s a comfort thing..
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I'd ditch the "but" in the context of what I said at the top of this post.

You need to figure out ways and establish thought patters that preclude you from NOT dealing with whatever is emotionally challenging you and instead, turning to something that is only going to worsen your health and most likely your emotional well being too.
 
Steve said:
It's all about identifying weaknesses in the mind and converting them to empowering thoughts.

But it's not the sort of thing you can identify once and be done. It takes hard, consistent work of constantly scanning the horizon for disempowering or irrational thoughts and literally, consciously changing them to benefit you and your goals.
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This is probably one of the best things I've ever read.
 
Thank you so much everyone.. It means a lot to me to have so many nice people to help me out on my journey..

It makes me really want to get out there and do this to know people will be here to help me with advice and things if i need it.

My main problem for not getting out there and actually doing this is because I had not support, other then my mom. But to do it with her would be like pulling teeth. She just yells and I would rather not have the added stress..

though my mom has agreed to help me out and only buy "good" food and things.. so we will see how that works.
 
Hi there

I'm totally in the "emotional eater" boat. I eat to celebrate, when I'm sad, when I'm stressed, when I'm happy (and feel I deserve a reward....something really naughty) when I'm angry....you name the emotion and I will have a food to go with it.....junk, junk and more junk.

I understand now that for me, it's a learned habit, and that I can unlearn it.....and find other ways of dealing with my emotions. I've been on the net looking for and printing articles on the subject and keep them in my clearfile. It's something I do now when I'm bored.

It starts with us, we are in control of ourselves. We have to love and respect ourselves enough to do what's best for our bodies, so we can live a long and healthy life.:D
 
Great posts from everyone. It sounds like you could use an interesting hobby or a way to focus your energy into something positive. Besides eating, what kinds of things do you like to do?? What do your friends do? You made a good decision to come to a support group like this one, where you are accepted for who you are and supported to become who you want to be. You just have to decide who that person really is.
 
Thank you all for the kind words.. I come here and read them just to keep them in mind.. In case I want to head to the fridge for some snacks.. anyway thank you all..
 
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