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Hi,

I'm Kim. I've been fighting weight issues since I was 10 yrs. old. I am now 32 years old and am the heaviest I've EVER been! I'm 5'4" and weigh 269lbs. I've hit rock bottom! My husband informed me a few weeks ago that he's no longer attracted to me. Gee...I wonder why?!?! He still loves me, but is just not attracted to me.

I've joined a weightloss forum before, but as with all other endeavors in my life, I haven't stuck with it. That's my problem. I have no follow through. I give up waaaay to easily. I know it's not an overnight thing, but I know to lose the weight healthily, it will take AT LEAST a year. I've always been so impatient and I always want immediate results. It's hard to stay motivated when you never really see results. Anyway.....

I have a 4 year old son. I'm a speech/language pathologist.

This hasn't been a very good introduction...I know. It's just that I've tried and failed so many times....it's hard not to think that that's the way it will be everytime.

I'm going to really, REALLY try this time though. And hopefully, if you all will have me, I'll try to be a regular here. Just point me in the direction/board that I need to call home and I'll try to be here. I work pretty long hours Monday-Thursday, but have Fridays and the weekend off. So I should be checking in on the weekends if no other time.

Thanks in advance for all the help and/or support.
 
Do not take the lack of replies as anything other than none has replied yet. I do understand the postion you are in been over three months since umm well my and the wife have been intimate. I also undersatnd the low that you feel. But to be honest this will only work if you do it for yourself and your health. I think if it is for anyother reason you can find a way to make an excusse to get out of it.

I wish there was a way to change thigs over night but I think if you focus on your self and make you the healthier you the goal i think you can do what ever you want to do.
 
Welcome to the forum! Nooo don't take the lack of replies personally. :) There are a lot of people on here with a lot of good things to say and awesome support to give. Must have just been a few slow posting days. ;)

I am so sorry to hear about what happened between you and your husband, I can't imagine how devastating that must have been.

I COMPLETELY identify with you on the impatience and wanting immediate results. That's something I've really had to struggle with to overcome, and I'm still struggling on a daily basis. I've had to completely rethink the way I feel about weight loss in order to even have a HOPE at making this work. But the forum is an awesome place to come with really supportive people and it has helped me keep on the right path.

Hope to see you posting tons more!
 
Also - try out the diary section and start yours out! It's a great way to keep yourself accountable and to reflect on what your motivators are and whatnot.

Good luck!!! :)
 
I completely agree with Hugo. Do it for yourself or you will either fail right out or lapse back to your old ways that got you where you are.

You absolutely can do it. You just have to make the requisite changes to make it happen. It'll be a slow road, but it's worth it. Think about being able to go outside and run around and play ball or chase your son around. Just pick a few reasonable goals and start there.

Best of luck!
 
I've joined a weightloss forum before, but as with all other endeavors in my life, I haven't stuck with it. That's my problem. I have no follow through. I give up waaaay to easily. I know it's not an overnight thing, but I know to lose the weight healthily, it will take AT LEAST a year. I've always been so impatient and I always want immediate results. It's hard to stay motivated when you never really see results. Anyway.....
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Set yourself smaller goals that you can achieve.... and when yu reach that goal -then plan a nice reward for youtself.

No one can make you do this but you - you have to find it in yourself the reasons why you want to do it... Once you decide you're ready -then it's pretty easy...

Just put one foot in front of the other - set managable goals for yourself and follow thru on it.

What plan of attack are you planning on taking for this journey? I'd sugest reading the stickied threads in the nutrition section to give you an idea of what is a sensible diet plan.. it's not painful - nor is it depriving..
 
welcome!!!

Maybe hubbys honesty was a wake up call, I dont know but he better be loving and supportive while you do this!

or we'll all send threatening emails (just kidding!)

(((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))) so glad youre here!!!
 
Hello and Welcome!!
I, too feel like I' am inpatient with my weight. When I think about it I just want all the fat to be gone! so I don't have to look at it all the time
But hard work has to be put into everything so it comes out worth it in the end.
When someone asks you how you lost weight you'll tell them with patience and a lot of dedication.
I don't think I know anyone who'll say it's easy to lose weight. But it's worth all of the pain you get from it.

As for your hubby, I'd show him a little bit of something if he'd ever said that to me! hehe..just joking
 
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