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Hi Everyone!

I am new and just dropping a line to say hello. My name is Sarah and I am a 20-year-old college student. I have had trouble keeping weight off ever since I quit playing soccer nearly 3 years ago, and it seems like every time I take it off, I put it back on. I'm 5'5" and I currently fluctuate between 160-170lbs.

In the past (even while I was still very active and playing soccer year-round) I had difficulties with eating disorders--most specifically binging and purging, although I would also "fast" for long periods of time. It's made it really hard for me to lose weight in a healthy way NOW, because some part of my mind is still in that eating disorder mindset. I often feel like I'm getting fatter as I eat and I sometimes feel the need to throw up after even a normal-sized meal. For the record, I don't. I've learned to appreciate my nice teeth. ;)

I have always had problems getting motivated and (most especially) staying that way. My goals in the past have been to get from one size or weight to another, to look good for my boyfriend, or to be more comfortable wearing a swimsuit in public. I've realized that these goals don't work for me because that isn't what I really want and they are really more focused on other people. I've come up with three really solid reasons and I'm hoping to find creative ways to remind myself of these as I try to lose weight.

1) I want to FEEL better. When I do a yoga pose or work in the yard, I don't want to feel obstructed by my size. When I go on rounds of my building (I'm a resident advisor so we have to patrol the halls at night once or twice a week), I don't want to feel winded when I climb the stairs. Also, I'm joining our college's rugby team in the fall, and the less I have to work to keep up with the team, the better!

2) My 21st birthday is in September. A friend and I are going out to a jazz club/pub and I would LOVE to buy a sexy dress and feel great in it :) Also, I don't want to feel guilty about drinking a beer (or three!).

3) My 4-year anniversary is coming up with my boyfriend in February 2011. Again, I would like to feel good so that I can enjoy the night. More than that, we are talking about getting engaged in 3 or so years and I would love to be living a healthy lifestyle when I decide to walk down the aisle. It's kind of a long term goal, but those are good too, right?


I am looking for support and I look forward to reading about everyone and how they are working to get healthy. Any advice on how YOU stay motivated is also appreciated. I don't have a weight loss goal per se, although I would like to see myself go a little closer to the goal weight for someone my height and age. Mostly it's about how I feel, and how I feel about how I look.

Thanks for reading, and I really look forward to getting to know everyone!
 
something to think about??

Sarah,

Would it help to look at health, weightloss and wellbeing as one part of your complete life plan? What is the vision you have for your life? And how does being fit and healthy impact that vision?

I know that often people set goals and don't make them. I see such a person every time I look in the mirror! LOL Instead of setting a weight goal, I have a vision for what I want my whole life to look like.

Having an inspiring life vision can keep us emotionally motivated to take whatever steps we need to take today.

Your thoughts?

Kat
 
I completely agree with you. I think part of the reason I have failed so many times to lose weight is that I was focusing too much on my weight and size and my "vision" for why I was doing it was to be more attractive, prettier, etc., but I am finally starting to realize that a vision like that can only motivate a person for so long. Also, as someone who has pretty much never had a healthy body image, I worry that I will constantly be striving for something that I will never be able to emotionally achieve.

Thinking of goals in a broad and dynamic context is definitely a healthier way for me than looking a week or a month into the future. I love to plan, and I think that looking at my continued physical and emotional health is a great way to remind myself of why I'm doing all of this right now. Living a healthy lifestyle now will help me with everything from keeping up at work to hiking and biking in the summers to having a baby!

I am excited to shift my thinking more towards the future rather than day-by-day. The biggest struggle for me is those "down" days. You know, the days when the excuses REALLLLY come out or when every time you walk past the kitchen it seems like your over six-foot, 145lb boyfriend is eating a sandwich made of cheese and mayonnaise? (Exaggeration btw, I've never seen him eat that. Although he really is THAT thin. Grr.) Sometimes it seems like the world is asking me to quit.
 
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