New here and need help...

[ronav]

Hi,

I am a 22-year old girl, currently a senior in college. My life has been a big up and down all my life. A bit of my story..

All throughout my childhood I was a normal weight, healthy and happy kid. But at 12, my parents separated and I moved countries, seeing my dad barely once a year, whom I was most close to all my life. I started eating junk, sitting in my room alone, not talking to anyone.

At 15, my dad passed away, which made this depression worse and I went from being 120 lbs at 5'3" to 188 lbs at 5'4" by the time I was 17. My family was too depressed themselves to notice. But beore starting college, I made up my mind that I wanted to fix this problem since I hated being fat. In 6 months, I worked out, ate healthy and went from 188 to 147 lbs. And I felt great. I found an awesome boyfriend who loved me, cared for me, made me SO happy that my weightloss just continued as for once I felt happy.

At 21, my life and relationship started going downhill, which threw me back into my junk food depressive life and I am back at 185lbs. Now, my boyfriend has no interest in me and we always fight. I'm unhappy and have no friends.

I want this for myself. This is my last chance to achieve happiness and whatever you wnat to say or judge me, I know my happiness is through weightloss as that is what gives me self confidence. I need everyones help to make this happen.

Please give me motivation, ideas, hints, help to make this possible. I want to save my relationship, my friendships, my happiness and more importantly, myself. I want to be happy again, and I want to be 130 lbs. How can I do this? Everytime I am depressed, I eat junk and I want to stop...

Any advice is appreciate.. Thank you for reading my story..

 

[kenziderhae]

Well first off, a boyfriend who can't love and support you not matter what your weight doesn't sound like the kind of person you should want to be with. Just saying.

Secondly, maybe you should look into seeing a therapist about depression? Losing the weight is always going to remain a temporary thing unless you can fix the underlying reason why you gain weight. If you can learn to not turn to food whenever you get sad, you'll be much better off in the long run and have a better chance of keeping the weight off. Because sometimes life is going to suck and you're going to get sad, but that doesn't have to mean all your efforts are going to be sabotaged when that happens.

Despite what you think, weight loss doesn't always equal happiness. You can be just as miserable being thin as you are being fat. If you can work to overcome emotional eating and find better ways to deal with depression, that can help the weight loss, but weight loss does not help with emotional eating and depression.

Welcome to the forums and I wish you the best of luck!

 

[anna.banana]

Hey there

Welcome and good luck for your journey. Check out the stickies in the nutrition and exercise area for some great ideas.

Anna