Need2BSmaller's Journal

On a similiar note-

I remember reading a while ago another's motivation/inspiration for weightloss and how spirituality played into it. They were much more poignant, but basically the idea was that God gave you life, and the earthly body you possess, and you should respect that gift and take care of it. Maybe this is the verse it stems from:

"Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit which are God's," I Cor. 6:19-20.

and

"Rather than trying to destroy our bodies, we recognize the need for health. A healthy body makes a healthy temple for our soul. There is such a close relationship between body and soul that we cannot begin to draw a line of separation. By caring for our bodies, we recognize that as a temple it too is for the glory of God. As the Holy Spirit dwells in us, we use our health and strength in the service of God. We cannot do this if we sin with our bodies, as for example, by fornication, see. . ." I Cor. 6:18. .


Just some thought . .
 
Thanks Miss Ladybug and yarmiah

I am doing ok today. I am really sticking to the rules of The Best Life Diet. I have started walking away the lbs everyday and will add another mile next week till I get to 3 sessions a day then add lifting to fininsh of my initial 4 weeks. I can not weigh myself for 4 weeks its killing me and I just weighed myself yesterday lol. I am going with my starting weight from last monday of 450lb and going to be more strick to following the book. This will enclude doing some writing and answering wuestions about why I am overweight ect. Questions that appear aimed at dealing with the deeper issues ect. I think I will post those writings out here that way its all here for everyone to see what the program is. We will see I guess depends how silly it sounds after I write it lol ;)
 
Need2BSmaller said:
This allows us to then look at ourselves and realize that even though to ourselves we seem unworthy, bad or even evil and inadequate the truth is we are created in the image of God and therefore it is not what we or anyone else sees but what is beyond that. The real us is the part of us created in Gods image, the part that is a prince or princess and belongs to God.

So many of us have self worth issues and the fact is the issues are almost never dealing with anything the things that we should really look at to come up with our self worth. The bible says God looks past what’s on the outside and to the heart of people. How many times do we sin and feel horrible for it. That horrible feeling is what God sees us as. The heart not the sin. When we realize this we realize that our worth comes 100% from God as the only way to have this worth is to give our lives to him. What we give to him becomes perfect and there is no way we can have self worth issues about it therefore the things that we have these issues about are things we are holding back from God. The logical way to deal with these things is to Give them to God. Although this as we all know is harder then it is for me to just write it down.
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Hey, Brad, you're on to something here.........a little story off the topic of weight loss, sorry about the digression.....

So my friend and I were IMing each other and he said
good gawd valerie..
my housemate tim is way abusive..
just now was probbably the worst..
beat the shit outta this chick..
she all bleeding n stuff..
screaming..
arrrrr

I told him to call the fuzz, he said:
its stoped..
and this may sound stupid but tim is my housemate..
you kno, he's on paroll..
and if they drug test him hes screwed..
its tottaly fucked whut hes done..
but she should just learn that he is evil and not come over anymore..
if i sent tim to prison i would not be happy with myself..


(My friend lives with drug dealers who are really awful to women. I really get freaked out everytime I go over there)

So I told him that he should try and help her, and he said:
shes gone now..
i have a fealing shell be back tho..
i'll say something ot her if we get some time alone..
but im not trying to get on the bad side of someone i live with..
may sound a lil heartless but there aint much i can do..
anyways yeah..


I yelled at him a bit, and he pointed out that he can't stop her from coming over and getting beat again, and said
but all i see is the women sticking up for these devils..
and then missing them everyday when there gone..


So I said maybe we need to go to a Women's Shelter and try to listen in on a meeting to better understand or something. He was down to go, but my point is that people, when they're down on themselves, let and do all sorts of things that destroy them. I, for example, like to drink. And stay with my boyfriend, who isn't abusive but probably isn't the best for me. My friend's friend A likes to go on drug and sex binges (poor girl is only 20, and has been stabbed and raped before). Other people use food (well, I'm an over-eater myself, I just also am an exercise junkie, which helps me not go too far). Self love is the hardest thing....
 
My point was, DEEPER ISSUES, yeah. It's a journey! Best wishes, and I hope you can heal and get better (losing weight being one of the ways to get better). :)
 
Hang in there, Need2B! Your walking sounds great, and your hard work will pay off. Thanks for the reminder from the Good Book. My dh has been a pastor in days gone by, and I always like to know that other folks draw strength from our faith. BTW, did you know what B.I.B.L.E. stands for?
B-Basic
I-Instructions
B-Before
L-Leaving
E-Earth

Cool, eh? Keep up your hard work, my friend. You'll be shrinking....

:eh:
 
Curvie Girlie said:
My point was, DEEPER ISSUES, yeah. It's a journey! Best wishes, and I hope you can heal and get better (losing weight being one of the ways to get better). :)
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Can't get much worse lol j/k thanks for a couple great posts.

I see it all the time at my youth group both young guys and girls who have no self worth concept at all. I sit and think how can I show them what they are worth and the whole time my self worth is in the pottie pretty crazy.
 
ABBAgirl said:
Hang in there, Need2B! Your walking sounds great, and your hard work will pay off. Thanks for the reminder from the Good Book. My dh has been a pastor in days gone by, and I always like to know that other folks draw strength from our faith. BTW, did you know what B.I.B.L.E. stands for?
B-Basic
I-Instructions
B-Before
L-Leaving
E-Earth

Cool, eh? Keep up your hard work, my friend. You'll be shrinking....

:eh:
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I am so stealing that :) I was a youth pastor for 3 years but the politics and life were just to much to continue. I run a youth program at our local communitee center much less politics and kids who are insane but in a good way :)
 
Need2BSmaller said:
I see it all the time at my youth group both young guys and girls who have no self worth concept at all. I sit and think how can I show them what they are worth and the whole time my self worth is in the pottie pretty crazy.
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I understand. But it's a journey! We all have great and not so great days. Keep at it, exercise is a wonderful picker-upper, and as you lose, you'll feel better and better about yourself--proud! :)
 
Man this better work cause it is hard as hell and seems to suck so far

Page 24 of the Best Life Diet asks: Why are you overweight?

Bob Green makes it clear that he does want to hear: because I have a desk job, cause I have a bunch of junk food in the house, because my family is not supportive ECT…

He wants to know what feelings and factors emotionally are the roots of the over eating when your doing it.


Well this is the reason I decided to go back and read the book and follow the program to the letter. I had a really tough week emotionally and my weight paid the price.

I guess it would be way too simple to just say I am an emotional eater. It would also be the understatement of the year. So here goes I guess.

Ok I had a fairly average child hood as far as I was from a single parent home; my dad really was not part of my life except to cause pain when he came around in short bits. My mom was a rock who crumbled a bit in my teen years as she started to lose a battle to alcoholism. My dad was a big drug user and my mom a drinker so I had no desire till much later in life to indulge in either of those past times. I did however use that hereditary addictive nature to become addicted to food. Or more appropriately addicted to the way food could make me feel.

In all my life I only remember ever being the most important person to anyone for about 6 to 9 months while dating the girl I would later marry. Before that I was always second fiddle to whoever was putting them selves first. I always desired to be that kid who was the world to 1 or both of his parents. Or that person who was so loved by someone that, that love was the #1 priority for that other person. I never really felt truly loved as I equated that to the being #1 to someone.

As I said I had this for about 9 months until my wife became pregnant then things seemed to change and have continued on that path today. I feel a real need to be loved and for the most part feel alone in the world. I learned young that food was like a warm hug and the better the taste the better the hug. I still fall back on this and can’t stop myself even when I know I am doing it. I know I am going to over eat to make myself feel good, think this through and do it anyway.

I mostly eat when the feelings of loneliness overwhelm me and I feel extremely forgotten and isolated.


WOW I am not sure how this is suppose to help but it really sux to write it and read it.

Brad
 
Curvie Girlie said:
I understand. But it's a journey! We all have great and not so great days. Keep at it, exercise is a wonderful picker-upper, and as you lose, you'll feel better and better about yourself--proud! :)
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yeah last week when I was losing it didn't make the problems go away but it did give me somewhere I could look and say I am doing good at this part of my life.
 
Well I have to agree that first and foremost you have to be mentally ready to "Change your life" whether that's losing weight, moving to another state, moving out of home, getting married. It's all a total state of mind and change, if your not "mentally" ready it won't happen. I do believe that in weight loss, you have to work out your own demons first, before you can move on your path to a better direction. Put it out in front of you and confront it, decide how to deal with "it" and make peace with "it" once your mentally ready, then you go onto the next direction or path in your life. Sooooo after all that, I think figuring out what's causing the eating issue is the first demon, you may have others your not aware of. I hope soon you come to peace with those and are able to move forward, it will take time, but I would like to see it happen for you!! GOOD LUCK Brad!! The first step is always admitting a problem. Your already there. Good for you!:)
Kim
 
Thanks Kim and I know for sure there are more that I am yet to discover lol but I think one at a time is good for me. I have not had a chance to surf others diaries now that the computer at work is up again.
 
Wow I barely have time to read so many new posts here and so interesting ones! You are truly one of the 1% of men who can open up without great problems! Well done!

I can see in your ticker that it is still going forwards, even if Thanksgiving was bad (I don't even have an excuse for being bad!!). It is all in your head and if you overeat one day but your head is set on losing it, you will get there.
Love, Cat
 
Caterina said:
Wow I barely have time to read so many new posts here and so interesting ones! You are truly one of the 1% of men who can open up without great problems! Well done!

I can see in your ticker that it is still going forwards, even if Thanksgiving was bad (I don't even have an excuse for being bad!!). It is all in your head and if you overeat one day but your head is set on losing it, you will get there.
Love, Cat
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Thanks but don't be fooled I am only opening up do to the magical world of the internet lol. IRL I am pretty much not a touchy feely guy constantly but I am not afraid to cry and often get hammered cause I do so at movies ect :rolleyes:
 
catiew21 said:
I am so impressed with your ability to analzye, be truthful, and objective. I truly mean this when I say it -- I know you can do this.
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Thanks catiew I really apreciate your kind words. I am working on this area of my life. The being honest and open, the hard part is you start finding out that your to blame for a lot of your own problems and you have to stop blamming others and that sux really. When you can blame others its easy when you take responsibiliy its hard but were trying.
 
Hey I did not disapear I am just bogged down with school work right now and the only time I have to work on it really is when I am able to get on the computer at work which irronically is the same time I would use to post out here. I have no idea what I am weighing in at but if I had to guess I would say high 430's. I am going to try and stick to the program and not weigh myself for the full 4 weeks but it is killing me. I have not got nearly as much activity as I would like in but food wise I have done ok. My biggest problem is solving my 4 and 5 hour nights of sleep with a gallon or so a day of diet soda's and energy drinks. I know this is not the healthiest option but it helps me not over eat as I feel stressed trying to meet all my assignment deadlines for school I have Finals next week, Work ( about 50 hrs a week right now) and Family.

The great news is even if I didn't show up to my final exams at this point I would pass both classes so in 1 week I will be a high school Grad lol and in 2 months I start at the University. I am only taking 2 classes though and I think one will be online so the work load will be much less then a full day of classes and such. I got my marks today pre final I have a 96% in Law and a 97% in Geography. I am taking Biology but just until my classes at the U start so there is no pressure at all to get a good mark as I will graduate next week and it is just an upgrade course.

So with the exception of Friday night and a late night homework session ie/4 in the morning I have not ate after 10 pm ( I work till midnight and go to bed around 1 am so this is 3 hours before I go to bed) I have done some (not alot) walking everyday and have made some good healthy food choices and some bad ones. I have logged my food at fit day but I think I saw a new program out here so I will try that kind of a new start thing :)

OK I hope everyone is good I hand in my big ISU tommorow so I will be going through everyones journals tommorow as I will have a little free time FINALLY :) I miss talking to you guys and will make sure to post tons in your journals tommorow
 
All right Grad!! :D Good for you for working so hard! WHAT MARKS!! You must be in the top of your class!!

When all is said and done I highly recommend braking your additction to caffeine. It's very hard, but I recently did it with diet Pepsi and I sleep better and feel better, especially my stomach. I don't expect you to listen to me, I just see that those types of things sometimes cause more harm than good....
 
Hey man, sorry I haven't visited your journal much lately, school has taken over my internet time :p Anyway. How are things? You keeping on track?
 
Keep up the good work, and steer clear of the scale. :) Also, I'm now a huge fan of sugar free gum to help keep my mouth with a fresh feeling and busy chewing things other than un needed food.
 
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