Need some motivation...butt kicking, whatever

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Sara06

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I'm at the top range for healthy weight. So, I don't NEED to loose weight. Though the Dr said it'd be good if I lost about 10lbs. But, I know to look even kinda how I want, I need to loose closer to 30lbs.

I'm a stay at home mom. I go to the chiropractor, church and grocery store. I even homeschool so I'm not out taking them there everyday.

I feel like if I lost weight, my life wouldn't change at all. My hubby doesn't treat me any differently at 150 than 120. I don't like my body, but, I didn't like it either back when I was 112 at 18.

My body isn't even that bad, aside from my stomach. I've carried 38lbs of baby in there. I'm not sure it can go back. My last was 10lbs 14oz. I was HUGE. So, it wasn't slow weight gain and loss. It was blow up quick and go down over night pretty much, so it's a lot of skin.

I want to feel sexy again, but those days seem so far behind me. Being married, there's no one to be sexy for except my husband. He never notices, even when I went from 152 to 132 in summer '07.

I guess, I'm kinda feeling like what's the point of putting so much effort into weight loss and toning up if it isn't going to really affect me?

I'm sure I have a wrong attitude coming off here. Pessimistic...:nopity:

Just something I`ve been dwelling on.
 
Hi Sara06

Hope I can offer some advice.

First, I think you should do whatever makes you happy. Nobody else, but you. Not your hubby, not your kids... you. You got to be no.1.
Once you are happy, then you can worry bout them being happy.

If losing 30 lbs is going to make you happy...do it! Is it going to make you feel sexier....probably. Is your hubby going to think your sexier? Probably...but not because you lost 30 lbs....but because you are happier.

I don't care if my wife was 175 lbs 200 lbs or 116 lbs. But I know there was times where she was happy at all those weights, and there were times when she wasnt happy at them either. But I do know that she certainly didnt feel sexy when she wasn't happy.

So I don't think your hubby is too concerned about your weight.

If the excess skin is bothering you, I hope someone else can offer suggestions. I don't know what it costs but it is a possibility to have it surgically removed. If it was me, I would try everything else first before I reverted to surgery....unless it bothered me that much..then I would do it in a heart beat. (I wore glasses for 20+ yrs....pop bottles....$4000 later and that problem is history and I am very happy now)

I guess what I am trying to say is if you don't do anything...nothing is going to change. But if you change a little, sometimes things change alot.
You just have to keep trying and do whatever it takes to get the results you want.

Good luck. <and smile>
 
Well first off your right your attitude is all wrong.
You need to get confidense in yourself that's how you feel good about yourself.
I know hearing this from a 16yr old might be weird, but hey I've been there
and just got over it. I just didn't like how I looked down in the dumps but then
I finally decided that I like myself, and it built from there.
Now only loose the weight for yourself.
Now he doesn't really notice because hes around you all the time, so you just don't look
differnt. TRUST me on this, theres times I lost 20lbs no body notice, then lost 30 people would notice, and then lost another 20 people wouldnt notice.
Take pictures and see the results, it'll build your own confidense.
Post them on here, and people will let you know how good you look.
I hoped I helped some. Just don't be to hard on yourself.
and maybe let your hubby know you want him to take notice in the weight loss
if you decide to.
 
I think a major point that you're not considering, is if you don't want to lose weight, there is no point in you losing weight.

whether your husband wants you to lose weight or not, the only opinion that matters here is your own... Once you make your mind up, all it'll take is a bit of hard work and dedication.
 
Thank you so much for the encouragement. I do need to do it for myself, but I guess that's the problem is that I haven't been feeling that I'm worth it.
 
Sara06 said:
Thank you so much for the encouragement. I do need to do it for myself, but I guess that's the problem is that I haven't been feeling that I'm worth it.
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:( :( I'm sorry you feel that way! I hope you realize you ARE indeed worth the effort and time it'll take to make this change.
 
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